 Apart from now, that's it. So they're the four categories of guy. Now, what's fascinating is, let's have a look in the room, let's work out which ones you guys would see ourselves as. So I want you to have a deep think for a second. I want you to think, are you a leader? Are you a nice guy? Are you a bad guy or are you a provider? You know, have a good think about which one of these you are. I'm gonna do a show of hands, or we can make Peter run around to every now. We'll do a show of hands. I'm not gonna do it, I'm not gonna do it. Okay, so first of all, I wanna see everyone who thinks they're a bad boy, raise your hand. Are you somebody who's a little bit, yeah, there we go, there's a few of you guys, a few, not many, a few, but sexually deviant. The bad boy's described as somebody who takes risks, okay? He's a crazy kind of guy. He does things, he's like, fuck it, I'm just gonna do it. He's the kind of guy, fuck it, I'm gonna throw the table over. He just does it, yeah, he doesn't care. He care what anyone else thinks. You know, repercussions are for other people to deal with. That's the bad boy. He's just gonna, you know, I'm gonna fuck her today, and then, if she gets pregnant, somebody else's problem. Like, that's the bad, I'm sorry. It's the bad boy attitude, yeah? It's like, that's how they think. It's like, we'll deal with the repercussions later. Basically, what he does is he makes crazy decisions. He makes decisions that aren't necessarily based on pre-planning or thought. He's just like, fuck it, I'm gonna do it. He's a dangerous guy, okay, it's nice. Okay, next up, we've got the nice guy. Raise your hand if you think you're a nice guy. It's the majority of the room. I'm not surprised. The nice guy is the guy who most pickup artists, is this the reason that they come and do this, right? We're the nice guy, we're just screwed over. It's not that you couldn't get girls, you could get girls. It's just, you're tired of the nice guy finishing last, right? But the nice guy doesn't finish last actually, because that's how up till now you've all got girls by being a nice guy. There's nothing wrong with it. We're gonna analyze that a bit further. The nice guy, he's nice, he's just caring. He looks after the girl, puts her on a pedestal, looks after, he's nice. There are women that think that is the most attractive category of men, and we're gonna deal with that in a second. Next up, the social guy or the leader, as the ninja pointed out, okay? Who thinks you're a leader, social guy? Again, small amounts of you, but still there's a few of you that think that, yeah. The leader, he's attractive, right? He's the guy calling the shots. He's like, this is what is going to happen because I say so. I'm in charge, I'm the leader, this is it. And you know, he's making those decisions so people follow him. And the provider, raise your hand if you think you're a provider. No one, again, maybe one guy possibly. Yeah, again, not surprised, because no one really identified themselves or said that that was an attractive quality. I'm not surprised because we're in a pickup community. You know, if you were a provider and you were paying money out to pick up chicks, you probably wouldn't be here because you'd just be paying for chicks. Like that would, you'd go out and drop a load of money and have, I'm not saying that works every time and we're going to analyze that. We're going to talk about that in a second. But you know, the provider is another one of those categories. So they're the four categories. If you didn't raise your hand, if you're watching this and you're thinking, hmm, that doesn't sound like me, you probably don't get that good results. And that's actually, we tested this in the last talk that I did. That's actually correlated. The people that didn't put up their hand at all were like, yeah, it sucks, I don't get it. That's because they're the four categories of men that women are attracted to. Now what's really fascinating, now I'm going to put in a pause here, drinking this water. It's like suspense, you can put like an advert in here. Okay, what's really fascinating is the fact that they also identified different types of women. By using Isink's pen model personality test. This is a test that identifies what kind of person you are. And it breaks people down into three categories. It analyzes three different components of a personality. It analyzes whether they're extroverted. And what we mean by extroverted is somebody who, they go out there, they're social, they like interacting with other people. It's an extrovert. They go out there and they're interacting with people. You guys know what that is. They analyze whether they're neurotic. And by