 Good day mate 40 here. So I was just watching a video on David Silverman so he's one of those atheists who became famous after 9-11 and he'd go on Fox News a lot he'd go on the Riley report and Became quite the talking head after 9-11 because Understandably much of the reaction to 9-11 was that this was primarily a religious event now all sorts of conflicts which are primarily tribal and Racial at core Get discussed as if they're primarily religious, okay? As some have been laden didn't you know primarily attack the United States of America on 9-11 because of differences in theology right the the Arab Israeli conflict the The Jewish Muslim conflict is not primarily about the will of God and religion These are just some of all these different conflicts That get explained as religion, but at core they're not about religion, but for many atheists This was an opportunity to hit it big man like now you can You know you've long sought and so What what motivates man? Particularly to to enter public life. It's the desire for sex and power right for men with power come sex so those are the basic primal emotions and We all tend to try to get you know everything that we want and we tend to naturally seek out opportunities so after 9-11 there are all these opportunities for atheists to enter the public square and To make their proclamations to an increasingly receptive audience that You know what the hell is going on in our world that led to 9-11 and then the reactions to 9-11 Maybe the primary problem is religion. Well, the whole conflict is is partially disguised as religion But at core it's a tribal conflict the the Osama bin Laden perspective is that the United States and its Imperialism does not belong in the sacred soil of my tribe of Saudi Arabia and and the Middle East generally and he wanted to Unite his people the the Arab people and religion was a way to unite his people and to give them reason to fight so I was just watching this this video on the rise and fall of David Silverman so one of the the new atheists and He became a leader of some group like atheists United and he got you know, he got famous He got a little bit of power I mean, I don't know how much power goes with leading an atheist group and he got a lot of sex apparently and then he was brought down by allegations of sexual misconduct and So he's not the first, you know powerful man it's not the first famous man to be brought down by allegations of sexual misconduct and I'm also thinking about the behavior of Donald Trump particularly after it was clear that he lost the November 2020 election Did he behave with any care and consideration for the country? with any care or consideration for The Republican Party then he care or consideration for his voters for the well-being of the Republican Republicans running for the United States Senate. There were two Senate races in Georgia. No, he didn't he he was just mad Reminds me of Hitler like Hitler in the final years of the war Did he show much care and concern for the well-being of Germans? No, they'd let him down and so Just thinking, you know what motivates men to enter the public square to do what I'm doing right now So generally speaking there are these two basic motivations for men sex and power right with influence comes comes power with with Gaining a following comes power with with position comes power With money comes power and then from power you get you get more access to sex and with with silverman also much of What he was doing sexually was you know this this You know domination stuff forcing women to do you know anal sex and Forcing women to engage in sex that they didn't want this is This comes from eroticized rage of which I have been bedeviled much of my life and This these basic primal urges I have felt them you know my entire life and What can be done? You know, what are the dangers here? Because you need that fuel right to do what I'm doing right now it takes a tremendous amount of energy and hot spa and Even perhaps wreck verging on reckless disregard for one's own well-being To you know, put yourself out there to share opinions at any minute I could say something that could you know forever ruin my life and So, you know, what kind of desperation leads one to speak out on Fox News shows or on your own Livestreams and the two basic core emotions that the drive men After they meet their their basic needs for food and shoulder is sex and power All right, but what can be done about that because Obviously those those two drives in and of themselves in the elistic is there is there any way to corral that and so I think it comes down to What What gets you going like what makes you feel alive? What makes you feel important so for men the basic instincts are Getting sex and getting power makes me feel important Right, so let's say you want to be a rock star. You want to be a professional athlete You want to be a TV news reader? You want to be a wildly successful live streamer? But what is it about those things? That so excites you like where's the payoff? Right, what do you get so the the thought is if I'm on TV or if I build up an enormous following online I will have influence and I will get more sex and I will have some power Right, those those are the basic instincts, but then let's say you get influence and power and sex What then what what's the payoff? Well, the payoff is you feel alive, right? We want to feel alive. We want to be wide awake. We want to Be energized. We want to be excited. We want to have things to look forward to we want to have a pleasure we want to avoid pain right and I think you go even deeper than that is that we You want to feel something right? The quest for power and for sex is to feel something and So what we want to feel is a feeling of importance I think that's one way of framing it. We want to feel alive, but when you feel important, you then feel alive So how do you get to feel important and you get to feel important? Through becoming famous to becoming powerful through having sex. All right Through you know having adoring fans that these are always are feeling important, but you can also feel important through raising a family contributing to your church or synagogue Being a sponsor with with sponsors being a being a volunteer in some position. So I think men get into trouble when they simply go for those basic primal loss of sex and power