 In a moment, I'm gonna recommend doing this before ever sleeping with a man. Let's talk about this for a moment though. What to do before having sex with someone? Have you noticed that sex seems to be rather trivial these days? In other words, it's just part of the dating process. It's part of the mating process. It's not something coveted as it once was in the past. In fact, most of the time or in the past before you could be physically intimate with someone, you'd have to marry them. Well, today that's out the window. In fact, some people call this the three date rule. And I'm gonna share with you a different version of the three date rule in a moment. But the three date rule basically said if you haven't had sex with someone by the third date, you are highly unlikely to get a fourth date. That seemed to be the prevailing narrative probably a half a dozen or a dozen plus years ago. That's certainly changing. But I wanna lean into this conversation at a deeper level. And that is, why does it seems like sex or sleeping with someone happens well before trust is built with another person? Like why does that happen? Think about trust though. We think of trust oftentimes in the narrative of fidelity, but isn't trust really, does this person have my best interest at heart? Does this person have my best interest at heart? So I'm curious to know why people will have physical intimacy before any level of trust happens. But I think it's because chemistry rules the initial dating phase. In other words, attraction and chemistry well before any real substantial data has been collected to determine if this person is right for you. But I wanna go a little bit deeper on this level because does anyone remember the movie Pretty Woman? If you do, Julia Roberts and Richard Gere back in, I think it was 1990 when that movie was released. And she was a sex worker. Back then they called it a prostitute. I've noticed that this terminology has changed. Also, I think she was called a hooker too. But one of her prerequisites when she was physically intimate with a man he'd have to wear a condom, but more importantly, she wouldn't even kiss someone on the mouth. She would only have sex with them. In other words, kissing was even far more intimate than being physically intimate with someone. And when you think about it, kissing is a rather intimate act. And yet in the dating lexicon, it's almost expected to kiss someone on a first date. And yet according to Julia Roberts in the movie, that was far more intimate than being physically intimate with someone or sexually intimate, I should say. So what should we be doing before we even engage in sexual intimacy, whether it's kissing, whether it's physical touch, what should we be doing? Now use the word should, you're welcome to do whatever you want in your life. These are merely suggestions on my part. But I invite you all to operate and try this before you're physically intimate with a man. And that is I want you to try being intentional in the process of getting to know someone, being actually intentional. In other words, being both of mind, of body, of spirit and emotions, okay? We oftentimes operate on the emotions and the body, but what's missing is connection with your divine self and more importantly, connecting with your logical self, mind, body, spirit and emotions. See, if we're driven by the body and emotions, it just feels good. We could possibly gravitate being with someone who may not be a good fit for us. And I'm gonna invite you to look at it from this following perspective. Now what's interesting is one of my contemporaries talks about the fact that you're the CEO of your life, your relationship life and the man you're dating is the intern. And I've always liked this narrative because I've always said for myself is you are in charge of your relationship destiny. Do not leave that up to a man, okay? Now, he should also be the CEO of his life and you're the intern. See, the problem I have with this narrative is when we think of an employee-employer relationship, there's usually a one-up, one-down dynamic. And certainly when you're interviewing for a job, you're interviewing as to whether or not this is the right job for me. And when an employer is interviewing, they're trying to determine if this employee is right for me or for our company, I should say. But at the end of the day, when the job is filled and this person is no longer the intern, whether it's the man or the woman, the problem is the employer has precedent in the relationship. And I don't like that kind of narrative. I certainly like the idea that we should vet people much like the interview process in the early stages of securing a job. There's a trial period, there's a probationary period. And that's to determine if two people are really a good fit for one another. But I have a different way or a different analogy I'm going to offer today that's slightly, you know, eschewed from what was just shared. And again, I have a great deal of respect for what is shared, but I wanna skew it just a little bit. And this centers around conscious coupling, conscious relationships. These are relationships that have a shared vision or shared vision, shared