neurotic, we're not talking about somebody that's like completely freaking out all the time is on pills. We're just talking about somebody who's, a little bit depressive. The cup, it's always half empty and there's crack in the glass. It's like something perfect, nothing's great. Like it's not like, oh, it's half full or at least I have a glass. It's, everything's a bit, nothing's great. Neurotic, nothing's perfect, nothing's awesome. Bad stuff happens to me. And then the P in the P-E-N is psychotic. Now I need to be really careful here. By psychotic, we're not describing the kind of goal that chases you around with an ax after you break up with her, okay? It's just somebody who makes emotional decisions rather than logical ones. It's somebody who, they're gonna make a decision right now that seems like it's a good idea and screw the repercussions. It's like, I'm gonna make a decision on a whim based on my emotions and how I feel right now. Crazy decisions that don't really make sense. And they analyze these three, they analyze women and put them into one of these three different categories. Now here's the real kicker. Every single person who scores highly in one of those particular categories has a specific favorite. And there is an incredibly high correlation between these two facts. Do you guys understand just how important that is for us? When we're talking about learning calibration, I'm telling you that there is a psychological profile that you can make a female do that will tell you what type of girl she is. And if she's a certain type of girl, it will also tell you the kind of guy that she wants. This is massive, okay? In terms of calibration, this is literally a roadmap to identify the personality type of a girl and then you can understand how you should be acting to pick her up. And if you use the wrong one, you are not gonna be her ideal guy. As we talk about this, you guys are gonna start realizing that, wow, that happened to me before and the kind of girls that I hook up with have been mostly like that. So let's analyze these and let's, let's see if we can have a guess. Let's get Peter running again because he likes running around the room. And let's analyze what you guys think. So let's start with the extrovert. The extrovert girl. She's a bit of a party animal. She likes going out. She's got some good friends. She likes hanging out with. She's out there. She's not a shy person. Who's her ideal guy? Somebody raise their hands. Somebody who thinks they know. This guy in the front, this guy. Okay, go for it. It's gotta be the nice guy. It's not the nice guy. You sure? I'm very sure it's not the nice guy. Somebody else, somebody else. This guy here, cause he's close to him. So you don't have to run. The leader. The leader, yes, it's the leader. Okay, now let's look at that. Why does the extrovert, why is she attracted to the leader? She wants to go out. She wants to have a fun time. She wants to socialize. Someone's gotta enable that to happen. Somebody's gotta be like, hey, you know what, let's not sit in tonight. Let's go out. If he doesn't take charge and take her out, she'll sit indoors and then she's gonna be unhappy. She's not going out and interacting with people. She's not having fun. She's gonna start getting unhappy in the relationship. And the other people aren't necessarily gonna suggest that because that's not their natural kind of thing to do. The leader is, the leader's gonna make decisions. He's gonna be like, let's go and do this. Let's go and do that. If they're gonna stay in, the leader's like, let's stay in. And this is what we're gonna do. He's always in charge and the extrovert likes that because he enables her to go out and fulfill what she wants to do, yeah? And like this guy said, the ninja. And the leader's probably social as well. So that social aspect is warming very nicely to the extroversion, so. Okay, so next up, let's look at the neurotic. Little bit depressive, life kinda sucks, nothing's great. Raise your hands if you think you know. This guy over here, he's got everyone right so far I've been watching his head. The nice guy? The nice guy, exactly, he's good, this guy's nice. The nice guy, think about it. My life sucks, nothing's great, my job's horrible, but this guy's great, he's so perfect, he treats me really well. That's what it is, the nice guy. She wants a nice guy, all you nice guys, I bet if you look back over the girl, I bet she was, yeah, kinda nice, but you know, she kinda moaned a lot, kinda nagged a lot. You had a neurotic, most of you probably found that situation, she likes nice guys. She wants someone that's gonna look after her. That's the whole point, the neurotic needs a nice guy to look