 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمد لله وسلمه على أشهد الأنبياء والمرسلين سيدنا ومولانا وحبيبنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلي وسحبي وسلم تسليمن كثيرة الحمد لله this is our second session of purification of the heart thank you again all of you for being here we covered a lot of information on tuesday and i know i watched the video afterwards and i know it's going a little fast at certain times and i apologize if i was going too fast but i'm going to do this sort of summary every class before we get into the new material so don't worry and if you have any questions the chat box is open but it's uh oh it's going to come to me and my co-host sister homera who is also here and she's going to facilitate so if you have certain questions about anything that i'm saying at any time feel free to use that chat box um and just you know let's uh enjoy the rest of this uh this program together inshallah i want participation especially right now so right now i'm going to just do a quick refresher by first asking some questions to see who is really paying attention on tuesday okay so first can who can tell me the name of the author who wrote the poem that was written in arabic we went over his biography okay so if you can type it in the chat box i have someone who already mashallah gave their answer very quickly i love it i love that you are on it but i'm not talking about the translator okay i'm talking about the person who actually mashallah noor there we go noor got it jazaki la kheira noor you wrote the right answer imam molud or imam al molud right so imam molud is the one who wrote the arabic text okay and he's the one whose poem uh the next person translated so now if imam molud is the one who wrote the arabic text who is the one who wrote the english uh translation of his text okay mashallah there we go we got bilal we got yesine and actually before all of you uh he he answered first son right you're the one who said uh hamza yusuf first so that was very good mashallah but that was for the translator so good job at least you guys know the names of these two very important people so imam al molud is the one who wrote the arabic text okay he wrote the arabic poem about 200 years ago she hamza yusuf who's still alive and well alhamdulillah he's here in berkeley he translated it into english so make sure you know his name it's very important now before we jumped into some of the diseases i described a couple or a few more than a few i should say different types of hearts who can tell me first the number how many hearts are there described in the quran hadith or in the commentary of some of these uh texts very good mashallah you guys are all getting the right answer so let's look at the chat to see who answered first um i think yes this was it is is han right it's it's on or ishal ishal and zayna okay so i have ishal and zayna mashallah and then raheel very good alina nor all of you gave the right answer mashallah amen yusuf very good ismail medium awesome job you guys you guys are paying attention i love it okay so now a quick question of all different hearts that we covered which is the most important one which is the one we should all have and we should all want to have very good mashallah you guys are coming with the answers so quickly i love it so okay you see normisha ishal very good aisha afnan mariam alina i love alina you said the shining heart everybody else said the sound heart very good so the shining heart the sound heart very good does anybody remember the arabic word for it because that's the english meaning who can tell me the arabic word or the term it's a term okay who remembers the arabic let's see oh mashallah mariam you got it qalb salim or qalbun salim very good mariam mashallah tabarak Allah awesome job i wish there was like a point system but very good okay excellent now we're going to go to the first three diseases that we covered who can type the first three diseases okay very good we got miser or miserliness stinginess or okay good and mashallah issan you wrote the arabic awesome you wrote bohol i love it so you gave me some of you've given me the english some of you are giving me the arabic oh this is awesome mashallah very good okay let me just quickly pull up my slides because i want to make sure i am have have everything ready here okay bismillah okay very good so let's see i'm sorry so go back to the chat so you guys got miserliness what's the second disease of the heart that we covered so we covered miserliness right which is bohol arabic very good mashallah wantonness yes and butter awesome ihsan and afnan you guys are on it you you definitely got it and then noor noor coming in sliding in with all three answers in her in her response mashallah very good noor i'm going to see who else remembers the third one the third disease of the heart give me the english and the arabic if you can remember the arabic as well okay let's see very good ihsan got it great job so mashallah noor you got all three excellent raheel yasin aisha great job so bohol right so we covered miserliness which is bohol wantonness butter and hatred bohol you guys rock very good job thank you guys for for mashallah giving me again that sense that you were paying attention and that you retained which means that you remembered what we talked about that's really exciting all right so now we're going to go ahead and move into today's lesson okay so for this i'm just going to quickly cut out my camera so you guys are not going to see me and then i'm going to go into the screen share so you guys will see my desktop as soon as i expand this okay let's see Bismillah one second you guys sorry this should hopefully be so let's see why is it not expanding huh sorry guys i'm trying to make this expand it was working just a second ago but let's quickly check why this isn't working um Bismillah presenter view hopefully it'll come right on okay just give me one second there we go yay okay so thank you again for your patience here we go so now you guys should be able to see the entire screen not a tiny little screen so we're going to go through the slides some of the slides that we saw last time and uh we'll go through all of these hearts which we talked about there's that picture okay and here's the full list of the diseases of the heart this is what we covered the first three we covered last time which is miserliness stinginess and wantonness and hatred which we just talked about now we're going to go into number four which is iniquity or transgression bari okay bari in arabic and the meaning of this is it's hatred for other than the say or excuse me harming anything in creation without a just cause okay so if you ever cause harm to something without reason this would be bari okay so let's go ahead and talk about bari we're gonna fast forward through all of these because we already went