 So Deji came back with yet another video about KSI and PewDiePie thinks that Deji should get off the internet and Keemstar made as PewDiePie would say an oopsie. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I like to do is take different topics from the YouTube community and try to see what lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and if you're into cats the most adorable cats you will ever see in your life make sure you're following me on Instagram and Twitter at the Rewired Soul so you see pictures like this of my amazing cats. Alright yeah anyways follow me on Instagram and Twitter I do love engaging with all of you and I post some cute pictures of my cats but anyways yeah um I've had quite a few requests to talk about the newest Deji video and my thoughts on it and yeah there's a few different things that I want to talk about so just quick TLDR for those of you who don't know Deji and KSI they've been going back and forth for months now months and months and months and something that we've all learned is to keep your private stuff off of YouTube especially when you have millions and millions of followers you know um the last thing was KSI responded to Deji. Deji said he was done with it and like a week two weeks passed and all of a sudden Deji came out with this new video and in this video it is it is an absolute mess alright so anyways let's talk about Keemstar first so Keemstar on drama alert he covered this and he ended up taking his video down and I think for the first time ever like that I've seen like Keemstar apologized for something he was saying about mental health but I had to get this video I want to talk more about the video that I uploaded yesterday that I privatized now the reason why I did that is because well I got a lot of negative feedback from you guys a lot of you guys were upset about I would say a good 30 maybe even 40 percent of you were mad at me for yesterday's video and a lot of you thought that I was making fun of mental health which I was not I was making fun of the people that use mental health as a shield to deflect blame you know we see it all the time here on YouTube I was in a dark place I was in a dark place we see mental health being used as a way to get out of blame and that was that that was my joke I literally said hey you guys know the rules to the internet if you suffer from mental health then you're not responsible for anything you do I don't think it's my fault and I'm not sorry for the joke but I am sorry for the basis of the joke I messed up yesterday so yeah he ended up taking that video down and I watched that video that he did and like he just kept repeating it over and over and over about blaming mental health blaming mental health blaming mental health so a few things from that situation when it comes to mental health those of you who are new to my channel like I'm very passionate about mental health I'd like to talk about it bring awareness decrease the stigma so first off the way Deji said it I don't think it was in the way that Keemstar took it right Keemstar took it as Deji saying like you know he's doing what he's doing because of his mental health the way I perceived it is that Deji was really upset and saying this whole situation is affecting his mental health as it would affect anybody it's like just to explain like Keemstar took his video down and made a brand new video because the reaction he got from his first video affected Keemstar's mental health you see what I mean like things affect our mental health on a daily basis maybe you're late to work maybe you got a crappy text message or an email or whatever it is all sorts of things affect our mental health so I don't think Deji was trying to use that as an excuse in the way Keemstar was saying it now for like the rest of us like this is something that we need to talk about like what what I try to teach people and what I try to explain for my my own um situations and my mental health struggles is like I don't want to use my mental health as an excuse but I do like to give it as an explanation for certain things like for example I've been diagnosed with a generalized anxiety disorder when my anxiety is really going I get very like just snappy and kind of crabby and things like that and I've I've made videos about this in the past but I communicate that with my beautiful girlfriend Tristan or my son or whatever and say listen like just so you know if I feel a little like irritable it's not you I just have stuff going on in my head you know what I mean and I'm not using it as an excuse I'm using it as an explanation so although I disagree with Keemstar 90% of the time when it comes to mental health subjects like I will tell you this right now if you are using your mental health as an excuse to be a dick like uh-uh you need to cut that out like like that in my opinion perpetuates the stigma like that's why people don't want to empathize with people struggling with mental health issues because like oh I just have a mental illness like one of the reasons I started this channel originally and started talking about mental health so much is because I was so tired of reading articles of like hey I have a mental illness you just gotta deal with it like that is such a crappy way to do these things you know what I mean like we need to take responsibility and ownership for our mental health we need to work on it like having mental health issues does not give an excuse to run around being a dick to people all right so anyways like I just wanted to clarify my thoughts on that situation with Keemstar and what he was saying but overall with like Keemstar like although that's kind of his intention I think when he's saying like don't use like mental health as