 Okay, can you hear me? Can you hear me now? Those were hers. Hey, can you hear me? Yeah, are you a PhD? Ah, no. I'm a PhD. How many dogs you got? One. Really? I'm sorry? What kind of dog is it? He's a cane corso. He's a what? A cane corso. What is that in English? It's a larger dog and their breed is meant for guarding and protecting their very protective of their home and their families. Okay, so what's your disagreement? Honestly, I don't have a disagreement. I just came here because I honestly want some advice from you. It says Disagreement Day. Oh, I know, but this is my first time catching it on live. Normally, I'm sleep. And... Do you have a job? I do. I own a business. Okay, so I do too. And I do have a question. But I have a business. And if you wanted my advice, you could always book a session if you can't catch us at the show live. I'm definitely, I was trying to go online early in the presentation. But all you have to do, man. But see, what kind of business do you own? I own a pet, grown man, doggy, big hair and it would help. Okay, so what you're basically trying to do is I have a Disagreement Day and you basically came in and said, damn your topic, I want to ask you what I want to ask you. Okay. But you were more than welcome to go on my website and purchase your time to talk with me one-on-one. Cause what you're trying to do is rather rude. But I will go ahead and do it because I'm going to use this as a teaching lesson. How old are you? How old are you? I'm 35. 35 years old. 35 years old and you're a business owner. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. And what's your question? So my issue is, well, I want to know at what point when I'm just meeting a guy, do I tell him that I'm a business owner? Because my problem is that when I try to date down and the conversation comes up to where I own a business, the guy is either like, hey, can I come join in on you on that business? Or can I put some in and be a business partner? And I'm not looking for that. And I honestly- Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. I need to be clear on this subject. Where are you at? North Carolina. And you're saying, when to tell somebody you own a business? Because I find when I date down, guys see an interest and want to be like a business partner and I'm learning that maybe I need a high value man because that's what I'm doing. First off, ma'am, I really don't understand what kind of man are you talking about? Because owning a business is no different than having a job, in my opinion. And I'm not getting what you're saying. When should you, I'm not understanding why this is an issue. If you're, what kind of man are you, what kind of man are you dating? I try to give, I try to give guys that is not a chance. You try to do what? I try to give guys that's not on my level a chance. Why? What do you mean on your level? What does that mean? That's making six figures or more. But I don't under, okay. You try to give guys who are not on your level a chance. Why? Because I honestly want a six figure guy, is what I'm realizing. Okay, so let me just go ahead and net it out for you. You ready? Uh-huh. The guys you want aren't asking you out. Well, I haven't been putting myself out there honestly. But you put yourself out there enough for the guys you don't want or to believe you to ask you out. Those are like guys I met online. Right, so again, the men you want are not asking you out. See, you ladies do this. You go and deal with men who you feel are beneath you and then you ask how to fix them. I'm not beneath you. I don't know how to fix a guy that's down there. That's not my concern. The better question is, why can't you get a guy on your level? That's the real question. Well, first of all, I would tell you, what I said in here automatically is a problem. Why you would come onto a show that you know was a disagreement day? It's selfish. It's like, well, yes, man, it's like, I want what I want. I don't say things for no reason. That's why I asked you questions. You're 35 years old, a business owner. That means you understand what business is. And you know this is a business. And I have a show title. And you said, damn your show title, I want to talk to you. But you could have went to my business and booked town to talk to me, but you wanted what you wanted, how you want it. I'm sorry. No, and I'm using this as lesson. That's the problem with too many of you black women. You don't do shit the right way with black men. That was improper. And when I even when I told you the right way, you still were like, well, whatever. So I'm going to use this. When was the last time you had a relationship? Right. So in the last year around December. How long did it last? A year. A year? And was that man, did you go to college? Did I go to college? Yes. No, sir. Okay. And how long are you on your own business? Nine years. And how long have you been making six figures or more? The last three. Okay. Why do you need a man making six figures? Because I'm finding out that the guys that I date, that's not, it's not working out. What does it have to do with money? Because I feel like I need a guide that I can respect and admire. And I'm an invention. And I want a guy that has that drive, too. And when he doesn't, I find myself, you know, encouraged. I'm like, hey, babe, you can do this and you can do that. And then. So in North Carolina, what percentage of the population, what percentage of men in this country make six figures or more? I think it's like 5%. I'm not. Closer to 10. 