through here we go so bari is harming anything in creation without a just cause which means without a good reason if you're gonna harm something like sometimes you know you'll see adults or kids just people walking down the street and then they see a bug and they just squash it right why would you squash an innocent bug that's not nice that bug was just living its life it didn't do anything to you so we don't harm things without reason especially if you're just you know walking by something or you see people pulling out grass or flowers you know when they are at a park you'll they'll just go and just start pulling at things we want to be careful not to cause harm to anything right in creation so those are just smaller examples but of course this can be a big problem if it's not checked right because what the diseases of the heart some people can have like just like with any disease you can have it like a mild kind of version of it or like a really serious so a mild version would just be wanting to like destroy things right just harming things destroying things destroying property destroying like I said innocent creations like bugs and animals kicking a cat or a dog these are all haram you cannot do that it's not permissible right but when it gets in a worse form this can be very very dangerous because it can lead to a lot of terrible things happening right so the word bagh is derived and this is again important to know because it explains the meaning and how we got the meaning of this disease of the heart it's derived from the arabic root word for desire raba so bagh is desiring something so bad that you're willing to harm someone or something else for it like you're you know whatever that thing is that you want you're willing to destroy something else this is why it's such a dangerous and terrible disease of the heart so let's talk about how this can become in a bigger form in the worst form possible right bagh is something that leads often to obsession with power so if you look at some of the world's most notorious leaders like the worst leaders throughout history they were afflicted with this disease right and they caused mass genocide genocide is when you kill a lot of people at the same time for no reason just because you want power maybe you don't like a particular group of people right and throughout history that's that that's definitely happened where people have harmed entire villages cities groups of people just just because they they wanted to and for no good reason just because they didn't like them or they wanted power so bagh can bring a lot of harm if it's not treated right it causes this disease again of power and wealth other people that are also have this problem are criminals right people who steal for example or who destroy other people's properties why do they do what they do it's for you know maybe they want something right if a thief goes into someone's home um they're not caring about the safety of that family or those people inside the home they just want what they want but maybe if they're you know confronted by someone they will hurt them because they want to run away before the police come and catch them so they basically really don't have that value for human life and they'll do whatever they can to get what they want right which is why it's so dangerous so criminals thieves they have this disease but another group of people also have a version of this disease and that's something a term that you might all know which are bullies okay bullies want sometimes to become popular or liked by certain people or they want power right like a they want to have other people scared of them so what they do is they'll ridicule mocks sometimes even fight people who are less you know maybe weaker than them or smaller than them all just to get something for themselves so they don't really care so this is why again it's such a dangerous disease of the heart a less proud that tells us and warns us about bari right he says that all faces shall be humbled before him the living the subs the subsisting eternal hopeless indeed will be the man that carries iniquity on his back so he's saying that the person who has this disease of the heart is going to be hopeless on the day of judgment that means that they're not going to be safe because they caused so much harm to people in this life that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is going to call them to account he's they're going to have to face him and then um the Prophet sallallahu wa ta'ala said who's islam or uh sorry abumusa reported that they said they asked the Prophet sallallahu wa ta'ala a question they said oh messenger of Allah who's islam is best right and he answered the one from whose tongue and hand Muslims are safe so making sure that you don't cause harm to people right with your words or your hands is a big part of being a Muslim so you cannot have bari and be a practicing Muslim at the same time if you're someone that causes people harm uh with with your words or like I said with your hands this is definitely something we have to treat we have to stop that behavior right um so inshallah that is what we have for bari and here's the treatment for it so the first part of the treatment that imam al maulud suggests is having certainty that the day of judgment is real and that every single person is going to face Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and be asked about why they did what they did and that nothing escapes the knowledge of Allah right he knows everything he sees everything and he's the most just all people are going to be asked every single one of us will have to answer for what we did so we should know that and once you know that firmly then it should protect you and prevent you from uh from iniquity from bari from doing this where you harm other people another thing is to remember death okay remembering death is similar because you remember like I have to leave this world so whatever power I want whatever control I want whatever money I want it doesn't last it's going to eventually it's not going to matter because I can't take it with me when I die right and we don't know when that time is for some people they live a long life other people maybe not that long but the point is all of us we only uh we don't take anything with us when we die right that's the only thing we take with us is our good deeds right or our deeds and then we're going to be asked about that on the day of judgment so very important to remember these things frequently and the more you remember them it prevents you from having bari okay so that is the first disease that we're going to talk about today now the next one is kind of related because certain parts of bari or bari is is is fueled by the desire for something right you want something and therefore you're willing to hurt people for it so that desire is what we're going to