 Everyday woman, woman, woman In every way, yeah, yeah I'm living my life, life, life Living day by day Welcome to Every Way Woman There are some major changes happening in the talk show world Live from Los Angeles, here is Every Way Woman I want to continue the dialogue on the expectations of women especially women who are middle age I know Amber, you and I were talking about that And it's like, how are we even, you know, classifying middle age? Now, if, you know, 30 is the new 20, is middle age 60? Well, I got the wisdom one, I'm middle age Shut up! I got ashamed of my age, so I don't know, is that middle age? You're on the brink of it, you're not getting middle age No, no, no, you don't hit middle age, so you're about 25 No, you middle age! I'm right here with Amber But I am looking into the rim You're looking over the edge I will tell you, it is 45, it is the forgotten stage of a woman's life 45 What do you mean it's forgotten? Because our roles have changed so much Our roles have changed, our mothers used to be younger They used to, how old are your moms? My mom is still in her 60s Do you know how many moms I know were in their 60s that have teenage kids? Middle age has changed Well, because we had our careers before the family And then they had a family later in life And now middle age just happened and we're in a whole other place of our lives It's changed because of technology and everything Everybody's trying to find out It depends on what culture you grew up in And what technology you live with Cheryl, I wonder, do you have any sense of the expectations That you're facing? You just got a new house Yes I mean that's a huge responsibility I'm not middle aged, but I think that moment when your responsibilities increase exponentially For example, my mom is also in her 60s Fortunately, the later half of the 60s I said fortunately because my dad passed away when he was 66 So to even just surpass that I think is a good thing But then I look at her and it's like She's independent now, but I can see the aging starting to set in And I know that my sister and I live nearby And we're trying to get her to move closer to us So you can look in after her? So we can look in on her I mean she's already been a cardiac patient So we've already had a look after her in that response And fortunately, she's healed from that But we always worry Do you have a fear of taking care? No, because I'm fortunate that we have enough family resources That we can get her the care she needs But Anna's been looking after several members of your family What to take care of my mom? She's young and I feel, I don't know if it's being the whole Latina Hispanic community I don't know But I just feel like the necessity that no matter what Even if I had my own family, I still got to take care of her Right I don't know Yeah, that's true I have a profession Recently, I take care of her What if he's dead? What if I bury him? You know How can you handle all of that? You know, he doesn't have any resources that I know of That will be able to take care of him So that was that fear of like What do I do when I have to go find him? I don't know I mean, what do you do? What kind of expectations do you have? I really don't have any expectations of him So I just kind of feel like it's kind of like Me going to search for someone who I don't That you have that But it's just Still you got to go out Right, but I feel as a child And this is my experience That's it I have to go out and go and try and find him So it's our obligation then As children to become parents to our parents At some point I think I just go way back to when you were When I was younger Right now it's kind of built in That usually it's the first, the oldest child Preferably the oldest son That is going to take care of him It's built in It's built in in that culture So unfortunately, I'm the oldest son Right now I'm the plump one And the oldest son, which is my brother Okay, so then I have a question What if it's almost It's almost like an indirect parenting relationship Like for example What if you had to take care of your husband's parents How does that affect you? Because I know I had to They're on their own The relationship I just got out of They're on their own The relationship I just got out of My ex-boyfriend He was the oldest son of eight But his parents were largely dependent On him And I just looked at my father He's huge I looked at her At your, you know Especially taking care of his mom As daughters But quite frankly I felt like the burden of her care Was going to fall to me And the other prospect of that was Well, I think the whole Prospect of those obligations and expectations Is terrifying I can hardly handle my life As it is in my 20s But to be excited to care for my own family My husband and my parents And they're my husband's parents My god, it sounds like hell I don't know how any woman Could balance those expectations I've really done They know I can