10%. All right. So the question is, what do those men who make that kind of money, who all women tend to want, what do they want? I feel like they want Armcanny, somebody who can have more to bring to the table than just looks, but also bring balance to their life. I feel like I can help them out on. Okay, slow down. I'm not understanding. You said they want Armcanny, then you contradicted yourself. You want somebody to do more than just looks. Yeah, Armcanny, but something by, you know, brain with it and, you know, more than that. Do you know any men who make six figures or more? My dad and my uncle. Excuse me. Do you know any men that you are related to that make six figures or more? Unrelated to. Yeah. But you are not related to. Not on a personal level. So you don't know them. You don't know what they want, but you want them. Man, I'm going to suggest that you really don't know what you want. And saying six figures is just something that you get taken from out there, but I'm not hearing this rooted to anything. What do you want ultimately? Do you want to be married? Children, what? Yes, I want to be married. You want any children? Yes. How many? Um, I have a son, you know, so. Okay. How old is your son? He's 13. Where's the father? He's not enough in his life. I don't know. I said, where's the father? Well, he's not like in it like I would like him to be. All right. So go ahead and take this down, ma'am. Men who make the kind of money you're talking about have options. And typically I don't want to deal with women who are have 13 year old sons who are used to dating men. This doesn't sound appealing to the kind of man you're talking about. Do you understand what I'm saying? Yeah, but, um, I was thinking once I start booking session with you that, um. I can't change men. I know, but I can approve myself and I feel like I have a lot to offer to those type of men. Okay. But see, you should have stopped right there. I just told you I cannot change men. And you said once I book a session with you, I'm not a miracle worker. I'm telling you what they want. And you're still saying, yeah, but I want them. They don't want you. But I have been working on myself this year and. Okay, ma'am. But okay. 35 13 year old son with a sketchy father. Why would a man who's the top 10% of earners who women across the country want want that? Um, because I have a lot to offer. Um, I feel like would you want your son to, if you had a son making that kind of money, would you want him to bring home a woman who had a 13 year old son from a sketchy father? Or would you prefer him to get a woman who had no children, was younger and easier to get on his program? Depending on his age. See what I mean? See what I mean? This goes so deep for black women. They will even, that should have been an easy question. No, I would not want my son to bring. I want the best for my son. That should have been the appropriate answer. That's why I sat up. That is bullshit. You should want the best for your son. Of course. But, and are you thinking? If he brought home a woman, yes. I feel like I'm the exception to the rule. No, you're not. That's the problem. You all think you're the exception to the rule, but your life is proven to you that you're not. My love life is not that good. I agree with you. That's my point. And ma'am, and that's my point. You ladies all feel like, listen. You ladies all feel like you're the exception to the rule. And then when someone like myself comes along and gives you a dose of reality, instead of just accepting it, it's like, yeah, but, yeah, but I'm special. You don't know any men on this level that are not your father, that aren't related to you. That means you don't know these men. You don't know where to go get them. You don't know what they want. But you're still saying, pick me. They don't want mid 30-year-old baby mamas. I'm trying to be polite, man, but they don't want those. I asked you a question. Did you hear what I said? Yes. Why is that so? Okay, go ahead. Why is that so? Go ahead. From my point of view, I feel like I get what you're saying. They do have better options, but also those better options are younger girls. Those younger girls don't necessarily, 20-year-olds are not necessarily attracted to 45-year-olds. Bullshit. Bullshit. I'm 51, and I can't beat them off with a stick. That's another one you lies. No, younger women are attracted to older men. What are you talking about? Can you see me? Yes, I can. Okay, so do you feel like a woman like me? Uh-huh. What would you rank yourself on a scale from one to ten? You cannot use seven. Would I rate myself? Mm-hmm, just your face. My face, when I wake up, five, but when I put myself together, six. Okay. And how tall are you? Five, five. Dress size. I'm sorry? Your dress size. A three. Okay, so that makes you, if you give yourself a five, that's average. Yes. So average-looking women tend not to get high-earning men. They tend to get average men. So, um... Did you, I mean, stop right there. Stop right there. Stop right there. Breathe and digest. You're 35 years old, and you can look around and see the world. You don't tend to see higher-earning men with average-looking women off-rip. If you do see them, they got them, they got their average-looking woman when they were both really young and he built his way up. But a man earning the kind of money you're talking about does not go for an average-looking woman. I mean, my body is not average, so... But, ma'am, please don't make me say it. Say what? You really just