 It's just interesting that self acceptance man If you want to get to self-love and how our society works and you have not accepted yourself and been willing to see yourself in total In our society, it's impossible to get to that self-love I think we're born with it, but just with the complexity and so many things moving at us We're taught not to felt weak. You know, we're taught not to be real God, yeah, what a beautiful gift with the greatest thing that I've learned from coaching the greatest honor from working with other men Being able to see it in other men allowed me to have faith to do it myself And man, it's just such a it's a cool life working with others. So Definitely, definitely. Yeah, well, yeah, that's that was prism. That was really deep. Well, you just shared Well, thank you for that. That's deep. I know like the way out If you dial it back to a guy's more selfish needs So if it's not as evolved as you know, not nearly as involved as you've gone You'd be like, I would love to just blow through a ton of girls online or whatever they're thinking, you know When when they're searching for things online It's it's so one of the things I've discovered in in business coaching is I have to speak at that level And one of the things that I've discovered is if you can so one of the things that every guy wants are actually good feelings So this is how I usually will get into the self acceptance Issue is appeal to them to the good feelings. So they think if they get a lot of girls They get a white girl. He's Asian in America. Okay, he's gonna feel good about himself He's like and he's gonna it's gonna feel good when he's doing it, right? So he's gonna feel he just wants to feel good People want to get into a relationship because they think that it will make them feel better than they are feeling now Otherwise they wouldn't do it, right? So At the base of at everything at the bottom, everybody's just trying to feel better you know, they're just they're going for good feelings they think that these things will give them good feelings and You that guy he won't get to the good feelings like you are just talking about man You can I can give you these techniques to do all this stuff at the end of the trip You're still gonna feel miserable In fact, you probably feel worse because you just spent all this time and effort to get you something that just makes you feel Emptier and if you want to actually get the good feelings that you think hooking up with this white woman To Asian-american guys or or do you think that this at the end of this process being able to date or walk up to a girl? You see and just make something happen. It's like this pickup dream or whatever it is that you have You so in order to actually feel that to get that what you're actually looking for it all starts with self-acceptance right so Appealing to the guys who think this is too very very woohoo You won't get that thing you're looking for unless you figure out how to come to grips with Dealing with those thoughts if I'm worthless. I'm not good enough and Confronting those working through those and coming to the the self-love self-acceptance because that's the road to self-empowerment And to getting all of those good feelings because you are actually the source of those good feelings You can feel good about yourself. You can feel good Right now you can feel happy right now. It's a decision that you can make And that's and from that point all these people will be attracted to you not just women You're gonna do better at work in your social life because you are coming from a good place and people will Will sense that the good people will sense that and be attracted to you naturally, but all of that happens only when You you have already created it in yourself the good feelings that you're looking for Welcome to the 21 convention podcast. I'm Steve Maeda I'm your host of today's episode and today we have Dr. David Tien Now not only is he an alumni speaker of the 21 convention 2012 Melbourne, Australia. Check out a speech I remember actually sitting in the audience and watching it and just go man I am loving this stuff and just his way of coaching his way of teaching his Keep going with your archetypes, but I just yeah, it's like it isn't just with the Asian American dudes Man, we see that over at work harder be the best Definitely and it can't be sustained Yeah, I take pride in my my clientele a lot of them are achievers They'll reach out to me because they resonate with my background of this achieving background So I know this problem really well. They so I can tell them here So basically the third level the one that that I try to give in the long-term program That's man-made or cultural or being sold, but we don't look at everything Social risks because they're coming from a society that got to this point gradually they're able to to navigate the waters a little better and what I've discovered as well just getting plugged in to pop media in in America is that There's a serious confusion over what feminine. What's the feminine role in the masculine role and most women so You know, there was a period also and I think it's still common where men are This are in the sort of new age phase, too. They don't know whether they should be They're kind of confused. Should I be more like Justin Bieber? Or should I be more like, you know, the like the Orlando Bloom or should I be more like Hugh Jackman? Like they don't know they don't know what masculinity is They don't even want to talk about it or think about it except your guys are watching this is awesome But we've tested as with masculinity It's totally foreign concept to them because they do not think about it generally speaking like that This is maybe with Asian culture. This is everybody. No, it's definitely Asia, but I would say everybody Yeah, every time I come back to America. I hear the total confusion. Now you see it in the States big time big time Yeah, but keep yeah, they don't know should I hold the door open? Should is that even a question I should be asking, you know, they don't know what masculine feminine is anymore because there's this