talk about now when we talk about the next disease of the heart which is love of the world or an arabic hubba dunya okay so the love of the world is something that Allah swt warns us about in the Quran because it's something that can distract us right it can take us away from worshiping Allah swt so he tells us here in chapter 6 verse 32 he says and the life of this world is nothing but play and amusement but far better is the house in the hereafter for those who are pious will you not then understand so he's trying to tell us like don't get too caught up in this small world a short world because it's not going to last very long compared to eternity right we're going to be here for a short time and we should just focus on what we're supposed to do which is worship Allah swt and then the next life is so much better it's longer we're going to be with our loved ones and we won't have all the problems and the issues that that we have in the dunya so basically stay focused and then he says let not this present life deceive you which is to also just kind of warn us like don't be tricked by the dunya because the dunya can be so distracting right if you like i said start working worrying about money and clothes and cars and all the different things you want you'll just forget to do other things right it's that's the power of the the dunya is that it can basically take you away from your responsibilities to Allah swt to your parents your family your work it can just take you away because you keep wanting more and more and more so the provisional actually gave us many different hadith that talked about this disease of the heart but there's one in particular that really talks about the time that we're living in now right where he says that nations are about to unite and call each other to set upon you just as diners are invited to a plate of food so then someone asked is it going to be be because of our lack of numbers that day will we be small in number so what the processor just described he said that the muslim umma is going to there's going to be other people that are going to come and just kind of start taking from our lands you know like the muslim lands throughout the world the way that a person who's really hungry comes to a dinner table and just jumps on a plate of food so they were kind of confused because you know they were strong people so they didn't understand like how could that be and so their immediate thought was maybe it's because we're not going to be that many there's not going to be that many muslims and that's why we're going to be so powerless like all these countries are going to be able to invade our countries and take what they want so that's what they were thinking right so they asked is it going to be because our numbers like we're going to be small in number and the provisional said no you're going to be many on that day but you will be like the foam that floats on the ocean so the provisional telling us is that the in terms of numbers population muslims are going to be very like there's going to be a lot of muslims but there's uh we're going to be like the foam that floats on the ocean and i'll explain what that means in a second and then he says a law will remove the fear of you from the hearts of your enemies and put wahan into your hearts so two things are going to happen these forces that are invading in muslim lands they're not going to be scared of you you're not strong people they're not intimidated by you you're weak basically and and they put wahan into your hearts right there's some wahan so then they were like wait what does that mean so they asked oh messenger of Allah what is wahan and he said love for the dunya and hatred for death so what he's basically telling us in this hadith is that that that we even though we have large numbers right muslims are large in population we become weak and we're so weak that other forces can we'll start invading our countries and taking things from our countries so some of you may know people from certain parts of the world i for example was born in avganistan right there's many other people who were born in different muslim lands who have had this experience where other governments other people came into the country took what they wanted and left right it's happened in iraq and syria and so many other places in the muslim world right and so why does this happen well the prophet said i'm told us it's because we he's putting the responsibility back on us right he said that we have an love for the dunya right which is and we'll talk about you know the different types of love that we can and can't have and we have a hatred for death so we don't want to meet allah subhanAllah because death is really one step closer to meeting allah right and so anybody who hates death they don't want jannah they don't want to meet allah so if you have both of these problems or issues then it's is it you know any wonder why you see so much of the muslim world in the state that it's in it's because we need to not have these diseases of the heart right both of them are diseases of the heart love for the dunya and hatred for death so now let's just examine this a little bit more okay the froth of the ocean this is a really good analogy look at that man in the first picture how small he looks in compared a comparison to the foam right the foam of the ocean depending on where you're standing can go really really far so that's it's a pretty you know large swath of foam that you're looking at here and this is just one little you know area up in the world but oceans are huge they make up the most you know part of the of the entire globe right it's water so but look on the right picture and you see that it's like soap right doesn't it look like soap right so when you go wash your hands and you lather your hands really well and then you see a bunch of soap in the sink that's what this looks like it's light it's airy it has no weight which means it's not something strong right it's not something strong so the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used this analogy to say we're going to be a lot there's going to be a lot of Muslims and right now there's about almost eight billion people in the world and one I think about 1.5 or 1.6 billion Muslims in the world so we are one eighth of the world population and mashaAllah Muslims are in every part of the world okay we're not just in certain parts we're everywhere but even though we have that many numbers are we as strong no we're not we're like the foam of the ocean and why because too many of us are afflicted with the disease of hubba dunya okay and what is hubba dunya here we go this is hubba dunya you're wanting all of the best of the best of the best of the best you want a huge house you want the nicest car you want gold and jewelry and money and the you know eating the most lavish meals and all the nicest