 Deep breaths. Okay. Alright guys, welcome to another video. This is... Because the last one was awkward. Okay, so my name is Kwame and this is... Hi, I'm Elaine. And in today's video, I'm gonna let Elaine explain what we're gonna do. Okay, over to me. Yes. So... Now I have to laugh a lot. Why? Okay, sorry. I'm very professional. Today we're gonna do a game. We were actually introduced by it, by Krabbe's best friend. Shout out to you. You know who we were. She introduced us to this game. We're not really strangers. Inside we are all the same. She prepared it in... She prepared it for our anniversary. So she prepared a little surprise. She made a whole cheese platter for us. And if you know me well, you know I love cheese. And then she gave the game with it to kind of... I don't know, stimulate our conversations. And it was a really nice game. And we didn't even wanna finish it that night because it was so nice. And that is why we decided to bring it here to share with you guys. What the game is about. So it's something... It's not something out of the ordinary that we don't do here. We do a lot of question games here. So it's one of those couple or family and friends question game. Just to speak your mind and know each other better. You can play with your friends, with family. But she gave us the relationship pack. So that's the one we're gonna work with today. We have three levels. So the first level is perception. So it's more on the surface. Then the second level is connection. And then the third level is reflection. So we'll pick a few cards from every level and then we will answer the questions. But the game says that... I don't know if we should do that part. The game says that before you start the first person who draws the first card and asks the question, we have to stare at each other's face or in each other's eyes. We have to stare at each other's eyes. The person who blinks first loses. And the other person has to pick a card. I already know how this is gonna go. But let's go. Please don't make it long. Three, two, one, start. Why are you doing it all today? You can cut this out of the video. No, I'm not cutting it. You blinked? Okay. So yeah, I have no one drawing. So I'm gonna go from level one. And the first one is perception. So I'm taking from the top card. And who do you think was more nervous on our first date? Explain. That's the first card. I barely talked, so I think me. And I also remember talking a lot, which is also a sign that I'm nervous. So I think both of us were nervous on our first date. We went to the cinema. Very bad movie with Zac Efron. Are we ever gonna be better than this? It's about a DJ once we famous or something on Ibiza. Or two, the jitters were going in between us. So we didn't even really watch it. So much. So yeah, we're both nervous on our first date. Yeah. So yeah, that's the question you go. All right. What do you think my perfect date night would be? Elaine, perfect date night. Well, you know my love language, huh? Spending time together is your thing. I'm not sure if you would want to go out. Yeah, I want to go out. You want to go out on your perfect date night? Oh, then go into a place where we both like the food. Yes, food is important. And have possibly been there before. If not been there, we've been given a really good review by somebody you trust. And I can imagine that my phone set should not show up. And then we have the good food, good drinks. We talk and come home and chill together for the rest of the night. Yeah, it's nice. But I mean, we could add some live music, you know. So we eat, drink and then we go to, you know. That's your perfect date night. You tell me. I've described what I think it is. Yeah, I think you're missing what I also really like is that when you start preparing and you're dressing up and like... Oh, so I should have started? Yes, you started at home. Wow. Dressing up is important. Okay. Yeah, okay. I was close enough. I think your date night is similar. I mean, good food, drinks. But on the other hand, you also like adventure. So like how I took you out on the quads and then for Fufu, we went after... I will link the video somewhere up here. Yeah, but this is a date night. Oh, okay. Then... For me, I... Not too chic, but nice. You wear something special. Let me go for food, drinks. Maybe we'll go to another bar for drinks that we go... Yeah. Or a boring date night where we're both home, cozy it up. We order in. We have some alcohol and we watch TV. Watch a movie. