 So I'm gonna tell you something we didn't organize or synchronize the fact that we're gonna have pink shirts on Yeah, he's from Ottawa. I'm from Toronto. He comes out of pink shirt. I'm looking like what the fuck, bro I don't know man. Is it great minds think it like or we're just like predictable that way. I think we're just crazy I'm crazy. I'm good with that. So what are we talking about today to one? Oh, well Well, you know what before I actually begin do a quick intro man. Who are you and what's your gist, bro? All right, Tuan Nguyen here from Ottawa, Canada and What I'm doing now is I'm focusing on building resources to help fathers crush it in business But also learn the tools how to connect it to the families and stuff like that So it's been something I've been doing on the side just for my son It was like five hours a week in May and it's grown so much right now that I make these freaking trips to Toronto to hook up with some boys here and girls of course to To learn from them because this whole thing is new to me and it's exploding On the side so need some help don't say it So you started saying you're helping fathers out in business. What got you into that in the first place? well, I kind of went through a divorce and I fell I fell apart and And then I bounced back and during the bounce back I was just sharing some of my stories through Facebook really that's all I was on to be honest But some my stories start spreading and dudes started reaching out to me and what I learned was that when I started opening up Men start opening up to me, too And that's what they said yo man like this is the piece we're missing and then I start hosting these meeting on lines to Google Hangout and I don't do that anymore, but it started that way and it grew to people all over the world Germany Switzerland, New York, and this is like voluntary basis once a month We come up with a topic and I bring in a bunch of boys together and all dads we talk about it And it start growing that my main business, which I work with dentists and doctors boring But you know, I have five staff with the the main business. It runs relatively smoothly Yeah, but my love is in this this movement, which I call do Buddha now Did he create it out of your own necessity going out of divorce or going through divorce? You know, I would say no it kind of happened organically interesting It started with a one guy in front of law laws or safe way Yeah, and we just started chatting and he's like yo, how you doing? I'm like yo, I'm doing great. What about you? It's like I'm pretty fucked up still. Yeah, so you know this guy though. Yeah. Yeah, we met through divorce class Yeah, and he read into me and I'm like yo, what's going on? I'm like I'm doing great He says well, what are you what are you doing because I feel like shit still Yeah, and it just grew from one guy and it went to three guys Yeah, and it became weekly meeting at a coffee shop and then I started learning that men Who heard about this didn't want to show up because they wanted to be anonymous. They were embarrassed So I said, yeah, why don't just host a meeting online? You don't have to show your face You don't have to give me give me your real name and some people would one guy. We still call him Gordy how Okay, that's what hockey player hockey player he signs himself as Gordy how yeah And now he's a positive contributor to the group Okay, but he hasn't you know really opened up to show us who he really is What would you share some of the most common things that you've heard or seen the man are suffering right now? I? Think I would say let's say three things. Okay, men are are feeling a bit of guilt Guilt, okay? Guilt one. Yeah, and it's because Specifically fathers. Okay, because they don't know how to connect or reconnect with people They've lost connection with hmm at first it starts with their kids It's always that you know they go to their kids and some they don't feel they can ever their own kids They lose the romance. So that's the other connection. Yeah, but then you find out that They lose connection with their friends. Hmm, like they find that their friendship has gone from deep to like surface level So but the way we do it. It's not like therapy. It's like pretty sexy. You know, we have a lot of fun We have you know, you know, well, they mean one thing that Everybody in the group has found beneficial Yeah, so I would say just mental models mental models. Okay. Yeah mental models on how to face different situations. Okay, and a mental model on Dealing with a lack of romance. Okay a mental model because it's always a dialogue in their heads So we start Sharing our mental models and processes how we think your own dialogues and the men in the group They're all shifting their dialogue. Mm-hmm And we dub that as mental mental models of how to process things because that's how dudes are They just process like one two three four. Sure, right? So Yeah, it's been so amazing that I've invested we talked about this earlier Yeah, I've invested on five new interns to work with me to do to take all my ideas And I'll put into content because we have so much content after a year and a half of this we have like insane amount of content that's so valuable and What I've learned