values, shared agreements and shared plans, right? They share it mutually in the process of getting to know one another. This is more of an intentional way to approach the dating process than the current way that's built on chemistry, lust or limerence. And remember earlier I talked about the three-date role, I'm gonna offer up an alternative to the three-date role in a moment. But I want you to actually look at this versus, instead of the CEO and the intern, I want you to look at this from a different perspective and I invite you to look at it as partnership, partnership much like, let's say two attorneys decide they want to partner up and start a law firm, you know, Jones and Smith law firm. Or maybe two accountants that are going to start an accounting firm, you know, Smith and Jones accounting firm. See, they're two sovereign beings partnering together in this dynamic to benefit the whole. Rather than the employee employer, which is the one up, one down dynamic, I'm talking about a side-by-side dynamic. It's where two people come together each with their own mutual strengths into this partnership. And they contribute at a mutual level into this partnership. In fact, I invite you all to check out a book. This is a business book. It's called The Partnership Charter. By the way, all the books I recommend are listed in the description under Jonathan recommends books. How to start outright with your new business partnership. This isn't a dating and relationship book. This is a business book, but it actually outlines in some detail how to begin a partnership with another human being. And there's a lot of great content in here. One of the fundamental principles is mutual exchange, mutual exchange. That is recognizing is what do you come to the table with your positive strengths? Each one of you come to the table with positive strengths. And in fact, I know in a recent, in one of my most significant relationships, she came to the table with these strengths that were much greater than I had in my own life. And I got to benefit from her strengths and she got to benefit from my strengths in mutual collaboration with one another in a mutual exchange. It wasn't this one up, one down. And because of that, relationships have a greater chance for success when people enter into it intentionally. And I said mind, body, spirit, and emotions. It's important to be intentional, to be rational because we can so get caught up in the deception of chemistry, that lust or limerence that seems to be the prevailing narrative these days. So I wanna dive into the three-date rule right now because I'm inviting everyone to try this, to do this, do this before you ever physically get intimate with a man. And since we decided earlier, if you agreed with me or not, kissing and physical and sexual intimacy is rather emotionally, it binds us possibly emotionally to another person. It's important to come at it with some level of where with all. So the three-date rule given is starts from this premise. Now, given that well over 50, if not 60 or 70% of all new relationships seem to happen with an online connection, an online connection. Seems to be most people are meeting through their dating apps or a dating site, whether it's Bumble, whether it's hinge, whether it's the league, whether it's millionaire match, whether it's match.com, OKCupid or plenty of fish or J-Date, just to name a few. Seems like people are meeting total strangers. And I wanna liken this much like folks, I used to be in sales. If you're familiar with sales to any level or any degree, I want you to think about this. You grab, it used to be, you'd grab a phone book and you'd start dialing all the numbers. And try to get someone on the phone to sell them whatever product you had. By the way, have you ever got a call from a telemarketer? This is known as cold calling. Well, the dating apps, the dating profiles are initially just a version of the telephone book and people are cold calling one another because they're literally complete strangers. If you're not familiar with the book by Malcolm Gladwell called Talking to Strangers, I invite you to check this out. By the way, you can go to YouTube and watch the abbreviated version of this, but my point is that the subtitle is what we should know about the people we don't know. Folks, we go into this process, by the way, coming back to that partnership charter, we come into this process with such high hopes. If we have amazing chemistry, this is just gonna naturally work out without ever doing our due diligence. This is why for those who follow my work know I'm a dating and relationship coach. I teach how to vet men on behalf of women. I teach you how to vet for emotional maturity and most importantly, how to vet for compatibility. By the way, there's a link right here to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. There's a link below as well. My point is, is we have to be more discerning in this process because as we started this conversation kissing and physical sexual intimacy is something very sacred or at least I hope you view it as sacred and maybe applying this new three date rule, you might find yourself avoiding the wrong person and actually inviting in