 Why do narcissists always argue with you whenever there is an argument with a narcissist? It will always have something to do with you. It always has to be your fault They always have to put the focus on you So they can avoid responsibility They have no interest in understanding you Or coordinating with you Because they're very selfish and entitled Everything has to be done their way. They have to believe that they are more important than you are Because they have very fragile egos Deep down they feel completely worthless and insignificant So they constantly have to do things to make themselves feel like they are something To make themselves feel like they exist They have very fragile egos, so they cannot take accountability for their actions It's too much for them to deal with They have to blame and accuse you It's a coping mechanism They have difficulty managing stress They have difficulty coping with life Life is hard for them Which is why they're like ticking time bombs Anything could set them off They lack stability They have very low self-esteem Which results in them having no care or concern for you Because everything has to revolve around their fragile egos They have to defend and protect it That's why they're so controlling That's why they have to take away your free will Because they fear your sense of self They fear your differences and individuality They have to control you to regulate their emotions And manage their low self-esteem Which is why they act so arrogant and entitled Which is why they're so defensive They cannot be open with you They cannot be vulnerable Instead they create an alternate reality They make stuff up Whatever works for them Whatever makes them look good They will manipulate you to get what they want They don't care about fairness or equality All they care about is getting their needs met They lack empathy So there's no mutual understanding Whenever there's a difference of opinion They become highly argumentative Which should reveal to you that you are dealing with a very weak fragile person They want to display strength, power and dominance But underneath that facade they are very weak and afraid Which is why they always have to be in opposition to you They cannot listen to you They cannot agree with you on anything Because in their minds that means that you have the power Which means that they lose control When everything they do Is designed to gain control It's designed to provide them with a sense of security and stability Because that is something that they lack Which is why they're so unhappy That's why they always seem so agitated and annoyed Because underneath their facade is a lot of pain resulting from that unresolved issues Which is what they bring to the disagreement Narcissists are shame-based people And they're doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame At some point in their lives they learn that when there is an argument or disagreement Someone is going to experience shame And they don't want to be the one who has to go through that So instead They devise a strategy Where they could be the ones to assign that shame to you Because if they can assign that shame to you Then they're no longer in difficulty or trouble When they argue with you They're trying to take away the focus away from their shame Which they deeply fear They have very low emotional intelligence They don't know how to cope with life Which is why there's no mutual understanding Instead their strategy is just belittle you To dismiss you as something that is unimportant They want to put all of the blame on you So that they can avoid accountability Because to them Accountability is a bad thing It's not something that they want to deal with The narcissist will argue with you And while some people may choose to fight fire with fire That is not something that I would advise Do not reciprocate Do not respond in kind Do not take the bait If there's one thing you can learn from their actions It's that you shouldn't want to be anything like them You shouldn't want to join their lack of responsibility You shouldn't want to join their dysfunction by doing what they do Let them do that Let them break the rules Let them run themselves through the rules Through the mud While you take a different path By taking accountability Which will lead you to a more functional way of life Accountability is the key to success It's easy to blame other people and take revenge But that's not going to benefit you in any way It's just going to make you more like them You're just going to be acting out of the fear and shame They have projected on to you Which is not going to result in anything good As Albert Einstein once said You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created You have to take the higher road You have to upgrade your level of thinking And your level of consciousness And you can do that by taking your focus off of the narcissist Take accountability for where you find yourself And then take a different path Go in the opposite direction Because you will never find peace or joy in the direction that they're going in That level of thinking and processing Will never result in anything good It will only make them more miserable and dissatisfied with life in the end Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like Comment Share 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