 welcome everyone to another narc survival live video. I had my flight earlier today as many of you may know i do not like flying so it's quite emotional a lot of turbulence as you can see i made it here in one piece and i'm going to be doing a lot of traveling for the next few weeks really looking forward to it and taking you with me so yeah that's what i've been up to and yeah let's get into this video the narcissist will always come back as long as they have some means to get into your space again trust and believe that they will as long as they haven't completely burnt the bridge it may look like they have moved on it may look like they are doing so much better without you as though you're nothing you never existed you're not important they could just forget about you in an instant and run off and find someone else but it's only a matter of time until they come back with the poover as long as they believe that you are still susceptible to them ablation as long as they think that they can still have some effect on you and they will come back like nothing ever happened like everything is fine it doesn't matter about what you went through it doesn't matter about what you had to deal with while they were away no they don't care about that and the reason why is because they're coming back not because they love you not because they miss you not because they care about you no the only reason why they're coming back is because they want their supply they want power and control over you and that's that that is all that it is some of you know you may think that it's something more it may look like oh they're having this epiphany they finally realized what they did wrong they finally realized all of these things they did to you that was wrong and now they're going to be better they're going to make up for it they're going to apologize to you and tell you everything's going to be all right if you just forget about the past forget about everything they did to you yeah just forget about all of that that's not important that doesn't matter anymore because now they've had a change of heart they've decided to change they've decided to be better for you I don't think so you can't just suddenly change overnight and come back after everything that was done before so what do you do when they start hitting up your phone when they start trying to come back in they're messaging you they're calling you you block them you get rid of them just like they got rid of you all of those times before how many times did they reject you how many times did they treat you like you're nothing how many times did they hoover you just to get rid of you again how many times did they love bomb and devalue you and then love bomb you again and devalue you again how many times did they do that to you and yet I know some of you you have been so starved of love and attention you've been so starved of that for a very long time it may be for years it may be your entire life and no one ever cared about you no one give a damn about what you went through I know this person wants to come back and they expect you to forget all of that I just give them a chance things are going to be better this time no no I don't think so and in fact I think that if you did give them a chance if you believe them if you listen to what they are saying that would quite possibly be the biggest mistake you'd ever make in your entire life because if you think the last time was bad they will make sure that this time is a hundred times worse because the only problem was they didn't finish you off the first time they tried to destroy you you think they're coming back because you've had some time apart you've had some time to self reflect and improve yourself and get your life back together yes that may be where they're coming back just so they can use you again and destroy you not because they think oh you're a better person now now I've got to respect you I've got to treat you right they do not think like that if they thought like that they would have thought like that a very long time ago and yes this is how you should know that it's all lies it's all manipulation and future faking it's deception it's gaslighting and in many ways it is also the double bind as well because no matter what you do you're still wrong you're still bad and that is never going to change it's never going to change at all and it doesn't matter what they say it doesn't matter what they do they are never going to change they will always be that way and how you are you are always going to be you you're always going to be an empath you're always going to be a loving caring compassionate person and that is why you have to stay away from people like that because all they're going to do is drain your love your energy and that is going to prevent you from giving that to people who deserve it people who will appreciate you the first time they're not going to run you around on these endless cycles until they drive you insane and then they finally come back with a love moment and make you think that they've changed they're not going to play all these crazy head games with you and make you feel like you're losing your mind no they're not going to do that at all they're going to wear their heart and their sleeve and you are going to know from the very beginning that it is real and that is the difference stop being played by people who quite honestly don't give a shit about you they never did and they never will they will never care about you and you should know that they devalued you they discarded you because in their minds you're nothing you're garbage and they're never going to see you in any other way they're never going to appreciate you they're never going to respect you you're always going to be nothing and as long as you're around them that's exactly how you're going to feel it might be good for a few days about a weeks they will turn on you eventually they are never going to accept you so don't fall for their lies don't fall for their games you continue on your path you keep doing you if you've been watching my videos you've been doing that for some time already and i'm sure you are feeling a lot better you are empowering yourself it's a wise stop now just because they've decided to come back and act like they've changed they're better they can treat you right it's just going to ruin all of your progress after everything you went through you finally started to recover now here they come back just so they can take you off your path and destroy you all over again but this time it is going to be a lot worse because all they're going to do they're just going to finish the job this time they're going to make sure you don't get back up because that was the problem last time you got stronger and wiser well they didn't like that so yes be very careful they are extremely manipulative and deceptive and it can seem very real but some of you may already know yeah it seemed real in the beginning what about after a few days what about after a couple of weeks how real was it then exactly and that is how you know that yes it is fake it doesn't mean that you have to put yourself through it and lose a lot all over again lose your mental and emotional health lose everything that you worked for everything that is good about you you don't have to go through that just to lose all of that again you just have to listen to me to what i'm telling you because i've been through it many times already i already know exactly how it's going to end never give a narcissist another chance never do that you've already given them how many chances and they've already proven to you that they cannot be trusted so what makes you think that it's going to be different this time what incentive do they have to act right what are they going to get out of doing that and that is how you know yes it is all a lie and you are wasting your time don't give any energy to it keep that energy to yourself use it to become more productive and you will feel a lot better so yes that is what i advise you to do and i practice what i preach that is exactly what i do myself as you can see i i'm traveling i travel the world i travel alone i spend all of my time by myself by myself i've never felt happier before because being around toxic narcissistic manipulative people it just drains the life out of you they never bring anything to the table they only take things away and you just lose everything in the end you never gain anything out of it i've experienced so many situations already and i've lost a lot i've lost so much i can't even count just how much i've lost and i know that many of you have too you've lost so much of yourself so much of your life stop giving it away you're just giving it away to people who don't appreciate or respect it and then you wonder why there's no reciprocation you wonder why you keep giving parts of yourself and you're getting nothing back because you really need to realize that they have nothing to give nothing to give you are the one who has something to give and instead of constantly looking around for someone to give that to just give it to yourself give it to yourself and watch yourself grow and then maybe one day yes you will find someone who does actually appreciate you and they're not going to play head games they're not going to mess with your mind because they're probably going to look at you and realize you've been through that enough already many of you may be through that your entire life and they're going to have at least some empathy and compassion towards you if they are human so yes that is what i advise you to do is to just stay clear of these knocks they're just going to use you they're going to abuse you and you are going to be left far worse off than ever before and then when things go bad for you they're not going to be there they're going to leave you alone and you're going to have to deal with that on your own all over again and just imagine how painful that is going to be if you thought last time was bad it's just going to be even worse after you thought you became stronger and wiser and it's still happening to you again so take your trust away stop being hopeful start to grieve realize that they are dead there is no one there it's just your imagination it's a shared fantasy and that is all it's ever going to be as i've said before the best you will ever get from them is an illusion and that's never going to change i hope this video was helpful for you as you can see there is a lot of rain here the weather was actually pretty good earlier i was going to come out and do this video in the park it's quite difficult now because of the rain but i hope it was helpful and if it was you can give it a thumbs up down below it helps to support our community let me know your thoughts in the comment section i do read your comments every day share and subscribe for one-on-one coaching sessions you can book from my website it is narkseviver.co.uk and also i have my instagram it's narkseviver youtube on instagram i post new pictures and videos of my travels every day on there okay that's it for this video but we'll have another one tomorrow so you all have a great day and i will talk to you soon