 How narcissists react when you move on. You've moved on. You're happier now. You've met someone else and that is something they cannot deal with even if they already have someone because now you've moved on and they're no longer relevant. They're no longer significant or important to you because now you're in a new situation and you're happy without them but in their minds they should be considered to be of the utmost importance. Something essential and ultimate so they don't expect you to move on from them and even if you do they don't expect it to last but when they do see that you found someone new it will spark their curiosity and they will try to play it down. They will try to act like it isn't anything substantial but they will be eager to know and learn more about it and they may even try to test it so they might come back with a hoover. They might text or call you because they want to determine if you're actually serious but they don't want you to see them going through it so they will try to maintain a calm and composed appearance. They won't act jealous they may even say that they're happy for you but inside it's getting to them and they will assume that you're trying to make them jealous even if that's not what you're trying to do. So then they will try very hard to attract someone else's attention and they will put out all of these pictures and social media with this new person that they just picked up off the streets because they want you to see that they've moved on as well but normally they will have someone before you do that is typically what narcissists do to protect their emotional fragility which is why they will normally already have someone lined up before they even left you and you will know when they have someone else because they will start disrespecting you because they have a black or white mentality where people are either all good or all bad so as soon as they find so and knew everything about you is bad they can't stand you they don't even want to be around you they may still keep you around just in case things don't work out with their new person but when they're sure that they found a suitable target that's when you will really witness that disrespect that's when you will see who they really are because they've been this way the entire time they were always full of anger and frustration they just didn't reveal it to you but they felt this way about you the entire time because if they really cared about you they never would have treated you that way but this is why they never invested anything into you because they never loved you anyway which is why they will normally have someone before you do because they were never invested in you they were just trying to get an advantage over you they were behaving in an unfair and dishonest way to get what they want so they already knew it wasn't going to work out which is why they already went out and got someone on the side because they didn't expect things to get better for you anytime soon but you could be fooled into thinking that they still care about you because they may still give you the occasional message or phone call but they don't care they're just trying to stay relevant so that they can continue to control you they just want you to continue to be that good little dog they want you to be attentive balanced calm loving and playful they want you to follow all of their expectations and rules they don't want you to dismiss them they don't want you to treat them as unworthy of serious consideration they want you to still be longing and yearning for them so that you can't move on so that you can't replace them because you're in a state of uncertainty you still have feelings for them you feel very sad and disappointed you're in a state of shock and that is going to make it very difficult for you to move on and they are fully aware of that so they're doing this intentionally they're deliberately trying to delay your attempts to heal by then being manipulative deceptive and controlling so they're not expecting you to move on anytime soon they think they can go off and do whatever they want and you will still be there waiting for them and many of you will do that because you still want them you still think that things can get better you think that you can fix them because you love them and your feelings are real but it wasn't real for them because it was all about control they just wanted to stay relevant so that they could feel better about themselves because they're very insecure which is why they love it when you still want them after everything they did to you and you're still longing and yearning for them who makes them feel good in their minds that means things are going well because they did all of these bad things to you and they know it was wrong and yet you still want to take them back and they still have the power to turn you down which just makes them feel like they can do whatever they want it makes them feel like they can do anything and you will still forgive them but when you move on when you find happiness without them and they are aware of it it destroys their false narrative and they're forced to accept that they're not so valuable or special after all it crushes the illusions of their false self it brings them back to reality it makes them realize that they're actually nothing and they don't want to feel like that they don't want to accept the truth they'd rather live in their fantasy world where they can be powerful and important but when you move on and you see them for what they actually are it causes them to lose confidence because they're actually very insecure which is why they'd rather put you in a position where you're going through it with your longing and yearning for them with your hurt because they're gone because they're not there for you because it regulates their emotions it makes them feel better about themselves because they feed off your pain your pain brings some pleasure because it tells them that they're valuable and special and they can't feel that way by doing what normal people do they can't experience normal loving relationships because that doesn't do anything for them they can only feel special by hurting you by making you suffer but when you find a way to move on and you're happy without them it will cause them to feel very confused because they will assume that you must have found someone better than them and it will really get to them because they hate to see any type of progress they hate to see you moving on which is why they will start to resort to reckless behavior they will start drinking alcohol or taking drugs because they can't outdo you they can't be on your level so they will experience a narcissistic collapse and they will look for other people to pull them out of it but they will never find what they're looking for because in the end they will always turn against them they bite the hand that feeds them they do bad things and acting grateful towards a person who has helped them thank you for watching if you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up share your thoughts in the comment section hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications if you would like to support the 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