 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهادي ولا أتأواله الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلت والسلام على عبد الله ورسوله نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته نبدأ as always by praising Allah by asking Allah to exalt the mention and grant peace to our messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and to his family and his companions Welcome to this short course by المدرسة العمارية And this short course in sha Allah is all about the Muslim family And the Muslim family is a comprehensive topic has a lot of different aspects to it And we're going to try to take it in a comprehensive way step by step So I wanted to start with the مفهوم of الأسرة المسلمة What's the general understanding of the Muslim family You'll sort of start at the beginning What is the Muslim family and what are perhaps the different words that are used for it in Arabic Or the words we find in the Quran Some of the general ayat and the hadith about the Muslim family Just to give us an overview And then in sha Allah from there I wanted to move on to talk about the beginning of the Muslim family Which is obviously marriage because the Muslim family starts when two people get married And they start their own little family And that's the beginning of the Muslim family And then on from there in sha Allah to look at children And the relationship of parents with children and children with parents To look at the relationship between the siblings in the same house And then to look at the issue from a wider perspective And look at the wider members of the family And how we should keep ties with them And some of the issues that are people commonly face In all of those different relationships Whether it be issues relating to the relationships between husband and wife Or between parents and children or children and parents Or between siblings Or between wider family members In sha Allah So we really want to try and approach this in a comprehensive way And in sha Allah Try to bring evidences Try to make it evidence based To bring you evidences from the Book of Allah From the Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم And from the statements of the righteous people Who passed away before us So then in sha Allah We can get a really good understanding of this topic And right at the beginning I just want to remind everybody And I want to remind myself Before I remind anyone else that The purpose of studying this short course Is not just for the sake of Knowledge in of itself Knowledge for knowledge sake In fact that might even come under the statement Of Allah Your hearts have become preoccupied With just gathering things for the sake of gathering them Just having more of something For the sake of having more of something So we don't want this knowledge to be Something that we just want to have more of it Because there's a course available And I just want to watch the videos And I just want to know it For the sake of knowing it But really we want to put it into practice We want Allah عز و جل And we ask Allah عز و جل Or Allah teaches what will benefit us And benefit us with what you teach us And increase us in knowledge So we want that knowledge So that we can put it into practice We want to be able to implement it We want to have a better relationship Or better relationships Within our family Have a better home A better Muslim home And insha'Allah To be an inspiration And an example for those around us And to do that We have to have knowledge Because remember Knowledge comes before We do any actions at all As Allah عز و جل said So knowledge always comes before We put something into practice But if we just get the knowledge And we don't put it into practice Then that's a problem in of itself So we want to insha'Allah Start with the right intention We ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى To purify our intention To make this action of ours Sincerely for him alone And to make it pleasing to him To make it in accordance with What the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم Brought to give us The knowledge that we need And the ability to put it into practice Insha'Allah Also before we start the course And we get into the content Of this short course Insha'Allah I would also like to draw your attention To the fact that As a student Who is following a structured course It will be really helpful If you have a notepad and pen with you And you were to take notes Insha'Allah And Insha'Allah Try to jot down any questions Any things that you don't understand Likewise Things that you would like to read upon Things you would like to research more about You'll have a much much better Experience that way Insha'Allah So that being said We want to get right into the content Of this short course And we want to start with the مفهوم The understanding of المسلمة The understanding of What the Muslim family actually is We're going to start with the language That's typically where we start When we talk about these different topics We usually start with The Arabic language And we're going to look at the different words In Arabic for family And try to understand something About them or try to Insha'Allah Extract some benefits from them So the word that probably comes to mind More than any other word Is the word الأسرة الأسرة And I remember looking this word up I went back to some of the dictionaries Some of the classical Scholars of the Arabic language And just wanted to know Where does this word come from This word الأسرة Which we use for the family And I found something very interesting And I found this to be a real benefit That some of the scholars they mentioned It comes back to أربط بالأمر الواحد It comes back to All of the members of that family Being bound together By