the right person in your life. So we talked about a moment ago how you meet through an online dating connection. All right, so two people have met through this. Oh, I wanna go back to this. Oh, I'm sorry. I've been doing one of my Jonathan tangents, okay? Remember I said earlier it was about cold calling, dialing for dollars, dialing for dollars. Those are cold leads. Now it used to be when I was in sales, I used to network at business functions. I'd network with people, I'd interact with people, I'd build some rapport with someone and then later I would follow up with a basically a call to determine if they would be interested in allowing me to interview them and them interview me for that potential purchase or sale. Those were called warm leads and I want to invite everyone if you're actually going to be in the dating marketplace, they just remember that online is cold calling but getting out into the physical world, whether it's a meetup group, whether it's joining a pickleball group, maybe it's going on a cruise with a bunch of singles where you get to interact with people. These create greater opportunity for what I call warm leads and a warm lead has a greater chance for success because A, you've eliminated that initial confusion of whether or not there's going to be a physical attraction with one another and you've built a level of rapport with someone. Wouldn't it be better to go and meet someone from a warm lead perspective? Maybe you're going to a spiritual retreat. Maybe you're going to a personal development self-help workshop. I know I'm going to a workshop very soon right now. It's probably going to be mostly women. What a great place for a man to be is a place where there's mostly women and I invite you to go to places where there's mostly men. You know, might be a business seminar, you know, a lot of men go to Tony Robbins events, just to name a few but put yourself in an environment for warm leads but if you're operating from a cold calling perspective, in other words, those cold leads, I invite you to use this three-date role and it works like this. The first date is a pre-date telephone call. In other words, we think of a date as a physical meeting but the first date is actually the telephone call. It's the pre-physical meeting with someone. And during this phone call, I invite you all to have three of your top must-haves answered before you physically meet someone, your three of your must-haves, whatever those must-haves might be for you. It might be that you're a religious person and you go to church regularly, you may want to find out if that person is aligned with that. You might be into personal development, self-help and spiritual work and you want someone who's also aligned with that, that they want to grow past their childhood wounds and traumas, find out these must-haves because they turn if they don't meet the must-have, then you should recognize that these are deal breakers, your three core must-haves. Now, certainly we have more than these must-haves and I know many of you think of must-haves as I need to be with someone with honesty, integrity and trust. I call those givens, okay? Does anyone remember geometry? The first equation was a given. You don't need to be, that's something that is given. Now, it is something earned or it's something observed over time to see if this person is in integrity, is honest, is trustworthy. It takes time to determine that but during this first phone call, I invite you all to check out, talking on the phone, what are your three core must-haves and get those answered before you meet someone. Folks, let me give you an example of how this might play out. Let's just use the example that you want to have children and you're on the phone, I'm using this as an example, you're on the phone with someone, say I'm interested in having a child, where do you stand on this? And if they say, yeah, no, I don't want children, well, then you don't need to meet them. You got this out of the way on the first phone call. Or if they even say, well, I'm open to it but the guy's 55 years old, I highly doubt he wants to have children after the age 45. Again, there's the exceptions of the rule but they usually say that as a way to rope you in. You want to get some critical first things out of the way during the first phone call. Okay, next is what's known as the meet and greet. This is where you're physically meeting someone. This is the time to have a short experience, whether it's meeting for a cocktail, whether it's meeting for coffee, just to see if you vibe well together, just to see if you vibe well together. And you can ask some deeper questions during this time if you're vibing well together, you can find out a little bit more about their personality, their hobbies, the things that they like to do. And that's called the meet and greet. And oftentimes most people never make it past a meet and greet. In fact, I would say these days, probably 97 out of 100 meet and greets rarely ever turn into an actual significant date after that. And that's really the third of this three date rule is if two people vibe well together, they like each other, then it's important to reinforce this by having another