 Hello. Hello. How are you? I'm back. Okay, so I've been getting this question. Y'all, I know my hair is a mess But I've been getting this question so many so many times from so many women How do I not? Get emotionally attached How like I'm a woman I'm I'm all about feelings and emotions and I dive deep and my when I'm dating someone I just give them my all and I just want to love them and show them that I'm a good woman and blah, blah, blah, blah Okay, that's why you get emotionally attached Hi, y'all doing Okay Thank you Someone said they love my channel. Thank you Lexi. Okay, Lexi sexy So how do you not get emotionally attached? Okay How do men not get emotionally attached? This is how you have to think Why don't these guys get emotionally attached like women? What do they do? Like what is it that they're doing? That we're not doing Okay, so let me tell y'all Because I've been studying guys forever Why don't men get emotionally attached because when they approach you From the start they have goals and plans for you not future But short-term goals for you, okay When when a guy approaches you it's because they want to sleep with you, okay In the back of their mind, they want to sleep with you, but they want that After they get that then the goal changes. Okay. I wonder how much I can get her To want me or to be with me, you know, it's it's a game to them You know, they never think oh Wonder if this is gonna be my future wife And we're gonna have four kids together and buy a nice three bedroom house and settle down with and buy a mini van They don't think like that. Oh I wonder what my boys are gonna think about her. Let me take her out, you know They're gonna, you know, they have these short-term shallow goals for you. Okay so When you meet a guy, you have to have the same type of goals Okay, and you have to approach him like instead of you wanting sex. I wonder how much I can get him to spit on me Okay, you got to have a goal or I wonder how much I can get him to fall in love with me or do whatever I tell them to do if you're not a gold digger, you know, I wonder how much I can control him You know go in with a goal instead of an expectation because Most of the women that I know they will go into a relationship With an expectation when you really should be going in with a goal and a purpose If you're going in with expectations, you're going to be let down 90% of the time because first of all They don't know your expectations when you go in only you do this is fantasy in your mind So when you go into a relationship when you start dating people Have short-term goals. Okay after you complete one goal move on to the next goal into the next goal This will keep you from falling in love too fast if you fall in love at all It will keep you focused on your goal instead of wandering off in la la marriage and land or we're gonna be together forever Land because the guys aren't okay, especially if they're in their 20s. No man is thinking about marriage So a lot of you women are like, but I want to get married and y'all are like 22 23 and y'all is trying to marry 25 year olds and What 25 year old man? Do you know that rushes to the altar? None? They're still trying to have fun and They don't get emotionally attached. They think of you as oh one of my girlfriends Oh, you're gonna be a girlfriend. You're gonna be my girlfriend Then I'm gonna break up and go explore some new options and have some more girlfriends, okay? They're not looking for wife at 25. Okay, they can't afford a wife at 25 So why why do you why do women want to pressure these young guys? To get married at such a young age and then get mad when they cheat on you. They're not ready Okay, so you need to go on with a goal and a purpose so that when you leave out or when the relationship comes to an end because They're 25 or because they're not into you anymore or because they want to move on and explore other options You got your goals checked off. You got everything on your list and you leave with something. Okay, if you Have a backup plan or a plan B. You just go straight to plan B after plan a leaves Okay, so you always have that back pocket person that back pocket relationship that guy you put on friends on list You know somebody that you know is waiting in line for you And that way that will help you if you do have a little bit of an emotional attachment It will help you transition and not feel like you know You've been dumped or abandoned or you won't make you feel sad for long because you just jump right into this one You know and that man will be so happy because he's been on the friend zone for forever Now he gets to buy you stuff too. You go into that one with goals Go into that one with goals get you another plan a backup plan with you know You might not need it right away. We'll be working on it Okay, have somebody else in your back pocket because when these guys leave you or dump you they're moving on They're not looking back. They're not crying. They're not on the phone talking about what went wrong They're out having a blast meeting new people traveling and exploring options in life Which is what you should be doing as well? Women get emotionally attached because they have too many expectations for relationships If you stop having those expectations and start having goals You will accomplish those goals instead of being upset that your expectations aren't met So for example, you want to go all the way to marriage You can't become emotionally attached if you want if marriage is your goal Because first of all if you're emotionally attached, you're gonna be weak. Okay gonna be weak And you're going to let a Lot of things go and fear of losing someone But think about this when you have a backup plan just think about the stock market Rich people who have a lot of money to could just throw away We'll put we'll put a lot of money in certain stocks, right? They're not afraid to lose it But a lot of the time They get paid they get a return on that okay, because they're not afraid to lose it. Okay, so They're not financially You know putting all of their money in one place. They're spreading it out One of them is gonna make it. You know what I'm saying? So that's something never give your all to one person You know have the plan be you know never give you all to that one person because if that does not work out You're you're it's over. You know you got stock over here and Plan B and it you know you could still make that work. You're not totally broke. So What I'm saying is never put your all into a relationship until Never like you never do even after your marriage. You never give your all Because you're not supposed to give your all to anybody whoever lied to y'all and told y'all that are probably single or Worn out or tired right about now. So you don't give your all to everybody like I I don't even give my all to anybody You know you don't give your all to anybody. That's silly. Like why would you give your all? You need some stuff for yourselves your kids your mama your daddy sister brother cousin You know give a little bit because when you give too much people don't appreciate you You're the prize So if you're with a man And you want him to marry you act like you don't even care about marriage you act like you know marriage is the last thing on Your mind you act like you're not trying to cook it to him anytime soon because you you know, I don't know if I'm gonna marry you You know Or when you talk to him and you talk about marriage don't talk about you and him being married Just say when I get married like take him out of it because if he feels like he's not in it He's not marriage material. Oh, he's challenged now He's gonna make himself marriage material in your eyes. So well, you know when I get married I'm gonna have about two kids and I'm gonna live in a house and such and such and such when I get married It's gonna be so cool. What are you gonna do? You know like y'all you ain't even thinking about marrying this fool That's how you get a man to marry you because they were what I'm not good enough to marry Why don't you think we're gonna get married and now you flip in the script and making them have expectations of you So you don't become emotionally attached you become strict you don't become emotionally attached you become strategic In your moves, okay, women are too Emotional and that's why they end up sad and losing in a lot of these relationships and leaving empty-handed And feeling betrayed because they gave all they gave their all Of course, you're gonna feel betrayed if you gave your all to somebody who was 25 years old, you know Then they didn't give their all to you. So why would you give their your all to them? You know, I can understand if You know this person had gave you a kidney or something like that, but no they didn't so why are you doing it? Why are women doing this? Like you don't give your all to somebody. You're the prize if they want you They don't have to come chase you get on their knee and ask you to marry them And then is your decision if you want to marry them or not, you know, you don't