 It's interesting why we want to fit in or be like others when one of the most attractive qualities that someone can have is to be unique and to be different. Let's say public speaking or being different, weird or a style that you're doing that nobody else is doing. If you own it and you're confident with it, it tends to attract a lot of people. If you do it in fear or you do it in shame or you do it like I'm embarrassed, then it does tend to ostracize you. If they own it and they're confident about it, then that is me and I am terrible at speaking or I am wearing these clothes because I don't give a fuck. You really have a choice on what direction that leads for your life is like either it's going to send down this path of victimhood and feeling sorry for yourself and why do I look this way and why am I so terrible at this versus just like owning it, accepting it and saying that this is what makes me unique.