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, one more level than I'm done with level one. Yeah. Okay. How important do you think birthdays and holidays are to me? Explained. Not really important to you. Why? You don't really care too much for holidays. I think you're fine with it. I mean, it's not like you don't want to do anything, but you won't come up with something to do. Birthdays, I think your own birthday, you never want to do anything. I think at this birthday, you like to do things for them. I mean, you'll think of the person, but it's not like you organize parties for everybody and all these things. When we did the party for my birthday, which I really wanted, I was struggling. Yeah. You found that there were too many people in the house and I mean, when you throw a party, things will get dirty, right? Because people walk in with their shoes and all these things. So he was like literally cleaning while the people were still there. And I mean, I love him very much, but at that point I was literally like, you really have to do this now? Yeah, but it's okay. Everybody has its things. So that was difficult for you. So I think you agreed after that birthday that I can only do a party once a year. So you can mentally prepare, because that was a bit too much anyway. Yeah. Okay. So now we're going to go to level two, which is connection. Go deeper. What recent experience made you feel closer to me? So you answered that? Yes. For yourself. Yeah. What made you feel closer to you? Oh, the recent one would literally be our anniversary night when we came across this game for the first time. No, they're actually two of them. I really loved spending the day with you during the Quad and Fufu. And the night we did this game that we're playing now. And your first cheese platter? Yeah, my first cheese platter. I really loved... No, three. Okay. Three. That's a good score. Three instances. Quad, cheese platter were the games. And then celebrating your new job dinner. Yeah, that was also nice. Yeah, that was really good. We should have made a vlog out of that, but... Some things we want to keep private. Yeah. So Elaine got a new job and we did a private chef dinner at home. Yes, you did. Yeah. That was really good. So good. I told you what I was going to say last night, because I had a really long day at work and then I came home and I was super drained. And then... I don't even know what we had a big complication about. Oh yeah, I was a bit snappy. Sorry. Sorry again. I already said sorry. I did not only do this on camera. Yeah. So we had this little big complication. And then later on while he went to get some fish for fried yam and pepper, I came across some ideas for episodes. So I texted him. Then when he came back, we started like throwing around ideas. Yeah. And lots of episodes planned out of that creative banter. That was good as well. Yeah. Yeah. So I thought he was going to say that. I really liked it. Okay. That's a lot of... Yeah. Sorry. I don't know. I'm fine. Yeah. So that's... That's good. That's good. No, it's my turn. Or you didn't you read just yet? You just... Oh, okay. I'm sorry. And I just answered. Okay. Wild card. Oh. No, but I'm going to play the wild card. Okay. We have to write down something. We didn't prepare for that. Yes. No, not a wild card. Okay. How do strengths and weaknesses complement each other? That's a good question. And I have to answer it on my own. This game is not fun. Well, one very obvious one is... Graham is very impulsive, very creative. He likes to really chase ideas when they come to him. I, on the other hand, am a bit more organized. I'm a Virgo. They are very known to be going out into the world with a plan. And they stick to the plan, which is true because I have a lot of discipline. I like to be organized. I think that's a good complimenting. Yeah. So me, impulsive, wild, creative, go, go, go. I'm also creative, but I'm a different kind of creative. Yeah. And then you are more. So it's more like a... It's a blend. There's the free flow and structure, a bit of both. Yeah. And maybe I'm very open about my, I would say, experiences. And you are a bit more keeping things for yourself. But how does it complement each other? Well, I pulled that out of you. That's not complementary. How do you feel? It does, because it keeps it balanced, because... No? Do you also take some of my energy and hold some things to yourself? No. Exactly. So it's not complementary. Difficult. Do they have any other? No. It's okay. It's too difficult. Yeah. So this is another question. No, you're going actually. See, what have I helped you appreciate about yourself? These questions are tough. We can do a little ad break. Oh no, we don't have ads. Really? What have you helped me appreciate about myself? Wow. Ori, I already loved yourself wholly and fully. It's possible. No, but then you've made me see some things a bit more. It's just a lot to think about right now. Okay. You know what? Maybe park this one if you feel like answering it later, then you just go back to it. Yeah. Okay, but can I then do another question? Because it didn't know me. So you want to answer that same question? No, I want to pull a new one because you didn't answer this one. Okay. So it's like a dry question now. Okay. It's just hanging there. Oh! How do I show that I love you without telling you? Good luck with that one. There's a lot you do. Oh really? Yeah. Like what? Taking care of things around the house because my love language is access service. So even though you don't generally like doing things by yourself, you