become emotionally Attached This is what men will chase a woman who's emotionally detached. They're not gonna want you if you're all over them all the time Oh, I love you sitting a thousand texts a day They're always chasing that woman. They don't want them. They don't won't even text them back That won't even answer the calls. That's who they chase. They're not chasing you because You're too easy, you know, and you're too emotional and you're and you take everything personally and you know If they want to do this this and that it's a big deal because You're so in love and it's going to hurt your feelings of every decision they make They have to think about your feelings and that that gets old and boring and I just want to be free You know, I just want to be free I want to make a decision without having to come home or to talk on the phone for hours about why I didn't call or text You know, I just I'm 25 years old. I just want to be free, you know, so no Stop becoming emotionally attached, especially when you're young when you get old and it's time to have kids and Get married and have a baby, you know, all that stuff go find someone who likes you a lot, you know And who's going to do all that stuff for you who you don't have a chase But until then y'all stop getting emotionally attached these guys because they're not emotionally attached to y'all When they come up to y'all they want one thing And if they don't have a place to live, they won't do things a place to live and six, okay Um or to show you off if you look good, you know, they want you as an armed candy So think about all the reasons that they want you Okay, think about all the reasons the best way to get a man to fall in love is to become emotionally detached Get them alone get them to spend a lot of time with you and make them fall for you. Okay, but you never fall for them Never you pretend like you are but you never fall for them because if you do Then they can kind of rule and manipulate over you Because you're emotionally weak But if you get them secluded get them hooked You know Away from some of their friends, you know spending time with you a lot and you know, but it's And then you let them back free like, oh, you know Oh, don't worry, you know, they're gonna be like, well, why what what are you doing? How come you're not so attached to me? They're gonna wonder why you're not attached to them You're not even like wow, you know, we spent two weeks together and you know You're not even like in love with me yet Blah blah blah blah blah then they're gonna keep trying harder and harder and harder Until they they they like, well, I don't know, you know I really love they're gonna be like all in love with you because you're not in love with them Okay, now I don't mean don't act like you are into them. I mean Make it hard like, oh, you know, I don't and don't use the excuse. Oh, I was hurt in the past because that's weak So you know what I really like you You're a good man. You're you know, give them all these compliments and then just like I just you know I'm just I'm trying to see where this is going. You know, I'm just really trying to see where this is going I'm not sure yet, you know If you're the one that they have to impress And make fall in love Then they become emotionally attached to you Needy women will always be needy Okay And Well, I can't stop thinking about him if I'm away from him if I don't text him and text him back I feel I feel like I have to well That's what your plan b and your friend's own dude is for you go call him you text him you talk to him Let him boost your ego up, you know, just like they do you you know how you have that guy friend Who's all who's with the girl and they only call you when they matter her. Well, you need a guy like that So go get you a a call buddy Plan b dude friend zone dude Let him talk you up become emotionally attached to your friends Tell them what you need to tell and tell them what you want to tell the other person Because they're gonna listen to you anyway because they want to sleep with you So use that ear Use that ear to get out your frustration And if you have any emotional issues get them out with a friend Okay, and then when you go back to the one that you're trying to You know, whatever Then You're strong with that person. Okay, that's what men do to Women all the time they go get that girl who will listen to them. Well, I don't know She just you know, talk about their wife or baby mama or girlfriend To her and the girl will listen because she think one day he gonna leave her for her So he gets all his emotional baggage out on her Meanwhile The one that he's with and he's probably not gonna leave anytime soon. It's getting all the benefits, you know so Just like men do women can do as well. You just Are not instructed on how to do it, you know And the funny thing is When they do it You know, we see all these issues. Oh, well, why does he have a uh, why does he always got to do this? Because he don't want to become emotionally attached to you, you know Uh, because he doesn't plan to stay with you very long or you're not wife to him You don't you don't add up, you know Or he's not ready to settle down So he's gonna lie to you tell you what you want to hear Not become emotionally attached let you become emotionally attached so you can do whatever he needs you to do And when he's done with you, he's gonna be like, well, I'm not emotionally attached. I don't feel bad. Bye You know, and then you're left sad alone Heartbroken you gave your all you sacrificed you paid for this you paid for that you went 50 50 And now you're back at you know the beginning Maybe in debt now And he's Better and moved on to some someone or something else, you know, because he didn't become emotionally attached to you But he's still saying he loved me. That's called an open door policy Okay, have you ever heard of open door policy when you leave the door open to come back in when you feel like it Another way That's another way that they get you, you know But I'll always love you and You know, I just I just need time and I'm not ready for this. That means look Leave the door open for me. I'll come back when I'm bored. Okay Um, and mess with your mind again So in a breakup, it's very important to close the door And when you close the door on them, that's when they get upset And then when you move on When they see you move on quickly, oh, they get real upset and they want you back And this is when you can flip the script when you can flip it and let them become emotionally attached to you Oh, you know when they say, well, how did you get over me so fast? Were you dating before? Why are you with this new person and how come I can't come over and how come we can't be friends and Well, you just tell him look When we were together, you were all about Not being, you know together And it's you know, you you were not trying to come in you weren't trying to do nothing And when I started seeing those signs, I was like, hey, you know I'm not gonna be in love by myself. So I gotta be, you know, I met a friend and he was there For me when I needed him and you know, we never did anything but You know now that you're out of the picture, I can go explore this guy And he's a good guy, you know brag on him and the guy, well Well, I think I want you back, you know, or we need to try this again because I I don't know, you know And like, no, it's too late. You know, I'm done with you Then that's how you grab him back in. I'm done with you. You know, I'm I have another person, you know I can't just dump him now or he's gonna be upset. You know, I don't want to break his heart Because I just got my heart broken. So I don't want to break his heart Well, I'm sorry. I'll make it up to you blah, blah, blah, blah, you know He's gonna be begging you back and you're gonna be like, well, I'll think about it But right now don't call my phone anymore because it's disrespectful Close the door when the door is closed and they can't get back in And you replace them with what seems like someone better That's when they go crazy and become emotionally attached and obsessed with you Okay, and if you want to give him a second chance You make him your side do and plan B plan A B, okay So you're plan A Left so you went with your plan B. Your plan A wants back in so make your plan A plan B and make him A Okay, so your x is now your plan B Okay, make your x your plan B set it up Make sure that they understand that You know, okay. Well, I still love you leave that open door policy. You switch it You gotta switch it. Okay Have an open door policy with your plan B x that used to be a You know, I still I still love you And maybe there's a chance for us in the future. Will you wait on me? You know, I need to see what this is about. Just guys make you wait on them Will you wait? I'm gonna leave them. I'm gonna leave them, you know I just need time to you know, let him go easily But you know meanwhile And then you can get him to buy you stuff to try to win you back on the side as plan B So you got you got to be smart and strategic You can't