 But you do realize when you say separating, it kinda sounds like we're taking a break. I know, but for the summer, nobody separates. If you're legally separating, you're not doing it for like, we're separating for six months, for two weeks. You're doing that with the intent to follow through with divorce, so. That's what I'm talking about. The second part should indicate to people. That's what I'm saying though. You say separating means like we're breaking up. We're separating though. I am going to Canada. We're staying in Los Angeles. We're separating, but in the context of the title. Move on from the clickbait title, Jared. This video is sponsored by Squarespace, an amazing one-stop shop for entrepreneurs and creatives to get out what's in their brain out into the world in a beautiful, customizable, optimized, diverse way. So whether you need a website, you have a mailing list, you have an online store, you have a members-only community. 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I don't know, I thought there was people, I suddenly came to my mind, I was like, I was alone every night and with the roof right over. Say good morning. I cannot jump, your turn to jump. And jump. Rockstar status, hey. That's how we do it, baby. Rockstar status, hey. Wow. Wow. Look at daddy, daddy's happy. Time to go to school, ma'am. Okay, mommy's gonna climb the stairs. I said you were in. Oh, huh. Good. I'm gonna take family photos today. It's gonna be tons of fun. I think this one's gonna be fun, right? Yeah, hold it real quick. I know you guys have been watching this for a second, but I gotta say, we gotta give a shout out to the sponsor of this video, Squarespace. Now, we have been partnering with Squarespace for a couple of years, using them for double that time. Now they have got some new features that I wanna tell you about, Jared. Tell me. The Fluid Engine. The Fluid Engine is a next generation website design system from Squarespace. 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An album. Huh? You know you gotta be cryptic. No, I'm gonna get there. I'm gonna get there. Sorry. But it does make me feel guilty when you're at the house, we don't have much support out here in LA and I'm working on this album and sometimes I go through way long hours in the night and be gone all day at the studio and just be missing and you're here with the kids. And so I think it is best for our family that you get to go back home to Canada, not only just to Canada, but that's where a lot of our support is and you get to have help and support while you're in Canada during those times and there's not that level of guilt. There is gonna be another thing that's added to that of being, you know, I'm gonna miss you guys, I'm gonna wanna be with you guys and I'm probably gonna miss Ziya's first steps. So a lot of that is gonna be added to while you do that. Well hopefully she walks, I hope she walks. She's going to walk. And so that is going to be another feeling that is gonna be hard. I agree. Why did you pause at first? Because I know how emotional Ryu is. So when you say it's best for our family, I hesitated because I go, is it best for our family or is it best for me? And that's why I hesitated. What do you think? I can see the hesitation because Ryu adores you. I think especially if we would have tried to do this in the summer, it would not have worked because she was obsessed with you, right? You couldn't be out of her sight without her, you know, going into many panics. So I know that she goes through phases like that. She of course always loves and adores you and you mean so much to her. So I can see that from that perspective. But I believe what I'm gonna get to offer so our setup is going to be, I'm going, taking both kids back to Canada where my parents live. Myself and Ryu have rented an Airbnb about 10 minutes away from my parents driving and Ziya, the youngest, is gonna live with my mom and my dad and her cousins. Kyro and Zara are also gonna live in my parents house too. So they have a very full house over there. Lauren is also going back. They own a condo in the same neighborhood so they're gonna stay in the condo and then their kids are gonna stay. So my parents are gonna have a grand kids house except I'm gonna keep Ryu with me. And I think that this is the best case scenario because this is the last summer that both of our kids really do require undivided solo attention and deserve undivided solo attention because even when we are with both kids there is an element of you either have to try to protect Ziya from Ryu or you're fully playing with Ryu and then you're kind of just letting Ziya do her own thing. So I look forward to both of them. I know my parents are obsessed with Ziya. Yeah, they're gonna give her the love and attention that she needs and wants. And focus and Ryu is not at a stage where Ziya is that much fun to her. So she requires a different level of attention and play and care and I can give that to her. You know what I mean? And I know we've seen massive improvements I think in Ryu's behavior. We made some changes to her diet. We made changes to her daycare. We made changes to our parenting style. And I think giving her this summer of undivided attention like when I'm with you, I am just with you. We're going to the park, we're playing things together. I'm taking you everywhere that I go. Like I think it's gonna be really beneficial for her. So yes, I'm looking at it from your perspective and I would love if you came with us but I do think that this is the best thing for you and equally the best thing for the kids and also for me. I was just gonna ask that. What do you think that you'll get out of this? I was reflecting on that because my dad and I were talking this morning and he was saying, you know, Jared, how Jared's gonna feel. And I'm like, he's gonna feel, of course, missing us but you've done this twice already. I went away to Turks and Caicos for a month with Ryu and then you went on tour for a month and some change and I was home with the kids. And I had a really hard time when you went on tour. Like in a really tough time and I bawled my eyes out when you left. And I felt looming doom coming up to you leaving. Now I was fully on board and I was happy and excited for you and all those feelings existed. You know, kind of, we talked about this, the two truths at once. I was terrified and I was