 Let's see here. Camera a little bit. Want to pop on because I haven't been able to really shoot any videos here the last couple of days. Been a little tired up, but I want to pop on here. Do a little Q and A, a little chat. Try to utilize this time with my son at practice. Cause you know, they doing, doing they thing. I don't, I don't really watch practice cause I get some work done. I watch the games, but I let them do their thing on practice. But want to pop on here for the blessed tribe. If you're not in the blessed tribe, then you'll see up under the videos where it say join. And blessed tribe members get the post questions in the chat and we go through those and try to, you know, get some answers. Y'all got to forgive me. So remember, that's funny. Pop Bush, thank you very much. Now remember if you have a question, make sure you put hashtag Q in front of your question. I shot a video earlier today talking about a little relationship topic where I was using Tom Brady and Giselle Bunching as the inspiration. And I'll be talking about that a little more because one of the things I'm noticing is relationships going through a lot right now. Relationships really going through a lot. Relationships really under attack. And it's not a good thing. It's not a good thing. And so I'll be touching on that because we live in kind of in a fantasy world right now and not just relationships but life across the board. When you look at social media, you got to be very, very mindful. When you watching this social media, you have to pay attention to what you're not paying attention to. So when you see this stuff about a soft life, it's sending a wrong message. And it's making it look like your life could be so relaxed and chill and you just can go and get coffee and go shopping and take a bubble bath. And that ain't life. And then when you look at these reels and these TikToks of couples, it make it look like a relationship is just all peaches and cream and creating content together and laughing and joking together. And that ain't life. When you look at all of this content about these, you know, the different bosses and you see all these fancy cars and fancy clothes and you see all this different stuff, that ain't life. And so what's happening is we going into a place of just constant comparison and it's messing us up because it's not real life. And so we got to understand that. Chastity, come in with the first question I seen. I find myself, okay, Chastity, the leader of her question. What are your thoughts on a guy not tipping in a restaurant? He broke or he's broke-minded, one or the other? And neither is good. But if he had to be one, broke or be better than to be broke-minded. Beauty by Crystal, God bless you now. God bless you. You know, only like to miss a day, but I appreciate y'all not holding that against me. L'Oreal, L'Oreal, that's your real name now. And people ain't trying to sue you. L'Oreal, welcome to the blessed tribe. How long does a man stay distanced if the woman mess up? You might wanna let that go. You might wanna let that go. If it's early enough, you might wanna let that go. Men don't forgive. Men do not forgive. Tony Advice for a 30 year old virgin moving in NYC. God bless you, Grace. NYC ain't a place for a virgin, but God bless you. They do not, you know, it's a handful of y'all up there at NYC. I would say join a virgin community, a group on meetup.com or start one. So that y'all could encourage and keep each other uplifted because I heard that on the Tyre Bank show years ago, the average New Yorker got 18 sexual partners. So that's a real fast city. And when you live in fast cities, they move fast and they love life. So, you know, what do I tell a guy on the first day? And y'all gotta forgive me with these questions cause still to me trying to be doing all this scrolling. I'm gonna just grab the one that pop in when I finish talking and I'm looking at this page. I'm gonna grab the one that pop in right there. Black Barbie put the hashtag Q in front of your question so I'll see it. Y'all make sure y'all put the hashtag Q in front of your question. Tony, do you think women should date older men? I'm used to dating men 10 plus years old with me. To each day on, to each day on, so no, I don't think you should just because, you know, it's just timing and life and stuff going on in life. You kind of wanna be with somebody you can relate to the times with, you know, somebody who lives in the Barry White is somebody different than who lives in the Biggie, you know, it different if you grew up with the internet and somebody didn't have the internet. If you grew up, what kids could get spanked in school or what kids can't get spanked in school, like it's a difference in those generations sometimes. So you got to be careful with that age difference stuff because sometimes when a man is too much older than you, he feel like he could raise you. Feel like you're a child and that he could raise you because we'll do that when we not that much older than you. What do I tell a guy on the first date when he asks what I'm looking for? What serious relationship that will, what serious relationship that will lead to marriage but don't wanna look thirsty and don't wanna lie and say nothing serious? Yes, just answer his question. You know, you don't have to say every little detail, but because you don't want a man to play a role so you don't wanna read him a script but just tell him that, you know, I'm not in a position of playing games. So I'm looking for somebody who is in the same space, like who is dating intentionally and not just for fun. I'm not artistic. I can't make things. I don't have a service to provide. I really want to generate an income at home. Is there anything for me that I can do? Yeah, you could just serve other