 Hello everyone. In this video, let's talk about what the narcissist fears after losing you. Because let's keep it real. They move on in a way that seems confident, self-assured in such a swift way. It just seems so smooth. Their transition seems so effortless. As though there's no problems, no difficulties involved. They could just effortlessly move on. Without any worries, no problems, no difficulties. Or at least that's how they make it seen. Because they want it to look that way. The whole point is when they leave you, it's meant to hurt you. It's meant to make you think that you are missing out. As though they've got something so much better without you now that they've moved on into this other situation. As though what they've just left behind is garbage. It's not worth anything. And they can find something so much better than that just to brand the corner. As though there's millions of people in this world who are just like you. They can quite easily just go and find another person who walks, talks and acts the way that you do. Has the same mannerisms. It's just as beautiful or as handsome as you are. Just as successful. Someone who is also an empath, a chosen one. Someone who actually cares. And I've already spoken about in past videos how rare that is to find in this world. And yet we think that they can just move on so effortlessly. As though you never mattered. As though you'd never even existed. And they can just go off and find someone better than you. So smoothly and swiftly. As though they're not going to run into any problems, any issues. And they're just going to go and find exactly what they want. And they're going to be happy with that. They're going to be satisfied. There's not going to be any disappointment. Any dissatisfaction. They're just going to move on and get exactly what they want when they want it. With who they want it with. That's what they want you to think. And a lot of you, you've been brainwashed for such a long time that you actually believe that that is what is about to happen. You actually think that they can treat you that way. And then they can go off and find something healthier. Something better for them. Of course that's never going to work. It's never going to be that way for them. Because you've just got to think about how they left you. They left you in a pit of misery and despair. And they didn't even care about how they treated you. They didn't even come back to try to make amends. So they have left it unanswered, open-ended and resolved. Just think about how damaging that is. And if you think it's damaging for you, as I've spoken about in past videos, bullies, people who intimidate people, those types of people, they are actually at a 10 to 25 risk of developing a psychiatric condition, more than their own victims who they are bullying. So these narcs, these toxic people, these manipulators, they're taking a lot of damage, a lot of emotional baggage with them because they left it open-ended and answered and resolved. So you really think they're going to move off into a better situation for them? Of course not. I can promise you, I can guarantee it, that is never going to happen. It's never going to be that way for them. That's never going to be their reality. It's only going to exist like that in their heads. And of course they will run off and try to make it seem that way because they have a false self, a false character. And you are the sacrifice, not for the narcissist, for the false self. Because yes, the false self is separate from the narcissist. And you will know their false self, you will recognize it because it's so grandiose. It thinks it doesn't stink. It thinks it's the best thing since lies bread. And this is all going on in their minds as they sacrifice you for the pleasure and satisfaction of their false self. But it's all in their minds because you can think that you are the man. You can think that you are a queen. You can think that you are the greatest thing on the face of the earth, but that doesn't mean that it's real. They think all of the things in their minds are so arrogant and delusional they have this exaggerated sense of their own abilities, value and importance. But what do they actually ever do in reality? What actions, what behavior is actually a line with this grandiose image that they have for themselves? I mean, fair enough, if you've done the work, if you've been through the trenches and you've actually gone out and done something for real, then that is not grandiosity. That is not a false self because that is actually who you are. But it's not like that for them. They act like they've already done something. They act as though they've already done all of these things for you and you should be happy with them. You should be fulfilled. But actually, if you look at it, you've done a lot of things for them, but they've done very little for you if anything at all. And yet they are the ones who are arrogant and grandiose. If anyone should be that way, it should be you because just look at everything you've done, look at everything you put out, look at everything you've accomplished and you're the one who's acting humble and modest. So in a way, we can point the finger and think and say that they're being fake, but also sometimes we've got to look at ourselves because we are also being fake in some ways and that's exactly how they want us to be. But in the opposite way, because we are underestimating ourselves, they are overestimating themselves