sad and I was gonna need you and it was hard. I was in a very hard place mentally. Just pregnancy was not easy for me. But I was still happy for you. But the day that you left and then thereafter I had a terrible time. So and a big part of the reason why it was terrible is because my relationship with my parents wasn't that great. And so I knew that they were coming to be the replacement you but I also knew that they didn't, we hadn't found our safe space with each other. That there was like a disconnect happening. And so, and that came to fruition in my experience because postpartum you're already emotionally, you know, at your limit. And then now you've got dynamics to figure out that are not smooth to begin with. It was just a lot to manage. And now I feel like I've made really great strides with both my parents. And yeah, I'm like looking forward to, like that bond matters to me. It felt like it was not broken, but just shaky. I'm like, I really want it to be something beautiful. And I think that everybody wants that. I wonder how, you know, we built our dream life here. And I wonder how you are going to respond to being in a different spot, not having your normal routine that you're gonna get into. I mean, don't get me wrong, we did this before when we went to Columbia, when we went to Turks and Caicos, you've done new ways of living, but you know, I am curious how it's going to be for you and your mental health being in a different place. Well, that's a big part of me getting my own spot. That's me learning myself and learning how to set everyone up for success. And that's the joke that we made. I made with Lauren, because Lauren is going back to Canada, but they just lived there two years ago and their kids have friends there. They're a network of support. I mean, I go back for my parents, but my parents could easily come here. So Lauren and Chris kept being like, why are you going? What are you doing this for? And I'm like, because I'd like to just spend crazy amounts of money. It's a very expensive trip because making all the, to try to recreate life somewhere. And usually when we do this, we're doing it for work reasons. So we're being paid to do this. So I'm not being paid to try to move all the kids stuff. And even then I would put my Amazon cart together for all of the things I don't want to pack in a bag. It's insane, you know? But the cost is nothing because one, I know what I'm giving to you and I know what I'm giving to my children and I know the opportunity that I am giving for myself and my family to bond and not just my parents. Like my cousin, Alana, like there's a lot of people in my family. There's people who've never met Raiyou before. That haven't been able to get into. My grandma, you know what I mean? Like I kind of, I've been had a fucked up relationship with my grandma for a long ass time. And only recently did we start to find ways, I want those to develop and I want to give them the effort that they deserve and I'm willing to invest in doing that. And I think in getting older means knowing yourself and we have the privilege of having financial means to set ourselves up for success. So I am anticipating to have an incredible time. I am anticipating that I will miss you deeply. I'm anticipating that you're gonna have the best time without us. And I'm really happy about that. Well, I think it's like, it's a bittersweet, right? It's a bittersweet thing. Like I think that it's something, like I'm working on something that is very, very close to me. I'm working on this album, working on a lot of things around the album that I'm very passionate about. So I get so fulfilled while I'm working. But some of my favorite times are coming home and sharing them with you, right? Now we get to do that over the phone and stuff, but you know how I feel about phones. I don't like being on the phone. I don't like FaceTime. I don't like doing all this stuff, but I'm gonna do it, of course. One of the things that I am excited about is once sleeping in, like that's something that I'm very much looking forward to. I don't know. I think my body's like starting to train itself to sleep in because lately the mornings are hard for me to get up. And then the other thing that I'm looking forward to is like, you know, I have a lot of friends that I can invited to so many things and I never can go because life has responsibilities on me, you know? And so I am excited to get out there and connect with people that I used to connect with all the time. Are you, is there any, I guess, well you have kids, I don't know. Yeah. We have to do that. I was gonna say like maybe you're excited to go connect with friends in Canada. Yeah, I think I'm excited to connect with my friends who have kids. That's for sure. I have a lot of friends, you know, that you, we're at different ages, so it's different. I have a lot of childhood friends who now have children and we get to bond in that way. Yeah, there's nothing that I'm dreading about this trip and that's really rare. So Mike Robb, his girlfriend, I was gonna say wife, I don't think they're married, his girlfriend is actually going to Columbia for the same amount of time that you're going to Canada. Really? Yeah. That's so funny. And taking their son Royal. Oh wow. So I was like, oh, we're both gonna be free at the same time? And Mike's a DJ, so you gonna be partying? Well, there's a lot of work to get done so I don't think I'm gonna party that much, but I'm probably a little bit. Okay, good, I hope you do. I hope you do, I mean, no, I don't know. I think it's an opportunity for us to experience old parts of ourselves. I think that's what the summer represents. Like you get to get back in touch with a dream that you've had to put to the side and devote yourself to it in the way that you got to before we met. And you get to devote yourself, you get to reconnect with old friends and your old lifestyle and old sleeping habits and I get to go back home and make some really meaningful repairs to relationships that mean a lot to me. Yours sounds so much more healthy. Yeah, it does. It's not a competition, but. Okay. Why you looking at me like it's magic? Used to have me reaching climaxing. Flip you over with Atlantic, I know. What happened, let's tragic. Don't be so dramatic, let's reattach it. Focus on the good days while you getting rough. I don't wanna fight, girl, I know you already won.