wanted some advice. I love your stuff. I'm giving you advice, but you're not taking it. The advice is, ma'am, ma'am, you're average-looking at best. I'm taking it in, but... Okay, but you're not accepting the fact that... Okay. Average-looking women. Average-looking woman who's older. Average-looking older woman with a 13-year-old son. Average-looking woman with a 13-year-old son with a sketchy baby daddy. This gets worse every time I say something. And now you're asking for a man who's in the top 10% of men. You don't qualify for one. And you're making... I mean, I don't want to have to go there. But when you put in all these other factors, why can't you just get a man that's an average guy? Sometimes I feel like, in order to fully submit, I have to feel like he's in the show. Then you're going to die alone. How about that? Let me just cut to the chase, ma'am. You can feel like what you want to, but women like you die alone. Straight up. Because you think you're better than the men that you qualify for. And the only reason, honestly, ma'am, that I can see a woman like yourself really thinking you deserve more is because you earn more money than most women who earn more money than most people around you in North Carolina. But if your ass worked to the post office, you would not think so highly of your opportunities. And that's the reality. Men don't care about your money. Not the kind of men that you want. We don't care about your money. It ain't ours. We care about the fact that you are older and you got kids and you're average. And your reality of your life has showed you that. You don't have the kind of men that you want knocking on your door trying to find you. See, what we've done in this country, this world is, we've told women like yourself that you can have it all and you got a Prince Charming who's six feet, six feet tall, six-figure income, jawline, all this other kind of stuff. And I'm sorry, man. No. Most people get average people, especially average people. And you're an average person. I mean, let's be real. You're not running Microsoft. You got a pet grooming business. You've been making six figures for the last three years. Okay. But if I'm looking at you, but if I looked at you and I took all that off of you, all the eyelashes and all the hair, what do you look like under there? I mean, I look the same. No, you don't. Because if you did, you wouldn't have all that on. So what is your advice for when did that? All right. I'll tell you my advice, man, because you're not listening to me. This is why I always recommend you need the therapy. People think most of us in the black community need therapy, but you're not dealing with reality. I asked you about your child's father and you couldn't answer me. But it doesn't sound like you're too proud of him. How's that? What's your advice for when did that? I'll tell you my advice, man, because you're not listening to me. How's that? What kind of student is your child? He's an A student. Does he have any behavioral problems? No, he actually got a YouTube channel and he's trying. All right. Don't need that. Don't need that. But where is it? But his daddy is still, if his daddy is alive, does he have a relationship with his father? Yeah, he does. Then what's your issue with him? He's not business minded, like my father and my uncle. How did you choose to make a baby with him before you got married? Young and dumb. I was 16. Exactly. And that cost. See? That young and dumb shit. Let me stop you right here. That young and dumb shit you black women throw out as if it's supposed to give. Listen and listen well, women. Young and dumb is not a get out of jail free card. It doesn't go woof and change the fact. You still have to carry that consequence. And men are not rushing up to be step fathers to 13 year olds. What would be better is if you honestly sat down and asked yourself, what value can I bring to a man? And I know that what I can. Well, all right. What can what value? What is it? What is it? Hmm. I can help him with his business. I'm very business minded on the end of helping organize. And I plant into planting my own garden. So I can definitely plant into improving my elegance with just self improvement and working on myself. And ma'am at 35 years old at 35 years old. Here's what you told me. I can help him with his business. Do respect ma'am. And I mean no disrespect for 20 to 30% of people on businesses. What about the 70 to 80% of men who don't own them? That means that doesn't matter. That means nothing to the average man. Then the next thing you said, I can plant ma'am. That means nothing to most people because we go to grocery stores. Then you say self improvement. You've had I gave you a shot. It's saying what you have to offer to men and you said nothing that we value. What do you back? Book a session. Book a session. I'm not doing this. Nope, nope, nope. I'm done. I've tried to go around. But this has happened. The older you ladies get, the more you get set in your ways. Book a session because I don't want to do this in public, man. Because you seem like a sweet woman but you're not getting it. You're being so mean. Don't tell me I'm being mean. I'm about to be mean. I get tired of you broads telling me I'm being mean because you cannot handle her that damn truth. You called my show on the day that you ain't even supposed to be here and I honored the call and sat here and tried to help you and I'm telling you, telling me I'm being mean. The fuck out of my phone. I'm tired of y'all doing this shit.