accessories you just keep wanting and wanting and wanting that you it starts to make what in your heart greed right it builds this other disease of the heart greed where it's just never enough right and this is kind of what we talked about on tuesday wantonness wantonness is you can't control your desire for things you become prideful so these all these diseases kind of you know affect each other if you have wantonness or love of the dunya you're probably going to share a lot of the same qualities which are that you just keep wanting more and more and more and you start to have so you have greed and you start to have pride right so these are the dangers of having hubba dunya is that it makes you keep it leads to these other dangerous diseases right greed and pride so again we're looking at you know extra when you when you're doing when it's out of balance it's excess it's too much hubba dunya is when that desire for these things takes over you okay and so so let's look at again the other consequence of hubba dunya because not only do you get more greedy and prideful but you're probably going to become very forgetful so this is the danger is that if you spend all your day day dreaming about money and about all the nicest clothes and food and the big house and the fastest car and just all of that stuff you're going to start to forget certain things that are very very important number one allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you know this is the problem this is what shaitan wants shaitan remember he's our greatest enemy so he wants nothing more than for us to forget allah forget our prayers forget the prophecy asadam and so what he does is he distracts us by making the world look so shiny and like exciting and fun fun fun that that's all we want we just want to have fun and just have the best of the best things so people afflicted with this disease of the heart this is what they do they'll just sit home and they'll just be thinking about all these things but then guess what happens they forget to pray they forget the prophecy asadam right they forget allah they forget to give charity because they're too worried about making money for themselves they don't want to fast because they want to eat all the best foods and just spend you know all this money on the best experiences going to the fanciest restaurants they forget to go to the masjid they forget to study and to learn right we're supposed to learn every day of our lives we should be learning something right they don't spend time with their parents they forget to take care of their family pay their debts because usually you can't keep this lifestyle if you have hubba dunya you start to get credit cards and start borrowing money and so you get debt okay and debt is when you owe people something so a lot of people with this disease also have wantonness which is the same which we talked about too that it makes them go into debt okay they also forget to stay in touch with their friends take care of their responsibilities take care of the earth they don't care about taking care of the earth because all they care about is wanting whatever they want right and that's why they'll spend a lot of money on clothes and other things not realizing that the more money you spend on things the more it causes you know pollution in the world right we there's a lot of pollution that happens because of factories and all of the you know cheap materials that that go into making certain products so as a muslim we have to what be more responsible with our spending and not just keep spending spending spending and then the last thing or another thing is death you don't remember death and that's the very thing that you should be remembering to protect from this disease of the heart right so very important to know the consequences of love of the of the world now the next thing to remember is you know the treatment how do we treat this well we said remembrance of death right that's one of the ways that we can treat this the provost license said remember often the destroyer of pleasures okay and he meant by that death that death destroys pleasure and so all those things that we taught that we showed in that picture they're all things that are nice nobody's saying they're not nice but again if it takes over you the desire to want those things and all you care about is having things and you know just being seeking out whatever desires you have then it's a problem so the best way to remedy that or to fix that is to remember death okay and then also another treatment is being balanced in how to love the world and all that it contains in a way that's pleasing to Allah because the opposite of or the you know but loving the world is not necessarily a problem in and of itself it's when you love the world to a point that you love it more than Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala more than other things right you just keep wanting more of the dunya and you don't want to ever leave the the dunya because you want to extend your life as much as possible so you can eat drink go on vacations and just have a lot of fun go to parties where fancy clothes that's the problem right so there is a way to have a balanced love for the world and that's part of the treatment as well okay and here it is so first we have to understand that there are five categories of love of the world okay so there are things that we have to love obligatory wajib recommended mandoob permissible mubah reprehensible makrooh and forbidden haram so basically what this is is every single thing in the dunya can fall under one of these categories right for example something that you should love is what the Qur'an right the book of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala the seerah of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam things that we have in this dunya right the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam himself the Ka'ba there's you know the the masjid and nabui basically any house of Allah or any good place we should love those things right and then there's the recommended right the permissible what you can like what you can love it's permissible for example to love certain foods or even like we talked about on Tuesday if you have a love for a really nice expensive things that's not a problem it's if you don't have a balance with that love that you would be willing to harm someone to get that thing right let's say for example you go to a store and you see a watch and this watch is so beautiful and you're like oh my gosh it's the most beautiful thing in the world i want this watch i want this watch i want this watch okay now if you go back home and you look at your piggy bank or you go and you ask your parents like hey mom dad i want to do some chores in the house because i really want to purchase this watch that i love what chores can i do and then they