after her. And she wants that. I'm gonna analyze that a bit further a bit later on. Okay, psychotic, what does she want? This guy's got the answer, do you wanna run down just, go for it. By experience, by experience says the bad boy. She likes the bad boy. She likes the bad boy, the psychotic girl likes the bad boy, exactly, well done, thank you very much. Guys, round of applause for yourselves, first of all. Well done. Good! Okay, she likes the bad boy. You know why she likes the bad boy? Cause she's emotional. She's like, I just wanna do something really crazy right now. And the bad boy's like, let's do it. Like, that's how they work. Like, he's just like, fuck it, let's just do this. Let's see what happens, okay? And that's it, the bad boy and the psychotic go so well together. Who's missing? The provider ain't there, you know why? Cause he comes second. When you add it all up, he ain't nobody's number one, he's everyone's number two. Everyone's like, yes, a provider is attractive, but given a choice between a provider and a leader, I will choose the leader. Given a choice between a provider and a nice guy, I will choose the nice guy. He's everyone's second choice. That's why there's no point trying to learn how to be a provider on pickup. Cause you're only gonna be second best. That's why all those rich dudes you see in the nightclub get annoyed when a pickup artist moves in and takes his chick. He doesn't actually have that much control. He's their second choice. Now, if a neurotic can't find a nice guy, she doesn't want a bad boy, and she definitely doesn't want a leader telling her around and bossing her what to do, but she'll take a provider. You know, ah, he's not the ideal guy, but fuck it, he's got a really nice car. Yeah, that's how it works. So now we've analyzed that, we can learn about the kind of person that you wanna be. You might not need game. You might be sitting at this whole conference might have been an awesome time cause you get to hang out with some great people, but ultimately largely a waste of time. Because if your ideal girl isn't a psychotic and you're a bad boy, you know where you're going wrong. And anyone that's like, oh, just be sexual. Just keep telling them you're gonna fuck her up the bum, she'll love that. Well, yeah, that will get you a lot more psychotics. That is what's gonna happen. Test it, go to a strip club, see the kind of guys the girl's like. There are two types of strippers. There's the depressive strippers that are like, oh, I've got to do something to feed my baby and pay for my degree. And you've got the other strippers that are just like, I just like being naked. You've got two types, right? Neurotic, psychotic. Work out which kind of girl you like. If you like the neurotic, be a nice guy. You'll sleep with that kind of stripper. Tell the psychotic girl you wanna fuck up the butt, you'll sleep with that type of stripper. That's how this works. It's obvious when you think about it. So you're sitting here learning game, I bet you didn't even think about the kind of girl you wanna get. I know you're all thinking, I want a normal girl. Yeah, it can happen. It ain't no such thing. Trust me, I've been there, yeah? She's one of these types. Primarily, she'll have a preference towards one. So start thinking about the kind of girl you wanna get. Don't just think, oh yeah, I wanna learn to pick up chicks in general. That makes you weird, like me. That was my problem. I was like, well, I don't just want one girl. I want all of them. And that's what made me a weird pickup guy. I was like, I'm gonna stand out in the street and practice on every single type of girl until I worked it out. And now what's funny is I had something like this in my head, my model is a lot more complicated and doesn't really make sense when I teach it. Because it was in my head, it was my personal calibration of how I interact with girls and the different types and how I change my game, depending on who I'm talking to. But this is a model that makes a lot of sense, probably because it was made by real psychologists, you know what they're talking about. And it's translated with something you guys can look at. You can look at the style of game that you want based on the kind of girl you want. If you're thinking, you know what? As a fuck buddy, I want a psychotic chick, then you need to stop being a bad boy. It's an old brainer. You're gonna have to start something like that. If you're thinking, I want a girl to settle down with and I want it to be fun and social and get on with my mom, you probably want an extrovert. You probably need to focus more on the leadership social kind of thing. And if you're thinking, I want a really psychotic