be emotional because when you're emotional, you can't think you can't think straight You can't think strategically you can't win at chess if you're playing emotionally. Okay, this is chess So make sure you're always thinking ahead you're prepared and You don't have expectations. That is the number one problem most women want to do. They got too many expectations. No Your only Mission is to have a goal and to complete those goals. I'm gonna get him to pay this phone bill. Okay Now that he's paying my phone bill. I'm going to get him to um Do this for me, you know after all that okay, so When all of this you're not becoming emotionally attached because You're you're just focused on meeting goals. Okay And once like if you get close to him, he's friendly and y'all, you know connect and all that kind of stuff Your next goal should be okay I am not going to Forget about my plan b because when I need that plan b it needs to be in place So you got to continuously call and text the kind of borderline flirt with the plan b. Okay And have lunch with plan b every once in a while Okay, just to keep your mind right It's like plan b is waiting on you think he's waiting eventually you're gonna have to go to him When plan a fails okay because plan a will fail eventually if You are not becoming emotionally attached and he's not becoming emotionally attached or in love with you So if he's not falling in love with you And it's not getting stronger than you know, it's not he didn't plan on it. Okay, so Make sure your plan b is set up You see him ever so often keep it open door policy with plan b and plan a will Not be missed if he decides to You know go on because you'll have plan b and Like I said If you want to back in make him plan b again Um, and if you don't like your ex at all then move on and get a new plan b Okay, so That's how it goes and if you if you have trouble with this because your morals and your religious and your background Up bringing and stuff like that think about for a second Why those were put in place Why it was put in place Think about it. Okay in a patriarchal society women are made to Feel like they're supposed to be this person this type of person give their all sacrifice everything And when that when they do that It backfires and it does never work out. So take your power back And use what they do to you Back on them. It's like a mirror Okay, so you just hold up the mirror to them and just do exactly what they Have been doing, you know, if they if it's okay for them to do it it's okay for you to do Okay, if it's okay for them to do this is called You know, this is the true equality It's not about who pays on a date. It's about who Is becoming emotionally attached or not They already expect you to want all these things and become emotionally attached to them and needy And always calling and texting they already expect that because that's typical behavior Okay, but when you don't meet that typical behavior and them texting you All the time because you're not getting attached to them and you're not giving them You're all and stuff like that then they it's like, hey, you know, what's going on and Why isn't she getting attached to me? You know, why is it she? Trying to call me all the time and you know How come after I had sex with her really good? She's she's not impressed. You know, she's not all over me Why is she must be cheating or that you know, then they're gonna start like I said becoming obsessed with you and that's how you drag them in emotionally and You know How to get them even further in emotionally you argue with them. You say, okay You know, I'm not saying anybody else or you know, I'm just you know, I I like you a lot and you know It's just I don't know like I can't really Um You know, I don't really want to commit. I don't really want to be in a relationship right now I just one date, you know Well, why are you you know? Why are you doing all this and spending all this time with me if you're not trying to Now you're flipping the script and it's like, well, I'll think about it I'll like I'll think about it. Okay. I'm really gonna think about it because I don't know, you know What I really want yet And I don't know You know if it's gonna be with you then they're gonna get offended and they were like trying to win you even more You know, well You know now They become emotionally attached and drawn into you And that's how you have to keep it You don't Do what they expect you do the opposite you do what they're doing to you And some guys They're not gonna fall for it. They're gonna be like, okay, because they weren't into you anyway And they were like, okay. Well, I just want to have sex, you know, I was going to dump you after two weeks Anyway, you know, but peace out. There's some guys out there that's going to be like that And you'll be very happy that you didn't get emotionally attached because it's usually those cases when the women come crying to me Oh, we spent two weeks together and we was in love. No, you was in love and they was planning their escape so Like I said, never become emotionally attached until They're emotionally attached to you Okay, then you can kind of give in a little bit And oh, he chased me in the beginning. Of course, he chased you. He's a man I'm talking about emotionally attached. I love you. Call where you at when you're coming home. I miss you, you know Can you come over, you know um I don't want to hang out with my friends and I want to hang out with you What are you doing, you know that when they become that to you then you can emotionally Let your guard down and invest because they you got them Okay, but until they do that to you first, you can't let your guard down if you do you're doomed Okay, get him emotionally attached by Get him emotionally attached by Getting him alone for a long period of time and just seducing him Okay, with no um like you can't fall in love first. You it's a game. I'm gonna get him hooked Okay, this is this is the goal Get him hooked get him hooked every day, you know, get him hooked like take a weekend vacation Get him away from all his friends and stuff like For about two or three days You know do everything and you can think of Do all his fantasies and everything like he ain't never gonna find another girl like this. Okay, lingerie fetishes Just bring it all out. Okay, and if you don't have sex before marriage, this is not for you Okay, maybe you can entice his mind with what you want to do when you have sex one day in marriage I don't know but for those um who are sexually active before marriage Do all this stuff to him blow his mind make him go crazy like erica by do Okay, and then you pull back and you busy all the time. Oh, I don't know what I'm gonna see you You know, ain't nobody ever did this to him Now, you know, he he feels vulnerable because he probably went to some new level of freakishness with you And he liked it. So now he's hooked Okay That's how you get a man hooked because men don't fall in love. They fall in lust first They fall in lust And then after they get all of that lust for this they fall in love Because oh my god, she's you know, you know, she's just so Sexy and seductive and sexual and she's you know, she's not all over me all the time I have to actually chase her still and I've never had it done to me like that before. What was that, you know, um You know, if I let her go she's gonna be doing that with other people And I don't want her to you know They're gonna all the stuff's gonna go through their mind And that's the kind of wife I want because every night I go, you know, when I come home from work, that's what I want You know, I want I don't want to have Missionary position every day. I don't I don't want no boring life. I like whips and chains and stuff. Okay. Okay, so Get them like that get them through sex lust And you know isolation Once you do that They become emotionally attached to you It's hard to get a man emotionally attached to you unless You are promising him a bunch of sex and he's still a virgin or he don't get none. Okay If y'all if everybody's an adult and practicing safe sex and having sex or whatever before marriage That's how you get them. It's the sex. Okay. That's how you have to get them because they're not going to become emotionally attached to you If they're in charge of the sex, you know, you got to be like the best they ever had Mentally and physically, you know what I'm saying Which means you got to go educate yourself Okay, you can't be in there just sitting there like okay. Are you done? You know, you got you got to go study some some techniques and stuff because after you do all that stuff to them They will never leave you alone They will never leave you alone and and that's how you get a man emotionally attached to you Okay, yeah, breathe the artist seduction someone says breathe the artist seduction if you don't do that You're always going to have this competition, you know, you're always going to have competition if he If he has been with many women And none of them have done what you've done chances are he's going to think no one else