 أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين بارئ الخلاق أجمعين باعث الأنبياء والمرسلين ثم الصلاة والسلام على خير خلقه العبد المؤيد ورسول المسدد حبيب إله العالمين أب القاسم المصطفى محمد وعلى أهل بيته الطيبين الطاهرين وصحابته المنتجبين صلى الله عليك يا رسول الله صلى الله عليك يا سيد ويا رحمة الله الواسعها بنجاة ويا شهيد كربلا يا ليتنا يا ليتنا عكم سادتي فنفوز فوزا أضيه من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم وانكيحوا والصالحين من عبادكم من عبادكم وإمائكم إي يكونوا فقراء فضله صلى الله علي محمد وآله محمد اي ثلاثة for the love of إمام زلحسن والحسين اي ثلاثة for the love of عطمت الزهراء with your loudest voices الله أعسف صيحا وحمد وآله محمد أحدهم هو أمwir's most important event in that person's life to most people that day it is an extremely significant day it's a day in which two people will abandon celibacy و will announce their love and loyalty to one another. It is a day in which they will begin a life together full of love and harmony. Indeed, it's a significant day. For young ladies, they think of their wedding day long before that day. From their childhood, perhaps early teens, early teenage years, a young lady thinks about her wedding day. She fantasizes about the wedding, the dress, the cake, the ring. And let's not forget the husband as well. She does imagine him as well, his qualities, his characteristics, what he looks like. These are thoughts that a young lady thinks about when she's young, when she's a teenager. She imagines all the little details, all the intricate details of what her wedding will look like. Where will it be on the beach? At a very expensive hotel, at a hall, where exactly all the little details she thinks about. And obviously it's a very important day for her because all of the attention is on her. Everyone at the wedding, men, women, children, they give her the attention. It's one day that she has everyone's attention, everyone's looking at her. It's her special moment. She has to look beautiful. And usually women, they treasure the way they look on their wedding. 20 years later, they still remember. They have pictures. They save the pictures. And they remember to show the husband. See, this is what I used to like. This is what you married. They treasure the beauty that they had on the wedding day because it's the most important day in a woman's life. And the same thing goes for young men. For young men, yes, perhaps they don't fantasize about their weddings when they're teenagers. They don't think of all the details of their wedding when they're young. But still, their wedding is a very important day. It's the day they make a vow that they will no longer be single. They abandon the days of being bachelors. They're no longer a bachelor. Today, they've picked up a major responsibility, a huge responsibility. They're starting a family. They're starting a new life. They're about to share their life with someone they love. They're about to start a family, have children. Thus, for men and women, the wedding day is an extremely important day. However, as important as it is, as important as the wedding day is, it's one of the most significant days of our lives, if not the most significant day of our lives, this doesn't mean that it's an exception to Allah's laws. And Allah's rules. It's the most important day in our life, but it doesn't mean that we can disobey Allah on that day. And we can do things that are haram on that day that we wouldn't do on other days. No, your wedding day is just like any other day. It's not an exception to Allah's laws. The same way that you have to obey Allah on other days, you have to obey Allah on your wedding day. In fact, your wedding day is a holy day because Allah SWT has encouraged us to get married. And on our wedding, when a person marries, he completes half of his what? Half of his faith. Thus, it's a holy day. It's a religious day. On your wedding, you're completing half of your faith. Thus, it's an extremely important religious day as well. But unfortunately, we see a lot of people on their wedding day. They commit a lot of sins. And they break a lot of Allah's rules and commands on that day. No wonder many weddings end up in divorce. No wonder that half of weddings, half of marriages today end up in divorce. If you start off your marriage with the disobedience of Allah, what do you expect? What do you expect of this marriage? To be full of blessings and barakah? No, you started off on the wrong track. You started off on the wrong track. So what do you expect from this marriage? Obviously, it's not going to work up. You know, it's not going to end up well. Tonight, my dear brothers and sisters, I'd like to talk about some of the un-Islamic habits, some of the unlawful habits that we have at our weddings. The things that we do at our weddings that are un-Islamic, unlawful, unlegal, religiously legal, and that could end up destroying our marriage from the beginning. No, of course, wedding habits and wedding customs, they vary from culture to culture. In the Indo-Pakistani culture, you have certain customs at your wedding. In Iraq, you have certain wedding practices in Iran and