people. You could be a virtual assistant from home. You could do customer service from home. You could do drop shipping from home, meaning somebody else can have a store and you are their warehouse. You got their t-shirts and the orders come in. They come to your email as well. They see the order, the money go to them but they come to your email and you do the packaging and shipping. So think like that when you wanna do something but you don't feel like you got a gift and just think about serving. What can you do for somebody else? Somebody might want you to run their social media. Somebody might want you to answer their emails. You know, DM people who look like they got something going on and might need some help. Why are a lot of couples partners today instead of husband and wife? Just cause people looking at it economically. Why can't I get into a relationship? Not a good question. Y'all gotta ask questions cause I don't know you so I can't answer a question like in general question. I feel men like to play with me. A guy hid me, then got a girlfriend, then called me and said jokingly, if it don't work out with her, I know I can fall back on you. I took it personal, self-reflecting. Now y'all, now don't y'all be using the Q and A for y'all journaling and all of that. Y'all ask a real question and they'll not and if you don't have a real question to ask, you know, don't y'all be like the kids in class just saying something, just to say something. Y'all think about your question and ask a question that other people watching could get something from. Don't be like the kids in class just trying to be seen. Uh, yeah, Mr. Gasker. Why when you Google Richard, it say that? That's what a boy asked me. I would give him a speech to a group of boys and the little boy gonna raise his hand. Mr. Gasker, why when you Google Richard, it say what it say? And y'all know what it show up when you Google Richard. The D word, D-I. And he asked the question with a straight face too. So come on now, as adults, we gotta ask a real question. Y'all come on now, come on now. Don't do me like that now. Come on here to give my precious time. Y'all asking me, yeah, Mr. Tony. So I was wondering why is the sky blue? It's like, come on now. Y'all ask a real question. Chatorier, God bless your sister. God bless you. God bless your Chatorier. That's a beautiful name to us. Lord, God bless you. That is a creative name. That's my first time seeing that name. That's a beautiful name. And you know, when I just see stuff like that, beautiful name, like that, it just made me think of how many applications that white man passed on that name. Chatorier, yeah, some Gordon Brittany. You know how they always tell us about that with all creative names. I don't know if that's what my daddy named me, Tony. But that's the first of a kind name. That's a beautiful name. Thank you, Tony, for the consistency. You make me want to make me a few shirts like that repetition is key. God bless you. Yes, sister, make you some shirts now. And I wear this shirt for myself. I ain't even got this shirt for sale yet. I was trying to send 30, but there's no option for it. God bless you. So this is Chatorier over there doing good. Done, done. Named a mate of some money. Sister over there got blessings on blessings and blessing me. Met this guy planning to go to park, but didn't call it all that day. I called and he said, we'll have to reschedule and said he can't move forward with me romantically. Appreciate it. Appreciate it. Chatorier said, I'll say the name right. Appreciate what he did. Appreciate what he told you. Get the lesson and go on about your business. You can't be mad by the man telling you the truth. Cause he could have played with you, strung you along and all of that. Hey, Tony, should you accept an ultimatum from a man to get married if you're not ready? Well, Brittany, that's a good problem to have cause a lot of women wish a man to give them an ultimatum to get married. So that's at least a good problem to have, but no, you should not. Because if a woman is created for love, a woman is made for love. So if you with a man and you're not sure about marrying him, I don't think he's the one for you because a woman's disposition is already for love. A woman already is not disposition, but her position, she's position for love. A woman typically desires marriage, desires a family. So when you don't want that with a man, I believe it's something in your spirit that's telling you to act like the young lady, like the Courtney Kardashian, who was with Scott Disick and had his kids cause she didn't want them ex to be over easy. So had his kids, but never married them. And then as soon as she meet this other man, Travis Barker, she absolutely head over heels and ready for marriage. So it was like her spirit knew that Scott won marriage material, but he was all right for the gene pool to have them kids out of. It's easier to get married than it is to have a child. So she had a kid from him, but wouldn't marry him. But not meet this other guy, boom, let's get married. So that's why you have to listen to your intuition because if you don't want to get married, how to deal with sadness that's coming from never being one of love by a man. I have been single my whole life and now I feel like something is wrong with me. All you could do is work on you. That's all you could do is work on you. See, sometimes we don't really do the work. We just kind of sit in our feelings. We sit in our emotions, but words have so much power. So if you're taking, you have a therapy session, your therapist or you have a coaching session, you could hear one line, one phrase that says something that says something that is like life changing and you grab onto that and you start to move toward that. So it could be one