will be able to do what you do And or he'll be afraid to ask him Ask those women to do those freaking things that you do, you know Um, and then they'll be like wow You know, I don't want to do that so Did you're gonna be his only option sexually because now you didn't turn him out. Okay so Turn him out. That's what you do basically And it's easy to turn someone out if you know that they have not Experienced a lot or have been with like boring girls or you know, blah, blah, blah, you know It's easy after that. It's like Remember this is a job and a goal It's not about feelings. It's not about making love It's not about that. It's about getting him hooked And emotionally attached and that's how you have to do it You don't have to feel you don't have to feel anything. You don't have to Be in love to do all of that stuff It's a job That needs to get done to get him emotionally attached so that you can do whatever you want And get him to do whatever you want after that. That's it It's kind of like training an animal and I know that's kind of mean to say It's Okay, think of it in this term If you met someone and they gave you everything you wanted they bought you a car Took you shopping, you know got everything you ever wanted. Say look Go go do whatever you want, you know, uh held your hand took you out to dinner kissed you, you know All those things that seduced a woman Um Wouldn't you become emotionally attached If he did everything that you wish a man would do Yes, yes, you would you like oh my god. He does everything for me. He pays my bills He does it. He takes me shopping Um, you know, he he's very uh romantic and blah blah blah You're gonna get emotionally attached because that's what you've always wanted You know, that's your fantasy so Like men are men seduced women too all the time. That's what they do. Especially the ones that can afford to you That's how they get you. You know, so make sure You get them back to like If you are fortunate enough to date that man with money and they are doing all these things for you and you want to keep them You got to do what I just told you and get them To be hooked on you that way You don't have to ask for nothing. It's just given like oh, no, I need um A couple thousand dollars and new purse. Oh, here you go, baby. You know so put it on them Like they never had to put on them before I told y'all like erica body get them going crazy and They're yours to do it as you please And less, you know, you don't you don't treat them right if you start treating them bad You know trying to control everything they do You know, don't let them be who they really are, you know, you can take it to a certain degree, but you can't overdo it. You got to be Controlling in a seductive way. Not it not a controlling way because that that's that's the mistake Most women make you can't control your man. You can only control him through lust Okay like For example, you know how some guys are like, oh, I'm going up with the boys tonight You can't get mad. I don't want you to go out with the boys. I don't know all you got to do is walk around half naked and he ain't going nowhere okay Wait, he's like almost dressed and about to go out the door And you just you start getting dressed putting on your makeup and your lingerie has to walk around. Oh, I I can't you know And then you know He might not go anywhere Well Call him up. I'm gonna call him up and so I'm not coming because you know, I'm busy right now You know Or are you threatened to take it away? You threatened to take it away. So y'all, you know I was planning such a you know, I was planning to put it on you tonight But I don't know how to feel if you come back smell like alcohol and all that stuff You know, I was I was planning this all week. I got some new ideas And you're gonna like keep on cancel But you don't want to do that to him all the time. Let him have his freedom too You know what I'm saying? But just so you know, you can do it every now and then But don't get upset. Just oh really? So disappointed because I had some new lingerie and you know all this stuff I had a plan for the evening, but oh well, go ahead. Don't worry about it Anyways, so Not becoming emotionally attached is going to be your best way to keep a man And I'm not lying You don't get upset With you don't get upset with them when they don't meet your expectations You figure out what you need to do to make them want to meet your expectations Or want to do what you need them to do, okay? It's it's almost like an exchange. It's like, okay I'm not going to tell you what to do because that's going to take away your masculinity But if I Do it through seduction you feel even more masculine, but I have all the power, you know, it's a win-win for you um Sometimes moving too slow in a relationship with a man who expects sex quick We're okay. It will rule out guys who just want that two week relationship. You know what I mean? It will rule out those dudes um But the promise this is what most men live on a promise Of sex Okay, so you just can keep talking to them about it what you want to do. This isn't that you'll keep them longer, you know um rubbing on them, you know, um Rubbing your boobs against them. It's like I can't wait till we finally get to this, you know place where I can just Rip off your clothes Give them a fantasy in their mind if you can't give it to them physically You know turn them on like that men are visual creatures So put up a mental picture has mine, you know So that's how you do it And the girls that keep getting emotionally attached and crying because they get broken up with after this long this long Those guys had their plan and their strategy, but you didn't you lost the game Okay, that's what happened to you. You didn't play You you were scammed and They weren't attached to you emotionally They were just like, okay on to the next. Okay. I'm done with you. That's how you have to be And until they are crazy for you See men have different motives Men don't want to keep you as too long because they want to see what else is out there But if you get them emotionally attached, oh, they want to keep you A long time or forever So remember that Men and women think totally different. That's why You have to beat them at their own game They they expect you to become all emotionally emotionally attached to them that way they can control the situation Caught another woman ticked to my man and call him bae ticked before That looked platonic what now Go get you a bae. Okay. I told y'all have a plan B. What part of plan B? Don't y'all understand not plan B like of appeal, but plan B another man. Okay Go get you a plan B Which means a friend zone dude that you can text and call bae too. Okay, who can take you to lunch And all that kind of stuff do that you can't make a man stop cheating They're only cheating on you and texting other women because they tire you Okay, and they met somebody that might be your upgrade So what you got to do is you become their upgrade. Okay, you start dressing sexy or change your look being extra seductive You know and having less and less time for that person, you know Make them wonder what you're doing and who you're texting. Okay. It that's how it goes when you when you find your man texting you don't go crazy You don't go crazy you go and do Better you go and get you a friend bae Who makes more money you text him You go get you on the look you go look sexy and don't let him have none You know, it's like no No, I'm I'm going out my girls tonight or I'm going to visit my mom tonight. I'm sorry. I can't do anything with you You know, he's gonna notice the change and he's gonna be like What is she up to then he's gonna forget about phone bae and start worrying about you because he got you already And if he loses you he's gonna have to work, you know hard to get you back And all the stuff that he invested in you and if he thinks you're cheating on him That's an insult and a challenge So now all his thoughts are right back on you and what you're doing If you explode all over the place. Oh, why are you texting this girl this girl? That's gonna push him away It's gonna be like Well, I'm just gonna go be with this girl because it's easier. They take the easy right out. They're not like women They're not gonna fight for the relationship unless they need a place to live If it's easier just to leave and go explore the new option. That's what they're gonna do. Okay So if you make it easy for them to leave, that's what they're gonna do You go and do what you need to do and make them Wonder about you because men are gonna do what they're whatever they're gonna do. They're gonna cheat. They're gonna text on you Seduction and lust is what keeps them alive That's why he's calling her bae and texting her because he wants to sleep with her or She you know, he's lusting after her. It's no other reason. He don't love her. He just want to sleep with her. Okay Anyways Don't listen to men. Don't listen to the men's advice. They don't know any better and Like I said, they don't see like we see they see for the moment They see how they