is this is slightly going off topic for those guys. You're trying to scale. Yeah I'm hiring two high school students and two university students Mm-hmm and the difference I found was when I was interviewing these high school students I'm like, yo, can you do this like yeah, what about this? No, you like this. Yeah, like it's just real right straight to the point But these university kids they're they're don't get me wrong. They're smart Yeah, but they're now starting to do whatever they can to impress you sure. It's like, hey George. Can you do this? Yeah, yeah, I can yeah, totally I can do that But you're like really can you and so then you put them to the test and they can't do it But they just said it because yeah, they're moderately fucked up. Anyways, it is it is your bread to obey the rules And if you go outside of the box, you're punished. Yeah. Yeah, you know what I mean High school you still had the rebellious attitude and like really no one does a fuck about high school. Oh, yeah Yeah, I mean, yeah, I hear you and you see them right away when they start you know what? I think it should be in fact because there's two things when people go to uni or college Well, you need cuz a little bit more expensive one I don't think so there should be oh it because actually there should be if your parents are paying for you to go to Reverse your oh, you shouldn't go because I want you to pay with your own money and feel the fucking pain All right, I imagine like if everyone literally took out the cash in your pocket like oh shit $10,000 a year. What do you think the number of applicants University? I think you know who closed down. Yeah, you know Shut that's on a tangent. Yeah, I mean guys checks out I hire students to a program and I used to have an office And then I don't have an office anymore because I like to work remotely and anywhere once now the students get the same lifestyle Yeah, and the school gave me shit for it. No school's crazy, man I know it's like they're like I'm sorry We can't give these students let they have an office to go to they can't work in coffee shops I'm like, what are you talking about? Right, I like this is you got all these companies who are allowing their their their staff to do this Yeah, and we're now we're giving the kids the early opportunity to say yo You create your own hours your own time learning your own pace do whatever you want but grow You know in your own freedom. So what advice do you have for anybody who's actually in university right now? I Would say challenge the rules. Mm-hmm. That's what I do. Mm-hmm challenge whatever norm they they provide in terms of This is how life is done. This is how business success is achieved You know, I enjoyed my university years But I have to say it's because I challenge what I learned was what I really grew. Mm-hmm, right? So I'm overall pretty non-confrontational guy, but like we said earlier I will challenge anything that prevents me from moving forward. Mm-hmm, but if it's something like you got a difference opinion That's what you do nothing to do with me that I don't give a crap about it Where do you see our educational system in the next decade? Let's say Canada? And will it be Do you think we're gonna go we're gonna we're gonna be going into like a big bubble or a big collapse? Based on like students coming out of school and they're not productive and then I don't have just this is my issue Forget about just knowledge that you have I've talked to so many people and this is saying I have it's not my thing, but I heard it, you know Common sense is not common sense unless it's commonly practice, right? So people are leaving school. They're not fucking basic common sense, bro Not intelligence none of that shit is just like dude. You don't have to go anywhere just common fucking sense Yeah, so I mean I have a 13 year old at ten and four So this is my experience so far because I can't say I have the vision to see where the Academies gonna be in 10 years, but I can tell you where it seems to be going Okay, right my kid comes home and say yo how school and she's like it was okay Why I learned everything in 15 minutes and then I have to wait for the rest of the class to catch up the last 30 minutes It's been going on for two years So now I'm looking at homeschooling because I think I could help her or I'm looking at more focus school focus school Yeah, so and when I talk with my other friends parents, you know, they feel similar or sports Yeah, a kid is like crushing sports, but they have to wait for the rest of the the class to catch up Yeah, so whether it be sports economic doesn't matter, but I find that parents are now are considering more specialized You know focus education Kind of like private school, but not private school It's just it's just it's so different these days that you have that flexibility to mold your your kids education, right? Yeah, and challenge even what's going on because I challenge what's going on right now, but I see that trend I don't know where it's going to be But I know that all this amalgamation of schools putting kids into like 30 clouds, you know one teacher for the 32 Yeah, it's not gonna fly now and there's gonna be a backlash on it somehow and I don't know where it's gonna go