little tweak you need to make, one little change you need to make, but if you're not getting that outside input and doing the work, then you'll just keep doing what you've been doing and you'll keep getting what you've been getting. Tiki, God bless you. Now, should your partner be able to bring out the worst of you best or both applies in a real relationship? Both apply. Both apply. Your partner could bring out the worst. Your partner could bring out the best. Humans gonna bring out of humans everything. So you have to be prepared for that. Now, should your partner consistently bring out the worst of you? No. But will they at some point? Yes. When you address that and let them know you bringing out the worst of me, if they're not willing to change or do differently, should you let that go? Yes. I like my guy friend, but he knows I've dealt with his cousin. Not having, would this stop him from liking me if he did or tried to pursue something? Yeah, it very well, man. Some people do that, but some people just got a cold. Some people just got a cold against that. Just never mess with somebody that a friend or a family member mess with because for one, he don't know the extent of how y'all messed around. And then two, it's like, if y'all they live in the same city, then he'll be with you and I always gotta be thinking about what you did with his cousin. And so it's just not a good thing. I would say just kinda close your heart to that and start looking elsewhere and stop fantasizing about him. Tony, is it common to have lingering recurring thoughts of ex who have moved on? It was a four month relationship after being 15 years a widow. Yes, it is common. It's just how the brain works. Laquisha God bless you, and I thank you, Tony. Hello, bless tribe. It's Ms. Lessie. Hey, God bless you, and I. What does it mean when a guy is always comparing you to other girls? I mean, he's saying it out loud. It's either he trying to get more out of you, like he want more from you. He want more affection or more attention. Or he trying to get under you, under your skin, trying to make you feel inadequate, insecure. And you kinda need to ask him like, what are you doing and why are you doing it? Because the way you going about it is kinda childish. And I'm not gonna stand for that. I'm not gonna be here for that. So what is your goal here? And you gotta talk to him direct like that. You gotta be real with him. Because sometimes it's me and Will do stuff because we were not raised in a world to articulate and communicate. And so we will beat around the bush, we'll take jabs, we'll do and say hurtful things, trying to get our point across. It's kinda like what you have to think of it as, what is light shining in the car? The light that came on. It's kinda one of them things to where like, you know how on the playground, when you see the little boy pull the girl ponytail and they be like, oh, he got a crush on her? That's how it is as adult men. Like him doing certain things is him pulling your ponytail on the playground. Because he just don't know how to say like, hey, I feel a little inadequate. I feel like you look better than me. And so sometimes I try to bring you down to my level and I'll say little stupid stuff trying to get under your skin, but really it's like I want attention. Oh, hold on now. I ain't even really see that. Beauty by Krista. Hey, God bless you. I thought that said $9 and 99 cent. That thing say 99, 99. Krista, you must be a RN. Thank you Tony for your miniature and consistency blessing you. Krista must be a RN. It looks like you got scrubs on Krista. What you going to? Esthetician, 99 dollars? Oh, I'm a hundred dollars. God bless you. So scrubs you got on? Like an esthetician. Doing something in a hundred dollars? In the recession? God bless you. Well, look here, boy, God, good. You give me God, good. God, no, I woke up in the negative this morning. I woke up, count said, I was like, whoa, count. I'm like, baby, I can make a transfer. Now I got to make a transfer. Lord, know what you need when you need it. Boy, because Krista came through with that RN money. My goodness. Look at her. Krista and she are esthetician. Y'all see, intuitive, I'm just guessing. I know she had to be doing something because it's a lot of money in vanity. And so people want their face right. I'm finna be male esthetician. I'm finna be male esthetician and don't let me get the certification where you could teach how to do eyebrows or how to do lashes, because that's where the real money at now. For those of y'all who like school and who like doing work and like doing certification, get certified to teach somebody how to do lashes. You could barely know how to do the lashes, but if you got the paperwork to teach somebody how to do lashes, women will pay $1,500 for that class. If you train 1,000 women a year, you could go around the country and do 10 at a time, 15, 20 women at a time. That's $1.5 million a year you'll make. Training people $1,500. And people will take that class faster than they take life coach certification. I got a life coach certification where I'm training people to be a life coach. It costs $1,500, but it's like three people take it. So, but now if I was teaching how to do lashes, well, I'd be on somebody yacht. I'd be on somebody yacht. That's next Tony, whole Academy. Hey, Christopher, end up be on here, giving another 100 after that Academy get going. Do you believe you could meet someone at the wrong time and have missed a opportunity? Good guy courted me before I was saved. Now I'm awake and see the loss, but my mind wasn't ready. Yeah, you could meet somebody at the wrong time. And it just mean that it, he's not for you. Just mean that's not your man, that's somebody else man. But if you can meet somebody at the wrong time, then