 Shelly says, I'm giving, I'm a giving, caring, compassionate person, allowing those I choosing into my space, but it seems that my happy and expressiveness causes them to withdraw. I choose how much I invest than I withdraw myself. What is a way I can meet someone and not be so myself nice and friendly so I don't get steamrolled. So here's Shelly, I'd like to propose an idea for you right now. And the idea is that it's probably not that you're a happy person that's causing any kinds of problems in whatever situation that you're in. My guess is that it's something else. And so this is exactly what we're talking about before with the limiting beliefs. So is it really that you're a happy, expressive person that makes them withdraw? Is that really what the problem is? And my suggestion is that it probably isn't. It's probably something else in that you start looking at some other things that are going on that might actually be the real problem. Because if you think that you being happy and expressive is what the problem is and you start believing that you're going to go down the wrong road and you're going to go into a road that you don't want to go into. And so I'd start looking at some other things that might be going on there that isn't about being happy and expressive and just start asking people about it just to ask people that you know like what do you think this might be? Because if you think that it's this but it's actually not that then it might be something completely different. Another thing that you've mentioned here is you say so I don't get steamrolled. And that's really interesting for you to say right after saying that it's the problem is that you're happy and expressive and then you're talking about getting steamrolled which isn't has nothing to do with being happy and expressive right? So being happy and expressive and getting steamrolled are two completely different things. And what it sounds like is that you don't have boundaries. That's what getting steamrolled sounds like because people who have boundaries don't get steamrolled and you can be happy and expressive and have boundaries.