tell you okay you can do this this and this and you start saving your money right there's nothing wrong with if you saved your money and you said i'm going to go buy buy that watch because it's a nice thing and you worked hard for it right but if you wanted that watch and then you thought about it and you said oh man it's like five hundred dollars i'm never going to make five hundred dollars how can i get this watch what can i do and then you know shayton will come and he'll kind of give you an idea he'll say i have an idea go to the store and distract you know the the person at the checkout place and just go grab it real fast right this is how shayton works he comes and he whispers to us things right so he might put that thought in your mind and now all of a sudden astaghfirullah you have what this is an equity right this is causing harm because of your desire the desire is so much you can't help yourself you're willing to harm someone or something for it right so we have to be very careful of that but as far as wanting the watch that's perfectly fine right something reprehensible or makru would be for example to delay your prayers okay we should pray on time when the prayer comes in as soon as you know that it's the harasar maghrib you should pray if you make a habit out of delaying your prayers this is not permissible or it's a reprehensible it's makru it's disliked okay it's not haram it's not you know it's certainly not you know recommended or permissible it's makru so you have to know the difference that everything in the world falls under one of these categories and then the forbidden we know are haram you should not like you know alcohol or eating certain foods that you know Allah subhan has forbidden right that would not be very good at all to to to love those things which Allah dislikes so love of the world is about having balance about understanding that everything in Allah's creation falls under one of these categories okay and then the prophesies that I'm warned because remember we're when we talk about love of the dunya being a disease of the heart that does not mean that the answer for it is to hate the dunya no no no astaghfirullah the prophesies actually told us and warned us do not curse the world the for God created the world and the world is a means to reaching the knowledge of God so what he's saying is that don't think that you know the opposite of hubba dunya is to have a bad view of the world and to be like oh I hate this place and I want to leave and I can't wait to go to jannah and you have a very bad opinion of the dunya no we should have balance there's good in the dunya and there's harm in the dunya and we love that which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves and we don't love that which Allah subhan doesn't love that's how we look at the dunya and that's balanced people with hubba dunya they don't have balance they love too many things that distract them from the worship of Allah that's why it's a disease of the heart but to say I love Allah's creation I love the sun and the stars and the moon and the parks and the rivers and the lakes and the trees and the oceans and the beaches and the good delicious fruits and the vegetables and the beautiful animals that's actually very good we should we should be grateful to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for the beauty of the dunya that he's placed us in because he could have placed us in a dry planet like mars right mars is dry there's no barely any water there it's like a giant desert he could have put us in a planet like that but he put us in this big huge beautiful basically garden right that it's so amazing and there's just so many things that we can appreciate when we look around all the colors that we see and the different variety of animals as we said right and flowers and flora and trees these are all reasons that we should have what immense gratitude to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so the balance is so important to treat hubba dunya you have to have a balanced view and the best thing to do is just to say I'm going to love everything that Allah loves because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he is what the most beautiful and he loves beauty beautiful things so we can always love that which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves and he he dislikes foul things you know things that are not good so we should also dislike things that are not good okay very good alhamdulillah so that was the second disease the third disease is called envy or hasad okay what is this this is a huge disease of the heart okay and a lot of people are afflicted with hasad what is it it is a form of jealousy which we're going to clarify because sometimes envy and jealousy are used to to define hasad but they are slightly different but before we do that let's look at what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says specifically about this disease he in chapter 4 verse 54 he says or do these people envy what Allah has bestowed upon them from his bounty okay and we'll again explore what that word means and then he says seek refuge from the evil of the envier when he envies right and this is we all know this this surah right right we inshallah we all know this surah this surah is describing the envier okay and then the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said stay away from hasad from envy for hasad eats up good deeds like fire eats up wood so i want you to imagine that okay when you go put it up fire somewhere if you've ever been camping or if you have a fireplace as soon as you put that fire wood in and you light it up what happens to the wood it starts to crackle right and then very quickly you see it just there's smoke and then all of a sudden there's this roaring fire if you come back and check on that after a few minutes part of it will be gone the wood is turned into ashes right so here he's warning us that having hasad which is a type of jealousy and again we're going to define it in a minute is so bad that it eats up good deeds like fire eats up wood so let's understand the difference between envy and jealousy because like i said it's usually used a lot the same way um jealousy or envy is the desire to have something that's not yours so basically let's say you go to school okay or you're at the mall or you're at the mess shit or wherever and you see someone who looks your age okay maybe they're 15 16 maybe they're 12 13 but another person who looks your age and they're the same as you if you're a boy he's a boy if you're a girl she's a girl you look at them and they're wearing a shirt that you like maybe it's got something on it that you like too maybe if you're into legos the shirt is on legos or maybe it's got unicorns and butterflies on it but whatever whatever you see this person who's the same age as you're wearing you