chick who's completely crazy, you need to move to the bad boy thing. You know, like, and that's how it works. When I first came out into the game, I was like, be a leader, be social, build interactions with loads of women, but I realized all that did was teach you how to be like me to get the kind of girls I wanted which was an extrovert. Now what's absolutely fascinating is I met my wife through social interactions. I met her when I was a leader of a shitload of women and a whole load of dudes that were all interacting with girls. So randomly, to test this, in a case study of one, I got my wife to do the PEN personality test. Guess what? She's an extrovert. No surprises there. It conformed 100% to everything that I theorized and that I'd done for my own game. It was obvious. Ultimately, that's what it takes to do it. So you gotta work out what kind of girl do you want? Then you can work out what type of game you want. Otherwise, all that's gonna happen is you're gonna end up following some pick-up artist who's gonna be teaching you how to get the kind of girls he wants. And I know a lot of pick-up artists and I know the kind of girls they want. You do not wanna introduce them to your mom. You don't, not they're the wrong kind, yeah? So think about it and analyze it and work out the type of girl you want and then you can start piecing together that personality type. But now wait, there's more to this. We're only looking at one end of the spectrum here. We're looking at what they like. How about we go the other way? What about they don't like? Cause the girls got asked that too. They got asked to categorize, actually in a different study, but same paper. They got asked to categorize, what about people they found unattractive? Two qualities, the most unattractive qualities in a mail. Now you'd think you should know this, right? In my experience from doing these talks, no one knows. It's a bad sign. So let's, let's, I've preempted it. Let's see if any of you know. Raise your hand if you're brave enough to guess. This guy, oh, everyone's brave enough. We'll start with this guy here. I know what you've done one. We'll start with this guy here with, yeah, you. Go for it. I'd say neediness. Neediness. No, and that's what everyone says. They didn't even come up. Why don't you even have a point on there? Two things. That's cause you're a pick up artist. That's why it's us. It's in the community. We get a warped sense of things. That's why. Go for it. This guy here, he got the last one right. Lazy. Lazy, no, not even a quality. Think about how many women you know with lazy guys. It's not a quality. They don't care about it, right? Come on guys, you have to go for it. This guy. Lack of confidence. No, not even in that. I told you, this is bad. You're the final one. If you don't get this, I'm gonna destroy all. Go for it. Insecure. Not insecure. Hygiene. Washing. Be odorant. Shampooing. Get clean. Guys, come on. The worst possible thing. A dude that stinks. He's sweaty. He smells. That's the worst. She's like, no way. And that's the thing about it. Pickup artists. I go to these conventions. You guys are pretty okay. People smell. They do. I've seen them. And they come up to me and they've got their hairs mopped over the top of their bald head. They've got greasy skin. Their clothes haven't been washed because they've been traveling to pick up conventions, to pick up convention. They turn up and they go, oh yeah, lack of neediness. That's the most unattractive thing. Like, fuck you, dude. It's your smell. That's the worst. Trust me. I know. Your smell is bad, yeah? Hygiene, guys. Number one. If you have a lack of hygiene, if you do not look after yourself, that is number one. Number two was none of the things you guys mentioned. Number, let's look at this. Let's analyze. Let's analyze some of the best pickup artists in the world. Some people that I really respect, okay? Neil Strauss. A lot of respect for the guy. Think he's great. Sin, John. Think he's a great guy. Both of them. Both of those two. Those incredibly good pickup artists. You know what else they also both do? Stand-up comedy. A lot of people don't know this. I once did a stand-up comedy. Whenever I spot a whole bunch of people that I think are really good at game, it doesn't take long to realize that they're really funny. Because a lack of a sense of humor is a very unattractive thing. I get so many people that are like, they're like, yeah, so I spoke to this girl and she didn't respond very well to me when I spoke to her. I don't know why. I was like, dude, it's because you never smile, ever. Like, ever. And he's just like, yeah, well, does that, does it matter? I'm like, yeah, it matters. You have to