sometimes do it What people forget is Men go through a big life crisis And we all acknowledge it We're not alone in this But women go through one too And we ignore it Okay, well Ladies, I definitely want to Continue this conversation When we get back from this break Are you an every woman Are you an every woman If you've been wanting to Turn that 12 pack into a 6 pack The doctors from Finesse Plastic Surgery Are going to talk to us About the tummy tuck From doing crunches just enough Dr. Gown and Dr. Wesson Here from Finesse Plastic Surgery To share some options On how to get a platic surgery Now I understand that there are Some really invasive And also some extremely invasive Ways to get that experience But what would be some of the Most invasive ways to start Most invasive? 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Absolutely Different panels Or different applicators In different areas So you can die Out of die Lower out I'm fine-tuned to every patient So that's the non-invasive That's the coolest way Now Fast forward Into the next stage Which is liposuction Liposuction alone Is good for When you're younger You still have that nice tone But have a little bit Of those excess areas That they want to get rid of Those are the regions When no matter How much working out How many hours to the gym You still have these collections Of fat in your stomach The way How long is the recovery time? Liposuction People It depends on what you're asking Part of the question is When can you go back to work? So it really depends on How much do you do So really targeted low volume Liposuction You might be able To do surgery on a Thursday And go back Monday If you're doing multiple Areas and taking out A lot more fat The person might need A week of stuff work It also, of course, Depends on what you do If you have a really active Have done In general, liposuction Is a relatively short recovery When you have discomfort But we don't put much We don't put any limitations on you Because you haven't really You haven't sewn the tissue You haven't put muscle Back together You have to worry about It's more the soreness You know, I have a couple Of mommy's work And that's kind of an issue For a lot of this mother Even though You can get fit And back to shape That we seem to have This excess skin That's fat And it's not necessarily fat What do you do That's exactly what we expect The difference between the two Is in many tummy tucks It's a smaller decision It's mostly target To take care of that Lower pooch That's the tissue Versus a full tummy tuck When there's more excess And loose skin All throughout the entire Preventory afternoon And that requires Repositioning the belly button A little bit longer Decision to get more That skin To create that nice tight So you actually move The belly button To the tummy tuck When you do a full Pinch of gas You make an incision All the way around it Pull the skin down Over it And then you make A new opening All the way around So it actually stays In the same position That you make a new portion What allows us to get All the extra skin out And you'll never notice The incision When it's getting Inside the belly button Now, is that something I'm going through I mean Fit them in the extensive You know But what about a man Do men go to center They certainly do And in most cases A lot of them Store fat differently Than women They still do benefit From that same procedure That we do with our tummy tuck Which is bringing That central musculature together With women They have babies And that stretches out That six-pack, if you will So they get What's called A diastasis repair It's really Creating internal corsets If you remember How the corsets are made We have the tight Scratch With the strings And pulling girl tight But it also brings In the midsection That's what we're doing Internally On top of lifting And then stretching And removing excess skin With that body Pull on the couple So you see as a life of such And then you have Absolutely perfect So if you don't have An hourglass shape You could actually Do You can certainly Get somebody Closer to that shape It depends on What your split person is Starting with But somebody who is An otherwise good shape That you go ahead And put the muscle Back together Even with excess skin You can absolutely Accentuate their natural Hourglass shape So thank you That was extremely helpful If you would like To find out more information About this product And less invasive diseases On that platter Tell me please check out Their website At finatsplasticsurgery.com Dr. West I'm interested in learning I wanted to just Live a little bit Not too much Service So what would you What would you Recommend for me? Key with all these things Is it really starts With a through evaluation So what I would Recommend is Make an appointment With us Come in And we'll assess you And we'll figure out What are your goals And we can show you photos Of arranging patients