really like what they're wearing and you wish you had it okay now it's not yours right and you don't want that so envy is like you don't want them to have it it's like why do they get to have that that's not fair i want that um it would look better on me and you start having all these really really bad thoughts that's envy right it's spite it's basically this desire that turns into this resentment towards the other person okay where you just really don't even like that person anymore and you wish they didn't have it because it bothers you it bothers you that they are wearing it and that you're wearing something that is maybe an older thing or that you've had for a while or what it's not as exciting so you the envy just turns your heart into this you know really resentful uh you know the thing that that you just can't think anything positive about that person right now jealousy is an emotion right and it typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity fear and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something so if you're worried about losing something that can be jealousy right like oh i wish i didn't uh you know i i like if you're comparing yourself to somebody else that they have something but it's not that you necessarily want them to not have it you just wish you could have it too or if you already have it you're you know you wish that you didn't lose it so there's these it's a different feeling it's not about the person themselves that you're looking at it's just about your own insecurity that's jealousy right but envy is actually wanting the other person to lose what they have so it's not just that you like it and that you want it for yourself and that you're insecure over it it's that you actually want that other person to not have it anymore and that's why it's so much worse so envy is much worse than jealousy right jealousy can just come from like i said so many different things that may happen to you and it may not even involve another person it's just uh something that you want right whereas envy is directed towards another person and that's why it's so dangerous okay so what's the treatment well first again and we see the same thing keep coming up if you notice most of the diseases of the heart the treatment is almost all of the ones that we've learned so far is remembrance of death right why well one of our the Sahaba Abu Darda said he who remembers death often then his delight becomes less and his enviousness of others diminishes so people who remember death a lot they just stop really caring about what other people are doing what they're wearing how much money they have what clothes you know what kind of car they drive they don't care because they're more worried and more concerned about the next life right that's what remembrance of death does it makes you focus on what's important and you stop worrying about other people and you realize like Allah's part that is the one who distributes that means he's the one who gives everybody whatever that he wills for them so for some people they're gonna have a lot of money but guess what having a lot of money is a big responsibility and if you don't do what he expects of you you're going to have a lot to answer for right so it's not always so exciting if you think of it that way for other people he might have given them knowledge and he expects that they teach and use that knowledge to teach other people right so every the everything is given by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he gives to people according to what he wants and therefore there's no reason to be jealous because you have certain things blessings that other people don't have right we all have things that not everybody else has so the best thing to thing to do is not focus on what other people have but rather focus on what Allah's given you and be grateful for it and remember again that death when it comes you don't take anything with you except for your qalbun salim right that's all we should want to take with us more than anything else we want that sound heart right but nothing else really matters so that's why the rumors of death is so good and then imam al ghazali also said what and this is to help clarify right because not everybody who has these feelings is afflicted with the disease itself right so he said that if someone hates envy and is ashamed that he has it or she has it in her heart then that person is not really an envious person so if you've ever felt that way about someone where you might have felt envy maybe you went to someone's house and their house was bigger than yours maybe um you know you saw someone at school in their car they can't their mom and dad came and picked them up in a really nice sports car and you were like man i wish my parents could have that you know if you've ever had those feelings but then later you realized or maybe you're realizing right now as we're talking about this that those feelings aren't good to have and you feel bad about it like it's it's like oh i wish i didn't think that about that person or that thing that's a really good sign it means that inshallah you don't have envy because it's natural sometimes to just see something that someone else has and like it that's okay it's but remember envy is when you don't want the other person to have it anymore and you wish that they were to lose it this is where it gets really bad right so if that feeling has ever come in your heart all you have to do is say astaghfirullah may Allah forgive me and inshallah try not to have that feeling again and remember that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the one who distributes everything right okay so one thing to clarify here is that there is an acceptable type of envy and it's called ghibta okay and this is being competitive for the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala okay that's called ghibta and this is perfectly fine so there's the harmful envy which we just talked about and now we're talking about the acceptable form but there's two particular things that you have to have ghibta for okay so you can have ghibta here is the hadith there's no acceptable envy except for two people one who has wealth and spends it towards good causes the other is one who has wisdom and teaches it to others so what this tells us is that you can have this competitive good ghibta for a wealthy person because you see them that they're able to do so much right they're able to maybe build a masjid for the for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala or you know a given charity to all these different really important causes and so you look at them and you're like oh yalla i wish i could have wealth too because if i had money i would do this that i would do that and i would buy my mom a beautiful home and i would buy my father this and you want to just give your money for good right