without going deeper and and asking what is it that these These things give for me like what do they do for me? So it sure seems like, you know, David Silverman was inevitably headed for trouble Because he did not seem to have anything higher that he was aspiring for then sex and power Which is accompanied by fame. So if you get to feel important because you are a valuable cog of your Community of your church of your synagogue of your stamp club of your book club of your dog park of your I don't know. You're volunteering at an old-age home. You you're a big brother You're you're a big sister you I don't know you bring merchants together to you know, build things for the good of the community All right, if you can feel Important doing pro-social things then I think you're gonna be much less likely to run into this kind of David Silverman Donald Trump trouble Think of all the men who are undue by the done by the me too movement Do you think that if they were living for something beyond Satisfying their own primal needs for power and for pleasure that they would have gotten into this trouble whenever you watch a movie or a TV show or read a novel you'll notice the characters Inevitably get into trouble because they are pursuing things that are not higher than satisfying their own needs But if they were pursuing a feeling of importance from being of service being useful Contributing to other people then you don't tend to get into trouble Hey, you don't tend to flame out you tend to Conserve your energy Tend to have more energy you tend to be more calm so you see with most online Livestreaming personalities there's there's this often a rapid ascent for the first year or two and then you know just as equally a fairly rapid collapse and They basically flame out because there's nothing really that they're working for Beyond their own aggrandizement and opportunities for sex and for power Right, so yeah most men Most famous influential men don't get me, too Because they are connected with other people. So that's the other point. I don't think that David Silverman Was strongly connected with other people because if you're strongly connected with other people you would think about You know the tremendous shame that would come to them and to yourself if you get caught Engaged in sexual misconduct or any other type of misconduct so You know show me who your friends are and I'll show you who you are most of my Real-life friends people I see face-to-face are in orthodox Judaism because that's where I spend most of my spare time now In my online friends. I've got a lot of you know fairly joyful nearness, but I don't really see these people face-to-face so I see people face-to-face and so the people who are most important to me Within orthodox Judaism. So those relationships shade effect Create the boundaries the contours For everything that that I do online. So There's no one from my synagogue in my room right now All right, there's no one from the orthodox Jewish community in my home right now But those are the interactions that are most powerful for me because those are the most intense face-to-face Interactions that I have on a regular basis and so therefore those interconnecting bonds, right? They've kind of they kind of got me here, right? I live underneath and between these interconnected bonds within orthodox Judaism and Those ties that I forged with people over decades. I'm I'm I'm less likely to just blow them through you know some some gratuitous Desire to satisfy these basic needs for sex and power So if you can I think those men who don't flame out they're connected to others Most people have normal levels of connection So what's a normal level of connection normal level of connection is when people treat you badly you leave you distance yourself Right if you hang around for someone who treats you badly like I've done much of my life, right? I've often had abusive bosses and that was comfortable to me because it reminded me of the abuse that I had as a child and Just being in an abusive situation where people were yelling at me and throwing things at me and physically and emotionally Spiritually psychologically threatening me just felt normal to me. It just felt you know, I'm at home This is what I deserve. This is this is where I belong But most people thank God are not like that most people They get abused once and they get out of there They never return to that relationship that friendship that that boss like a normal person Right would have left, you know any of the abusive bosses that I work for the first time the abuse happened Because for a normal person you get abused and you're out of there But if you stick around for the abuse then there's something walked in your psychology so There's something warped obviously in a David Silverman in a Harvey Weinstein many of this men they've You know internalized abuse that they pass on the abuse And I just don't get the sense that they're strongly connected to other people so that now ideally we live our life You know under the covering of the tribe within the tribe, right? That's the natural human condition We form these we're born into ties and bonds tribal ties and bonds then we live here But for many people because they don't have that they don't have those ties and bonds and I've experienced this too When I've not been connected to other people I felt this desperate desperate need for fame and attention So the more connected I feel with other people the more I calm down So you see the more bizarre things that I do on here the more bizarre things that I say on here The more bizarre the songs that I sing here at the more bizarre the shows that I create here That means in my real life. I'm feeling disconnected from other people right, so The ideal life particularly for the for the addict is say two or three notches above boredom, right? That's kind of a sustainable way to live So I get you know that feeling of empty, right? I've gone through most of my life at Times just that overwhelming feeling of emptiness and then when I would get genuine human connection when I would be You know semi-adopted into some family or form a close friendship or get a girlfriend that pain inside me that emptiness inside me would dissipate But I was then Borrowing the functioning of other people and when that connection would die I would be left feeling even more bereft