because you just got to look at it like, yeah, you're arrogant, yeah, you're grandiose, but you are also delusional because all of these stories are telling yourself in your mind about who you think you are and what you think you're capable of. You're not actually putting anything out. You haven't actually done anything for me, but you're acting in a way as though you've done so many things. They could tell you all of these things that they think they are in their mind, but what could they actually write down to tell you what they've actually done and not just what they've done, but what they've done successfully? Have they ever actually done anything for anyone where they were left satisfied? Well, they actually felt like they had a fair deal. Instead of feeling like it was unfair, they were victimised, because I can guarantee that most of these narcissists, if not all, everything that they get involved with with other people, by the end of it, the person felt like they got a bad deal. The person felt more dissatisfied, more unfilled than they did before they got involved with the narcissist. If anything, they felt better before they met them, before they started talking to them. So tell me, how delusional is that? How can someone think they're so arrogant, so grandiose? And hold on a minute, how many people have you left worse off than before they met you? How many spirits have you crushed? How many dreams have you destroyed? How many people have you left dissatisfied? Because I know myself I can't rest until I put up a video like this every day, because I want everyone to feel confident in themselves. And yes, I will go out of my way to do that, because I can't bear the thought of leaving someone more worse off than before they met me. I can't deal with the thought of that. And in most cases, people who have been involved with me, they got a bargain. They got a good deal. They got far more out of me than I got out of them. And yes, many times I did feel cheated. I felt deceived. I felt like I got a bad deal. Well, as for narcissists, it's always the other way around. As I've said before, the victim is the one who comes into the relationship with a lot and leaves with very little or nothing. Even if that is just their confidence and enthusiasm, their energy, their resources. Yes, they leave with a lot less of all of that than what they had when they first came into it. While the narcissists, they take everything you've got. They leave with more energy, attention, validation, resources, your vitality, confidence. They leave with all of that. Well, they never had any of that before they got involved with you. So by realizing this, you can see their false image is fake. Hence the name. It's not even real. So how do you think they're going to move on and establish anything with anyone else? And that's before we get into how they left you. They didn't even care about you. They left you feeling bad about yourself. They left you depleted of your energy and resources. That is very unhealthy. Damaging. Not only to you, but a study show 10 to 25 times more likely to develop a psychiatric condition for them. So I suggest that they're not going to be moving on to anything good. That's really what it does suggest. But if that isn't enough to leave you convinced, I will now get into three things that the narcissist fears after leaving you. And if you like the sound of that, hit the thumbs up button down below to show your support. Hit subscribe and click on notifications to be notified when I upload a new video. And also don't forget if you want to book a one on one, just go to my website. It is narksurvivor.co.uk. Now let's get into the meat of the video. Three things that the narcissist fears after leaving you after leaving you. The first thing that the narcissist fears after leaving you is that you will wake up. Because all of this time you've been manipulated and deceived. You've been gaslit, lied to, future faked. You've been caused to believe in a reality that doesn't even exist. In a character that isn't even real. And if you look at it, it's like, okay, if this character was real, then shouldn't there be certain actions and behaviors that align with that? But if you look at it, you're the one who's been doing everything for them. What have they done for you in return? How many times have you given and done things for them? How much value have you put out? And I don't just mean in money or resources, but also in your intention, the validation that you're giving them, your energy, your life, your vitality. You're giving all of that out. And what are you getting back in return? You're not getting a fair exchange. So of course, they fear that you will wake up. They fear that you will heal from the abuse and then you will move on. Because they don't want you to do that. They want you to remain asleep. They want you to remain under the spell that they put on you under the world that they pulled over your eyes to where you were manipulated, deceived, led to believe in something that wasn't even real, something that wasn't even true. You were led to believe in that. At some point, it's like, well, I've been doing all of these things for you. I've been putting out. Then it's like, while I've been doing that, I be waiting. And I've gotten little or nothing back in return in comparison to what I've been giving out. So at some point, it's like, okay, where is it? Where is this thing that you were promised? Where is this future? Whether