 I get Well, let's see what happens here in Instagram land for everybody. It's not this is why I need a producer. We're not making headway guys Jaren Allen, how you doing? All right guys, is it is it sounding better? Can you hear me now? I'm hoping. Oh good. It's loud and clear right on Just have it says we could use a little mental health today. All right. Well, that's what I'm going to be talking about today seriously going to be talking about Some mental health issues because I woke up in a good mood. I Don't know how I have to go to the dentist today for my second half of my deep cleaning for those of you guys who Who have been following long and I do want to talk about Mental health today hippie the hills. How you doing? Thank you very much All right, so I'm seeing more and more reports come out and more and more people Coming to the conclusion That social media is not good for their mental health. Do you believe this guys? Where have these people been? we I Think now if you follow me if you follow the art of charm you listen to our show over the last 15 years We have been talking about this for quite a long time. Jennifer says oh No, maybe better. Oh, oh, I hope so and so I'm laughing because the thing about it is social media Has an a monopoly on our emotions Why? Why do they have a? Monopoly on that because we spend So much time looking at our screen So let me give you a few examples like I don't know how many you guys look at your watch time On your phone like with with iphone it gives you your watch time of how much you've been on social media now Because our company is a digital media company. I spend a lot of time on Social media too much time. I'm working on trying to to get it down But for for ads and for doing the live I'm on Twitter a lot I've basically given up on Facebook because it's unusable at this point but All right guys Jennifer said she's coming over to insta-land because it's a little bit too choppy. I'm sorry to hear that let me I'm gonna see if I could start it again and see if that happens Jen did that happen? so And with that I mean Because we're in the middle of an election year And if we're spending Over Three four hours a day on social media. I mean when I get my report at the end of the day. I'm on social media like Way too long. I don't even in fact. I don't even want to say How long a day I spent on social media tally says Twitter is the new bathroom wall. Yes, it is. It's just it's all garbage and There is no reason That I should be spending over three hours a day on social media now. I also want to say That three hours is a lot. It's too much But I you know, but I I I have marketing campaigns and things that I'm running and I'm usually For the art of charm, I'm usually the face out front. I'm doing a lot of Chatting with people and engaging in our social media. So I'm trying to find a Fine line to be able to handle it better because I'm not handling it better But my point in that Is I understand its risks And I understand that it That it is also how people find us But it has gotten way out of hand and more and more people are coming to the realization that it's affecting our mental health I can't remember what podcast I was listening To I can't remember the host but they had they had blankly Bluntly just stated that social media Is driving us all crazy and I I cannot Deny that claim. I only see evidence observable uh observable anecdotal and statistically data-driven Information that that tells us that this stuff is is a mental health Concerned now more and more people are dropping out of social media or at least being more cautious of how they are using it But think about how Let's take facebook you know They know when you interact They know when you interact and how you interact with the content on its platform. It's all Data-driven. It's all captured And they understand when you're angry and when you're emotional and when you're sharing things I mean, this is what got us in all this trouble. You know, what's interesting about this is that the 2016 election showed a Show a giant Wedge between how people were using social media the information that was now being put out wasn't able to be controlled so You would only it would only make sense that in this election that That battleground that is social media has only Heated up now As you guys know, I try to stay as apolitical as possible because I think that everyone at the top is is pretty corrupted and I'm not privy to that information. I can only Focus on what I'm doing one day at a time and I suggest that you guys don't do that as well But I understand I can see when certain sides certain information is being muddled confused I can see different narratives that are being played out the information the stories that They the sides want us focusing on. I mean, it's none of this is covert All you have to do is look at it from an objective place And and looking for both stories both narratives and they're they're it's It's in plain sight Along with a million other narratives How do you not get sucked in and play the game? By focusing on what actually really matters in your life and I will tell you What actually really matters in your life It is you And your loved ones and your immediate surroundings And the only way that to withdraw from From the the information chaos In the and the bickering and fighting that they want you to be involved in Is to detach yourself And make your best Make yourself into the best that you can possibly be That's right My general Jen is here Ah So yeah, I guess they're having problems over I'm gonna turn that off. Anyway, so So anyway, these narratives are going on the only way the only thing you can do if you want to be A value to yourself and the world around you of being a better place don't get involved in either Manipulative Narrative bullshit game plan because that's exactly where they want you to be Detach focus on yourself make yourself the Walk into the best version of yourself So that you can avoid The the Emotional pool of thinking that you are in doomsday scenario. Why do I say doomsday scenario? because if both sides If either side of the political Emotional pool can get you to think that your way of life is Is in an existential crisis? and that your What you believe in is in an existential crisis Then