because I tasted what genuine human connection was was like I've gotten filled up and so after getting filled up the loss of What was sustaining me? just Would just knock me around like I was in in a Dryer all right dryer for your for your washing I just Was like shake everything about and it just kind of returned to that Disconcelant you know empty desperate yearning bereft feeling that that I had as a child and then carried through much my life when Look at you know the exhausting amount of time I put into my online ventures of my career starting with regular blogging in 1997 and Often that the desperate quality of the things that I would say and do online There was this desperate need for human connection Which comes out of a lack of normal connection when you have love you don't you know desperately need to reach for Fame and attention you don't have to engage in histrionic behavior because you need love You can be at ease with yourself. All right You can you can have you know parents family members friends a community You know acquaintances You know fellow travelers people in your volunteer program or religion or interest club or hobby and you can interact with them and You can tell them about you know some painful thing that's going on and you just kind of calm down But with like the David Silverman Harvey Weinstein Donald Trump types There's like a desperate quality to their desire for attention Which is inevitable when you don't connect normally and have normal levels of love right normal people get love But people who don't have love in their life Which I've experienced most of my life you then have this desperate quest for attention to try to fill that emptiness and Out of that comes a lot of anti-social behavior like I have engaged in more than my share of anti-social behavior like reckless needlessly provocative Shocking bad taste things that I've you know said said and done Online in a desperate quest for attention. So not all men once they get power and fame And money abuse it so the ones I don't those who are in those interlocking Relationships that they would not want to be humiliated before their wife before their family before their friends So if you can have a carry with you a sense of your human connections that that should be you know Interlacing with your own individual life Right and so you carry that into you whether you're all alone in your room And you're just reading a book or you're walking down the street or you're talking on a live stream I give if I can bring to mind, you know certain pictures a picture of my rabbi a picture of Rabbis who've mentored me Pictures of people I've studied Torah with pictures of you know Bring to mind pictures that are people that I've volunteered with like I've done hundreds and hundreds of hours of volunteer work When I can carry with me a sense of those connections and when I can build a sense of importance out of Being a 12-step sponsor out of speaking You know at a synagogue or a 12-step meeting out of you know volunteering in some capacity out of just being you know part of a cog that That helps that helps people find get a sense of importance from then then the the desperate primal needs for sex and power They don't ever well because those basic promo needs They're just trying to feed our desire to feel important But if you have normal levels of human connection then you get your feeling of importance from those Relationships and from succeeding within your tribe within your group like you can succeed outside your group But in large part you do it so that you can bring the bounty or you can bring the joy You can bring the laughter you can you can bring the wonderful things that you've received from achieving outside the tribe back Into the tribe and celebrate it with the people who are most important to you Okay, let's have a look at the chat I'm a sovereign citizen. I know my rights Male influences who discourage family tend to turn out to be homosexual curious Most men don't get me too and there are red flags with some of the women doing the me too Right. What type of woman is attracted to people like this? I was talking to a beautiful young woman today who told me that she found David Silverman attractive And I can't get into her body Thank God But I imagine it's his fame his confidence like women seem to love confidence So it's his fame his confidence His articulateness his intelligence and his charisma I'm sure would would lead many women to feel attracted to him But there's going to be something broken in these women who would get into You know intimate affairs with David Silverman type right when I had my my promiscuous times Right, I wasn't having my promiscuous times with otherwise, you know well balanced women Like I was having my promiscuous times women who are equally broken and equally as empty as me So the David Silverman's Harvey Weinstein's You know the creepy creepy men who are out there trying to exploit women Well, they can only usually exploit Those women who are similarly empty, similarly broken, similarly trying to take a shortcut to intimacy Sometimes in stories people get into trouble helping loved ones. Yes Right. Just because you desire to help is no guarantee that That things are going to work out Dow down 1300 today. Yes. Most important investment you can make is not in the Dow Jones Or in gold or in real estate. It's in your family and friends and community 30% of men are in cells and rising soon. It will be a majority There's an old African saying if the young are not initiated into the tribe They will burn down the village to feel the warmth, right? I set fires on two occasions when I was a kid And I was about seven eight years of age and Not proud of this. They could have been awful conflagrations. Thank god nothing happened because other people stepped up But uh, I kind of understand the arsonist that this It gives you a feeling of importance. I understand the arsonist. They want to feel importance. They want to feel alive right and people Would do crazy desperate Destructive things to feel important and to feel alive. I think that's tries much of the crime rate Masculine symbol of the screwdriver in the extreme foreground Is a nice subliminal touch. Yes Like to keep my screwdrivers here The orthodox are based. Yes by and large. They are you don't make me feel healthy You're making me feel healthy. I've