it was a relationship, marriage, children, maybe you were meant to go on a trip together, whatever it was, where is this thing that you were led to believe in? This thing that you were waiting for? This thing that you were waiting to receive at some point in the future? Where is it? Because everything you gave to them, it's clear to see that they had received that. But what did you get back? That's why you feel confused, disappointed, dissatisfied. You don't feel good about yourself. You feel like you've lost something. You feel like something's wrong with you. You're not good enough. Like now you're missing something. You're missing a part of yourself because you've been giving things out and getting nothing back. So you feel like you've been cheated. You've got a bad deal. You felt like it wasn't right. You don't feel good about yourself right now. And that's why you're watching this video. You're seeking some validation on what you went through. You're seeking support because it just doesn't feel right to you. And I get it. I understand they've been there and they've kind of rejected this onto you. Making you feel like you're not good enough. You're undeserving. You may feel ashamed but it's not you. It's them. They knew they weren't good enough for you. They just came in and took what you've got. They took your attention, your validation, your amazing energy because you're so lively, so energetic. You're so full of life, that passion, that enthusiasm that you had. When you first started talking to them, yeah they sucked their life out of you. I know you're hurt. You're feeling bad. You're feeling like it's you, like you're not good enough. But that's how they felt before when they first saw you. But then what do they do? They have this false self, this arrogance, this grandiosity, the sense of entitlement to whatever you've got. And then they just steal it. They rob it. They take it from you. And then you're feeling down and bad about yourself. Like you're not good enough. I can tell you that's not true. You are more than good enough. You are a wonderful person and that's why they targeted you because they wanted to steal your energy, your strength and vitality, your happiness. I mean just think back before you got involved with them. You were so full of life, energy and enthusiasm and you thought okay this person looks like they're on the same wavelength. They just want to play. They just want to have fun. This person seems cute, kind. They just want to have a good time. But then time went on and you were manipulated, abused. You were harmed. You were mistreated. Because yeah you deserved more. You deserved better treatment. And that's why you feel bad. That's why you don't feel good about yourself right now. Because you were raised to expect more based on everything that you work to become in your life. All of the hard work you put in and that strength inside of you to where you were able to be vulnerable and to let someone in. And they took advantage of all of that. They took it away from you. They robbed your innocence. That's what they did. They robbed your innocence. They took it away from you because that's just what they are. That's what they're like. Evil, wicked and immoral people. They see your light, your energy, your enthusiasm, your passion for life, for love and relationships, for sharing happiness with another person. Where we can live, laugh, love and play. And they just saw that as vulnerability, as a weakness. That's something that they were going to exploit. And so that's exactly what they did. They exploited you. They took advantage of you. They treated you like a bargain. And so you got a bad deal. And then it affected your self-esteem. It made you feel like you're not good enough for better treatment. For something more. And in fact that is what you deserve. You do deserve more. You're not responsible for how someone treats you. You're not responsible for someone who's messed up. That they can't appreciate the value that they that you have. They may see that value. But they didn't respect it. Because I can tell you that you deserve so much more than that. And any good genuine kind-hearted person would give you that. The thing is with these types of people that are able to give that to you. They don't love or respect themselves. Or how can they love or respect you? How can they give you the treatment that you deserve? And that's what we've got to understand in these dynamics. Now let's get into number two. The second thing that narcissists fear when they leave you. They fear that other people will believe you. When they leave and you're left to yourself in the pit of misery and despair but they have abandoned you. They do fear that other people will see it. And that other people will believe you. About what they did to you. About what you went through. Yes they fear that other people will believe you about that. And they fear that if you confide in those people. That you may expose them. That you may make them look bad. That it may threaten their false image. And of course they don't want that to happen. And they also fear that if people believe you then they will be your support. They will allow you to develop a support network where you have people there to protect you. And of course if you've got people there to protect you. Then it's difficult for them to get in. To continue manipulating and abusing you. Which is what they want to do. And that's why they prefer for you to be alone. They