an excuse like Keemstar is very very very just not good when it comes to talking about mental health and I've made videos about that in the past all right so next PewDiePie in his new video he covered the Deji and KSI story just briefly he said he's done talking about it and everything but he also said that Deji should get off YouTube for a while despite Deji's flaws I do like him in a way he's he has a lot he he has some likeable qualities okay I hate to see him like this I think this is clearly gone too far Deji please take a break you'll be fine it's time to take a break from YouTube this is it's not a good idea I 1000% agree I 1000% agree right like hey it's one of the reasons I had to take a break a couple months ago like I couldn't stop myself right I couldn't manage my emotions things were going on and I had to step away from YouTube for a little bit but when I look at Deji when I look at Deji I see something that so many of us deal with and it's it's this lack of acceptance it's trying to fight against the stream of life right like he wants so bad like he craves so bad for his brother for KSI to just admit that he was wrong he was at fault and everything was his fault like that's what Deji wants right but when we hold on to that anger when we hold on to that resentment and we expect that from another person we are creating our own misery right and that's what I see right like obviously I don't know Deji but when I see him like keep flaring up and making these videos going back and talking about it I can feel the frustration that he has and he wants to tell his side of the story and explain things because he feels wrong he feels hurt he he explained this in his video too he said my perception how I feel and here's the thing here's what we all need to understand like just because we perceive it doesn't necessarily mean it's the reality for example when I'm in a really bad mood if I'm in a terrible mood like and somebody comes up like hey Chris how you doing like my mind be like would you just say to me right like just because I perceive it as them being a jerk to me doesn't mean that's the reality of it and I think that's an issue that a lot of us have is that we try to justify how we feel there comes a certain point there comes a certain point where we have to pause we have to step back and say okay are my emotions is my emotional response like justified for what happened you know what I mean or is there a different angle this is why I highly recommend you talk to other people like you talk to your support group because like there's been instances where I've had like a boss email me or somebody like message me and like I interpret it in an insane way like I can get a messed up mental filter you know what I mean I have to show it to somebody else and say hey did you take this message or this email in the same way I did and sometimes like a friend or family member was like no like what are you talking about like you're acting crazy right now you know what I mean now don't get me wrong like Deji has been hurt in this situation but like one of the last things I want to talk about is like letting go like letting go like how much time how much time do we waste how much time do we let something rent space in our head that is over and done with from years ago like we're sitting in 2019 right now and we're witnessing Deji you know holding on to a resentment for something that happened in 2016 and it is just festering inside of him you know like we have to work on forgiveness we have to work on letting go like when I try to teach people something that I learned is we often think and this is mainly due to our pride and ego we think that forgiveness is letting the other person off the hook but what I've learned is forgiveness is letting ourselves off the hook right like I was dragging around so many resentments towards people like people who screwed with me when I was like younger in middle school in high school ex-girlfriends from like five ten years ago all these things right all these things were renting space in my head and finally when I just forgave them in my mind and let go of that anger like ah it felt so much better okay because here's the thing people might initially hurt us but then us holding on to that grudge we perpetuate our own misery our own suffering it is our choice whether or not we are going to let go and move forward all right now I understand that's a little bit more difficult with family members and things like that and there's a whole another video that could be made about boundaries and all that kind of good stuff but I hope as you're watching this Deji KSI thing that keeps going back and forth like you're looking at your own life and saying like oh my god do I act like that like that's what I wonder like when I watch Deji like having a breakdown on camera like I'm sitting down like do I still act like that in my life like what do I need to do to not do these things how do I let go how do I forgive how do I not be so impulsive and so emotional you know what I mean like we have to be learning lessons from these things that we're watching go down here on the YouTube platform all right but let me know down in the comments below like do you have a hard time you know letting go of things or if you want to talk about you know the previous subject like do you ever use your mental health as an excuse to be a dick to people do you take responsibility do you take ownership let's have a conversation down below all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon you're all amazing and if you'd like to become a patron support what I'm doing here click the top on that patreon icon right there all right thanks again so so much for watching I'll see you next time