Lebanon. Here in America and Canada, I sometimes mix between America and Canada. I still think that I'm in America. Here in Canada or America, which is the culture is very similar, you have certain practices, you have certain habits, wedding habits. However, a lot of them, they have one thing in common, a lot of things in common, and that there are certain things that are done and this will be Allah SWT. There are certain things that are done, there are haram. What are these things? We will try to summarize them in several points وصل على محمد وآل محمد. وصل على محمد وآل محمد. Not so much music, but the vast majority from various cultures, whatever culture you go to, many of them, they have music in their weddings. Some go far as to bring a DJ in their wedding. Have a DJ play music in their wedding. Some of them are willing to spend a lot of money on music at their wedding. My dear friends, music is haram. Whether it's at a wedding or at a funeral, music is haram. Whether it's at work or at the gym or in your car or on your phone, music is music and music is haram. And there are no exceptions. There's no exceptions. Weddings are not exceptions to the permissibility of music. There are some people who think that music is haram unless it's at a wedding. If it's at a wedding, it's okay. Raise the volume. It's fine. Who told you? Who told you weddings are exceptions? Weddings are not exceptions. Music is haram. Wherever you go. واجتنبوا قول الزور. الله سبحانه وتعالى says in the Qur'an and avoid vain talk. أحاديث الفهل البيت say this is music. This is singing and music. والذين هم عن اللغوي معرضون صورة المؤمنون among the qualities of the the believers والذين هم عن اللغوي معرضون those who avoid vain talk vain speech. Narrations of the Baha'il-Bait say this is music. This is singing. Let me ask a question. At your wedding, you're starting a new life with a new person. Do you want Shayatin to be present or do you want angels? Ask yourself this question. Who do you want present? Do you want Shayatin? Have all the music that you want and you'll have a lot of Shayatin. You'll have Shaytan and his army dancing at your wedding. But is that what you want? Or do you want angels at your wedding? Do you want angels to be present and have your marriage, your wedding to be a blessed? Which one do you want? You choose. Is this how you thank Allah SWT for finding you someone that's suitable for you, that's compatible with you? Someone who will complete your life? Someone who will share the rest of your life with you? Is this how you thank Allah? By beginning your marriage, your wedding day with music? This is how you thank Allah? Yes, on the other hand there are some people may Allah bless them. There's no music at their wedding. Instead they begin their weddings with Quranic recitation. With حديث الكساب. With religious poetry and Anashid. Perhaps with the lecture. I've been invited to some weddings to give a lecture. Some of you are thinking what a boring wedding to have to say it, speak at that wedding. Well, some they choose to have that. They like to listen maybe to a word of advice on marriage. On how a husband should treat his wife. On how a wife should treat her husband. Some choose that. They want their wedding to be an Islamic wedding. You know I tell some people this. When I speak about this about music at weddings some people say you know if I don't have music at my wedding my wedding is going to be boring. Who's going to come to my wedding if there's no music? And if they come thinking that there's music and then there's no music my wedding will be remembered as the most boring wedding in history. And I don't want that. I want people to enjoy my wedding to have a good time on my wedding. I want to have good memories. The answer number one you don't necessarily need to have music. Play religious songs. Play religious Anashid. Play poetry and songs of Ahl al Bayt of the members of Imam Ali and Ibad. The members of Imam Ali is a form of worship. Have that instead. That's an alternative that you could have at your wedding. Let's start this trend. If one person does it 2, 3, 4 becomes a trend in the community and we can end we can put a stop to music at our weddings. This is one. Two so what? Would you rather have a wedding that's boring or would you rather have a wedding that disobeys Allah SWT. You're disobeying Allah in that wedding. You're beginning your life with this life partner of yours by disobeying Allah from the first day, from the first start. Which one would you rather have? Be boring or disobey Allah? I'm sure all of you would choose to be boring. Even though you could make your wedding not boring. Just because there's no music it doesn't mean that your wedding will be boring. Now let's go a step further. There are some that not just have music but there's also what? There's dancing at their weddings. There's dancing. Now I'm talking about weddings that are not mixed. Men are by themselves. Women are by themselves. Well obviously men would not be dancing by themselves. That doesn't happen. But women in some cultures, in some countries, Islamic countries women get up and