feel at the moment. They don't see how they feel. They don't have biological clocks ticking. Okay Right now they might not think that This is why they get with a chip but subliminally subconsciously in the back of their mind Driven their animalistic drive is to sleep with you first And get you emotionally attached to them so that they can control you, okay So do the same thing. Okay, do the same thing now if you're trying if you're in a good relationship And everything is working fine and stuff like that And you guys are getting bored and you think you're he's you're losing him and he's slipping away and That's when you have to reinvent yourself Okay, you got to reinvent yourself. Like who does he like? Like what is his fantasy? Explore those type of options. Okay, don't just let him go out and find someone new because you're too boring and the same Should you marry something petty that they do to you? um It depends on what it is like for example If you're okay, first of all if you're in a relationship and you like the man more than they like you in the beginning They're not gonna care. Okay, because you're replaceable But if like if you did what I told you to get him and they start slipping Then you then you start pulling it back Less and less like, you know, like you don't care about them like you become you start becoming emotionally detached again You know and not caring And you start spending your time elsewhere so that they think you're getting ready to leave them, you know what I'm saying, uh, you don't Do you don't do that because they think they know exactly what you're doing. They know. Oh, she's doing it because I did it No, you pull back on everything you cut them off You know Cut them off sexually what I'm trying to tell you See even Daniel Gray says smart men live free only fools get attached To women and that's the same way you guys should be thinking You don't get attached to a man. Okay, unless they want to give you the world Let them give it to you first and then you become attached. Okay That's what I'm trying to tell y'all y'all become attached before they do anything for you Ain't got to do nothing for you no more. You know, it's it's so many pick-me-chicks out here That become attached to men that haven't even took them out on a date yet You know, haven't even kissed them yet, but you are already attached, you know Um changing your relationship status on facebook and stuff No when they invest in you When they have given you what you wanted off your checklist of goals They have and then they secure you then you can become emotionally emotionally attached until then you don't become emotionally attached No Because If you do you're you're setting yourself up. You're setting yourself up for disappointment He posted videos of him having fun with girls. So I was going to do the same Okay, if you post the video up with guys, it's different like women can't okay when you mirror You can't do it with girls. Okay, you can't do it with guys So post up a picture of you somewhere that looks like you're on a date Like a really fancy restaurant. You dressed up just take a picture of yourself and put This place has great and they named some type of food that they serve He's he know you ain't going there by yourself. He know you want a fancy date That's different than hanging out with a bunch of girls who are having fun. That's different You know, somebody took you to a nice place Probably paid $200 or more for your dinner. You got to wear a nice dress and dress up and Chances are this man is rich. That's gonna make him even more jealous than you taking Uh pictures with some random guys in a club. Okay Do what I tell you You'll see Men are not threatened by other men in clubs. They're threatened by a rich man who can take you and upgrade you Okay And know your and know your value and then they'll see you in a whole different way So you put on your classiest sexiest outfit Go take a picture in a fancy as restaurant that he could never never afford I said, ooh The such and such here is so great the lobster or the steak or whatever you ate is so great You don't even have to eat there just go and go in there dressed up take a picture and leave You know what I'm saying unless you can find a man take you That's how you do that Okay, you're gonna make a man jealous make him jealous in every way How can I please a lady with money without Dealing with relationship crap and lies How can you please a lady with money? Okay, does a lady have money or you have money? If you want to give money to a lady without dealing with relationship crap and lies I don't know what you're saying Because that that sentence can go either you want to give them money or you want a lady with money Oh, you want to give her money? Okay Well, you just got to tell her what it is from the beginning. Look, I don't want a relationship I don't want to get married. I don't want to have kids But I do want to have you and I will in the compensate you for your time You know, you can you can start a business you can invest You ain't got to work You know, you just be my Sugar baby I'll be your sugar daddy. You know, that's what you tell him straight up. Look, take it or leave it I've got other people waiting How to Attach him and stay a virgin girl. That's cool. That's gonna be hard. Okay Because okay a lot of women that's a lot of women I do consultations with They're in different cultures which wait for marriage And a lot of these guys that they're marrying they have already gone out and had sex with other women You know in light to them And whatever they've already gone and had sex with the one when they get to you Um, you know, they're they're out having sex with other women or they have or whatever They they save you for the marriage, right? And this is what happens They get married to you they have sex with you and you it's not as good as them Experienced women and they're like, I'm going this ain't it, you know, you don't even do this. This is that so A lot of times these ladies get left By their husbands because that's what they thought it was gonna be, you know, um So I say this if you're not doing anything before marriage how to keep him how to get him emotionally attached If he's not having sex with other women, he's not he it's it's easy. You just tell him what you want to do to him Okay, be telling what you're gonna do go watch porno. I don't know go figure out what you're gonna do after you get married You need to learn how to do stuff, right? Um, because these women who are doing stuff before after in between and during marriage You know, they'll do it. They'll still have sex with him even if he's married You know, a lot of people don't care So make sure that you know what you're doing first of all and that He hasn't had any better. Like I said, you got to throw it on him after you Marry him and you got to tell him how you're gonna Do things to him after you get married. You got to put that mental picture in his mind, you know And then you got to follow through on it because men are very sexual lustful creatures And if you're not if you're not they're gonna go for some woman who's very seductive and will appeal to their lust So you gotta paint the picture in their mind go watch some pornographic videos And just tell them what they're doing. Tell them that's what you're gonna do to them Okay, because if you can't Hold their mind They're gonna that's gonna wander somewhere else. Somebody says that they're wrong with watching porn to get those tips No Why because I would rather invest money in her career and her gaining wealth than her relying always on We'll see if that's good. Say, hey, you know what? I'm gonna buy you a business I'm gonna buy you put your put money into this this and that for you, you know Um, but also give her some spending money too. She ain't gonna be doing all that for nothing She got up. She has to have some nice stuff too I'm at a guy who has three different kids by two different women He hasn't done anything for me and he's on facebook discussing me calling me a broke Well, that's your fault for messing with him. Why are you messing with a broke man with all them kids? They can't do nothing for you, you know I'm I'm just saying, you know, I don't mess with nothing that can't do nothing for me You know from day one. I'm like, look, what can you do? Nothing. Bye. Bye. Okay. I don't go for looks I don't go for talk. I go for action if you put something in my hand Yes or no. If no, adios. That's how you have to be with these men Just like they are with you. Look, are you gonna sleep with me? Yes or no Is there a possibility that you're gonna sleep with me? Yes or no. Okay. You're not gonna sleep with me. Bye You know, that's how you gotta be. They're not afraid to ask for sex But you're afraid to ask for money But you give them sex and they don't give you anything You're the one at fault. That's what's called a pick me chick Okay, you can't be a pick me chick And get mad at the man Okay You just can't do it because He got all these kids by all these by two different women and you expect him