that also means you can meet somebody at the right time. So you got to be ready for what's coming next. Found out X was cheating, got angry and key his car. Found out X was cheating, got angry and key his car. Not proud, but it was a split second decision. People believe he'll be back, but I need him to stay away because I don't trust myself so tired. Hey, God bless you. Yeah, don't make no split second decision like that again because, and so you need to pray that up about you. Them split second decision because you may split second decision, but you got to remember how you hit somebody, they can hit you back harder. So if he make a split second decision that involve a trigger, then guess what, your life gone. So don't ever do something to somebody if you don't want them to do something back to you. And when they do something back to you, you don't know how they're gonna have to do it. Caramel kids, you don't have to work, you don't have to work that hard. Don't take your break. That's what the Caramel kids over there working. Don't worry about it, sister. Don't worry about it. This is man, the chat. Y'all is working, my sister. Y'all gotta like that meme with that person on it. Y'all working on it. Don't worry about it, sister. Hey, y'all just try to put questions in the chat and put the hashtag Q because Caramel kids over there trying to keep the chat clean so I can see the questions. So a lot of the extra stuff getting deleted, just put questions in the chat. Put questions in the chat. Now your little smiley faces and all of that, that, you know, laugh, that's okay. But keep down on the commentary. Christine, God bless you. God bless you. What is the best way to detach a eye from an X when cutting an S, not biological system? You might have to talk to a co-parent and coach on my mentor.life on that one. One thing I realized, and this is how I look at it, I look at it like children lose, they biological father every day. And grow up to be great, grow up to do great things. Half of your pro athletes then have the biological father. So sometimes it's just really about just moving forward, creating the distance, learning your child language, speaking to your child in their language and helping your child learn and kind of get a lesson. A child not gonna process everything, but when you explain in your words for your child, cause you know your child level better than anybody else. So for one child that may be able, you may say, well, we aren't friends anymore. You know how you aren't friends with Crystal anymore because she pulled your hair? Yes. Well, that's the same thing with me and Tom. Did he pull your hair? No, he didn't pull my hair, but we just aren't friends anymore because we aren't being nice to each other. One child might, you explain it like that. Another child that might be more direct. Well, we were in a relationship, but we broke up. Sometimes you break up with people and you have to move on with your life. So you have to understand your child language. And I would say just, you know, don't make a habit of lying. Oh, they're sick or oh, they're in jail or oh, they're gone or oh, they disappeared or oh, I don't know, you know, because that could end up hurting worse. Sometimes it's better to just deal with the truth and let them process, cry, cry a little bit. But the way the brain work, we're gonna self soothe and we're gonna heal. So if people could get over a biological father being absent, they definitely could get over a non-biological father being absent. Told him my husband is just now trying to read God's word with me and hold himself accountable after I gotta protect order against him in jail. Should I move forward with it or stay? You're gonna need coaching. You're gonna need coaching because whenever you deal with marriage, you can't deal with something that big. That's a covenant under God. So you can't really make a decision like that on a kind of chat like this. So go on MyMentor.Life in a book or session or email in to support at tonigaskins.com, the book of VIP session. If you need to get in this week or next week, just write in, when you go to support, when you email support at tonigaskins.com, just put in the subject VIP session. So that way we'll know. And then other than that, if you don't need one within the next couple of weeks, then just go to MyMentor.Life. And when you click on browse coaches, the coaches will come up, you'll see me as the second coach on there. Where's a good place to meet Sears like minded mates? I got a video on that. So look through my videos and search, you know, where to meet good men, Tony Gaskins. Tony Mann told me after the second hanging, hiking that he likes me, do men know that early? I thought he would. Yeah, man, no. But for you to think he, that says a lot, because what I've noticed is a lot of women can't tell when a man is. So for you to think he, they'll let me know he might be. He might be. Cause typically women don't really see it. Like that brother who'd be doing all that hollering on them reels when his wife do something, he'd be, okay, tell that woman husband might be watching men on the screen. But y'all can't tell if he'd be, if he'd be coveting their relationship. I was like, oh, that brother though, that brother though might want him another persuasion. I said, God bless you. Well, but y'all got some bad vision. I said, but, so when you as a woman feel like a man might be, nah, nah, 10 times, he, you hear me? Listen to me now. Listen when I tell you now. Are there any payment options when it comes to taking a writing skill course? Nah, yeah, I would imagine now, I don't have a writing skill course. So now I got the ghost writing. Do I got a ghost writing course? Well, my course is too cheap for a payment plan. So when I tell people just