 In this video, we will explore the impact of mental health on attraction, and how it may lead you into the arms of an unhealthy someone. Love Blueprint If you want to find out the roots of your choices, psychotherapist Amy Moran suggests looking for clues in your childhood. Did one of your parents constantly need fixing and reassurance? Do you have to walk on eggshells around them? It might be why you believe that's what relationships are all about. And that's how your relationship blueprint is created. It's the set of beliefs, values, and expectations that shape how you approach and navigate romantic relationships. Life coach Desis Lava Ivanova explains that our unconscious mind is programmed to seek out people who match our blueprint. Your mind is incredibly skilled at recognizing patterns, and it takes all the positive and negative characteristics of your parents or caregivers and combines them into the blueprint. And when you grow up, you're naturally drawn to people that match it. Unfortunately, this can sometimes attract you to toxic partners who awaken old traumas.