dance. According to a lot of scholars this is not allowed. This is not allowed. Some people think that as long as it's an all-woman wedding or it's separated it's segregated women can play music and they could dance. Who told you? Who told you? Who said this? Which مرجع said this? This is not allowed. Even if it's a segregated wedding this is not allowed. Music is not allowed and dancing is not allowed. According to a lot of scholars. Yes maybe you might find one or two that say but according to most scholars this is not allowed. We're talking about segregated weddings let alone mixed weddings. Let alone mixed weddings. Men and women are together. There's music being played. There's a DJ and there's a dance floor. And before you know it they're Muslims at this wedding and they're dancing. They're dancing. What sort of wedding is this? Have we forgotten all of our principles? Have we forgotten about our religion and our faith? What sort of marriage do we want to begin? This is a place for Shaytan. You're inviting Shaytan. You're telling him welcome to my wedding. Come and do whatever you'd like. This is your playground. Come and do as you please. Is that what you want? I know in some communities. Insha'Allah this doesn't exist in this community. I'm talking to me online. I know in some communities I will not mention names here in North America in some communities there's mixed weddings there's dancing and they videotape it and then they go and put it on YouTube for everyone to see that at their wedding there was dancing. The husband the bride the groom dance with his bride the father dance with his daughter that's a bride he's proud of it and he's willing to have everyone in the community see it it's on the internet isn't this a shame? That's it. We've forgotten our principles our values our ethics our manners we came to Canada we have to be purely Canadian and we have to have a Canadian wedding we came to America we came to Australia we came to the UK we came to Europe we have to have a European wedding we have to have an American wedding we have to have an Australian wedding that's it we've forgotten all of our values this is not right I hope that we can put an end to this dancing at our at our weddings محمد محمد محمد another thing that I have to address is mixed weddings mixed weddings where there's men and women together in the same hall and the women are dressed up in the fanciest clothing in the tightest clothing there's makeup and I wish it was simple makeup but there's like 10 lbs or kilos of makeup and perfume and cologne and all that and they're mixed and it's perfectly fine and it's as if there's nothing wrong you know if it's segregated a woman could wear whatever they'd like go to a segregated wedding there's no man seeing you put on as much makeup as you want knock yourself out wear whatever you'd like but if it's a mixed wedding there's one hall men and women are seeing each other they're sitting next to each other on the same table this is wrong just because it's a wedding it doesn't make it okay it doesn't make it okay just because it's a wedding they're mixed the makeup, the hijab or lack of hijab not the hijab but the lack of hijab this is not right this is not right there's some weddings there's some people that look forward to going to weddings because they know that people are going to be dressed up that guys are going to be dressed up and the girls are going to be dressed up basically it's going to be a fashion show obviously you're going to look forward to those weddings if it's a fashion show and it's mixed there's men and women going together that becomes a fashion show no and what's interesting is that the same people that hold these mixed weddings they go to mixed weddings for their children for their sons and daughters if you tell them that we'd like to have a majlis that's mixed at the majlis at weddings yes that's not a problem go have a good time at that wedding but a majlis men and women sitting in the same room no partition this cannot happen I'm not talking about a specific community I'm talking about most of our communities at most of our communities we have this double standard this is not right you want to put a partition good but at the wedding put a partition over there as well how come at the wedding you're willing to break all of God's commands on laws so that your daughter enjoys her her wedding so that your son enjoys his wedding this is not right do we want our wedding and our marriage to have blessings or no or to have لعنة from Allah and from the angels do you want angels to come and bless our weddings or to come and curse us and curse our weddings we must end this culture my dear friends the culture of mixed weddings this must end this sound weird for saying this but this is the truth someone has to say this we have to end the culture of mixed weddings we have two choices we have two choices either end the culture of mixed weddings there's a hall for men and there's a hall for women and you could do whatever you'd like men could dress however they'd like and women could dress however they'd like and they could put as much