to treat you any different You're the special one now. No, look at sierra and future He had all them baby mama. She thought she was special too, but she wasn't so and he talked about her crazy on the internet too Stop dealing with these type of men Get up and walk away when they can't offer you anything Ask them the first time you meet them. Look, what can you do? Stop trying to fall in love And have a goal and a plan. That's how you not get stuck with The type of man. Okay. I've never been stuck with that type of man because I have goals Have goals stop settling Okay No, no man is gonna get past Uh five minutes with me if if he got all them issues, you know what I'm saying when I was single Like nope that go bye Don't care. Don't care. Bye Say, how do you not care if he cheats? Cheat too If you got a cheating man, you better be a cheating woman Why? Because He's gonna cheat anyway. You might as well cheat too. And I'm just saying this to keep your sanity You need to keep your sanity by saying, okay. Well if he's cheating, I might as well cheat because you know why? He's cheating on me. So eventually somebody's gonna find out and it's gonna end anyway I might as well feel justified in what I'm doing and why I'm still with him So when I come home or when he comes home and I look at him and he's been cheating I know I've been cheating. So I can't really get mad and You know, I'm in control of my emotions So I hope you had a fun day and you don't have to sleep with him And he ain't gotta sleep with you and when you finally Figure out what you guys want to do break up stay together make it work whatever whatever You don't feel like bringing everything up from the past because you know you did it too And so if you're going to try to save the relationship You're not going to be bringing stuff up from the past Because you did it too. You're like, okay. Well, I did it too. So, oh well But you don't have to tell him that you cheated you know on the back of your mind that you cheated but Don't ever tell him let him think that he has all the guilt And you can Y'all don't die Shoot I was out doing the same thing and I had a lot of fun and You know, he was better than you. I don't even know if I want you, you know Go cheat too. There's nothing wrong with that if they did it to you You do it to them. Just don't tell them that way you still hold the power Make them pay make them pay And then you still get your revenge and your satisfaction And it's easier for you to let go because you did it to okay That's what you gotta do If you choose to stay with him, just let it go because you did it too I'm glad he cheated because I would have never got to do this. This is not you know With this guy, you know I've been tied down for all these years and finally I got some and he was better and better looking and You know my plan being out, you know sometimes You got to do what you got to do. That's what men do You Don't catch feelings like some don't catch me. I don't even care if you're married If you don't trust the person that you're with 100 don't give a hunt. Don't give a hundred percent You know, I don't trust anybody a hundred percent. I mean, I would never give 100 to anybody So, you know, always Remember you're playing chess You know, there's some really good relationships. Some blah blah blah blah blah blah you know in this world and great but there's some messed up ones and a lot of you guys are attracting people to you with who are messed up you know emotionally and you're just taking anything off the street and trying to deal with it and fix it when and then get mad when they do you wrong don't take garbage off the street leave it there buy pass and go find what you really want okay and if you can't find what you really want look in the mirror and ask yourself why you can't get what you really want and then go fix that yeah and what makes me upset is that there are some women who settle and just take anything because they're so lazy they're so lazy that they won't go and improve themselves so they can get a better man they just take whatever comes fall off the table you know I don't feel like learning how to do makeup I don't feel like learning how to shave my mustache or put my eyebrow I don't get my nails done and wear clear lip gloss okay I don't feel like doing all of that t-shirts and leggings is good enough for me that's the best outfit ever no if you looking like that I wonder why you can't do no better that's why okay okay if t-shirts and leggings or tank top and leggings and clear lip gloss is your daily outfit that's why you are where you are why because look at that's not that's not cute that's called ratchet you are ratchet and I said it you know so if you can't do any better look in the mirror and look at the type of women lives that you like and see what they're doing and you mirror that study people that you want to be like and improve yourself until you are like them or better you know I'm saying so for example if you have pick a celebrity that you like to look on her work until you can get close to that look you know you'll start attracting better quality of people take care of yourself start investing more into yourself you know instead of just thinking leggings and a tank top and some clear lip gloss and your ponytail is good enough no okay or thinking that you know jeans and a t-shirt tennis shoes and a ponytail is good enough no you got to be better you got to be a seductress in this world if you want to get the type of lifestyle you want that's just it because men respond to that don't don't mess with you don't mess with this person the basic person the pick me basic person until they get what they want two weeks later they're moving on to the next one so I wonder how women get meant to pay for these surgeries they get an old man okay get you a old man they will pay for any surgery okay that's very obvious yeah don't tell them what surgery it is I just need I need surgery lie lie lie you know how most people get breast implants well my mom had cancer when she was young and I just want to have them removed and I just want to put implants in so I don't run the risk of cancer this is more for my health than anything if you want some move that works every time you want if you want your butt done you just say oh you know I had some surgery before and it didn't work and you know I have a modeling job that you know and they keep telling me that I can't get a job because my butt's not big enough and it just really makes me depressed and I'm so sad and I feel so unattractive and you know make it make it a mental problem make if I don't get this plastic surgery I'm I'm mental okay I can't be happy I don't feel sexy I can't sleep with you because I don't feel good about myself and if I just had a butt I could get more modeling jobs or I would feel more confident in myself and I'm and you know make me feel more sexy I would look at this lingerie that I can buy and wear for you afterwards you know you got to lay it on a thick get I'm excited oh that and I start letting him look at butt and stuff with you oh my god you're gonna look like that when you're done and that's for me mm-hmm that's how you get it done you make them like you make them visualize you got to get in their head you cry cry cry cry mm-hmm and then you say my dad was gonna give me like lie you got us you got a lot my dad was gonna give me the money or my my grandpa was gonna give me some money before he passed away but my greedy son such and sister stole it or took it and you know I was gonna use the money for that surgery and now he's gone and just makes me so sad he's gonna want you to be happy so he's gonna give you the money for the surgery you want you to shut up so he's gonna give you the money for the surgery he's gonna want you to put on put on that lingerie and you know be some hot model chick so he can brag and tell his friends he dating some type of model and blah blah blah so he's gonna give you the money and they set up payment plans too so he could set it up on a payment plan you know I'll pay this much a month for your booty okay that's how you do it but I don't like I've never gotten plastic surgery though because I mean everybody could improve on themselves but I feel like you know I'm it's I'm old I'm married I got kids whatever you know I don't need it anymore like back when I was young back in those days only thing only type of plastic surgery people were getting were like lip lips boobs and maybe they didn't have Botox back then they had like face lifts how you got Botox will women give money to a man with a good job already nope you got to be you got to pretend to be broke like if you're an executive say you're a receptionist don't ever tell a man how much money you make what type of man age well I shouldn't want me like 30s couple 60 something go joggo go at least 20 years older so then a lot of women have problems dating older men because they feel like you know if if you're okay I hate to say it and I don't want to be agist but if you look over 40 if you look over 40 and you trying to date somebody 