 Hi guys, this is Dr. Nancy from Honey with Milk. I teach negotiation and influence to help engineers and international professionals to get control of their lives and their career. Now it is a holiday season. Were you wondering are you supposed to give your co-workers and bosses some kind of holiday gift? Or in my shoes I received amazing gifts from my boss. For example, that's what I got from my boss. A huge box of goviva chocolate. I truly loved it and I put this gift opening video right here. Now in my shoes given I've received such a great gift from my boss, am I supposed to give some gift back to him and how much money I should put in. So I did lots of research on this topic. I had to share you some ideas about what kind of gift you give for your boss and what scenarios and I discovered 11 different things I'll share with you today. In my case, my boss had really great relationship with all of us. He gave each of his managers those like goviva gift boxes. What we did was the five of us talked to each other and said why don't we give our bosses some amazing gift like this. It's pretty big gift. Definitely at least $50 between $50 and $100. I looked up and so each of us just putting $20 together and combined is $100. So we gave our bosses $100 gift certificate so that he's able to use it to buy wine next door. So here's the thing. You need to understand what your co-workers what your boss likes. We know that he's a foodie. He loves amazing wine. He loves like Europe to wine tour. So therefore we would love to buy him some like a nice certificate to buy any kind of wine he likes. So this is what we did in my specific scenario. And the other thing I want to mention is that and it's totally up to you if you do not feel comfortable or nobody in the office gives gifts to each other. Maybe you can consider not doing that but in my scenarios we have great relationship with my managers and my employees and my peer managers my bosses. And we feel okay to give each other something under $10 on the $20. So everything I'm sharing with you today is all under $20. Mostly under $10. And the other background information is that I am the only female manager out of a 100 people for a management organization. So most of my co-workers and the bosses they are all like men. So most of the gifts examples I gave you are gender neutral and maybe more towards the male side of things. But it's totally up to you. You have more female co-workers you can tater a little bit. And at the end of the video I'm going to show you what I would buy for my female friends or what would I receive. So stay until the end. So let's get started. The number one gift I recommend everyone to give is chocolate. Surprise the best gift. Everybody would love a piece of chocolate. You can give them like small boxes, big boxes. I think they're all under $20 each box. That matter men and women we all love it. And in my case I got so much chocolate myself. I would definitely give people chocolate as well as the best gift. I recently went to Japan and I brought the sake flavored KitKat for my co-workers. So I put it right here. We already ate the KitKat. The KitKat itself has alcohol in it. It tastes like sake. So don't really give the KitKat to kids. They might get drunk. You might get drunk over the KitKat as well. But I found it very very interesting, very unique. And those KitKat are under $5 dollars. All this I bought in Japan. I bought multiple boxes. And third, not any random candy. Again, it has to be special candy. And for example, my co-worker did something very smart. He's Spanish. So he got us those Spanish candy called Turan. It's my first time having Turan in my life. I'll put a picture right here. And he just gave those Turans a long beautiful Turan with a little no card with his name and his wife's name on it. And those Turan I think is less than $5 dollars. Let's say less than $10. But everybody in the office really love it. It's very simple and nice and small gestures. We totally love it. And number four, lots of people have this idea already. Wine or bottle of Pesachal. And those are under $20 dollars guys. You don't need to go out of whack. I wouldn't recommend anything over $20 as a gift for your co-workers or your boss. And for those kind of wine, you can get it any places and who doesn't want any wine for the holiday spirit. Number five is also something very trendy. Sin card with trendy right now guys. Star Wars. Right now everybody's watching Star Wars movies. And including my fiancé, currently he is in the theater watching Star Wars with his best friends. With me living here and making YouTube videos. However, I'm going to watch Star Wars with my best later this week as well. So I'm covered. For your bosses or co-workers or your employees, I would just get them two tickets to a Star Wars show. Do not put any dates on it. You can just buy the gift certificate from AMC that for the worst of two tickets and they can just go watch any time for the Star Wars shows. It's totally trendy. Who wouldn't like Star Wars nowadays? And number six, it's also something very touching. And it's something I recommend lots of people to do it more. It's a donation in the name of your co-workers or your boss. Seeing this way, gift giving has been a long tradition, but the lots of people in the world who