a common By something in common That binds them and together And brings them together And really that does tell us a lot about the family Because as it's famously said You can change your friends But you can't change your family Your family is something that You are bound to Whether you like it or not You are going to have responsibilities Towards those family members Insha'Allah As Allah has legislated Even regardless of the way That certain members of the family might behave Still those responsibilities are going to be there As we're going to hear So the fact that It's something that Brings people together And it's something that binds people together Almost No matter what happens There will always be that bond That exists between those family members Because they're tied by Something which brings them together And that is perhaps one of the meanings of As for As it relates To sort of the more technical meaning Then it's used for Wasawaj It's used for Relations in terms of marriage And relations in terms of relatives Who are near to you Another word which comes to mind is العائلة And it said that The difference is that العائلة refers specifically To those who live under the same roof And that's going to be the focus of our course Insha'Allah It's going to be focusing on The people who live under the same roof Typically So you might have In a typical household Mom Dad The kids You have some siblings And you have the relationship there And so on So that is what you would call العائلة That the عائلة They live together in the same house Who are under A single There's a person who is like The head of the household There's a person who is the head of the household And all of the Members of that عائلة Are kind of look back To the head of the household And that's something again we're going to be talking More about as we get into the dynamics Of the family and how the family is Structured But that's something we can take from the word Another word that we hear Very commonly is العهل And Originally Refers to a person's wife For example A person would say Or like we find in the حديث Of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم The حديث is in the حديث of ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما It's also a حديث Of عائشة رضي الله عنها خيركم لأهله و أنا خيركم لأهله The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم Said the best of you Are those who are best To their family And here the primary meaning You take is to their To their wife or to their wives And I am the best of you To my family, I to my wives But the word family the word أهل It goes wider than that It starts off originally as referring to A man and his wife And then It expands or people use it In a more general way To refer to the wider relatives And the other people who are in the house Another word that we hear Very commonly is ألعال Like when we talk about ألو بيتي The people of the household Of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم And the word ألعال And it goes back to The Arabic word رجع To go back to Meaning يارجع إليه They're the ones that he goes Back to either in terms of His lineage goes back to them Or in terms of the fact that He kind of comes back to them And it's used In terms of نسب Like the word الأهل And it can also be used for followers Of محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلى آله وصحبه That the آله can be used To mean the family And it can be used also to mean Followers as well But we're going to use it here in the context of The family And another word that we also hear Being used is ألبيت And ألبيت here doesn't mean the house As in the place where the people live But it means ألبيت The household As in the household And they are like the scholars They are the family members Who live alongside A man So a man is living With his family members And those family members Who live alongside him They are from the bait Of that person The household of that person So these are all Words which we can look at Which will come up But only some of them are used In the Qur'an and in the sunnah Of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم And we're going to give some examples of that So when we come to the Qur'an I want to start off with an ayah Which has a lot of lessons In it for us about The family in general And that is the statement of Allah And that is the statement of Allah And that is the statement of Allah للكم من أزواجكم بنينا وحفده ورزاقكم من الطيبات أفى بالباطل يؤمنون وبنعمة الله هم يكفرون This is in Surah An-Nahl This is in Surah An-Nahl So Allah عز وجل He said والله جعل لكم من أنفسكم أزواجه Allah has made for you حياتك. now there's two things here first of all this refers no doubt to Adam and حواء عليهم السلام and Adam and حواء Adam and حواء who were the origin of mankind الله عز و جل created all of mankind as we're going to come to the ayah إن شاء الله تعالى شوطلي. الله عز و جل created all of mankind from Adam and from حواء عليهم السلام and الله عز و جل from them made many men and women. so that's the first understanding والله جعل لكم من أنفسكم أزواجه. الله made for you from yourselves wives but another understanding that we take from here and some of the scholars of تفسير mentioned it also is that the meaning here والله جعل لكم من أنفسكم أزواجه is that الله عز و جل made وائب for you who are the same as you they're not like a different creature or a different sort of you know a different species to you they are you're both human beings you're both the same and that's part of what makes the family live together because at the end of the day you have things in common and the most basic thing you have in common is that all of you came from Adam and حواء so that's part of what is meant by the ayah والله جعل لكم من أنفسكم أزواجه و جعل لكم من أزواجكم بنين