that is ghibta and that's perfectly fine and then the other type is when you see someone who has wisdom right they're knowledgeable Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given them knowledge of the dean or maybe they went to school and they were able to you know do really well in school and they're now working and helping so many people you can have ghibta for that type of a person because what what you're doing is saying well if i had the same opportunity or the same blessing that they had i too would want to do good works so everything is connected back to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala with ghibta it's not that you don't want the other person to have it it's not because you have hubba dunya where you just love power and money and wealth and status and all you're focusing on is wishing to have those things this is about doing good to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and that is permissible so we can definitely have that okay so inshaAllah i think this is yeah that's the end of the presentation today you guys so let me stop here because i'm going to do about three a day i don't want to overwhelm you guys there's a lot of content okay so i want to make sure that you guys you know have clear answers um to your questions if you have any so let's go ahead and use the remaining time that we have for q and a so inshaAllah i hope you guys enjoyed the presentation today we talked about uh iniquity right uh we talked about um hubba dunya we talked about envy mashaAllah so three um diseases of the heart but let's go ahead and hear from you guys i'm going to check the chat box now okay there's a lot of questions here is it okay for one to envy without knowing that they are envying so very good i think you asked that question and i answered it right if you have this uh feeling and you're not aware of it there's no responsibility on you right we're not held accountable for what we don't know so if you ever had that feeling then just say inshaAllah it's okay because you didn't know that you had envy and now you're asking Allah to remove it from your heart that oh Allah let me be happy with what you've given me and not worry about what other people have and actually be happy for them too right because that is even better if you're if you see someone succeeding if you see someone have something right the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that you haven't completed your faith right until you love for your brother or sister what you love for yourself so if you want really strong faith like iman and then you want to be happy for when you see someone else have something say alhamdulillah that's great Allah gave them that thing that shows that you actually understand that it's more important to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and to be content with what he's given you then to ever let these feelings of hasa then jealousy enter your heart where you um you know want audabula harmed on someone else just because you can't control your own desire right the desire is so strong that you actually would want someone else to lose it that's why it's just not right right okay so let's look at the rest of these questions you guys have so many mashallah um okay so someone asked and this is a good question because it's important what if you're scared of death and how to remember death you know being scared of death especially for some of you who are younger it's perfectly understandable you know you're just starting your life and all of a sudden you're being told about death it kind of can seem like well you know that's uh that's a little too much for me and that's understandable but we kind of have to look at this from a different lens when we say to remember death that doesn't mean to get dark about death and just to start thinking about all the scary parts of death it means to just think of it death as a like we're all travelers right and that's how you have to really look at yourself is that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he created the soul to travel through different worlds okay so before we were here for example where were we right before we were born we were with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and then he put our souls into the womb of our mothers and then we came into this world so we are we've already been traveling we just don't have a memory of that so when you think about death you want to just think about it like it's the next part of your travel right and it's not something to be scared about because you're getting closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and as long as you have belief and iman inshallah then you'll be okay right that's the most important thing and that's why alhamdulillah your parents are doing their responsibility of teaching you your religion of teaching you who Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is of teaching you who the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is teaching you how to pray teaching you how to have all of these things to know all these things inshallah so that when you go to the next part of your travels which for most of you inshallah is going to be a long long way from now so you don't want to think about it like oh it's going to happen tomorrow no we're just saying that death is a natural part of life everything it's just kind of a cycle of this world right and so it when our time comes inshallah it's just the next part of the travel and then the final place the final destination is inshallah going to be in jannah where we're all going to be together with our loved ones and it's going to be the most exciting time and we can't even come you know compare anything to it nothing we've ever done in the dunya can compare to what's gonna what's going to be waiting for us in jannah so you want to look at death like that like well if i want jannah i kind of have to go through this part part of the travel right i can't skip it um but that's it not to get dark about it okay and so i hope that answered your question let's see there's a lot of good questions here inshallah okay so a very good question about killing a bug if it's annoying or in your house so there's a difference the example i gave was on the street minding its own business or at a park or in this you know schoolyard or in the sidewalk even right that bug is living its life it's not a pest but if a bug becomes a pest in your house or you're threatened by it right there's some very poisonous spiders for example um and you're afraid is this gonna bite me is could it harm me that's different right and in that case yes you can absolutely protect yourself if you have to my boys they're on the the chat here we have this plastic bottle and it's called a spider catcher okay well that's what we called it it's really just a plastic container from an old i think is it