makeup as they'd like or the other option and have a joint wedding a mixed wedding but ladies cannot dress up and no makeup you decide you decide which one's easier of course the thought of going to a wedding without makeup that's unheard of that's unheard of so your option is segregate them have a hall for women and have a hall for men no mixing it's not just about the mixing you see some people say are you saying that mixing is haram are you saying that at our homes if we invite guests we can't sit together the problem is not with the mixing the problem is what comes with the mixing they're getting dressed the lack of hijab there's no scarf there's makeup it's these things that come with the mixing but if there's perfect hijab if it's covered if it has a scarf on there's no makeup there's nothing wrong with mixing so it's not about the mixing it's about the things that come with the mixing that's the problem and as you can see this is not this is not pertain to one culture this is in most of our cultures in most of our cultures we have this problem the music the dancing the mixed wedding this is in most of our cultures among the problems at our weddings most of our weddings not one culture the wasteful spending the wasteful spending I know your wedding is an important day I know that it happens once in your lifetime for most people for others it happens six times in their life for most people it's once in their life and it's an important day it's a memorable day you want to spend you want to have a good time your guests have a good time as well but this doesn't mean that you waste this doesn't mean that you're allowed to waste for example there's people that waste a lot of money on the hall and on the dinner this is the most expensive hall and the most expensive dinner now I'm not saying hold your wedding at a park and bring food from McDonald's at your wedding I'm not saying this but to go and rent the most expensive hall in the city and bring the most expensive food and it goes to waste this is not right this is wasting تبذير ان المبذرين كانوا اخوان الشياطين those who waste are the brothers of shayateen of shaytan ولا تبذر تبذير ان المبذرين كانوا اخوان الشياطين wasting is not allowed be moderate I'm not saying go and don't rent a hall or have your wedding at your house no rent something but be moderate bring dinner but be moderate in your spending you know that expensive hall that you rent that expensive hotel those expensive cards that expensive dinner you think they're going to make your marriage a happy marriage you think it's these things that make a marriage happy and successful believe me it's not these things not these things not the most expensive hotel not the most expensive hotel and bring the most lavish and fanciest dinner are you guaranteed that you will have a successful marriage that guarantees your successful marriage no believe me it has nothing to do with the dinner nor the hotel nor the hall it's about your اخلاق do you want to have a successful marriage it's about your اخلاق about your manners how much respect do you have for one another how much you're willing to help one another this it has nothing to do with the hall or the dinner or the dress the dress hopefully the sisters will not throw anything at me because the wedding dress is a very important dress and a lot of the ladies they go for an expensive dress you know $2000 $5000 expensive dresses I'm not saying to wear a $20 dress no wear a nice dress but does it have to be the most expensive dress no as long as you look nice you look beautiful that's what matters it doesn't have to be the most expensive dress just to show off in front of your friends in front of your girlfriends your dress is from this brand name it's from this store and this is how much it costs no it doesn't have to be that way I know it's an important dress for you but also be a moderate be a moderate there's some that's spent on the cake the cameraman the roses the cards all the little details some couples they become very creative I heard of a wedding this is not Hollywood I didn't see this in a movie this is at our communities at our Islamic communities I won't say which city it was the couple decided to free 100 white doves in the middle of the wedding do you know how much that costs just free those doves I mean if they put them in their house if they gave them as gifts to the people attending that's understand no just free them in the air 100 white doves that costs a lot of money that's lavish spending another couple they came with a chariot I don't know apparently they think there's Cinderella and her prince charming they have to come in a chariot and a princess that's a lot of spending that's a lot of spending that's wasteful spending I'm not saying don't have a nice wedding have a nice wedding make it creative, make it nice but we have to end the culture of wasteful spending on weddings you know I know a lot of youth I have a lot of friends they're avoiding getting married because of expensive weddings they say I can't afford it because a wedding is going to cost me at least $60,000 $70,000 $100,000 where am