 There's nothing more exhausting than trying to solve a tension. Because tensions can't be solved, they can only be managed. And some of us are confused because you've thrown everything you have at a problem and it keeps coming back. It may well be wanting to tell you, I am not a problem you can fix. I am a tension you'll have to manage perhaps for years, maybe for the rest of your life. Many of us have tensions internally in our own internal world. And you don't like it and you want to fix it. But there are things in the complexity of your humanity that are just tensions in your personality, in the way you think and the way you do life. It's not right or wrong and it's not a problem anybody can solve. It's a tension that you just have to find the skill set to manage. And what I found out as a leader is that and as a human that managing a tension will grow you far more than solving a problem will.