 I've had very beautiful women in my life and I've also had long periods where I have been alone Because I chose to be because I wanted to work on something else because a girl dumped me You know lots of reasons and although I certainly felt emotions and I felt upset or I felt lonely or whatever at various points overall, I've always felt okay about myself because I developed that sense of entitlement of self-dependence self-reliance as a primary goal of mine a primary value So that's what I think is going to make a big difference for you guys just to shift that dial away from like external gratification to try and make you feel good to My job in life is to feel worthy and entitled of what it is that I want That's a big mindset shift And another big thing is you need to redefine what worthiness is because Remember that there are a whole lot of forces out there that are selling you a lie They are selling selling you a definition of male worthiness That is often completely unattainable And is actually not the definition of what makes someone valuable or a man valuable If we we have only to look at men's health magazine or you know any marketing that is designed to sell you things Based on making you feel insecure if you don't have them You need to buy a watch So that people can look at you and see that you have prestige jewelry Which means they can work out how many you know thousands of dollars a year you work You earn and therefore we how valuable you are in the strata of society Yeah I really Fuck with new york bankers when I walk into a bar and I don't wear a watch They don't know what to do then and they ask me what car do I drive and I went I don't drive a car I never learned I should learn though and they're like I don't know what to do now How do I judge this man because he seems confident even though he doesn't have a car or a watch And I go I hang on I pull out my 2002 expired learners license I almost got a license once but then like uh, and then I go and pick up one of the girls They're chatting up. Yeah that fries them Well because my my value system is not I'm not trying to define myself by these external things I could have you know at some point I could buy a watch and put it on and just because I like it It's not going to affect things either way really So you need to redefine what it is to be a worthy male and It is not necessarily the clothes you wear the car you drive or any of that shit It is How you feel about yourself It is having that internal sense that yes, I am valuable And what I have to offer is valuable That's why I don't have to dhv myself I don't have to go and tell stories about how cool I am necessarily although I do sometimes because you know, I've got some cool stories, but It's it's clearly transmitted that I have value. I don't need to demonstrate higher value I find myself valuable and therefore the way I communicate with people shows that and I also find other people valuable Every person that I meet and I seek out the what's valuable and what's golden in each person And that makes that person feel listen to makes them feel special And when you do that to a woman Suddenly you become incredibly worthy because what are women missing? Unless she's found the man of her dreams and she's deeply in love It's very likely she is bored lonely and horny most of the time Yeah, and that's most of the women out there True And and you might think that like models or whatever don't live in that world. They do In fact often if you're a professional model you live in a very lonely world because women can't be your friends because they're worried you're gonna they're gonna steal your boyfriend and All and most of the men surrounding them are actually gay true And the rest of them are sleazy old men trying to get in their pants or trying to buy them So they actually often live in a very lonely world and when a man comes up to them Who can actually give them a genuine connection who can find out what's special about them who can Demonstrate his desire without having to compensate with money or whatever else Then she sees a man who is incredibly entitled to spend time with her and I believe I'm out of time So I'd like to leave it there for now Hopefully that's giving you a an important pre-frame On how to view this this weekend and hopefully how to absorb the information the speakers give you in a more effective way in a more holistic way And if you guys have got questions, you can talk to me in a break But tomorrow I'll be giving my major speech and then I'll have plenty of time for open forum questions then So thank you very much and please enjoy the 2021 convention