doesn't have $10 or $20 by gift for each other and all your bosses, co-workers honestly, they make enough money for themselves. Something I did this year is to write a nice letter to my boss and tell them that I made a $30 or $20 donation in your name to a nonprofit. I have listed all my favorite nonprofit that I know about, have worked before. I believe this is one of the best Christmas gifts. We should all do this more. We have enough gift for ourselves helping others. Number seven, tiles. When we talk about tiles, it's not the tiles on the floor, it's the tiles on the keychain. Have you had experience that you lost your keys or you cannot find your keys about the head-out? So where's my keys? So the tiles is something, something very small. I put it right here that you can directly attach to your keys and you will never lose your key. And there is a little app on your phone. You can click it and the tile will make some beep beep beep sound. It can help you to find the key itself. I have personally received tiles before as a gift. But those tiles, when they attach to the keychain with all the tons of keys, I've lost the keys. And the tiles start to get broken or beaten up very quickly. So I will recommend giving them a package of like four or two. It's all under $20. I will put some links down below. You guys can look it through. And number eight is gift basket. I personally haven't bought any gift basket before but I asked other friends who are managers and asked, well what kind of poor goods have you received? And they told me those kind of gift baskets, really good idea. So I will link some gift basket has been proven by other managers. So I believe you can use that as well. And number nine is coffee. Something very small, something very simple. You can just walk to your boss desk, buy coffee for yourself, buy coffee for him, and even invite him to have a conversation with you for the end of like a holiday season. Who doesn't like coffee, but those conversations might generate something bigger. I also hope to build relationship. Building relationship is not, it's way more than just giving gifts, okay? It's about the fundamental way to influence and trust and build relationship with each other. So buy a coffee for your boss, no. Number 10 is tea. Hey guys, it's written on my face, okay? I'm Chinese, I love tea. And earlier in my career, I didn't know, do American like tea or should I even give them tea? What I discovered was that they really love tea. For example, my parents came to the US, they brought me lots of tea. And those are the special tea I gave to my coworkers inside the little gift bags. And we have those kind of tea is like from my hometown. That's so good. The tea is inside orange peel, dry orange peel. So tea had the flavor of orange. So I gave a bunch of those to my coworkers. They loved it. Lots of them were like, oh, I was buying tea on some on Amazon for the specialty from China, bloody goddess for me. Yeah, those small things, honestly, under $10, something you can share all the time. So I recommend people to do it as well. And finally is your sincere appreciation to your boss. If you do not feel comfortable, you can just write them a card or write them an email saying that, hey, happy new year, happy holidays, wish you were fantastic 2020. And bosses barely get enough appreciation for what they've done for you. And of course, never go overboard like kissing asses. That's a different story we can talk about next time. So just say thank you show sincere appreciation with a little card or just email. And that's all you need to do. Here is the bonus. So I received really good gifts this year. This is from my girlfriends. Of course, don't buy this for your male bosses. Don't buy anybody it like a guy, I assume. And this is the the naked Urban Decay palette in this new version called Honey. I love Urban Decay. I have three of them guys. And my girlfriend just really know me very well. And I bought this one myself. My friend gave me this one for holidays. Then my friend got me this one this year. And today I'm wearing this new Honey Shadow. How do you guys like my new eye shadow? This made of gold and eye shadow looks like this. It's all different flavors of gold oranges. I like it. Thank you so much, my bestie. Let you guys know if I look good in this new eye shadow or not. The most important part about gift giving is to give something that people really like. You have to know that person very well. For example, like me, I don't like physical stuff. If people give me lots of stuff I don't like. I would rather to donate to other people. I always do donations guys. So for someone who give me anything they must know me very well. Know that wow Nancy must love this gonna get it for her. Now so do some research of person you give gift to. This is very meaningful than just giving the gift itself. 11 things I discovered could be very useful for you. And this is my gift to you as well sharing my knowledge. Happy holidays. This is Dr. Nancy from Honey with Milk. So let me know what kind of other gifts have you given to your bosses of coworkers especially those like male bosses. And because I work with guys all the time. And let me know so we can share the gift ideas with each other what works, what doesn't work. Alright wish you a happy 2020.