then you're going to vote you're going to be moot motivated To getting off your ass and actually doing something now You should vote you should exercise That right and there's plenty of elections where at a local level where your vote actually matters But if you detach from the insanity and the nonsense and focus on yourself Number one you are better All around which makes your life better which makes your Immediate surroundings better, which makes your relationships better, which makes your world better And number two You can have a laugh At the the show that is going on now. I brought up the idea of doomsday scenarios because that's We have moved to a place in the information period in the information age Where it is only doomsday scenarios that that Actually gets you off your ass and move you so now that's where we are. That's what we're playing with Blocking all around the clock tolly that's right fb Yeah, Facebook causes divorces. Yes, absolutely. So So the reason being is By focusing on yourself Moving into your best version you can watch the show Going on around you and have a laugh because it's Not worth your mental health is at stake and and and that's just where we are and As I mentioned the more effort and energy about okay So imagine you looked at your time on social media yesterday and realized that you spent five hours on social media I mean for a lot of us that's That's a small part of our day anymore Imagine if you spent one hour of that five improving yourself One hour in the gym Or one hour in reading or one hour in in creating rather than consuming packaged Doomsday scenario messaging that is there to make you upset and full on Anxiety ridden Scared animal in the corner. How about that? And if you take that one hour a day and you multiply it by every Day of the week You're not much better Doomsday scenario Starts to become more of a joke than a fight That you are in that you have no control over murder hornets murder tally murder hornets were so Murder hornets were so may Huh You are you've been passed by by time tally You've been you've been you've dated yourself tally you need to be You need to be hip and with it with us kids so you could even know what is going on All right now let's Now that we've inched our way through The mental health crisis that we're all in yes, we're a sick society We are having a mental health crisis. We were already having one and And the tech giants have decided to make it worse um And so with that We we are now in the doomsday scenario of information to get us To pull ourselves apart from each other Tally says I always upgrade my chimp tech. I don't know your chimp tech is malfunctioning. You're still in may Maybe i'm wrong. Maybe it was april I can't remember so much has happened murder hornets. That is that is so so long ago Prepare for july's alien invasion. I'm welcoming it Mr. Swacker welcome for all the aliens to come in and To take control. Maybe they'll have a better narrative. All right, so um Where were we all right, so we moved through the the national international mental health crisis that big tech has put us all in we're now riddled with anxiety We are disassociating ourselves from our family and friends and We are in a constant state of panic. Oh nice real real good That's going to that's going to do well for the fabric of society Now now and with our mental health crisis, they're going to project doomsday scenarios in order To get us to move In a certain direction Well, how do you think this ends guys? It doesn't end well so plan here's the plan We focus on ourselves. We detach from media. We reattach ourselves Back to the family and friends who are interested and making themselves and their world around them better We tell social media to go screw themselves And then we all start looking for our x factor. That's right x factor. What is Our x factor. I will tell you what your x factor is your x factor is the innate ability that you have within yourself That you must find Develop and learn how to use so that you can tap into the unique quality That makes you special different exciting attractive and a catalyst For change in yourself and the world around you when you Find your x factor and you tap into it and you begin to develop it No one in the world can stop you from reaching your goals and I will tell you this my friends Animal will back me up. He's going to second me and letting you know that when you find that x factor And you engage with that aspect of yourself and you enhance it You go through the efforts of bringing it out and allowing your You yourself as an individual to actually shine To the fullest of your abilities Well, then you have just walked out of a doomsday scenario into a World creation scenario. Yes one that you Are in control of one that you dictate the terms and the rules Yes, the stronger frame dissolves the weaker one If if you have a society, let's say a neighborhood Where where everybody is focused on Development the strengthening themselves Reaching discovering And enhancing their own x factor Well, then when you come together as a society as a group there is There is nothing that you cannot fix change or dictate in your immediate area Jen says I've been detached for twitter from a little bit and it's down right nice. Yes, it is I've only checked into twitter to see how my posts go to see if I need to engage with anybody I have I have backed off of twitter. I'm tired of the gloom and doom messaging scenario And it's grifting season All the grifters have come out of the Of of the woodwork To ramp up and get followers Do you know if the minute you start Engaging in one side of the information war That people start to look to you as a source of Of reliable information And then you were able to grab a bunch of followers. It's grifter season You know that there is a lot of people who wait for grifter season Every election cycle so they can clean house make money gain influence and persuasion It's a game What is charlie asked? What is your x factor? Well, you know, that's an that's an interesting one and I even I even figure one of you Of course, it was you charlie It was going to if I brought up the idea of x factor that you were going to ask what my x factor is well I would say my obsession with human behavior And cognition Is my x factor. I