الله حفده and الله عز و جل has made for you from your spouses بنين offspring children و حفده this word حفده the scholars had some different opinions about it this word حفده but the word itself when we come back to the word itself and what this word actually means the word itself actually means the one who serves you and there's a lot of different things the scholars said about this particular word but i think one of the things that i wanted to highlight in this word and the word itself generally we understand it to mean the grandchildren so you could translate the ayah and say that الله has made for you from your spouses children and grandchildren but when you come back to this word حفده i was really surprised at how much the scholars differed over this word and how much they had so many different opinions about what this word means but actually here when we look at it it's because the original meaning of the word is the one who يخدمك الذي يخدمك the one who serves you the one who helps you out the one who is there for you and that i feel is really profound because that's what really you want from your children right you know you want to build this family to be there for each other to be there for each other and that's a blessing of الله عز و جل that الله سبحانه وتعالى has made for you from your family he's made for you children and he's made for you those people that help you out those people who are there for you and even if the word itself the meaning which comes to mind is that it means grandchildren but still the the origin of the word is the one that serves you the one that helps you out and that is truly a blessing of الله عز و جل من الطيبات and الله provided for you from all of these good things and from the طيبات that الله provided for you is that الله عز و جل provided you with family members and this is from the risk of الله سبحانه وتعالى has no doubt that having children is a great blessing from الله عز و جل it's a risk from الله a provision from الله عز و جل and that the blessing of having those family members that help you out look out for you and support you and are there for you and serve you that is something which is a great blessing from الله عز و جل and it's one of the طيبات one of the beautiful things that الله سبحانه وتعالى has provided for us and we know that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said الدنيا متاع this دنيا is a temporary enjoyment and the best متاع و خير متاع الدنيا المرأة الصالحة and the best of the of the enjoyment of this world is a righteous wife so these family members that are within this household are part of the blessings that الله سبحانه وتعالى has given us and then Allah عز و جل said أفا بالباطل يؤمنون و بنعمة الله هم يكفرون is it the falsehood that they believe in meaning do they believe that these things are provided by the idols do they believe these things are provided by other than الله و بنعمة الله هم يكفرون and yet by the best through the blessings of الله or towards the blessings of الله they're ungrateful so I really wanted you to really take this آية the آية صورة النحل آية number 72 and really to reflect upon it and think about it and think about the blessings of الله عز و جل and how much الله عز و جل has blessed you when it comes to your family so as we said the word حفده in its original sort of the original meaning of the word is the one that serves you in the one that looks after you can mean grandchildren it can mean those who you have a relation with them through marriage I the the in laws it can refer to the husbands of your daughters and some of the scholars of تفسير they mentioned that it refers to the children of your wife that she had before you married her for example these are all things the scholars of تفسير mentioned about the word حفده but really what I wanted to focus on as I said is that this is about the one who supports you and serves you and primarily the meaning that sort of comes to mind when you first hear the آية is that refers to children and grandchildren and so upon line the way that you think about the way that your children benefit you it's not just that they benefit you in this life through serving you and through خدمة but they also make that خدمة that service of you even after you die and we know the حديث of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا مات ابنو آدم إن قطع عمله إلا من ثلاث if the children of the son of آدم dies all of his deeds cease except for three and one of them that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم mentioned is that he said وولد صالح يدعو له a righteous child that سفلك يدعو for that person so that خدمة the service that your children your grandchildren do for you is is more than just actually serving you when you're alive it even extends on to after you die and that's one of the virtues and the blessings of الله عز و جل that come from the Muslim family so really it's about remembering the blessings of الله and about thanking الله عز و جل for those blessings and on that topic I wanted to come to آية الله عز و جل when it talks about thanking الله عز و جل for the blessings that he's given you الله عز و جل said when your lord declared if you show gratitude I will surely give you increase and if you are ungrateful then indeed my punishment is severe so we have to show gratitude to الله عز و جل for the blessings of our family and the question then comes well how do we show gratitude to الله عز و جل for the blessings that he's given us the blessing of the family that he's given us and perhaps we can quote the آية in صورة سبع which is آية number 13 in which الله عز و جل said إعمل و آل داودة شكرا و قليل من عبادية شكور act or family of daود in gratitude and how few of my servants are truly grateful so الله عز و جل commands us to act in gratitude commands us to to