 Hey guys, we just recorded a two-part series on a mini series called the two shall become one Join us as we spend a little bit of time with pastor David on the topic of marriage on the two shall become one I hope you guys enjoy part one Welcome everybody to a random moment with pastor David unfiltered. Thank you guys for tuning in pastor. Welcome and God bless you Okay Today pastor have a question that's based more from a marital perspective based on marriage and You know some of these some of the conversations that we've had off camera have centered around this and and And I found it interesting in in terms of the role that the wife plays You know in Matthew chapter 19 verse 5 it talks about the two shall become one flesh and throughout the entire Bible or through the Instructions of Jesus it and in Paul he talks about a lot of times the role of the husband the priest of the home the Washing our wives in the with the water of the word and and is in his instructions to us husbands in Our role, but when we look at the role of the wife and and the role that the wife plays in our marriages What are some of the significant aspects that? that the role the wife the role of the wife plays in our lives, you know, I have a real problem with with Directing women in what their role is be honest with you. I think that That that there are certain things the scripture says seems to say fairly clearly in terms of the respect and and The the submission things of that nature But because people have misunderstood how that actually works that's simply a Detail of what actually takes place in in good marriage is the respect and submission and the husband loving the wife And those are all things that really are are combined into what a marriage actually is and so I believe that and I can only I can speak biblically obviously about this But I also want to speak practically in terms of how it's been a worked out in my own life I can tell you this I can say that that as a man. I have a attendancy of In my relationship with my wife I have a tendency of because I want to love her even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her I want to have that sacrificial kind of love for my wife But what happens in actual marriage is when it's when it's following the plans of the Lord there is a there is a Working together as a unit and and I am actually playing off of some of the things that are my wife's Personality and and her traits as she plays off mine That's why I have a difficulty with with people saying all you know all men are this way all women are that way I I I see us as having a Combination of traits and some things are referred to all that's what women do When a man can do the same kind of thing and all and so I think that we get kind of odd when we try to Explain things in a concrete black and white kind of way John. I'll tell you this Yeah, I am blessed to be able to say I I never really had a Lot of girlfriends. I I just have I just and maybe they just didn't want to be I don't know. I just I just never had a lot I only had a couple of girls and that I cared about in before I met my wife and so I Do know this I do know that I would not be the man I am today if it were not for my wife I know that because I play off of her and my wife has attributes characteristics That that have helped to shape me and mold me because I respond to her needs I initiate she responds, but I also Respond as she initiates and so in our relationship because I have a I have probably one of the best women in the world and I don't I really mean that and anybody who knows my Marie knows that that she's just an amazing woman and and Her kindness and her love and her grace to me and her her trust in me and her Her respect all of those things that that that I think a godly woman ought to have my wife has that for me John, you know her and and that's true. You watch us interact and it's just true I'm what I'm saying is absolutely true. And so Her goodness and her the way she has always responded to me even as a young believer Both of us being young believers when we we got when we met and eventually married I have been shaped By by that woman the two really did become one You know the the edges of my life and the edges of her life Interlocked and and it made me and it made her Into a person that that into the person that we are today John So my wife has kindness and my wife has a sweetness my wife has a self-control when she keeps her mouth You know the words to herself and sometimes she may want to speak out because she thinks it through all of those things Have benefited me as a man all of them her trust in me her respect of me her love for me She has babies. We have babies together and grand babies her love and affection for her family all of those things Have been the things in my life that that have made me into the man I am today had I married the other two girls there were only two if I had married either one of those two either of those Two I wouldn't be David Rosales today I wouldn't be who people know me to be today because each one of them had a different Personality in a different way of seeing life in a different way of being that I would have basically adjusted and adapted to Which would have made me Somebody different now. So I I I believe that in a Christian marriage, you know When a husband loves his wife when he washes her with the water of the word when he he He sacrificially lays his life down for her when he does the things that a husband does, you know if she's a responder to those things that She's gonna grow too and so together as you're growing in Christ you're growing closer together in Christ And and that's why it's important to pray together or to to attend services together to read the word those kinds of things That's why those things are so important because you're uniting and basically at an early portion of our marriage in our men in our ministry and we we started ministry together when we were married just a few years and so At first I would be given opportunity to travel to different countries and I I remember going to China I remember going to India. I remember going off to Manila, Philippines And and now I'm ministering in third-world countries and and and all and I'm coming back different I'm coming back changed by what I've gone through and I've left my girl at home Carrying for our children and holding down the fort and I finally said to Marie honey You need to go with me because the things that I'm experiencing I don't want to experience alone because it's changing me as a person and you won't be able to see why these changes are taking place And and so we made we made some changes. I didn't go as often as I could have But when I did go I would take her with me wherever it might be that she could go We didn't leave our children. We didn't abandon and we we felt it was necessary Obviously to be there for our kids, but as we grew older in ministry John we we would go different places together I've taken her to various places. She's been with me to Japan. She's been with me To to to Mexico. She's been with me in South America. She's she's been with me to Cuba Puerto Rico And in nationally here in the state She's gone with me to Austria to to England to Scotland on various ministry trips We've gone to Israel 28 times together And and as a result of that we have united in a deeper way in ministry So I really believe that through our ministry and service of God and then serving one another and serving with one another John That I have been changed in that way So with other people, you know average person is not a minister I would simply say that they need to they need to have devotions together They need to attend church together They need to to do the spiritual things that that can unite their hearts and and and to learn each other, you know, I I believe that that Mike one of the one of the things I want to learn is I want to learn the ways of my wife I want to know what pleases her. I want to know what doesn't please her I I don't want to hurt her. So I want to know how I can be of help to her I want to be a support to her. I I want us to grow older together We're already old. We're growing older together and I pray and I pray that God grants us many years more to to enjoy each other and and to to do those things that that That God has called me to do, but I don't do those things alone And so when we talk about marriage and all husbands love your wife As Christ loved the church and I'll close with just a thought the the bible doesn't Doesn't command the woman to love her husband The the bible commands the older women to teach the younger women how to love their husbands Eve was created for Adam, but Adam was created without Eve She was inherent in him in his rib, but she was taken out of the man and so Adam Adam had a role already. He he was a care caretaker of the garden He had relationship with God already those things were established Bible doesn't tell us how long but that was the first and and Paul says it He says the man was created first and then the woman the man was not created for the woman But the woman for the man and so You know I can I can be caught up with things That are pertaining to the things of the Lord But my wife and I need to together join to do those things So we have a more complete kind of work And so I think it's very important for the husband to To to be aware of those things the husband loves the wife Because the husband husband can be caught up with other things The wife was created for the man So my wife has a natural love for me her husband It's not that I don't have a natural love for her It was that I needed to learn what a priority in in life is With this woman because I can be sidetracked by what God called me to do in this right And and men can be sidetracked by their jobs and their hobbies and and everything else and then lose The the reason why they hooked up and got married with this woman in the first place and so I really I really believe in taking care of your home because if you take care of your wife and your children in your home You can you can take care of the house of God