would often go out of your way sometimes just to do some things you cook, you know, you clean up. Yeah, so you do. Yeah. You do a lot. Only the household? No. And then you care about the things I do a lot so much so that when I come up with ideas here, you complimenting me is when I come up with ideas, you help me structure it really quickly. Yeah. You know, research, you find avenues, you find ways. You give me like a ton of research information step by step, like just do this, do this, do this. Yeah, let's do it. Yeah, I'll try to break it down. The first one is you seeing that I was interested in like the creative space and arranging that we do the short film course in the Netherlands. Yeah. So there's a lot. Yeah. There's a lot you do. I think that's about right. Yes? Yeah. Do I go? Yes, please. So this is the last one for level two. Okay. What one small way can I be a better partner? It's on camera. It's live. Yeah. What a small way. Yeah, it's like, I need one big way. That's why I can talk a lot. No, I mean, generally, I think I was just thinking about it this week a bit. Like, I honestly, I just started a new job. So I feel like I'm still finding my way, my routine, all these things. But I think I was driving to work. So I tried to drive to work two times a week. So I was driving to work and I was like, okay, yes, things have been like dynamic and lots of impressions and new things. And I'm trying to figure things out, even from like what time to leave the house, what time I'll be back. It's like a whole new routine. And honestly, it feels so nice because at home, I know there's peace. So it doesn't worry me at all. Like, I mean, we have our things, yes. And of course, I mean, we have discussions and stuff. And sometimes we have miscommunication. But there's no, nothing is pressing on me in that sense. You get me? So I think that's really, I don't take it for granted at all. Yeah, but what one small way? Yeah, but I wanted to, this was what came up for me. So I wanted to say that first. Okay, one small way. Well, some, okay, no, but I had one small thing. But this week, he actually really surprised me because normally Kwami doesn't really see things around the house. If you look at our pet peeves thing, you will notice. So we had a bit of laundry and it was like, like the basket was even full. So it was like, it was like a tower of laundry. And I was like, but I have to leave very early and I was like, I don't have time to sort through it now and then put it in the washing machine. So I was like, you know what, just leave it, I'll do tomorrow. Maybe Kwami will do it. And I was like, so I came home and then I asked, what did I say? Did you maybe do the laundry? Yeah, she came and asked me in a Dutch way. Did you maybe like, can you just go straight to the point? But it was like, did you maybe like very careful? Do you remember? I was like, yeah, I did it. And then he said, like, oh no. In the beginning he said, oh no, I didn't do it. I was like, oh, okay. It's okay. And I was like, no, I actually did it. You didn't expect it. And I was like, oh, wow. Yeah, like I'm likely to be flabbergasted. And I just did it. I hope that she thrown around big English words in the sheet. So yeah, maybe that. And no, I think, well, Kwami likes to be a lot on his phone. No, the one that would be better. Okay. I've said that not so many times. I'm sure people think going to therapy with this thing. But I mean, just to come back to what I said in the beginning of the answer, if that's your biggest thing, and it's just like more like a pet peeve thing, right? Yeah. It's not something that's affecting our relationship like, whoa. So if that's the only thing, please, we are blessed. All right. Good. Level three. Okay. So should I take it a level three? Yes. Reflection. What goal would feel best for you to accomplish this year? And how can I support you in that? Oh, nice one. It's a huge one. Okay. Just pick one. I mean, there's not. Yeah. Just pick one that's on top of your mind. There's no right or wrong. Okay. So I'm going to do, we're already doing that. There's not, there are a lot of goals. So I can't put my goals in best, right? Okay. Just say one goal. So one goal is already happening. I wanted us to have a couple's channel that is consistent. And you've already been coming up with ideas. You sit, be record. You are already supporting it. So it's one of the goals. But I can't, I can't have like the best goal because my best goal or one of the biggest things I want to do is make more films. And you're already supporting me whatever way you can. Yeah. So there's no new goal I can support you. No. Okay. Noted. Yeah. Make more films. Create more content. Diverse content. And you're already helping me with that whatever I come up with. Okay. The goal that involves us literally is what we're doing now. And changing of the channel name. It's been a quarrel thing. Yeah. So. Oh. You can support me in that. It's a writing. Oh. Sorry folks. Is there anything you still don't know about me that you wish