almonds maybe a thing can go grab it but it's basically a just a container that we got from cosco and uh once the almonds or whatever was inside of it finished then we put a label on it and it's called our spider catcher so what we do is if we see a spider anywhere in the house we quickly go grab the spider catcher and we scoop it up and we take it outside that's what we do because we try to be very mindful about life in general so if we see bugs that are not harmful or maybe that are you know that they're not moving fast and flying at you you could easily scoop them up then we'll do that but everybody's different i know some people are very you know they have phobia right arachnophobia that's a real thing they can really get like you scream if they see a spider you know you have to preserve your life and if you feel um scared to that level head inshallah but try to again um if you can not kill if there's no harm that's the point of it okay as long as isn't there's no harm especially in nature like we should never kill things in nature that's just really not right because that's not in our home that's that those things are where there should be a lot created the world for all of us to be in right and it's not fair to say oh i'm just bored right now i'm gonna go squash a bug for no reason all the blood this is actually completely forbidden okay all right so let's see um can you stop okay isn't a person going to become sad if they think about death so i hope i answer that question isha because if you think about death as just death itself yeah you might be sad but if you think about death as really just a part of the journey to jannah it's not so sad right so it's really the way that you think about death okay but the point is is when you remember death what that's reminding you is watch watch yourself right you're telling your nefs and shayton no i'm not going to um i'm sorry one second how did that happen yesine okay yeah sorry you guys that got um i don't know how that happened but we are not taking over the cameras okay please because this is being recorded so uh don't take over the cameras let's see here okay bismillah so back to the questions here um my dad there's it so i'm just going over because i'm getting some repeat questions here these real diseases okay so yeah we do have someone who said i'm naturally scared of spiders yeah if you're really afraid that it's going to bite you that's understandable okay um yes if you are are you know working with an animal and you accidentally hurt it there's nothing that's okay you know as long as it's accidental things accidents happen right sometimes you might run into it or poke it and it gets hurt just you know try to take care of it because animals do have feelings right there's that beautiful story of once when the prophet said i was with his companions they were out somewhere and he kind of left for a little bit and uh and one of the sahaba he saw a bird's nest and he just thought hmm i want to go take it so he just took a nest full of little eggs and chicks and he put it in his you know a part of the caravan and then they started walking and the prophet suddenly eventually joined them and when he joined them all of a sudden this bird from up top started flapping its wings really really like vigorously which means like intense right and so he looked up and then the prophet said i remember one of his miracles is that he could communicate with animals very similar to to who which other prophet let's see who knows which other prophet could communicate with animals right but he could very good martial art son so he could communicate like um prophets who they meant so he understood from this bird that what was happening that someone it's a mother bird that someone took her babies so then he immediately turned to his companions and said which of you has hurt the feelings of this mother bird and taken its babies and then that sahaba was like oh sorry it was me and then he ordered him to put it back where he found it so the brawl system in the words that he used he's telling us what that animals have feelings okay that's really important for us to remember because they do have feelings and so if you accidentally heard it i used to have a cat and there were times where you know we were playing around and she would scratch me and then i would kind of paw at her and we were playing but if i ever felt like she like i did something to her i'd be like oh i'm sorry juju you know there's times actually she would sneak past me and i'd almost accidentally trip over her you know but i felt bad because i you know accidentally i didn't know she was there so you we have to remember their animals we're going to be held accountable but just to to be you know nice enough to at least say sorry and to try to make them feel better but as far as it being a haram or a sin if you do it on purpose yes of course that's sinful it's haram but if it's an accident inshallah okay all right so let's see very good question i have a question about bari is it where narcissism comes from you know um potentially what you know it could it could very well come from that i mean if you are willing to hurt other people for power then it's likely that you have you know this problem that you or this belief that you think you are better and more valuable uh you know as a as a human being than other people and that's really the root source of narcissism right you think of yourself as better than other people and you're willing to hurt other people if you have to so in a way inshallah all right um so very good all right thank you guys we have come to the end of the session and you guys a lot of your questions were um were very good questions i think that i thank you all for for um participating mashaAllah that was awesome and uh we will have um inshallah uh let's see sorry let me check the date the next class we have is going to be next tuesday okay so one week from uh well no today's thursday i was going to say one week from today not one week a little less than a week from today we'll see you inshallah at the same time from five to six p.m for the next three maybe four sets of uh of uh diseases inshallah okay so inshallah we'll see you guys let's go ahead and end in dua all right inshallah all right thank you guys again i hope you enjoyed the class inshallah we will see you next tuesday all right and if you have any further questions hold on to them for me and come back next tuesday we'll get to them eventually all right inshallah everybody wave i'm going to go through the whole camera yay get to see all your beautiful faces inshallah thank you for being here all right take care and have a wonderful wonderful it's thar okay for those of you are fasting if you're not fasting make dua for your families make dua for all of us okay we need your duaz your duaz are very powerful all right all right inshallah