40 with money think about this why why would they choose you over a 25 year old okay so but if you date a 60s up mural you're young to them you know and they would feel foolish you know they would feel foolish trying to go a lot younger if they can feel comfortable with you you know what I'm saying what if you look late 20s well you might need to get a real still it doesn't matter if they know your age they're gonna use it against you because they can just it's not about how you look it's about your mentality they can trick younger women younger women are more submissive or easily manipulated you know so they like to and plus they the younger women will look up to them more because they're more accomplished you know so that's why a lot of older men go for younger women you know they can impress them so if you're 40 something or 30 something and you're trying to date a 40 something you know your might will be the same age because he can't impress you unless he's a millionaire and if he's a millionaire he's probably gonna go want to get something like 25 you know unless he's trying to like get married and go into politics and he needs the wifey type you know so think about it you gotta really think about it a lot of women just oh I can't go out with an older guy just and then they don't have any luck and then they see then they go and see like all these old men out with these young women who are driving nice the women are driving nice cars have nice clothes purses jewelry and they sit in there with somebody five years older than them thinking they doing something no I told you men are about looks and sex and lust if they can't impress you and you know do all these things and they don't find you as a fantasy then it's gonna be harder for you to get stuff out of them what do I think about Kylie Jenner pregnancy I think it's typical like we know someone's going crazy having her um what I think about that is she could have done a lot better like why could she get a big name like why couldn't she wait until she was you know more famous to marry somebody with more money I don't know it just she picked up you know she picked someone that looked like a to me that he's not attracted okay it's like she's a rebellious one that you know she did like the opposite of what Black China did like like she married or not married but she got pregnant with somebody that can't give her nothing like as much as she already has stupid like and you know she has to you know be attached to that person for 18 years and y'all know those rappers careers don't last that long so he's gonna be a has been in about five years and she's gonna look stupid that's why I'm reading some of these comments someone asked am I able to have sex with my husband even now he's much older do you have to get drunk first when you get married you don't have to have sex hardly anymore what if you are a virgin girl and have no experience better watch some porno and learn how to do it because if your man has been out there and doing it with a lots of women and they come to you and you're boring and dry and like don't know how to do nothing they're gonna go right back to those other women you better figure it out in this day and age you got to figure it out your job is to hook him afterwards you know what yeah but like it's porn different thing it's good enough if you haven't done nothing you know it's better than nothing let's just say that mm-hmm so yeah that's my that's my video on that and I feel like a lot of women are trained to fall in love and trained to put give their all and trained to become emotionally attached and trained to think everything emotional and siddological and that's why they're losing when it comes to certain like when it comes to relationships because you're playing and you're playing it wrong you're not able to you know navigate through it because you're emotionally blind you're emotionally you know blinded so you gotta you gotta you gotta go into it with goals and not expectations hmm how do I have sex if not attractive um just like you go to work and you hate your job just like that it's like I gotta go to work I hate this job oh well get it over with go home go shopping go get my money you know just treat it like a job but for example people do stuff all the time that they don't like you know you eat food you don't like when you got to go on a diet you gotta work you have to work with people you don't like you do a lot of stuff you don't like what makes this any different you know they like it they gonna give you what you want but you're gonna be happy right after okay that's what I'm saying you know a man will have sex with the ugliest woman because they detach okay you ever seen a man who cheated on somebody with somebody looks like you know who did it and why they don't look at their face they're focused on one thing they have one goal why can't y'all do the same you know don't focus on that focus on what you're getting what you're getting to you know what what you're doing why you're doing it okay you you know you ever seen somebody with the ugly cheek and he just has sex with it don't let it come out in public what do you think man do the same thing I can't have sex with her I'm not a trigger does she have a of a JJ yes okay that's all I need okay close your eyes put a bag over your head that's what they did they don't care they are emotionally detached that's why they can have sex with somebody that's disgustingly ugly they don't care that's why they first baby mama look busted because he messed around he got her pregnant by accident okay so stop stop with you know if you have to have sex with somebody who's a little unattractive but will buy you whatever you want pay your bills that you know then so be it and then do it all the time he he won a down payment to a car he gonna have he gonna do something with some girl who he knows has some savings even though she looked crazy and ugly and he would never take her out in public he gonna woo her in her apartment or her house he gonna bring over some drinks and snacks for Netflix and chill he gonna have dates set up in the house until he gets that money to put a down payment on his car he gonna he gonna do it to a real good get her hooked so he gets she gives him whatever he want but he won't take her in public why because men don't care what you look like as long as they can get what they want out of you and get you hooked and do whatever you need to do that's their goal their goal is not to marry you or to figure out you know how to make the world except your version of beauty no they not taking you out into the world yeah so stop thinking stop thinking like that y'all are too like oh what if I'm not attracted to a man half the men that sleep with you or most of them in sleep with women are not really looking at their looks they don't they don't care about this because if you wouldn't say yes this other person over here looking like a gremlin would have and they would have sex with sex is sex you know if they can have sex with a beautiful woman yeah they'll pay extra they'll give you more they'll pay more attention to you and spend more time with you but like I said they can go over here to the gremlin and get it for free so make sure you understand that okay so anyway for me you know I'm blind anyway if I don't have my glasses on everybody's a blur to me okay yeah I'll look single anyway turn off the lights turn off the lights turn them off pretend there's somebody else act that's what I would do like I'm like oh you know picture your favorite musician favorite actor or whatever turn off the lights anyway y'all make me laugh these comments yeah we're in her apartment or house yeah yeah someone says I'm not dating him I'm dating his money exactly see you got it just like the man say I'm not dating her I'm dating her apartment money and free sex yeah so many women come to me I was taking advantage of I let this guy borrow thousands of dollars and I want him to pay me back he went and bought a car you know or he went and bought you know a ticket and went on vacation and you know I'm like well you done for giving you don't give men money okay that's your fault you know you don't give men money you can't give me money but he said he loved me a wall oh well I could say that too don't mean I mean so stop y'all stop being pygmies stop thinking like that attach your relationship to goals instead of emotion and you will win I promise you and if you don't you still you won't leave empty-handed and you won't feel used because you already got what you need it I'm a black woman with a very successful career in the legal field I still don't want a broke man he must be significantly well you see the problem with a lot of women who make a lot of money they have to lie about their career in order to get a man that makes equal or more money because the man that makes equal or more money he feels like he can't impress you unless he's a billionaire you know I'm saying and they usually go for you know the young you know dumb type that you know looks good on their arms so you