 And that's just, again, idealistic. There's definitely the most elegant, perfect thing to say. I totally agree. But the thing is, it comes back, I'm kind of all over the place, but usually what I do is on Sunday, every question the guy asks, I'm just like, what would Puff Daddy do? What would P. Diddy do? Right, would P. Diddy be like, hold on, I'm gonna tell her that I only got five minutes with this girl, because I'm worried she might not want to hang out with me. It's like, I'm fucking P. Diddy, I don't give a shit, right? So that's kind of the headspace I try to get him into. But again, if you're not there yet, how do we get there? So we're coming back, we're coming full circle here. Three things, direct contact, eye contact, full frontal, boom. Just go in. Number two is loud projection, right? I did one boot camp, I did a boot camp for 21 nights in Dubai with this dude. He's like, the only thing I learned from you was just be loud and lead. And I'm like, that's all you learned after 21 days. But the thing is, it is kind of, it says so much about yourself, right? The thing is, again, you have that first impression of the girl. She doesn't, like she said, she has initial kind of first like, oh, this is the box, I'm gonna put him in. But she doesn't know exactly how you're gonna come across. So even though women are very socially calibrated and hypersensitive to kind of how you're dealing with shit, they're gonna respond based on how you ping off of them, right? So if you go in and you're kind of like, hey, is this cool, right? She's gonna be like, okay, this guy's nervous, or whatever. This guy's using his little shtick, whatever he's using. He's not comfortable talking to a girl that looks like me, so I'm not gonna talk to him, right? And that's why a lot of times what we teach is like, assume attraction. We're like, if you assume that attraction, it's like, hey, what's up, nice to meet you, you're cute. Yeah, hold on, come here. Boom, and just go right, she's like, I don't really know how to respond here, but it seems like this guy's, normally when a girl talks to him, that looks like me, they're attracted to him. So I'm gonna deal in the same. So she just kind of follows that role, right? And then it's a, whoever's frame is stronger. But the problem with that is, nice little cliffhanger, right? The problem with that is, is how many reference points does a girl have of being like a hot girl, being the high value thing, right? Probably like a million or something. Whereas how many reference points do you have of myself or anyone getting into this? When you're starting off, you're like, this dude was on stage, he said I'm high value, yeah, am I high value? And what Tony Robbins says, it's like you have the belief, and then you have the table. So the belief is the top of the table. Who here is red awake in the gin with him? Anyone? No one's read that shit? Oh man, cameraman with the, cameraman's got the phone going in the back. I was kidding. With Tony Robbins, it's a great book, I definitely check it out. What he talks about in there is that, you have a belief, which is like, assume attraction, higher value. And then each leg of the table is a reference point, right? So the thing is, is like, if I could come up here and be like, you deserve a 10. And you're like, thanks, Brad, I deserve a 10. But then how many reference points do you actually have of being with that girl? That's actually 10. Zero, one, I don't know, maybe you guys do have some, that'd be great. But you don't have a lot, whereas how many reference points does the girl have of like, I'm the 10. Like I cut through line, and some chow just bought me a drink, great, yeah. Right, so how do you fucking fight that? There's a bunch of different ways. One is just building trust in the approach. I had one guy in boot camp, he was a 52 year old virgin. He's very cool, so I'm not gonna make fun of him. But I'm like, you gotta have abundance, dude. Have abundance, yeah, abundance of girls. He's like, how am I supposed to have abundance? I've been alive for over half a century, and I still haven't been with a girl, right? And I'm like, oh shit, what'd I say? But what it is, it's not abundance, when you're starting off at least, it's not abundance of girls, cause I still don't, I'm like, it's not like I have the five playmates running around behind me like, girls, shut up, try to talk. But it is like abundance of trust in your skill set, so trust in your ability to, you're talking to the girl, and you're like, oh, if this doesn't go well, I got nothing else. It's not like that, it's like, okay, I talked to this one, if it doesn't go well, I have the trust in myself that I can open another one. So that's something that a lot of times what I teach is the first five minutes directly relate to the last five minutes. The framework you can create at the very beginning, like the framework of like, I'm the man, you're the girl, this is how we're talking, I'm leading, I'm dealing with this shit, I'm awesome, I'm high value. Sitting in that frame, that carries on through the whole relationship, whether it be six months a year, that initial, oh my God, he just came up to me, you're so alpha and cool, yeah. Like set that frame from the very beginning right on the approach, right? So we had the two, we had eye contact, we had loud projection, now I say talk through the girl, talk a meter behind the girl, we're in Europe, that is metric. And then the third thing is tonality, right? So tonality, tone of voice.