I going to get that money I know a lot of youth that are not getting married because of the wedding because of the wasteful spending and if they don't spend that much they're going to look bad because everyone else is doing it their friends did it you know the lady that he wants to marry her friends did it they had a nice wedding how can she have anything less so this poor man is not able to get married because he can't spend on that wedding isn't that a problem isn't that a problem when our youth are not being able to get married because of the wasteful spending number one is the wasteful this is not accepted Islamically number two believe me it's not going to make you happy it's not going to make you happy believe it or not that couple that released a hundred doves they got divorced they got divorced I know it's the ones that spend the most on their weddings they end up breaking up because these things they don't bring you happiness they don't make your marriage happy just because you spent so much on that wedding spend on more useful things keep that money spend it on your children keep it for their college fund spend it on things that you need go on a trip with your family with your wife with your husband another problem that we have صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم is expensive dowries expensive dowries and this varies from culture to culture but in some cultures the dowry is very expensive you go and propose to a family and they agree but then all of a sudden they throw at you a huge number of a dowry we want twenty thousand dollars forty thousand dollars as a gift to our daughter as a dowry that's ridiculous what are you selling your daughter or are you giving her hand in marriage you're not selling her they're not buying her the man is marrying her and there's some families they're not even willing to bargain they said forty thousand dollars it's forty thousand dollars are you marrying her or someone else will come and offer that money what are you selling merchandise are you doing business or are you marrying you're marrying your daughter you're giving your family you're giving your daughter to a respected family someone who will honor her someone who will protect her someone who will respect her and I know again I know a lot of youth they've been avoiding marriage because of expensive dowries I know several youth they've told me that they've proposed to a couple of families and then when they began discussing dowries when they started discussing the dowry they saw that families asking for too much they're asking for too much I will say this whoever wants to get upset will get upset I say for the sake of Allah as long as it satisfies Allah any respectful family will not ask for a big dowry a respectful family does not ask for a big dowry because you're not selling your daughter you're marrying your daughter you're not selling her this gives a bad impression of you when you ask for a high when you ask for a high dowry you know the dowry the mar it's supposed to be something symbolic it's a symbolic gift when a husband gives his wife a dowry it's a symbolic gift a token of appreciation since you've accepted to marry me this is my token of appreciation I give you this gift it doesn't have to be a big number I've seen some that they give six digits I saw a person that gave a million dollars as a dowry million dollars and I wonder if he's really going to give it to her after the marriage is he really going to give her the million dollars the mar the dowry is supposed to be something symbolic it's a symbolic gift it's a token of appreciation you give it to her as a gift you're not buying her and in fact it's recommended that after the marriage that the wife she gives back the dowry it's recommended that after the marriage she gives it back to her she gives it back to him and this is also symbolic meaning this is a gesture that means I did not marry you for your what your money because of you because of your qualities because of your faith I didn't marry you for your money so giving the dowry is a symbolic gesture giving it back to the husband is also a symbolic gesture and if I may make a suggestion I think that the best dowry I think the best dowry to offer your wife is to take her to Hajj let's take her to Hajj number one it's not too expensive it's not something ridiculously expensive number two it's a dowry and it's a honeymoon at the same time instead of going to the Maldives instead of going to I don't know where you'll spend ridiculously amount of money and you'll be wasting it for just a couple of days instead go to Hajj or go to زيارة that's the best dowry and the best honeymoon come and spend it with Imam and it'll be unforgettable you'll never forget it it'll be a memorable wedding a memorable dowry a memorable honeymoon let's make this a culture the culture of having Hajj or a زيارة dowrys and honeymoon صلى الله عليه وسلم among the bad habits in some cultures in some cultures I know in other cultures this does not exist for example in Iraq this does not exist in Iran this does not exist but I know that in other cultures Islamic