meeting very quickly, very early on, not to make it drag out, okay? Not to allow it to drag out, I should say. Meet very early on to determine if what you observe the first time is legitimate, if this vibe is this connection legitimate. See, I want you to start doing this if you haven't done this before. And if you have, let me know in the comments below. I'd like to know what your current strategy is. Post a comment below, I'd like to hear that. But I invite you to do this, do this before you sleep with a man, before you get too involved with a man. First and foremost is be intentional, be intentional, be mindful, be in your logical state versus strictly your emotional and physical desires allowing them to be on the forefront to your mind. Number two, I invite you all to view conscious partnership. In other words, two sovereign beings joining together side by side in partnership and read some of the books I recommend. Because again, your job is to vet if this person meets in your partnership capacity. And then practice my three date rule. When is the right time to sleep with a guy? You have to decide that for yourself. I know people have slept together on a first date and they're happily married. And I know people who have waited till marriage to sleep together and it turned out to be a disaster. But I will say this to everyone, we talked about trust being paramount. I believe it takes about a hundred hours, a face to face time just to build the first layer of trust. And as I said earlier, trust isn't just about fidelity. Trust is, does this person have my best interest at heart? I want you to really think about this. Does this person have my best interest at heart? Could take more than a hundred hours. It could take 200 hours. It might take, you could spend years with someone and they don't have your best interest at heart. See, I invite you all to go a bit deeper than the surface that we've been indoctrinated in because everything we've learned about relationships up until the last few years that I've been posting my content is wrong. And I invite you to try a different narrative going forward. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. If it is, please post a comment below. I'd like to hear your thoughts. Also, if you found value in this video, please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel and hit the notification bell as well. Okay, I hope you found value in this video. Now it's time for Q and A. All right, for those who know my format, if you have a question, write the word question and then post the question there after or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. There's a little dollar sign in the chat box. And if you're watching the replay, you can purchase the Super Thanks. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. He's my son who passed away a few years ago. That's a picture of him right there in the obey shirt. In his honor, I donate to causes like the Hoffman Process Insight Institute and Seeds of Love, which is an organization out of Columbia to help underprivileged children. All right, so it looks like we have some questions. Again, it purchased a Super Sticker Super Chat and our goal is to get $50 today. So we'd love some support. All right, buddy is in the house and they write, what percentage of men in your estimate lie about crucial facts? So we females look at them more favorably. I've asked how long since his last serious relationship, he said years, it was six months. Well, if you're not familiar with my emotional maturity relationship skills chart, buddy, I'm just gonna share this with you. Please forgive the glare, by the way, this is not a fact, it's merely an opinion. I believe roughly 20% of the population has clinical issues when it comes to their emotional maturity and relationship skills and why I say 20% are healthy. I'm probably being very generous with my 20%. Roughly most everybody is dysfunctional at some level. They have childhood wounds or traumas or adult traumas that cause them to be in a state of fear or in a state of selfishness. See here in the United States in particular, we are rather a self-centric society. I know narcissists is thrown about, but I really just believe that a significant percentage of people are myopic, myopic. They only focus in their own view. This isn't intentional. I don't believe that most people do this intentionally. I think it's just a byproduct of the dysfunctional environment we live in, including social media and the way we connect with people in the last 20 years has substantially changed. Life was so, folks, for those of us in midlife, which is after baby making years and before retirement, dating and relationships 20 plus years ago was a whole different ballgame, the way we interacted with people. There's such divide here. There's so much animosity and frustration and pain. Humans are suffering these days and relationships are no longer based on survival needs. It's no wonder we have a dysfunctional group of human beings because we have a group of human beings that are rather unhealed or not healing themselves to establish a healthy, happy, juicy, delicious relationship. So I would say the percentage is rather high. By the