perform actions to do things that show our gratitude to الله سبحانه وتعالى so if الله عز و جل has blessed us with a family being part of a muslim family then there's no doubt that this is something which deserves gratitude to الله عز و جل it's a نعمة of الله we don't want to be like those people about whom الله said أفا بالباطل يؤمنون و بنعمة الله هم يكفرون is it the falsehood that they believe in while they are ungrateful or rejecting of the blessings of الله and also we want to show by putting into practice by striving to make our families the best that they possibly can be the next آية that i want to cover is the statement of الله عز و جل الله سبحانه وتعالى this in صورة الحجرات آية number 13 oh mankind we created you from male and female and we made you into شروب و قبائلة we made you into tribes and we made you into nations and tribes a شعب is more general than the the قبيلة the قبيلة is like a tribe and within the قبيلة there are other like sub tribes and all different it goes down many levels so at the highest kind of level الله عز و جل made a شعب and sometimes people translate it as a nation but perhaps it's it's underneath a nation so you know at the highest level you have a nation and then you have a شعب like a community or a big group of people within that nation and then you have a قبيلة within that and then within the قبيلة you have various branches sub tribes and so on even down to the uh فصيلة that الله عز و جل said و فصيلةه التي took we the sort of close family members that protect a person so these are all الله عز و جل said و جعلناكم شعوبا و قبائلة لتعرفوا الله عز و جل has made this society in a way with a wisdom so that all of us know one another and this just talks about the you know the the the broad the way the society is built up and the society is built up starting with just small families and that family eventually turns into you know like a big family and from a big family it you know it forms part of a bigger unit and a bigger unit until it becomes you know all the way up to the level of a قبيلة and a شعب which الله سبحانه وتعالى made this these nations out of so الله سبحانه وتعالى has made us into family unit or family units for a great benefit and a great wisdom that is with him سبحانه وتعالى so that we can know each other and الله عز و جل told us and this is going to be a theme that comes again and again when it comes to إن أكرامكم عند الله أتقاكم what really matters the one who is really noble in the sight of الله is the one who has التقوى the one who has التقوى the one who has a fear of Allah عز و جل who protects himself from the punishment of Allah by doing what Allah commanded and by keeping away from what Allah عز و جل prohibited and again in the beginning من ذكر و أمثى all mankind we created you from male and female so it's again that referring back to the fact that all of these nations and tribes all of them came back from a single marriage and that is between آدم and حوا عليه السلام and it's on this topic that الله عز و جل يا أيها الناس التقوى ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس واحدة و خلق منها زوجها وبث منهما رجالا كثيرا و نساءا و التقوى الله الذي تساءلون به والأرحام إن الله كان عليكم رقيبة الله عز و جل هسد يا أيها الناس التقوى ربكم again that concept of تقوى and it's so interesting that all of the آيات or many of the آيات that deal with the family or even the آيات that are customarily read at the time of the نكاح they deal with a تقوى having تقوى and that's because تقوى is really the building block which a Muslim builds everything upon including their family so if you were to kind of have a single word that would summarize what you want from your family dynamic and what you want from your household it is a تقوى it is a تقوى and a تقوى as some of the scholars defined it they said it is العمل بطاعة الله على نور من الله رجاء ثواب الله وترك معاص الله على نور من الله مخافة عذاب الله that it is to act in obedience to الله على نور من الله رجاء ثواب الله رجاء ثواب الله and to leave Disobedience to Allah على نور من الله رجاء ثواب الله to fear Allah's punishment so to do your best to obey الله and to do your best to keep away from disobeying Allah يا أيها الناس التقوى of your Lord who created you from a single soul and created from that single person Adam his mate حوا and from those two all of the men and women came and have تقوى of الله الذي تساعلون به the one that you ask by him so you say والله or you say بالله أسألوك بالله i ask you by Allah i ask you by Allah to do this for me you ask Allah by it والأرحم and here if we read أرحم with the فتحة then the meaning here is be careful fear Allah with regard to your relatives fear Allah with regard to your relatives إن الله كان عليكم رقيبة الله is always watching over you الله is always watching over you so this this IA contains first of all it tells us that that الله عز وجل began this entire this entire you know all of باني آدم الله عز وجل began this entire human race out of just two people out of آدم and حوا the first Muslim family and then الله عز وجل tells us the rights that our family members have over us والتقوى الله الذي تساعلون به والأرحم have so those are just some of the IA to which kind of set the scene when it comes to the Muslim family and in شاء الله تعالى in the next episode we're going to be continuing that and looking into more detail about some of the IA to the حديث that just deal with the Muslim family in general before we go on to talk about specific aspects of it إن شاء الله تعالى that's what Allah made easy for us to mention and Allah knows best والصلاة والسلام على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين السلام عليكم if you're enjoying these videos and you'd like to keep up to date with all of the courses we're going to be running make sure you head over to amauathome.com