 After all of the backlash over the last couple of days, it looks like Morgan Adams has released a public apology for her collab with Trisha Paytas and hopefully this is a wake up call not only to Trisha Paytas but to all of us. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do, I like to take different topics going on in the YouTube community, try to see what lessons we can learn from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And if you just subscribe and ring that notification bell, for those of you who are new here, just so you know, we only look at these different topics that are going on so we can do some self-reflection. Alright, so I'm going to give you a little brief overview of what's going on. I'm going to read the apology that Morgan Adams sent out, but I'm going to share a little bit of my story and what I still try to do to this day to improve my mental and emotional well-being. So anyways, those of you who saw the video yesterday, Morgan Adams recently did a collab with Trisha Paytas and there was a lot of backlash, a lot. I showed some of the top comments on there, Insider Magazine even covered it and how Morgan's fans were really upset. So anyways, Morgan Adams took to Twitter yesterday, she probably released this on Instagram too, I'm not sure, but she put out an apology. Alright, so it says, from the bottom of my heart, my intention always has been and always will be to make videos, to make people laugh and be entertained. I know for a lot of people this video has crossed the line and I am truly sorry for anyone who has felt negatively from my actions and I hear you and I see you. I will always do my best to take your feedback and show you that I really do care. And I know mental health is so sensitive and personal to every individual including me and I'm sorry for my actions affecting you and will take full responsibility for that and hope to do better for you in the future. As for our timeline, we filmed with Trisha before any stay at home orders were in place. I stayed at my apartment alone for 25 days to make sure I wouldn't get my family sick then came to stay with them. This was filmed over the course of a few weeks, also I see a lot of people saying their comments are being deleted. I appreciate and understand your feedback and value your feelings and haven't deleted any comments YouTube filters through what the top comments are so people have new comments to read. I hope you know my heart was in the right place and I will take accountability for anyone who I have negatively impacted. I'm sorry I love you and I hope everyone is staying safe and healthy. All right, so real quick there is this thing right and I know 99.9% of you watching this are not YouTubers but what I will say is try not to be so quick to accuse YouTubers of deleting comments. There are filters YouTube Organism just like Morgan Adams said but yeah like I've seen people say like oh you deleted this comment you check the filter and they're calling you an effing idiot or sometimes YouTube just filtered it for no reason. So cut Morgan some slack as well as any other YouTuber when you believe they're deleting comments. There is also a chance also a chance that the person who left the comment deleted their own comment because a lot of people put stuff out there and they don't think it's going to get so many views right like somebody might have left something nasty and then it becomes the top comment and then maybe they're like ooh maybe I don't want to be associated with this comment because a lot of us don't expect to get that much attention when you know we post something right. So anyways just to touch on the Morgan Adams side of things slightly because I want to focus more on Trisha Paytas and self-improvement and all that. I saw some of your comments and everything like oh you know Morgan Adams has no control over Trisha Paytas neither the Shane or Ryland da da da da yes yes like what we have to realize is yeah we don't have control over other people but we do have control over who we hang around right like here's the thing like you guys so I am a 34 year old man god I'm getting old but you know I realize when I hung out with certain groups of friends every time I went out something crazy happened right like every time I went out with a certain group of friends or a certain friend you know just us going to hang out something nuts happened it was chaos right then all of a sudden I was like huh well if I'm trying to improve my life if I'm trying to improve my mental and emotional well-being and every time I hang out with this person something crazy goes down maybe I need to remove myself from that situation like you guys let me tell you this right now like I have a very small core group of friends I mentioned this in the last video but my life is so peaceful and full of serenity because I have eliminated the chaos like I still have a lot of friends from way back in my drinking using and partying days but I love them from a distance like I cannot have them in my life on a regular basis because of the chaos that they bring everywhere that they go right now this doesn't mean that I love them any less or I don't want to be friends with them but until they are willing to try to improve right or to try to change that chaotic factor in their life like I can be there for them you know as long as I'm monitoring my own mental health right like you know we all have those friends we all have those friends where every time they message you like the sky is falling and everything is crazy maybe it's somebody that are hooking up with maybe it's you know their family and or whatever it is right and we really have to be mindful of ourselves like something that I've been talking a lot with people about especially during these crazy times it's something called empathy fatigue alright when we give too much of ourselves it completely drains us mentally and emotionally alright so anyways now let's get back to the Patricia Paytas aspect of this and like I said in the beginning I'm hoping it's a wake-up call for her but I'm hoping it's a wake-up call for all of us so what I had to realize in my life was I didn't want to get better right I was a drug addict I was an alcoholic I was absolutely nuts I was I was the chaotic friend the chaos I was just talking about that used to be me right and I used to just wreak havoc wherever I went and I didn't care I didn't care I had this message to the world this is who I am if you don't like it get to step it right like that's the way I was living but when I when I really looked at it I was like holy crap Chris it's not just about you right like your friends are embarrassed by your behavior what you're doing Chris like when people associate with you it is harming them you see what I mean so part of my own mental health journey part of my sobriety journey was I had to quit thinking about myself right like if I didn't want to get better for myself I had to get better for other people I didn't want to be the drunken father showing up to my son's school events and embarrassing him right I had an alcoholic mother these things happen to me when I was a kid so I stopped thinking about me and saying oh I don't care if I embarrass myself it's like am I embarrassing him am I making my son look bad right I try to act right so I don't make my girlfriend look bad I try to act right so I don't let you know my parents look bad the other thing is to as a as a person a long-term recovery I am also very mindful like even though I didn't ask for it even though I didn't say hey you know look at me I am a representative of the recovery community right so I try to be mindful of that and what I do what I say how I you know maintain my sobriety right so we need to realize that and it's the same thing with our jobs we are a representative of our jobs and I know like you know leave work at work that is a huge part of life right but it's just human nature to associate us with these other things so I have to remember that as well so when I look at you know Trisha Paytas or all of us who might have Trisha ish behaviors you know like Trisha Paytas has said many times like you know this is my truth this is how I am you know I struggle with mental health issues I struggle with mental illness and it's like I get that I get that so many of us do but I'm telling you right now if you cannot find the the the willingness to get better for yourself and improve your life start thinking about other people you know what I mean like especially for those of us in recovery when I first got sober like I I didn't want to live like drugs and alcohol were the only things that woke me up in the morning and helped me move forward like just knowing I was going to get you know get more and get drunk or high right so when I got sober and that was taken away like I had nothing to live for so they say that you have to stay sober for yourself but there were certain days when I had to stay sober for other people so think about that because I know a lot of you aren't struggling with addiction but think about that with your depression with your anxiety with your trauma with your bipolar disorder with your borderline personality disorder with whatever it is like maybe you don't want to do therapy maybe you don't want to meditate maybe you don't want a journal right but if you're struggling to find the willingness to do that think about how you working on yourself can help your relationships think about how you go into therapy can help your relationship with your significant other with your family with your friends with your job think about how journaling might help your relationships you see what I mean if we can't find the willingness to do it for ourselves we get out of that mindset and we try to do it so we can foster healthier relationships in our life as a whole so again this video isn't just you know about what's going on with Trisha Paytas and Morgan Adams and Shane Dawson and all those other people we need to reflect on our own lives use this as motivation to start improving your life on a day-to-day basis so you can have better relationships with the people you care about you know what I mean anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge thank you to everybody who supports the channel over on patreon as well as everybody who supports the channel by buying my mental health books at the rewiretole.com or the merch from the merch store you're all awesome all right thanks again for watching I'll see you next time