way, and buddy, let me just say this, women lie commensurate to men, okay? Men and women equally lie. Folks, I know my audience is mostly women but let me just say this, as a man who's been single out in the dating marketplace, you women are just as bad at this shit as men. You don't get a free pass here. I'm an equal opportunity judge of human dysfunctionality, okay? All right, so thanks for that question. I really appreciate it. Hey, one of the members in my Facebook group, hey, listen, if you'd like to connect with me on a more regular basis, check out the link to my group called Midlife Love Mastery. This is a group where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis. We shoot videos for members in the group and I actively post or actively respond to the questions in the group. That's called Midlife Love Mastery and it's in the description below. And one of our Facebook members in the group, I appreciate the explanation on how to break down those early stages of vetting. You're very welcome. What are some good questions to ask on a first date? Well, I invite you to ask deeper questions before the first date. One good question is, does anybody believe they're in a relationship with you? I think my friend, Ariel Ford, shared that one with me years ago. It could have been someone else who wrote that. I don't know who, but I remember her sharing that with me, does anyone else believe they're in a relationship with you? Excuse my slurping. By the way, my coffee mug says, don't make me go all psycho roommate on you. Excuse my slurping. It's a little bit hot. Another good question is, what is your relationship vision? How do you envision a relationship in your life? How do you envision commitment in your life? What does commitment look like for you? What does a relationship look like for you? Oh, I just want something casual. Let's just take it slow and see where it goes. Okay, well, you can take it slow as all you want. You ain't gonna get my vagina until I'm talking to someone who knows what the fuck they're looking for. That might be a good way. It may not be the way you want to say it out loud, but that's just the way I invite you to interpret it. Okay, Ruth, so I hope that helps with a couple of good questions to get started with. Annette's in the house and she says, avoidance are tougher. Is 100 hours of face-to-face still a goal? Going out is rare and it's okay to date such a person. I'm gonna share with you. People, okay, so there's anxious, avoidant and secure attachment styles. If you're not familiar with two books, highly recommend reading attached by Amira Levine and Rachel Heller or the book Wired for, oh, this is Wired for Dating. Let me grab Wired for Love. Wired for Love by Dr. Stan Tatkin. Or you can check out Wired for Dating. By the way, the link's below to get all the books I recommend. Okay, this helps you understand the three primary love attachment styles, avoidant, anxious and secure, and there's subtitles within each one of them. Here's the thing. For example, I have been an anxious attacher, okay? Means I have a propensity to be a little bit insecure and needy. By the way, avoidance are insecure as well, but they avoid closeness and anxious people need closeness. Now, I know in my relationships, I've been able to work on healing those insecurities, and while there's still possibly a default, I would say on a scale from one to 10, 10 being the worst, I am certainly down to a two or three versus that 10, okay? And so let's go back to the avoidant. The avoidant are people that struggle being emotionally available. They tend to be emotionally constipated. They're not very expressive on a scale from one to 10. Are they possibly a 10, or could they be a one, two, or three, or are they a four, five, or six, okay? Here's the thing. When you're with an avoidant, that's anything above a three in their capacity to be emotionally expressive, to be able to lean into emotions, it's gonna be rather difficult to be in relationship, especially if you're a 10 as an anxious attacher, okay? So first, I invite you to look in yourself and saying, what is my attachment level? Most everybody does the tests online and they turn out that they think they're secure. It fascinates me how we gaslight, and you know, Khosof, how we gaslight ourselves, how we bypass our true nature. Human beings whitewash their own behavior thinking they are, they are the exception, not the rule. So first, you have to look at your patterns in past relationships, and if you see a pattern, just because you think you've healed it, you probably still have a default in that pattern, okay? But I would say this and that, it sucks being with someone who's emotionally constipated, emotionally unavailable, avoidant of their emotions. It sucks being with those people. Maybe take the tests online, but again, taking the tests online is oftentimes fruitless, what's the word I'm thinking of? Is possibly people gaslight themselves when they answer the questions? This is where you have to date and start to be, okay, so folks, I've indoctrinated in my own personal experiences and the lexicon I teach, I call it radical honesty, laying your cards on the table and the rules of