cultures this does exist there are some people who get married in the months of محرم and صفر I know in some places as soon as Ashura is over the 10th of محرم the weddings start perhaps during the 10 nights the 10 days of محرم there's no weddings but after that there's weddings there's weddings there's celebrations and then with all the things that come with weddings the music and the dancing and the DJ and the mixed sessions and the makeup you know it's not حرام I'm not claiming that it's حرام to have a wedding in the month of محرم or صفر or after Ashura but let me ask you something if God forbid a close family member died will you have your wedding in the same week or in the same month or perhaps in the same year you wouldn't why? because you're sad you're not in the mood to celebrate it's not an issue of it's customary you're not in the mood to celebrate because someone important to you just passed away if God forbid a father or a brother or a sister or a close family member died are you going to have a wedding in that same week or that same month or within those couple of weeks the first couple of weeks? no you're not in the mood to celebrate you're still sad you're still mourning you're mourning it's a sad time for you why is it that when it comes to the أهل البيت why is it that when it comes to Imam Hussein we only give him 10 days the month of محرم it's a sad month the entire month and the month of صفر as well thus in some countries like Iraq and Iran there's no weddings in those 2 months or an after yes but not in these 2 months because these months are months of mourning we're sympathizing with the أهل البيت right the hadith says the hadith of the أهل البيت says خلق من فاضل قيناتنا يفرحون لفرحنا ويحزنون لحزننا our Shi'a the أهل البيت say the Shi'a are from us and from our soil from the soil that the أهل البيت were created this has a very deeper meaning this has a deep meaning the soil because we're all created from soil we Shi'a we were created from the soil of أهل البيت the left over of the soil of أهل البيت were created from their own soil we're from them and they're from us and then the hadith says ويحزنون لحزننا they are happy when we're happy and they are saddened when we are saddened when the أهل البيت are happy we should be happy that is why some people they choose to have their weddings on the birthdays of the imams it's beautiful those are good occasions because those are happy occasions ويحزنون لحزننا and they are sad for our sadness our Shi'a are sad and they want to get married so I don't understand how a person could have their wedding in the month of حرama again I'm not saying that it's but is it appropriate? it's between you and the أهل البيت do you feel comfortable? In some cultures you know there're bad habits every culture varies from culture to culture طال일ة يعانونoh the night of the wedding the male side the groom's side there reside certain poetry they say certain things that's disrespectful the bright side that's disrespectful it's insensitive and this is not right to the point that some family members of their bride side unlike her father They decide that not to attend the wedding, because they hear something disrespectful That has to stop. In some cultures the night of the wedding The husband has to show proof. I won't give details because I think you know what i'm talking about And this exists till today In some cultures they brought this habit with them Here to the west, in America, Europe They still have this habit أو يجب أن ينظر في مجموعة محلقة هذا مباشر هذا مباشر هذا مباشر هذا مباشر للمجموعة هذا مباشر هذا مباشر هذه are هذه are habits from the pagans that still exist and these have to stop صلى الله عليه وسلم و آله محمد I have a word of advice before we conclude I have a word of advice to the young brothers and sisters that are engaged that are getting engaged that are almost getting married and they're planning out for their weddings I say I'm sure that this is a very happy time for you it's an exciting time for you you're engaged you're about to get married and I'm sure that you're sitting and planning your wedding you know let's do it in the summer let's do it when the weather is nice let's do it here let's do it there let's invite this family but let's not invite that family let's you know you're planning you're planning ahead you're planning your wedding that's fine but let me tell you something no matter how much you plan no matter how much you do you spend months ahead and planning your wedding but this does not guarantee you'll have a successful marriage this does not guarantee that you'll have a happy marriage you might spend a million dollars on your wedding day a million dollars on your wedding day you'll spend so much but does that guarantee that you'll have a happy marriage and that everything will go smoothly no no that's why I say all my young brothers and sisters you know you're sitting and you're planning your wedding at the same time sit and plan for your marriage plan for your marriage what kind of marriage would you like what kind of relationship would you like to have with your wife with your husband sit and plan