smile. There's a whole bunch of people who have this joke that Dream doesn't smile, right? The guy that runs the 21 convention. I'm gonna say this right now. Dream smiles, okay? Right now he's smiling. At the convention, at the dinner last night we hung out, he was smiling. The dude does smile. He's actually incredibly funny and incredibly witty when he smiles. It's just when he's stressed organizing a big convention, he ain't smiling so much. I don't blame him because he hasn't slept in two days, okay? Smiling, powerful. You smile, it shows you got sense of humor. If you don't smile, don't be surprised when girls don't smile back at you. That's all I'm saying, yeah? They're the two most unattractive qualities. The most unattractive. Everybody who's watched this video, everybody knows any of them I pick up. That is it, it's official. None of this, neediness is the worst. No, it's not, neediness is like third worst maybe. But it is not. Number one, number one is hygiene, wash, okay? Brush your teeth, do these things. So, okay. Now each of these guys, the ideal person, the ideal characters, they have flaws that are typically associated with them. And these flaws are not considered attractive. So we're gonna analyze these now. So let's start with the nice guy. The nice guy's flaw, this guy knows it. The nice guy's flaw is he's needy, okay? He's a needy guy. That's a typical flaw. It doesn't mean he always has that flaw. It just means most nice guys are also needy. That's why they're nice guys. They're like, shit, I can't get another girl. I need to be really, really nice to this one so I don't lose her. So neediness is a negative quality. It's just not the worst, okay? So the nice guy, that's his not bad quality. The leader, he's too bossy. The leader tells her what to do in bad situations. You know, she's like, I don't wanna do that. And he's like, you have to do that. That's what we're doing. I'm a leader. I am in charge, this is what we do. The leader, he tells people what to do, okay? So very important thing to know that that is a negative quality. Next up, the bad boy. The bad boy's negative quality. Yeah, he's a bad boy, right? He's not very nice, okay? So you got the difference between, actually we'll analyze these in a second. I'll go for it in just a second. Fourth, the last one, the provider. The provider's bad quality. He's trying to make up stuff by just spending. There's no real connection there. All he's got is his money, really. And they're the typical negative situations that are associated with each of the types. Now what you guys have to realize is most girls don't know they're dealing with pickup artists, okay? The average dude out there, when they meet a bad boy, it's not a bad boy that's like, I'm a calculated bad boy. No, he's just a bad boy. He takes crazy emotional decisions and he's an asshole. He has both the things attached. But because he's an ideal girl, a psychotic will put up with the negative issues associated with it to get it. For example, a neurotic, right? Her life sucks, nothing's great. I'm not saying it's like the end of the world, but you know, she's not got the perfect life and she meets this really nice guy. He doesn't boss her around too much, like the leader or force her to go to social situations she doesn't want to go to. He doesn't try and buy her love. He genuinely likes her and he's not bad for her. So the nice guy is a nice guy. He's a bit needy. She's like, yeah, he's a bit needy, but whatever, I like it. You know, that keeps him to me. You know, it means he's not gonna stray. You know what I'm saying? So she will put up with that negative quality. In the same way, a psychotic girl, she's gonna look at a bad boy and she's gonna be like, yeah, you know, I like him. He's crazy, he's dangerous, he's got a motorbike. I mean, yeah, you know, he treats me really bad, but you know, whatever. I mean, like, he'll change, yeah? And that's what I'm talking about. She puts up with the negative part of it. And the provider, she's like, yeah, I mean, you know, there's no emotional content. I'm not physically attracted to him and hope we never ever have to have sex, but I mean, have you seen the car he drives? Yep, so every single one of these has a negative characteristic that the girl will put up with. If you don't believe me, just look at the news and look at the really rich, you know, Donald Trump. Look at him, like, look at him, like, you know, like, his wife, like, look at him. And as I'm talking about, like, you can see this. They ignore a whole bunch of other stuff to get what they want. Now the beautiful thing about being you gentlemen here in this room is you don't have to have the negative with the positive.