engagement. Radical honesty is, hey, right from the get-go, start speaking your truth from a kind place, that's radical honesty. Laying your cards on the table, hey, doing an unpacking session of your past relationships together. This is part of this narrative of vetting one another and the rules of engagement is establish what type of relationship you're looking for before you ever become physically intimate with someone. Radical honesty, laying your cards on the table, the rules of engagement. And within the rules of engagement, those are your standards. And within your standards, you better have your boundaries. What's, and by the way, I like the way Brene Brown talks about boundaries, what's okay and what's not okay for me. I do like Brene Brown's version of it. Okay, and that, I hope that helps. Mara Majana, well, aren't we all somewhat broken? Yes, we are all somewhat broken. It's just on the scale from one to 10, are you at 10, like you are a train record disaster, are you just a mile 11 of broken? And by the way, when two mile 11 broken people get together, their job is to help heal one another in this sacred partnership union. But yes, I do agree with that. All right, let's keep going. Robin Floyd says, watching Jonathan is like hanging out with my bestie. Folks, you know, with my circle of friends, I exhaust the hell out of them. I'm addicted to understanding human behavior. So I can go on for hours and hours of the time talking about this stuff. So thank you so much. Darcy writes, okay, if a man wants to come to my house every evening, is that a good sign? Yeah, it's a good sign. He wants to have sex with you. That's a good sign. He wants to see you regularly and have sex. That's probably most likely the sign that he's giving you. Okay, Francis is in the house and she says, can you do a segment about dating plus single dads? Because it looks like there is more to navigate around than meeting men without children who've got them just every second weekend. Okay, I love this question. Let's dive into those. So remember, whether you're a man or woman and you have children that require being raised, okay? And I would say from the ages of, you know, obviously babies on up to the ages 16 at a minimum require fairly regular support from a parent who's got primary custody from them. Remember that child is most likely going to be the priority in their life, okay? In fact, the sad part is whoever typically enters into someone's life, usually the child is the priority and the next person is secondary. And oftentimes that person doesn't feel very loved when they are in a second position, okay? It's kind of like when you've got children and you've got your favorite and then you have the one, well, anyway, let me not go down that road. So someone who has active custody and is raising a child can be most likely put that child at a much higher, so then it depends on how much of a priority they put this child. Now I just talked about ages zero to 16, but quite frankly, what a lot of men and women find themselves as their children age, that child is still a significant priority in their life. And in some cases turn into what's called covert incest. And what that means is it doesn't mean physical, it's called emotional incest. What that doesn't necessarily mean sexual incest, I'm talking about that child becomes the emotional support for this individual and their child actually replaces the opposite sex, this is usually an opposite sex dynamic. A man with young girls or with girls in their lives and women that have sons in their lives, okay? Or daughters, I should say, men with daughters, women with sons. Their child ends up being their primary emotional support as this happens frequently, emotional incest. And you are always going to be not second, you're gonna be third, fourth or fifth on the line. This is why you have to really do a good job vetting a person to see how their relationship is with their children because it could end up being a problematic relationship as this progresses on. This is something I've just observed on a frequent basis and it's important to be aware of it. Great question, Francis. Darcy wants to know, how long should you date before sex? Folks, I have a simple rule. Have sex, use my acronym CARES. Can someone write this in the chat box? C-A-R-E-S, C-A-R-E-S, okay, CARES. The C stands for don't have sex until you're comfortable with someone, until you're comfortable with someone, okay? You could be on the first date, you can feel comfortable with someone, but I invite you to go a little bit deeper than comfort. In the second, the A stands be aware of the consequences. In other words, if you attach quickly to another human being, if you attach quickly, be aware of the consequences. The other person may not attach to you at the same rate that you attach to them. The R stands for learn their real intentions, are they in it for, do they have a short-term mating strategy or do they have a long-term mating strategy? Learn their real intentions, the E stands for exclusive. And what that means is if two people are going to have regular sex together, then I'm of the belief it should be monogamous and exclusive with one another, if you're