 Today I am going to talk about having gay parents and I know some of you are like Oh, what they're lesbian because they're women you can call women gay as well. Yes, you can say gay It's not offensive or might be offensive to some people But as you guys know, I'm obviously adopted so that's not a big shock for you guys the main Lifestyle difference I have I guess is having gay parents, but I really don't see a big Difference in it because it's just what I know. It's what I've grown up with It's kind of like if you grew up with red hair you wouldn't picture yourself any other way I'm gonna try to address some things that like people always ask me, you know I'm not really going to talk about the adoption side because that's gonna be another video So if you want an adoption video give this video a big thumbs up and Comment down below and let me know because I would be happy it to do an adoption story for you guys But I got really inspired to make this video from another youtuber I'll leave the link to her video it down below because she also made a video about Growing up with gay moms and I think that that was it was interesting to see from another point of view there's not a lot of people who can relate to me in a sense and if I could be someone to Give some tips or advice to or I don't know if people are just nosy I will be able to provide you with some information and some insight So I guess I'll just start off by saying yes, I have two moms. They are Caucasian white American sharing Valerie and they're awesome. They're like my friends. I can literally talk to them about anything I do feel comfortable with that. I feel that we have like a really good relationship There's always a good balance in the household by certain personalities. I remember The video that I watched she was saying how she like wanted someone to like break her hair Sherry did my hair because I was in dance. So like I always needed my hair done I guess basically what I'm trying to say is both of my parents provided what I needed and they still do They're very good balance. I don't feel like I missed out on anything a lot of the times I feel like I have a better scenario than some people because some of my friends with straight parents like They're either divorced or they had like marital issues or something like that And I can probably say that my parents have been together for 30 years Well, okay, I'm gonna cut that to 29 but still basically rounding up 30 years And they have a very strong relationship I hope to have as good of a relationship as them because I feel like they set a really good example They have good moral standards and they're good people. So I mean comparing my life to Person like somebody else's I would not see that. I'm missing out on anything also in the video The girl talked about feeling like she was missing that father figure or something I don't know if she said that I don't I don't know don't quote me But I honestly don't feel like I've missed out on a father figure Because my grandpa was like so close to me and I miss him a lot I don't know why I just got kind of emotional there that part of my life didn't really like change at all That's not something that I really had to miss out on Breaking the news to my friends or telling my friends that I had gay moms It was kind of like weird because I didn't really know anyone else in my scenario or in my place Like I didn't really know a lot of families with two parents that are same sex because I'm 20 and like that's not very Common back then but it is now which is awesome because it's getting more accepted Which I feel is great because you don't ever feel like you're hiding something and I never hid Anything from my friends from anyone I met I kind of had the slogan of saying when I first met somebody Hi, I'm Alex. I'm Chinese and I'm adopted and I have two gay moms Like I would always tell someone that because if they had a problem with me from up front I knew that that person was not meant for me and that they just had to you know Scoot to the side because if they didn't accept that or accept my Family then they don't really need to be a part of my life and I mean it doesn't matter It's not everybody's cup of tea and that's fine I don't have a problem with that whatsoever a lot of my friends didn't have a big problem With my lifestyle or my parents being gay Um, I am very blessed and grateful to have lived in a more liberal and like more accepting area Maybe if I still lived in Ohio, it would be different I don't know because I didn't live that life But other than that like I feel like my friends actually really loved my parents some of my friends I felt like even like my parents more than they like me because their personalities everything are just like so like You know vibrant and full of life, you know So I never really had a big problem with people like not wanting to be my friend because my parents were gay there is a few times in Let's say I think it was like fifth or sixth grade this one girl Was becoming friends with one of my good friends and she's like don't hang out with her cuz her parents are weird But that's like the most hate I've gotten on this subject Which surprises me greatly because I always have thought and I've always like kept it in the back of my mind Like you might get hate for this. It's not normal. It's not normal I don't know so many times I feel like straight families or straight families I feel so like divisional um, I feel that like people or families with a traditional You know mom dad child. I feel like that Template breaks up a lot easier nowadays Which actually makes me scared because I'm straight if you didn't know I just wanted to put that out there because I know that some people think that like if somebody has gay parents They could make their kid gay or lesbian or whatnot. That is not the case. You are simply born with it I can tell you this from first-hand experience not first-hand maybe second-hand my parents did not choose to be gay You don't choose to be anything because I don't think that like my parents would choose a hard lifestyle And to choose to be a minority when you know you can get so much hate for it when you can like You know have certain family members turn their backs on you because they don't agree with it Um, I don't think people would want to choose that. You can disagree with me all you want That is totally fine. I am giving you from what I know and trust me I know a lot about this because I live with my gay parents that they did not choose that lifestyle It just it's them. It's who they are. It's like being born with tiny little eyes like this You know, it's kind of just like in their DNA. I believe it's hereditary. It's just like a gene You know, you're just born with it and that's how it is Surprisingly the YouTube community has been great as well You guys love seeing my parents in the vlogs and I think that's amazing I'm really just making this video to give out and share my message with the world because it's not very common to hear a 20 year old today Talking about growing up with gay parents. So that's why I kind of just wanted to talk to you guys about this I don't know. I feel like I want to ask do you have any questions if you do leave them in the comments down below I've also read in some of the comments Why does she call her parents by their first names? The reason why is because if I said mom or mommy They would like both look over because you know, so obviously I used to call them mom and Mimi When I was like little but then I became like 10 or I don't know how old I was I was still pretty young, but I'm like this is getting too immature So I was just like I'm just gonna call you a sherry and Valerie. So that's how that played out. Yes We all live together. I don't know. That's kind of self-explanatory if you guys watch my vlogs But you know, some of you might be stumbling upon this video and are like, do they live together? Yes, we all live together. Actually, I'm gonna tell the story just because I liked this guy in high school for so long like almost like three years, okay, like consistently, okay, and I liked him and liked him and liked him and the day that I found out that he was not in support of gay marriage. I Didn't like him anymore. I just find that story to be so funny Sometimes I think they're more girly than me at times because they like makeup and stuff They don't love makeup, but like they wear makeup more than I do So I joke around a lot about that. I guess one thing I can say they don't really like to shop You know, like I would like to shop But that's fine because like my aunt like we always shop together I mean I have friends that I go shopping with shoot. I'll just shop by myself So, I mean that's not really like a big deal to me but other than that I have two parents that love me unconditionally that have been stable and You know have provided a very very nice life for me. I'm very very grateful I just want to put out there that two people of the same sex can raise a child Successfully and their kid is not gonna just turn gay because they're gay I just wanted to make this video to tell my story tell my side of things Everybody's story experience is going to be different. 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