 So this is this is huge here. I love I love this is like one of the most important things I've been teaching for years and years and years and years and years and people use that they pay a lot of money for this So pay attention biggest secret is Making fun of yourself first is the ultimate defense It's the ultimate way to remove any fears you have about you or what you're doing or what you're talking about It's just making fun of yourself. This is unbelievable. I've said this before but it's really part of this whole thing I'm trying to teach today, so It was a great comedian I knew once he still does comedy and he had a huge nose It was ridiculous even bigger than James Marshall's nose You can check out his snout later just walk up to him kind of go wow there could be stuff and there could be girls up there They're probably have been anyway. I digress so this guy he had a really huge nose and he go on stage and He wouldn't say anything. He's an expert at creating at social tension So he'd walk up and everyone would look at him and he'd look at the audience He turned his head to the left and of course everyone sees his huge nose and you hear people start laughing and look over here It slowly turn his head and look at the audience over here and everybody else gets a look and there's more people start laughing His nose and then he literally just be doing this for 30 seconds I'm just laughing his nose Then he turned to the front and look at everybody and his first line to be Never notice how in pictures at certain angles no matter what you do your nose just looks big Right and everybody laughs because haha. It's not the pictures. It's his nose So how many people do you think for the rest of that comedy show? Make fun of him for his nose. How do you yell? Hey, man? You got a big nose. How many? None because he already made fun of himself first. He's diffused the tension Right so he's able to do his whole show and nobody says shit and everyone laughs at his jokes And he does great and he's doing that because imagine what he would do with that nose If he walks up on stage goes hey, and everybody's laughing his nose Yeah, so for my first joke and he starts doing some joke. He doesn't acknowledge it. What's gonna happen? Hey, look at your nose. Hi, your nose is huge, buddy Where'd you get that nose buddy from a camel whatever people will just start heckling him and he's fucked Okay, so this is a super cheat. I don't care what you're afraid of right? You want to diffuse your ego and stop giving a fuck what people think bring up your own weaknesses? Are you sure well cup to girl will be like hi you ever hear that short guys are best in bed? Well, I think you should find out, you know, how you doing? Hey, you know, you know what they say about Asians. It's true We're rich. Hi, what's going on? Whatever You know hey, you know what they say about black guys. That's really true. Let's get out of here Yeah, you know whatever doesn't matter, but just but just get in there and what seriously I got guys They're like oh well, you know, I'm too old. I can't hit our girls walk up to girls and be like hey I know you're thinking you're thinking I'm probably too old for you But guess what you're gonna learn how wrong you are or you're gonna learn, you know, we're super awesome Whatever it doesn't matter, but just make make the joke, you know if there's a girl and I think she might be too young I'll walk up to her and be like excuse me miss. I was gonna hit on you But I think you might be too young and I I like you but not enough to go to jail So how old are you and she'll be like I'm 20. I'll be like great. I'm Sasha You know find that she goes she goes I'm 15. I'll be like I'll see you in five years And I'll just walk off but but I'm but but if I'm really worried about I'm just gonna I'm just gonna put it out there And that's just me kind of circumventing that whole process of like oh what about this? What about this fucking say it and put it out there and have fun with it and it's really it's really a super cheat It's a super cheat to disable your ego. It's awesome Does that make sense? Is that useful? All right good So bonus fear busting game. All right, so this is This is interesting so this is just a little bonus for all you guys that Want to kill your social fear in the face totally And it's also I guess this is good for people who want to start a little bit at an easier temple They don't want to just run straight into like coming up to strangers and doing the crazy stuff So they might want to take it a bit easier and sort of work up to it. This is really great