going to have regular sex. First time sex is never a guarantee you're ever going to see someone again, but if you're going to have regular sex, you better have the agreement of having sex and the agreement of monogamy and exclusivity. And the S stands for safety. Whether that's sexually transmitted disease safety, whether it uses condoms, whether it's birth control, whether it's feeling like you're in a safe environment, do not have sex with someone until you feel safe. Cares, C, A, R, E, S. Does that help Darcy? That's how long you should wait when you feel all of those, okay? Let's see. We're going to marry Marjana. If you're in a long run, if you're in a long, if you're in for a long run of dating, doesn't that say you are the worst person to go to bed with? If you are in a long run of dating, doesn't that say you are the worst person to go to bed too? And actually, I don't get that question. I don't get the long run of dating. But thank you for posting it, I appreciate it. Let's keep going here. Val is in the house. Question, from a man's perspective, can a woman's fashion style change a man's mind on whether he is attracted to a woman despite her have great potential partner qualities? Okay, what's interesting, Val, I was just watching the Love Is Blind, I think it's season five episode where if you're not familiar with Love Is Blind, it's on Netflix. The couple was JP, and I can't remember the woman's name. And these are people that connect blindly to see if they're a fit with one another and then they physically meet and then explore a relationship together. And this JP guy said, the minute I met you, I didn't like the way you looked. He didn't like her fake eyelashes, they were grotesque eyelashes, he didn't like how her makeup was caked on, he didn't like the way she looked. She had way too much makeup on in his mind. And for that, that was a great big turn off and it totally spoiled the experiment because he was just literally turned off. So yes, I think some woman people's fashion style can be a turn off. I know like some women like men in suits, other women like men that are like, I'm a jeans and flip-flop kind of guy, that's a turn off for some women. So women's style, a woman's style, the way she dresses, the style, the way a man dresses can be a turn off to another person. Now, I'd like to hope there is more to a relationship. Like you said, the better quality is within the person, the heart of a person. But these can affect the dating process when styles are different with one another. So you hope that there is a deeper connection that goes beyond the styles, but yes, that can affect someone's decision-making process. It just happens to be where we're humans that operate from our ego rather than our heart in many cases. Okay. The famous Kiki says, hi, I'm here because Jonathan did a short about texting ruining relationships. I subscribe. Well, thank you for that. I appreciate it. Oh, Leaves wants to remind everyone to be aware of emotional incest, run, forest, run, and I'm agreement. And by the way, here's my acronym, CARES, Comfortable, Aware of the Consequences, Real Intentions, Exclusive and Safety Insects, CARES. Liske has a question. If you have a friend with a child and you see this cover incest going on, is there anything you could say to them and anonymously send them a book? You know, humans are on their own path. You know, how do we learn? We typically learn not from advice, we learn through our mistakes. And some of us have to repeat a mistake over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. What's the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over again expecting different results. So you can give them all advice. People, by the way, very only truly introspective people who value other people's opinions, who value other people's opinions, will ever listen to advice from another human being. I would say the vast majority of humans are rather closed off to advice. And by the way, and we, and by the way, we can take advice and then we can wash, wipe wash that advice. We can, you know, we can take red flags and paint them green. We can gaslight ourselves. Humans, our ego is such a complex machine of trying to convert in many cases. I think our ego intentionally makes us make bad choices so we can actually begin to make good choices in our lives to actually love ourselves. I do believe that's the job of the ego is to make your life so fucking complicated that you actually choose love over fear and selfishness. That's just my impression anyway. All right. All right, let's keep going. Liz says, thank you. I worried about my daughter suffering from this mistake. Well, you're very welcome. I appreciate that. Hey, folks, you know what? I'm gonna get going. It's Saturday. I hope you found value in this video. If you did, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this to do this before you ever sleeping with the guys to be intentional, to view this as a conscious partnership capacity and also really practice my three-date rule, my version of a three-date rule going forward. And if you did, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this. 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