gotta you gotta understand you know you got to play dumb too you got to have two personalities the work personality and the type of woman that men are attracted to because they can impress them type of woman that's what you got to be you gotta be two different women these days or maybe more see men they think six rules went it the only reason why men can have sex and make a woman crazy it's because she is emotional she thinks she's not she didn't have a goal okay if she's not trying to put it on him then he's trying to put it on her and she lets him you never let them put it on you you always in control of that you look you know and plus you don't mentally you have to allow yourself to let someone put it on you if you go on with goals like I'm not gonna let him put nothing on me oh no you know this don't you know blah blah blah it won't happen but these women who are like so obsessed with sex oh he's good and bad and after that they don't win either okay you have to be you have to give it and then take it away and make them chase you and beg for it more you know you can't be the one that they're trying to impress you got it you got to take them to a whole another level that they ain't ever been to so anything they try to do some you know it's not gonna be as good as what you can do to them okay yeah but you know if you're young and you're just starting on yeah go fall in love I always say that go fall in love go get your heart broken in free times and then when you ready these videos will still be here I'm not saying go out and do this like if if this is not an issue for you let's say go out and do this after you tired dealing with you know these guys who keep lying to you and you and you and dumping you after two weeks or after you they get bored of you and tired when you're tired of that lifestyle you tired of being a pick me then you come get these videos because there's only one way like you know you know how they ever say you know those only one way to beat your enemy and it's to become them I'm gonna say I'm not saying man are your enemy I'm saying become like them become like that which is detach emotionally save your emotions for your kids and your family members someone says for the version virgin sell it sell it on eBay yep if you're a virgin you can be a millionaire tomorrow there are so many women selling their virginity from million plus okay that's what I would do she never got to worry about and you invest that money start your own business you're rich if I was if I knew that back then I could do that I would have done it I'd be like oh yes two million dollars because I'm cocky so someone's keeps asking about the Facebook group I might let some more people in I don't know it depends like that group is straight up no morals we're gonna do we gotta do get money get paid old young married whatever you know I'm saying that's that's the group you know this is for women who have not who've been through it and ready to move forward financially mentally and emotionally unattached okay I do have a pygmy group now if you want to get in the pygmy group it's a satire group it's called pygmy I go 5050 or I pay 5050 or something like that it's on Facebook anybody can get into that one and it's it's satire it's like people post stuff that pygmy chicks would post or they pretend to be pygmy chicks and like they make funny posts and stuff it's hilarious so if y'all join that one that one is free and then you know if I if I see you posting stuff and it's funny and I get that you understand that this is wrong and that you shouldn't think like this then you know a lot of people in those group that group will get into the other group you know if I you know because some of them don't get it they're like what's wrong with this I'm like because they just saw it and they joined and they were like literally they were pygmies and that the sign attracted them for something like then you came for real what's wrong with this oh my goal okay nothing is wrong with it you know that's what I'm saying you know I'll pretend I'm pretending to be a pygmy chick on there it's hilarious it's funny it's like I had a picture of these soaps from the cheap hotel I got him off of Google and I said look what my man bought me for my birthday he bought me a bath set isn't this beautiful I wonder where he got it from he won't tell me it's very sad it's satire y'all so y'all check it out anyway I got to go but it's been fun and I'll see y'all on the next one I know that man and we just started dating but he is saying you have a lot of friends and also asking what did I do yesterday and today every time you talk what is the best way to answer it's like you gotta do something every time you deflect oh yeah those are just friends but I really like you rub on the shoulder and I wasn't doing anything yesterday but taking a bubble bath take his mind back to the list I was just taking a bubble bath and shaving and getting ready to see you getting ready to see it on our date you know but I need a new dress and you know those guy friends oh I just went to high school with them and I grew up with them or they work with me those are nobody they can't you know they can't do anything for me I have a very expensive taste and they can't afford that assure him the switch it up like you gotta switch it every time get him to buy you something feel stupid for asking tell them it telling those men can't afford you you getting ready for him you rubbing oils and taking bubble baths thinking about him he ain't gonna know what to do that's what you do you gotta seduce men in every given chance and that's how you get stuff get get your money like if you go if you got the nerve to ask you that have the nerve to ask him to buy you a dress for this date you prepare for I need some money in my PayPal so I can go shopping and buy this sexy dress that I saw that you will love oh my gosh get it get everything yet how many STT's y'all got y'all got oh my gosh I don't know if that's a girl or a guy I don't know how many you got I don't have any how to stop resenting someone you aren't emotionally attached to but is rich resenting someone why would you resent them like are they rude to you are they mean to you you don't care what they think your goal is to get what you can get if they talk back to you and say some crazy stuff to you be like oh really like play dumb like oh really you feel that way wow like play play dumb and they'll feel bad for you I'm sorry I didn't mean to do like that oh I didn't know you felt that way about me I'm you know I'm sorry play stupid get more out of them they'll feel guilty and give you more okay the back of your mind why you counting your money that's okay I need to work on that yes you know some guys want to control women because nobody will listen to them and so they figure since they're paying you because they can't get respect or they're so used to talking trash to people it's like it's not a big deal just get their money and have plan B like I said that's what you want plan B and that for plan A gets boring and start going crazy switch to plan B let plan a cool off teach plan a lesson Kim plan B put them on hold and rotate rotation rotation just like guys do I'm a licensed security officer I went to college for a degree in Homeland Security okay thanks for the info I know what that's supposed to mean maybe you're talking to someone in the comments always get you some more options and don't be ashamed of it cuz they not they never ashamed of that we go go get my shoes on how can I get and join Facebook that's my dog's name we go he's a chihuahua I'm trying to put on my boots the more emotionally attached you become the greater you can focus on your goal detached yeah yeah for example like when you're focused on a goal you don't focus on nothing until you complete it you know you're not even trying to worry about anything else and it's it's good if you have something to report back to that's where our group is so important because like a lot of women they'll have a goal to get a certain amount of money get a certain gift and when they do they post it up and say got it you know so very important to have goals because they were just going out with these guys randomly and you know not having a goal to attach it to they might get caught up you know so that's why we post a lot of stuff that they get out of guys purses money cash down payments to cars you vacations and don't look you don't feel ashamed to do it because they're not a shame to take something from you you know when you when you don't like a man's profession because you know it don't make a lot of money remember how can you start dating somebody else because there's all up there that will just drop thousands of dollars on it on an average chick okay and that's just the honest to God true old man out there who want to feel young again and they'll take our average looking young chick you know gotta be decent a little okay you know dropped a couple thousand a number call chick call center chick and you mad don't be mad just wait till you get 50 60 and go get you