But kids are getting dumber because yeah, not them. I think the whole world's getting these you know, yeah You know that documentary Idiocracy one of my favorite movies movie. It's a documentary Documentary I saw it as a movie President Camacho Yeah, that's like the stupidification of men like devolution I just yeah I think it's so cool or human not mankind but human kind it's happening man I see it on a date that bro people are getting fucking stupid. It's so true I I'm not you. I'm not high school educated college or uni I got kicked out in the end of grade nine and I barely even pass elementary school I'm just coming from like just basic common sense hustler mindset Yeah, and I'm just listening to people because I take the subway every day, right? So I get to hear overshadow people. Yeah, I'm just listening to you like fuck What the fuck's the matter with these people? They're just getting so sheltered and sheltered. It's just crazy Yeah, yeah, I mean I come from an edge, you know a higher education, you know like two university degrees yo But it has really done much. Yeah, you know, it was me hustling. It was me realizing that you know If I didn't take life into my own hands, I would end up in the same in my case I felt bored same boring. Oh come I didn't want to have the same 95 go to work and this is we're wearing shirts Yeah, but I I went on my own because I refused following a tire rules I had to wear a shirt and a tie Every freaking day. Yeah, and I thought really I hate this. I want to wear whatever I want Yeah, and just that alone was enough of a motivation for me to say screw the accounting firm I'm out of here. I'm running my own shop and then and I remember at the high point of one of our businesses We have DJ live Coming in who is our CTO this cool dope Russian guy is like What would you like to listen to dance music hip-hop trance? And then he puts on the DJ on one side and he starts coding on the other side And it's like so much fun. We could do your own thing, right? So entrepreneurship guys, it's the way it's the way I'm telling you it's awesome Well, that's the thing with entrepreneurship. It's it was always been like that. It's all idea of like entrepreneurs about business It's not it's all being self-dependent. Yeah, like if we go back before the industrial revolution Everybody was dependent on themselves. Yeah, you had to farm to get your own food or hunt to get your own food Or you have to barter and trade for example, everybody had their own blacksmith shop leather shop Meal salt place, etc. So everybody was hustling to survive. There was no government handouts. There's no organizations I was like, yo listen if you don't do this. Well, you don't get shit. Oh, yeah, for sure So, I mean even with my kids right now. What's really cool is we have everyone has a gratitude journal, which is awesome Oh, yeah, but in the gratitude journal, they have a pain statement or a problem statement And they've been doing this 13-year-old ten years old They've had we're talking now over 380 days of pain or problem statement, which is a problem. They see in the world. Yeah, they would love the solution for that's good Yeah, that's really good. Oh man. I got to I'm gonna share with you guys my ten-year-old It was Christmas last year is like garbage all over pizza boxes You know how school and ordering pizzas all the time She comes home and what she wrote in her pain in her journal was I wish there's a better way to throw away garbage Like I'm like, oh my goodness. Yeah, and then the other one, which is a really cool girl She mows her lawn and we had our previous home had a pretty big lawn and then she gets she gets in she's sweating She's like there's got to be a more efficient way to mow the lawn. This is just like not right Yeah, right. I'm like you solve that problem. So you're gonna like you're gonna be doing really well life, right? Yes, and so that night that was our problem statement like there's got to be a better and more efficient way of cutting lawn Nice, right and so to me when you get into that kind of a mindset as opposed to like going get an education And learning what to be. I think that's where that's where the mistake is is they're teaching what we can be Versus what we can do. Yeah with with our lives, you know, I mean like how we could use our brains and solve things So yeah, those are like really cool things that I'm noticing right now trend learning I'm taking that to my business right now and it's it's doing amazing. It's just I'm just having so much fun with it Beautiful. So if people are like more interested into the dude Buddha and getting in contact with you So just dude Buddha calm, you know, and you could you know, there's a form you could fill out And I it all comes to me because it's literally just a one-person shop right now But it's growing like crazy and if you guys are our parents or your dad's or even if your sons or daughters You know share the site because we're getting so much amazing Lessons and tools and hacks to help. Yep. Just dad's become better dads. Beautiful brother. Yeah, man. Cool. Thank you for the opportunity Pleasure man. Thank you. Love you guys check out one. I put a link below this video guys. Peace That was fun never done that before