left jobs when I was abused I didn't stick around and I was abused as a child too. I guess I may be partly healthy If if you leave when you're abused Then you're basically healthy All right, you stick around for more and more abuse Then you're basically unhealthy And the problem isn't primarily for you. The problem isn't not you holly, but you the person who sticks around being abused The problem is not primarily the abusers. The primary problem is yourself that you stick around for abuse Holly says I have some close connections at church But monday through friday. I'm pretty much still hiding in my room like as I did and I'm kicked Yes, but even when you're hiding in your room monday to friday You are carrying with you the sense of those connections that you've built a church So when you read something that you want to share with someone or have an experience When you say you're on your own in your room alone You do it in the context of those people at church with whom you want to share this Weinstein and silverman suffer from what buddhist call the hungry ghost The african tribe quote points out there's a category of male that is anti-social and entitled Men have uh misanthropic repulsive tendencies would destroy their own families if they had them Yeah, so we have these basic primal drives Now they can be guided towards that which is good, right? I know I know men in their third decade of marriage Who still have an active sex life with their spouse? All right, like I know men Come on. Come on. I don't know You know, I I know men three decades into their marriage. They're still holding hands with their spouse. They're still cuddling with their spouse So so there's a primal primal desire that is channeled into a really healthy outlet Only in modernity does the most lazy unlikable man think they deserve to possess another human Usually one out of their league Luke hopes to take a recovery call asks us for help for Dennis Prager Recall the shortage folks. No shiny rappers. Maybe not kosher enough. I have so many recaller beside me, bro I am stacked It's raining. Recallers In my world Right. I am blessed with so much abundance Like the the sugar-free lemon flavor. Oh, so delicious Women love a plough house. Luke get working in the fields. Harvey Weinstein made the big box. He was a king maker set for life They don't want to just own the beast. They want to ride the beast Luke must have busted his ass to put up that sound insulation. Isn't that fairly new? Yes. Thank you for asking That's about 500 bucks. I call this sound insulation. So I did it on the on the roof as well So I think to finish off the the rest of the room or probably cost about another $600 or so, but those things I do for for high quality live streaming Yes, in cell discourse discourages men from self-improvement. It's bad for them Yeah, generally speaking men going their own way is not good like generally speaking going your own way in life is a really bad strategy There are the occasional exceptions who thrive on going going their own way generally speaking It's really bad and if you get into a money fame or power You're going to be much more vulnerable to your primal drives Without any amelioration of your human connections So, you know the the Harvey Weinstein I don't suspect he had a lot of close friends or David Sillman don't suspect he had a lot of close friends So that you have them in mind like when I wanted to look at pornography an image of my rabbi would come to my mind Like if I wanted to do something, you know, particularly shameful or disgusting May very well be that friends of mine from the orthodox Jewish community would just come to my mind And I won't want to Disappoint them. I won't want to gross them out So that's the importance of loving people and taking time to think about people who've been good to you And having that that sense of gratitude Right think about someone who's been kind to you good to you He's been loving towards you and and go try to go through the the day with that sense also Think about how your selfishness has hurt the lives of other people I'm quoting here. Fred Luskin from that great book for gift for good, right? Just a little bit of thinking about how my selfishness has hurt other people And my attention seeking has you know made a party or a gathering or an interaction just highly unpleasant for other people so That kind of question I find incredibly sobering and kind of brings me into reality Because I am not naturally a man of great common sense Right. I'm not naturally a man who just easily hangs out in in a state of reality Right. I tend to be a luth mensch, you know someone who's in the thinking in the air, you know airy fairy ideas You know ideologies all that The shapes of the individual pieces of sound insulation form an interesting mosaic Yeah, I'm not so happy with the second second lot the latest last of sound foam insulation That's really crap. So the first lot was much better. The second lot was really inferior Harvey had Oprah. She was the only woman he could resist socializing. So I've been reading Thomas Hobbs, Leviathan just some great stuff in it came out in 1651 Okay, so to agree with an opinion is to honor it It is a sign of approving of someone's judgment and his wisdom So if you agree with me, you're agreeing with my wisdom to dissent from someone is a dishonor Okay To to employ someone is a sign that you have a high opinion of his wisdom Men must have a strong opinion of their own wisdom right because People will will admit that they're terrible at all sorts of things, but almost nobody will will admit that they are Unwise what is my my is big type? I believe it is INTJ Confidence in others from ignorance of their wisdom Disposeth men to confide in them that have it because the former is seeming wisdom. The latter is seeming kindness Okay, so yeah, he talks about all men think that they have wisdom That is the nature of man All right, they may acknowledge that many others are more witty more eloquent and more learned But men will hardly ever believe that there's anyone who is wiser than them men love to show their wisdom so The false presumption of one's own wisdom is yeah very very common human human defect So much wisdom in Leviathan by Thomas Hobbs Okay, this is my favorite. I like sugar-free lemon ricotta or the others. I don't care for that's it. Bye. Bye