What surgeries What surgeries they have chosen What implants they have chosen So that you can start To get an idea of it If you're talking about implants We'll show you a range of implants There's a huge range There's hundreds of choices We'll show you a very small implant To a more moderate To a large implant And we'll let you try them on And you'll get a sense Very quickly What makes sense for you It's like the chorus You're going to find out What's too small What's too big And what's just right And then Dr. Gown The question my husband Don't want to know He's going to like that But the cost Because I just want to Do a little something Cost effective for my pocketbook So, you know Can you tell me about Cost effective procedures That's what he wants to know So certainly the breast augmentation Is not going to break the bank But just add more procedures Such as lifts and otherwise It's going to cost more Because it takes more time I can't really give you A good assessment until we choose Which procedure would work best for you And then we can work out Financing options that we have Available through our office That can make it available To any person Every day kitchen is next With every way woman You and every way woman Represardo and Nieho What's this all about We're texting Tequila We're bringing the bar home We are here with Mandy From ADA Tequila Joining us as Cheryl To let us know the difference About Tequila Which I'm so excited Because we get to play with Tequila I didn't even know There was a difference Tell us So many differences Our Tequilas are actually Ultra premium sipping style Tequilas So they're made with 100% blue agave It's not your typical low grade Tequilas Are a little higher end So the budget is a little bit higher But it's very comparable To some of the other higher ends What's blue agave? Blue agave is the type of plant That Tequila is made from There's hundreds of different types Of agave plants And they all taste and smell So different And blue agave is the top It's the premium So it has a taste What kind of taste? It's hard to explain It's a little hard to explain Because for some It all depends on your taste buds For some people it could be sweet For some people it could be a little tangy For other people it could be a little sour So it all depends on your mouth And what you like What is it that you have? We have a Blanco Which is rested for about three months Most Blancos aren't rested at all So ours is actually rested It soaks in that evolving flavor So it gives you that very smooth Feeling and flavor When it's going down your throat So rested means that It's stayed out longer, right? I mean, I don't know nothing about Tequila Yeah, because once it's distilled It's kept in these stainless steel tanks Usually from there They bottle it right away So the Blancos rested three months Our second one is the Repulsado This is the Blanco? That is the Blanco That's the last one The middle one is Repulsado And that one is aged Ours is aged anywhere from Eight to twelve months The Mexican government only requires About two months So ours is aged a lot longer And it's aged in these bourbon oak barrels Which is what gives it the color Yes, in the smell In the taste It's amazing Then the last one here is Añejo This is the top of the top And this one is aged for Anywhere from twenty to twenty-four months Typically it's about twelve months Most other brands and stuff Would do it for But ours is twenty to twenty-four months So you get a lot more flavor A lot more smell A lot more smoothness And it's just so much more enjoyable Smell it All the way over here That's why I was, you know What is the difference? Is it stronger? I wouldn't even know It's not so much that it's stronger But you get different smells Out of the different ones So like the Blanco, for instance It's rested in stainless steel You smell a lot more of the agave So you get citrus notes You get herbal notes You get floral notes Out of... You move over to... Smell it a little bit But I can't drink it I'll be tipsy I'm gonna leave that to you Our taster There you go Try that one out So is that the way it's supposed to be? It's supposed to be It's supposed to be The hazelnut You get some of the citrus You get some... Is this one much harder? No A lot of people assume that the darker ones Are harsher than the lighter ones Darker ones are actually a lot smoother Because they've been aged a lot longer Okay, now you talked about... Well, before Go ahead and taste it You said that they were made at a different plant Well, there's different types of plants But ours is just 100% blue agave So ours is only the blue agave Yeah, that gave me the... So then they have... All of them were by blue agave Yeah, all's one's the one that Gives you that full flavor Because the middle one's not here So I can't taste it You get a lot of flavor out of all of them But biannyeho is the one Different types of flavors out of it Because