 What's going on? You all welcome to the single guy channel. My name is Lloyd. I am not the single guy today We're gonna be talking about why women ghost why she ghosted you instead of just being honest Why can't people just say hey? I'm not interested Well, we're gonna talk about that and there's you know some pretty good reasons for it and hopefully by the end You'll understand it. You know my goal for you from this video is to come away having a better understanding of female Psychology psychology people in general because a lot of this stuff can be applied to both men and women You know there might be one reason that I go over here. That's only applicable to women But most of this stuff is universal so you understand the process better You understand the game more because whether you want to or not you're playing the game if you're in dating Understanding that will allow you to get less frustrated You know I this very few times where I'll encounter a situation where I can't predict what's going to happen next in Terms of dating and because of that I know that you know these things are going to happen and as a result I don't get frustrated. I don't get mad You know, I don't experience nearly the same level of mistakes and frustrations I did in my my younger years, but when I do because inevitably like things don't always end up exactly the way you want them to I understand why and the why builds such an incredible amount of confidence So I want you guys to be able to have that something that we talk about a lot of my coaching programs So we'll talk about this right now. The first reason I would say they don't want to be me okay, they want to Go about their life and pick the easy option If you look at the grand sum total ghosting someone is not the nicest thing to do It's probably one of the meaner things do it would be nicer if you told them Hey, look, listen, I'm just not interested and here's the reason why that way that person has constructive feedback They won't do the same thing again They won't keep making the same mistakes and they can be better for the next person But most people don't do that in fact very rarely will people do that You know, they just want to kind of get by and do the right thing for them And as a result being nice is what they want or they want to seem as being nice, okay? I actually don't think this is the most common reason and I'll explain why in a second, but a lot of times if they just decided they're completely not interested in you and They ghost it's because they're trying to be seen as nice and they know if they get into that Area it's gonna require a conversation, right? The second thing that women have told me is that they are afraid about the repercussions physically from the guy You know, I had one girl was telling me that she's afraid about, you know guys getting angry and hurting her physically if they if she rejects them outright and That's true in person, but not true over the phone because they're not there You know, they're it's there you probably never gonna see that person again in reality And if you're worried about the physical repercussions or you're worried about them getting angry They're probably gonna get angry or if you just say nothing and ignore them and don't give them a reason So I think that's the weakest reason out of all of them But it is something that you know a lot of women will do Another one that comes up is like she just gets really really busy with things and you're not high on her priority list And so you kind of fade out This is probably someone who you know, maybe she likes you a little bit, but not that much, right? And then the other option, which is I think probably the most common and I'll explain why is She kind of wants to keep you around as an option like a lot of women When they go on a date with somebody and it goes kind of okay, and they're just not really like feeling anything They don't want to outright say hey look. I'm just not interested because What if she talks to like a bunch of other guys and it doesn't work out she still has that door open there She still has you as an option and so because of that. She doesn't want to tell you that She's not interested because she can't come back and say hey by the way when I said I wasn't interested I was just kidding. I actually am interested. I just been really busy. What are you doing this weekend? She's probably not gonna say that in reality It's better to just kind of go somebody or slowly fade out that way when you come back You can just say oh my god. I'm so sorry like I just saw this I was you know she'll say XYZ was happening. I was super busy. Whatever. Yeah, what are you up to this week? Okay, that was probably a better option for her in the long run if she wants to keep her options open because the truth is when you go on a date or when you interact with somebody it's like For you to pick a yes or a no right then in there is like really tough But if it's not like a hell yes, she's probably gonna look for more options She's probably gonna look for other guys in the area that are gonna be better a better fit for her Okay, so for that reason people like to keep their options open and they like to maybe she'll respond here and there But she's probably gonna like slowly fade out because in the end It's better to have more allies and more options than it is to have less options And in the reality people are gonna act in their own self-interest Even if they're they consider themselves to be a really good person they consider themselves to be a really nice or kind person They're still gonna do this like no matter what I know there's a lot of older dating coaches out there that Like really admonish people for ghosting. I'm a realist like ghosting is gonna happen like with technology and stuff like that people are just gonna do it and in reality you have to prepare yourself for a Realistic situation then some fantasy world where nobody's ghosting each other it's going to happen and when it happens now that you understand it a little bit better and You know to try not to be so harsh on yourself because a lot of times it's not just an outright like you suck Which I hope nobody's interpreting that as such It's more of a kind of in between like she kind of wants to keep you around, but it's not quite there yet type situation and the truth is like men do this all the time too, I've done it I've done it plenty of times and it's not the proudest thing that I'm That I've done but it is something that I'm very aware of and I know other people are probably gonna do it to me in the Future so if you understand this process then you're gonna be a lot less frustrated And I think it's gonna help you out a lot So that's the why if you want the how to deal with ghosting what exactly to do I highly recommend you check out some of my other videos I have plenty of videos on ghosting and how to handle it and what to do better It really comes down to knowing your worth and valuing yourself and going after things that are going to give you the attention that you deserve And that's really what it comes down to you guys So if you may didn't consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week. 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