love doing the research. I love doing the reading. I love using persuasion And influence and storytelling as As tools to help people. I want people to be able to learn those Those talents and develop those talents within themselves. Why because the The most important person that you're going to have to learn how to persuade and influence is yourself Once you are able to persuade and influence Yourself, then you are able to persuade and influence others What do you have to persuade and influence yourself over? you You have to learn how to persuade and influence yourself over your own natural Chimp tech programming That's right. The x factor Is outside of your comfort zone. You want to find your x factor? Then you have to start living outside your comfort zone. You have to start challenging yourself You have to start consuming thought provoking aspiring and inspiring Materials that uplift you They're all I love it. They're all calling you general Jen. That's a good I knew it stick You are my general Jen Guys, you might actually you might actually kidnap general Jen and she's gonna She might because she makes funny you instagram people. She thinks where it's at is over in periscope But the few times that she's been over in instagram. She has commented how what a friendly awesome societal Silo we have over here. So perhaps you can kidnap her He's in his element today Well, thank you tally. I'm serious guys You know Everyone spends a little bit too much time in wondering what everyone else is doing. This has been the quintessential aspect of the disease and mental health deteriorating Aspect of social media. What is everybody else doing? What is everybody else doing? I'll tell you what everyone else is doing. Everyone is Too busy being angry at everybody else what How about this guys? I have been saying on this show for an an incredible amount of time About how we need to be able to avoid toxic people people who are just not interested in Being their best selves and People who would make you feel bad For wanting to be at your best self for wanting for you wanting to find your x factor And use it to your advantage to make your life better And the immediate world around you and for anybody to give you all a hard time or to talk smack on Being an aspirational character to yourself and the world around you That's the toxicity of stuff to avoid You know and and i'm There is going to be A lot of casualties in this information war people who are losing their damn minds That's right Why because they have never grounded themselves in any real sense of reality have done any Discovering of who they are And how they think and how they want to move Maneuver through the world around them if you don't have those things on lock Then you're easily manipulated. There's the old saying Which is Those who stand for nothing will fall for anything What do you think that means? if you have a a fundamental Floor for For your rules and boundaries and how you maneuver through the world and how you treat the people that are around you Giving them value If you don't set up that floor, how can you tell when you've been taken off of it? this is ridiculous and You know, it's upsetting that we are losing people to the mental health Crisis that is going on around us right now. Do you actually think that the media? The media and social media and the mainstream entertainment complexes actually care about our mental health No They care about the next dollar if they can turn you into a zombie that will That will binge on their platforms They win They want zombies who are binging on their platforms You know, so Here's what's awesome though You guys are awesome Animals awesome. You know why? because We are not willing or Able to be manipulated because we see the game that is being played If you're able to see the game being played Then you're also able to detach from it and watch with amusement That's what I plan on doing and while I watch with amusement i'm going to Continue to sharpen the x-factor within me that makes Me happy that makes my world better Which in turn makes my immediate proximity and friends and families worlds better That's what we need to be focusing on all right now I'm going to go through the comments you guys are red Have you liked to hear what I had to say today and you Want to discover your x-factor? Well, check out the art of charms communication accelerator The link is in the link tree in the bio of twitter instagram In the description of youtube it has all of our best stuff from persuasion connection and networking in From our online classes Our live training programs and all of our expert guests over the last 15 years jaren allen you're awesome Thank you for tuning in buddy. That's the fun. Good to see you buddy General my general jen is very amused good to see you over in instagram They are welcoming you That will cause insanity i'm telling you Jen says it's cozy over here. That's because the instagram crowd is a good crowd is a rad crowd. They get it They spilly with x-factors Well, I don't know about that gen. I'm I'm trying on a daily basis here. We create our own Realities to a great extent. Yes, we do Yes, we do It's all perspective You can also dictate Your reality and your happiness within that reality. You can also choose Different realities that have a direct effect on your well-being. Yes. I know crazy talk Guys, it's it's basic psychology Everyone is playing the psychology game The media is playing the game social media is playing the game Your government is playing the game, but guess what? You can also play the game for your own Well-being Get get on it get with it That's what's important. Don't allow them to play the game on you. You play your own game Ricky mohardy. How you doing buddy? How is it down there in san diego? Karen chameleon is good to see you Mr. Swacker prepare for july's alien invasion. Yes, I know it's coming Lee Kenton murder hornets. Well, those have already been here and gone unless we get a second wave Is that what we're talking about a second wave? All right guys, I'm gonna get a head out of here I'm gonna go to the dentist And thank you jaren allen you guys are rad Remember you can play this game too. You can play it on yourself Why because you are well-being counts on it. All right guys. Catch you later