you did? Well, I think honestly, knowing a person, you can never really know a person, right? Yeah. But is there something you wish you knew about me? But does that mean that it's still in secrets or do they mean? Yeah. I don't know. If you don't feel like, if you don't feel like. I mean, maybe I would want to understand your creative process better. Because to me it sounds like all over the place. No, like I think it's a good thing because creativity is not something you can put in a box. But and I don't want you to put it into a box. But sometimes I would just like to understand like where are you at with your head? So I ask him often, like what's on your mind? Because that's the only way I can really grasp a little like where what are you working on? I think it's okay. I don't need to know everything too. But maybe I could be supporting you better if I understood it better. But the creativity is such a flowing thing that I think it will be can only like time will tell. It's not something you can really communicate, right? Yeah. Okay. One more question? One more question. For me? You go. Or? Did I read the other one? No, I get so confused. I picked that read and you answered it. What? Oh, this is a good one. I'm going to get two compliments. What don't I give myself enough credit for? People get the books out because it's a lot. Okay. So I always tell Elaine that she's a badass. And like with, of course you said she already mentioned that she's a Virgo. So she's super structured, organized. And I think sometimes she cares too much. Especially for the people she loves. So when Elaine, Elaine's circle or good books, she just remembers everything that concerns you. She goes above and beyond to not just remembering it. I already mentioned the part where like she helped me with, you know, going to the film school and all those things. Like she would actively want to make sure that you're happy or you have, you know, that thing that you so like. And when it comes to her work, she kicks ass and then wonders if it's enough. And I'm just here thinking like me, I'm here. I do one voice a while and I'm like, I've closed. I don't care. I've closed because I'm going to rest or think about something else or play game or be creative. Elaine is doing like amazing work, you know, at her job and everything. And she still doesn't like so. So yeah, if I decide to go on, we'll just go on and on and on and on. She's like all in all really hardworking, really, you know, stand up kind of woman. Thank you. And she doesn't give herself enough credit. It's not even a joke. She doesn't even like, it's annoying. It's a process. It's a process. It's annoying because anyway. Yeah. But to respond, may I respond to that? No, no, no, because you are amazing and you don't see it and it's annoying. It's a process. I'm working on it. Yeah, that's all. That's your answer. But I'm happy. I have somebody who reminds me to look objectively at the things I do and then Yeah, and sometimes not, sometimes not care too much, you know. Yeah, but that's difficult for me. Some people, you know, don't deserve that, you know, over caring thing. It's not over caring. It's just, yeah, love. Yeah. Anyway, so yeah, that's about it for one more. No, that's about it for this episode. Now the thing is, the thing is we love this game enough and we're going to put away these questions that we've answered before and mark them because we've already done them on this video. What we're going to do with this game, which is what we are not really strangers is that since it comes off as something that you can connect, reflect or perceive, we're going to do it every month. Yeah. So we like to game this much that we're like, yeah, we should try and do it every month. And honestly, I don't know if you can, I don't necessarily know where you can buy this game, but I can really recommend because you really talk about things that you normally don't talk about. You can see we had different conversations than before just because the questions are guiding you through it. So that's why we like it so much. And honestly, all my friends know I'm not really a game person. These kind of games that, yeah. No, but these kind of games that evoke conversation is nice. Yeah. So maybe I can put the link of the game in the description so people know exactly what we're talking about. Yeah, I'll find the link in the pack somewhere and then we'll put it in there. Yeah. And if they came on to sponsor us now. Are you serious? Please. Just business development thing. Yeah. So yeah, that's it for this particular video. Like, subscribe and yeah, if you just, this is the first time watching our video. My name is Kwame and I'm Elaine. If you have any questions for us that were not in the game pack, let us know in the comments. We are reading the comments actually. Yeah. So we're a very democratic channel. Not so much. So feel free. Some of the comments, those people who come and put comments that are not supposed to be there. Yeah, okay. You are blocked. Yes. Okay. Yeah. Peace.