there's so many different mixtures And which one is the strongest? I know every taste, but it's different Yeah, everyone's so different A lot of people assume that The darker ones are stronger But to me, the darker ones are so much smoother Really? Yeah And the blond ones... What do you say? I would agree Yeah And usually we go Blanco for shots Reposado for mixing And biannyeho for sipping on That's kind of my theory But everybody has their own way of doing it Okay, so do you... Can you bake with it? Can you... I know we're going to do some cocktails today Could you cook with it? You can cook with it You can make desserts with it You can make popsicles with it You can do margaritas Popsicle Martinis And all kinds of things I am so, I'm so excited Cheer to the end of the week I want to cheer for that Cheers No tequila faces And we'll be right back with Evelyn Stay with us for Tomorrow's Stars You and everyone One more One more woman celebrates Tomorrow's Stars And today I'd like to introduce Kenelia Welcome Kenelia to the show I'm so glad to see you here in Los Angeles We've seen you all over town You can also find her on AfterBuzz Today you're on our stage Take it away Thank you How's everybody doing? How's everybody doing? Like she said I'm originally from Michigan Flint, Michigan Which is an hour outside of Detroit But I never really go back to visit Because as soon as you step off the plane You lose your job I don't know if you ever knew that You get off the plane You're like I just lose my gig That's my job You broke, you lost everything I also have a crazy mom Anybody here have crazy moms? What I'd like to say is If you don't know Or have a crazy mom You're usually the crazy mom So just keep that in mind My mom is a crazy I caught her watching fatal attraction With a pen and a notepad That's when I found out she was crazy I walked in and she was taking notes Okay But it was the 80s I was raised in the 80s My mom had a jury curl So that explains it She had a jury curl And a drawer full of shoulder pads So I don't know whether As a child, whenever we would go places She would be like Girl, that outfit would look good With some shoulder pads And we'd have to go in the room And get the shoulder pads And I'm like, mom, I'm six Like, what am I going to do With shoulder pads? I'm six years old, really She also would use Crazy scenes in her favorite movies To teach us lessons Anybody familiar with Boys in the Hood Mid-movie, Boys in the Hood Ricky, who is the star football player Gets shot in the chest And he dies, unfortunately But during that time in the movie My mom looked at me and my sister And was like, you see? That's what happens Well, you don't do the dishes And clean up the bathroom I told you You see that? Get in there and do it I told you to do it It's ridiculous I just wasn't raised right, guys That's the point I wasn't raised right My dad took me and my sister Out of ballet class Because he was tired of missing Soul Train on Saturdays He was like, you know what? Houdini was on last week And I'm going to miss Boy George next time Get your stuff, let's go forever And I could never go back I think it was because He wanted to be a Soul Train dancer secretly Because he would make us Move all the furniture Out of the living room And he'd be like, come on kids We going to kill them this week Yeah But he was the only person Who got the dance And me and my sister Would be sitting there Waiting to get in all the time All the time Like, when are we going to get the dance, daddy? Never We never got the dance Which is crazy Thank you, I appreciate that Thank you, I appreciate that My aunt wouldn't babysit us right She used to give us Special Pop with our spaghetti For dinner Okay When I got to college I realized Special Pop was Seagram's fuzzy naval wine cooler That's what it was It was wine cooler It was like, yo Is this Special Pop? This is delicious I've been looking all over this This is delicious What do you get there? They're like the corner store Okay, I guess But that's just how I was raised It was, you know It was a different time And it was a different era I'm also You know what? On that note I'm just going to wrap it up Thanks, guys It's been amazing Thank you Every woman likes to get back To our community To find out how you too Can match our donations For undergarments For needy kids Go to everywherewoman.com We'll see you next time Thank you Thank you for about four years now Yeah You like it I don't like the traffic Are you an everywhere woman? Our donations of undergarments For needy kids Thanks for getting to know EveryWay Woman This has been an EveryWay Woman production Whether I'm just waiting Or sitting at home Staying just to watch what glow I'm gonna go and live my life The memes working nine to five Cause I'm an everywhere woman I'm an everywhere woman Independent No I meant it It's no surprise Hard work in twenty four seven Man I've got to tell I'm an everywhere woman