try to isolate you. Because then they can be your only source of influence. Where they can continue to manipulate. Lie to you. Future fake and gas like you. And just run you in circles and drive you crazy. Make you feel like you're losing your mind. Of course it's very difficult for them to do these things when you have other people around you. As a source of influence. As people who are there to protect and support you. And that's why they typically keep a code of silence. And they have many enablers who protect them. So this is why they fear that people will believe you. Now the third thing that they fear when they leave you. Because you've got to think the reason why they're leaving you. Even if it's because you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation. They're assuming that the situation that they're going into. And the next person that they're going to be involved with. Is going to be more susceptible. More foolish. More naive. They assume that it's going to be a better situation for them. That the grass is greener on the other side. That they found the next shiny new toy. The next bigger better deal. That's what they're hoping. That's what they're expecting. But a lot of times that's not what they get. And in fact they could be going off into a situation. That's going to be a lot worse for them. And it may have been far better with you. You may have been a better source of supply. Because remember empaths chosen ones are very rare. It's very difficult for them to replace someone like you. That grade A source of supply. But this is what happens because when they do leave. They're typically in a state of grandiosity. Even when they're playing the victim. That's still grandiosity. And when they're in a grandiose state. Their intelligence is very low. And in that state they can also be very gullible. Where they have this blackaway thinking. So they're viewing you as all bad. As completely flawed. Which means that they can quite easily view another situation or another person. As being more valuable. As being a better option for them. But a lot of times as I said that's not always what they get. So yeah they go off into other situations. Thinking the grass is greener on the other side. When in fact they end up regretting their decision. Even though they may never actually come out and admit it. But deep down they do. Deep down they really regret what they've done. They don't regret what they've done to you. They don't care about abusing people. They don't feel what you feel. It's just all about them and how they feel about themselves. They're very insecure. They despise themselves. They feel completely powerless and helpless. And stable out of control. So it's all about how do I regain this control of myself to where I can feel more stable and secure. And of course they need a person for that. They need an external regulator. And they're using you for that even when they go off into another situation. And what you have to remember as well is that it's never what you think. A lot of times we idealize what they're going off to. As though it's going to be like what we want to experience or what we want to experience with them. But it's never like that. If that was how it was they could have just had that with you. Because that's what you wanted. You wanted true love, a connection, intimacy. Yeah they can go off and try and get you with another person. They can flaunt their supply on social media and make it seem like that's what they have. But they're actually not about that at all. They don't even care about that. It doesn't mean anything to them. It only means nothing to them so much as if they can use it to manipulate you. To lure you in. But other than that they really don't care about it. If anything they just see it as weak. They hate vulnerability. That's why they couldn't be vulnerable with you. They see that as a loss of power and control over themselves. So they're never going to be vulnerable with anyone. But they know that's what you want. So when they go off they make it seem like they've given this new person what they never gave to you. This connection, intimacy, true love. A relationship. Sometimes they'll even go off and get married and have children. And they didn't even care about it. They didn't even want to family. They're just using it to hurt you. So you shouldn't be jealous about that if anything. You should be laughing when you realize that it's really just completely fake. It's all a facade. It's all just a false image. To garner supply, attention and validation. Because they assume that it's what other people want to see. As though it's what other people are interested in. What other people care about. When it's like who's to say that the people who are viewing this false image who they're trying to impress. Who's to say that those people aren't exactly the same way. And they're both just manipulating each other. Because in the world today that's exactly what it's like. One to two percent of the world's population are empaths. Most people don't even care about relationships. A deep connection. Vulnerability, intimacy. I mean just look at the false image. The grandiosity. What is that going to do with vulnerability? Nothing. It's all just about power. Security. When you know sometimes a real connection. Vulnerability. That's about being powerless. Even a helpless at times. Insecure. That's often what real love, intimacy and connection is about. But then loving each other anyway