and make decisions that you will always respect one another that you will always love one another that you will always be there for one another and help each other sit and plan plan ahead and make decisions from now that you will help each other grow and improve and become more religious if the young lady's not that religious sit and plan plan with your husband you want him to make you more religious you want him to help you improve your hijab if the man does not wake up for his morning prayers or does not pray on time sit and plan from now ask your fiance or the one that you're marrying ask her to help you become more religious and pray more on time and to help you get up for salah in the morning these are the things that you should plan more and concentrate on not just the cake and the dress and the ring and the cards and the flowers these are the things that are more important my dear friends sit and plan on how you'd like to raise your children do you want to be strict do you want to be lenient which kind of achlaq would you like your children to have how religious you want them to be these are the things that you want to plan which one of you is going to be strict with the children and which one of you is going to be lenient with the children plan ahead decide from now with my children I'm the lenient one and I make my wife be the tough one that's why when my children if they ever want anything first they come to me because they know I'm the lenient one make such decisions plan these are good things to decide who's the rough one and who's the lenient one who's the one that always says no and who's the one that says yes make decisions about your children are they allowed to have ipads how many hours a day will they play with them are they allowed to go on the internet will you put guidelines and rules are they allowed to watch TV how many hours of TV friends make decisions from now plan ahead before the wedding before the marriage so that when you go in the marriage there's no surprises there's no saying well we didn't talk about this this wasn't supposed to happen these are the things that you should worry about and plan ahead of time not just so not so much about the wedding صلى الله عليه وسلم if we want to talk about the most perfect wedding the most Islamic wedding it was the wedding of أمير المؤمنين عليه السلام and فاطمة الزهراء the most beautiful wedding the most successful wedding the most simple wedding and the wedding that brought the most the happiest marriage the happiest marriage and the most successful marriage إمام عليه السلام came to propose to فاطمة الزهراء first أبو باكر came and proposed if you remember from my lecture he was rejected عمر came and proposed فاطمة الزهراء he was also denied they came to him they both أبو باكر and عمر they came to إمام عليه السلام they told him look we proposed to رصول الله for فاطمة الزهراء as a hand in marriage and we were both denied you go and propose أمير المؤمنين said okay he went he knocked at the door of رصول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم رصول الله he greeted him he sat down and he put his head to the ground very shy very embarrassed not able to say a word you know young men today when they go and propose they're playing with their phones you know they're tweeting they're taking selfies they're joking around in front of their father in law you know no embarrassment not being shy whatsoever have you heard of the story of the young man who went and proposed and he was chewing gum let me tell the story صلى الله عليه وسلم oh my god a young man goes then he proposes to a father and he was chewing gum you know in our culture that's very disrespectful you're going you're chewing gum in front of your future father in law so the father in law the man the father of the lady he told him do you always chew gum in front of adults he said no no you know ح spacecraft diese nicotine comeiro told him wow are you chewing that kind of gum? I said well you know I'm trying to quit smoking. He said oh? so you smoke. He said yeah you know when you try to quit taking drugs you start smoking cigarettes. Told him I'm so used to take drugs Well obviously when you're in jail you learn to take drugs he said you're in jail! وكاني here to propose وصور الله صلى الله عليه وار座 ولم يرمس بإفكار يا سيد وقعا بالاستفاد ب widget وقعا بالاستفاد ب widget وقعا بالاستفاد ب widget وقعا بالاستفاد بالـ فقلت لهم يا عليا ، ربما أنت هنا لكي تطلق لديتي فاطمة فقلت ، إنديد يا رسول الله رسول الله قلت ، وقلت لنا ، فاطمة الزهراء عليسلام فقلت ، أن أمير المؤمنين عليبنا أبي طالب أخي ، هل تطلق لك ، ماذا تقول؟ فاطمة الزهراء عليسلام ، أيضا فقلت لها ، ليس تقول شيء ليس مثل أخي لديتي today when a handsome guy comes and proposes you hear the shouting from inside the scream shouting and they're overjoyed فقلت لها ، فقلت لها ، فقلت لها فقلت لها رسول الله قلت لها فقلت لها ، فقلت لها وقلت لها ، فقلت لها what? acceptance and this became a general law a general law that if a young lady she's proposed to and she remained silent then it's a sign of her what? acceptance because if she does not accept she'll say something but if she accepts she's embarrassed in front of her father to say so she remained quiet وصر الله she realized that she accepted جبرايل comes down and he said يا رسول الله الله سبحانه وتعالى has resided their nikah up in the sky among the angels among the angels the nikah أفعالي ابنى بيطالب فاطمت زهراء has been resided and Allah says زوج النور من النور زوج علي من فاطمة give the light to the light give علي ابنى بيطالب تفاطمة الزهراء صلى الله عليه وسلم they prepared for the wedding they prepared for the marriage رسول الله asked علي ابنى بيطالب what do you own يا علي what do you own what do you have they said يا رسول الله I only own two things two things my sword and my shield these are the two things that I own and I own a very small house أمير المؤمني رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم told him ask for your sword then you can't sell it because we need your sword إسلام needs your sword as for your shield you don't need your shield علي ابنى بيطالب go and sell your shield he went and he sold it and with the price of the shield he was able to furnish his house very simple furniture he furnished the house the night of the wedding فاطمة الزهراء the famous story فاطمة الزهراء had a wedding dress prepared for her the night of her wedding a poor lady came and knocked at the door and asked for something فاطمة الزهراء she left everything she came and she gave her the wedding dress she gave her her wedding dress رسول الله asked her he told her why did you give your wedding dress she said because the Qur'an says لن تنال البر حتى تنفقوا بما تحبون that you will not reach righteousness until you give that which you love you know these people they donate the things that they don't need the old clothes whatever that's old they give it to the poor true righteousness is when you give the things that you need the most the things that you like the most she gave her wedding dress on the day of the wedding it was simple food simple food it was one sheep with some dates and some milk that was very good food back then and it was enough for everyone it was enough for everyone there was no music there was no DJ there was no dancing instead there was poetry recited فاطمة خير نساء البشر ومن لها وجه كوجه القمر فاطمة is the greatest lady from all the women and who has a face glowing like a moon like the face of فاطمة زهراء beautiful wedding beautiful people beautiful bride beautiful groom and when they finally met رسول الله صلى الله عليه وعاله took the hands of علي بن أبي طالب and the hand of فاطمة زهراء عليه السلام and they put their hands together and he told فاطمة فاطمة you're marrying the best of husbands this is the best husband take care of your husband and يا علي you're marrying the best of wives this is the best wife take care of my daughter يا علي I'm interesting you with my daughter يا علي this was the this was the best wedding and the Islamic history between the best husband and the best wife and the best children yes and this is an example for us صلى الله عليه وعاله there was another wedding and that wedding was also by Imam علي عليه السلام long after his wife فاطمة زهراء died فاطمة زهراء had asked him to remarry after her martyrdom after her death صلى الله عليه وعاله عليه السلام decided to remarry he came to his brother عقيل told him I want you to find me a wife which kind of wife عقيل was a scholar on the lineage of the Arab people he knew the lineage he knew the tribes he knew the family members he told him which kind of wife he said I want a wife that comes from a brave family a brave line brave bravery this is not a quality that men look for in a woman they look for beauty beautiful eyes beautiful hair intelligence but not bravery and courage bravery and courage is a quality that you would want in amen it's a good quality in a man not in a woman even though it's a good quality in a woman but it's not something that you look for he said wow what would you do with a brave woman he said so that Allah will give me a son from her that will be an investment on a very difficult day on a very difficult day and indeed he found him فاطمة الكلابية on the night of their wedding I mentioned this two nights ago I mean even though he wasn't looking for beauty he discovered that she's extremely beautiful her outer appearance is very beautiful he wanted to discover her inner inner beauty he asked her do you have any request this is the night of our wedding any request she said yes I request that you change my name the name of فاطمة told her why you have the most beautiful name the name of فاطمة she said yes because your children حسن والحسين وزينا ومكالثوم they will remember their mother فاطمة who died at a small age when they were young and their hearts will be broken they will remember their young mother فاطمة and I don't want their hearts to be broken because of me so change my name يا أمير المؤمنين and he named her أم البنين أم البنين and indeed أم البنين means the mother of children and indeed الله gave her several children he gave her four boys and this was أبل فضل العباص العباص when he was born he was so beautiful that they called him قمر العشيرة the moonlight of the family so beautiful his face was glowing