despite that. Having that acceptance for each other. That's what love is. And you just got to look back and think when did they ever accept you? They never did so how can they ever accept someone else? They couldn't accept you because they didn't accept themselves. They didn't accept their own insecurities, their own flaws. So these are the things that they will fear when they leave you. They make it look so swift, so smooth, so effortless as though they know exactly what they're doing. They know exactly what they're getting into but they actually don't. Deep down they're very insecure. They just suppress and deny it. And that's why narcissists, they're never happy. They're always miserable for the rest of their lives. They become even more bitter and resentful as they age. And they never find true love. They never learn to love themselves. They never accept themselves. They never accept anyone. And they can never be vulnerable. They never get to experience connection. Or anything healthy, anything functional. I am looking for a moderator for the live chat. So let me know if you are interested in this position. It is unpaid but it's for viewers who are passionate about what I speak about on this channel. So if it's something that you may be interested in just send me an email culture.narcsurvivor.co.uk. I have been looking through the live chat as I've been recording this that has been quite distracting. Speaking of which, keeping me off balance myself because there's always these trolls in the live chat. There's always these people who try to bait you in, distract you, get you to give your wonderful empathic energy to them because they're emotionally dead inside. I mean let's just keep it real that's exactly what they are. But I do hope that this video has given you a life. Not to say that you don't have life already but because I know it is when you're around these toxic people, these knocks, they suck the life out of you. And sometimes once you've been through so much you need someone or something to reciprocate some of that back to you. And that's my job. That's my duty on here to give you life to feed some of this back to you. So that you can go out into the world and continue to spread the love, raise the vibes. So that's what I hope to do for you and just bring you the truth. Instead of falling for the false image of the grandiosity thinking that is so easy for them. Like what they had with you was garbage, it was no good, it wasn't good enough for them after they've just drained the life out of you. And then they could just move on and the next situation is so much better. It's everything they wanted, everything the other person wanted from them. It's really not. You know what they want, you know what they like. They like messing with people's minds, driving you insane, gaslighting you, keeping you unaware and confused. They like abuse. They like toxic situations, fights, arguments, problems, making people miserable. Yeah that's what they like. And just by knowing that you should know that there's no reason for you for you to be jealous. You should know that you're not missing out on anything and should know that you are far better off without that loser in your life after everything that they did to you. I don't think that they manipulated you, they deceived you, they got one over on you, they got something out of you. Now they feel so much better at your expense, no. They feel nothing, they don't feel anything, they can't feel what you feel, they lack empathy, they are miserable creatures. So don't think that they got one over on you, they didn't get nothing, they couldn't feel anything and I can tell you that you are far better than that. You deserve so much more. You deserve someone who will love you and care about you in ways that they never did, ways that they never could. You deserve so much more than that because you are a bundle of joy, you're full of energy and life. You deserve so much more than that. You deserve so much better. Unfortunately you got involved with an absolute loser. It happens, they manipulate us, they deceive us and it looks like they've got something out of it, they're running off, do another situation, it's all fake, it's all a lie, they're miserable and they'll always be that way. They're always going to be like that but you can generate your happiness from within, you can feel good. So I just wanted to finish off with that. For those of you who are left feeling sad, feeling down, feeling confused after what was done to you, I just want you to know that they didn't get one over on you, they didn't cheat you, they didn't get anything. All they got was just some more fuel to the fire of their delusion, of their grandiosity, of thinking they're powerful, thinking they're the best thing since life's bred and they're actually not. They're nothing, they're losers and you are actually something for real. You have so much love, life and energy inside of you, bubbling and brewing out of you, you're so pure, so much enthusiasm that they did not deserve because they could never reciprocate it, they weren't about it, they weren't on that wavelength so they couldn't appreciate that in you because they're just these lifeless zombies, they don't feel anything, they don't feel anything at all, all they feel is misery, pain. So yeah just be aware of that, I know that you have the love inside of you, that's yours and we'll never get that from you. 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