put it in your savings and then just go buy it like that. Cause I rather you save and give yourself a payment plan, then the reason why I stopped giving payment plans cause my demographic is not upper class. You know, my demographic is mostly black people and it's black people. We haven't hit the upper class yet across the board. So people will get my whole course and make one payment. And it's like, I'm like, I don't have the ability to be losing money, like Chase and Discover and American Express and all of that. I can't, they billions, they got billions. So they can afford to give you that credit card and then you charge it all up and don't pay. But me, my little content, I got to feed my family. So that's why I stopped doing payment plans cause people will come make one payment, get the whole life code certification, go through all the content, get a certificate and run off on the plug, change their card, let it get declined time after time again. I say, well, and then wanna go be a life coach with no integrity. I'm like, how you finna steal my content then go make a honest living. You think God finna bless that? You done ran off on the plug. Thank God finna bless you little business, absolutely not. Hey, Yema God bless you now. Thanks for your input. I definitely utilize counseling and coaching. Hey, keep that up now. Keep that up. I remember two people, a black man and a white woman. Got my course on discount, on Christmas. Signed up on my mentor.life, then called a bank and claim fraud in January. I say, I say, I had to hit the noise like the brother of the reals, I say, my goodness. These people have got a thing on a 90% discount. Signed up on my site to get clients and then wrote in and the lawyer showed me ton of fraud, ain't got no color, fraud ain't got no gender. Cause it was a black man and a white woman. I say, boy, look here, I'll say, boy, we down bad. I'll say we a down bad. What's one advice you would give you yourself? Jerusalem, your question, you know, maybe you took it back. Put your hashtag Q on there. X unblocked me after two years. He blocked me because he was very mad at me because I tried to have another relationship after him. I still love him, but don't know what that to do. He a grown man. Well, keep on, keep moving about your business. Keep going about your business, sister. And by your name, I don't know if y'all Muslim or if y'all love a certain religion or what have you, but a man block you for two years and then there ain't no good sign. He might be coming, he might be trying to open up that channel of communication for the wrong reason. He got that much pride to block you for moving on after y'all no longer together. That's a red flag. I'm 23 and in the Air Force, boyfriend just separated from Air Force and moved back home with his parents 5,000 miles away to readjust how long his long distance appropriate. He's 22. He's known me for two years. Don't let me rain on your parade. I really don't really believe in long distance relationship especially with children. Under the age of 25, that's a man, not even a man. A man's still a boy. So I really, yeah, that's true. God bless y'all on that one, sister. God bless, keep your head up, stay positive. Do the best you can. That ain't, but that's not real to me. What's the longest a man takes to propose? Hey, you gotta ask that lady off love hip hop, New York. God, Lord, she waited. Man, it's all different kind of numbers now. What's one advice you would give yourself at the start of your career? Be confident and be consistent. I think that's the two main things and probably the hardest two to come by. But if you could be confident and be consistent, when I actually did that, ironically, I became less confident and less consistent the bigger I got. The bigger my brand got, the more I got shy and got reserved and got quieted because it's more eyes on your opinion. Whereas when I was building, I didn't care what I said. I was so real and raw and unfiltered, unadulterated. But when you get bigger, it's like you kind of start to mince your words and change the way you're saying stuff. What's it mean when he says he wants to set us up for success before going into relationship? Then two months later says he doesn't want to hurt me, says he cares about me, but wants to stop seeing. That's what it mean. When he said the first one, it really was just an excuse. And what every woman needs to understand is if a man feels you are his wife, if a man feels you are his wife, he will never postpone or push that relationship back when you ready to move forward. When a man is unsure if you're his wife, that's when he postpones or pushes it back. Because when a man sees value, he understands that everybody else will see value. So you never leave a lot if you got the money to get your dream car and it's sitting right there in front of you. You only leave a lot when you ain't got the money or that ain't your dream car. So the same thing in every aspect of life, a man ain't gonna leave nothing on the table if that's what he want. He ain't gonna leave a car, he ain't gonna leave a pair of shoes, he ain't gonna leave a house, he ain't gonna leave a dog, he ain't gonna leave a watch, and he definitely ain't gonna leave no woman. A man ain't gonna postpone and prolong with no woman that he feels is his wife. He trying to snatch you up off that market immediately. The reason being, cause he understand that if he don't take you off that market, another man gonna see your value and another man gonna shoot his shot, make his move and take you off that market. And so men don't play around when we meet our wife. We don't play around with it. Oh, y'all, this is a lot of questions coming up and y'all are forgiving. Y'all sitting down here got the pee. I drank a whole bottle of water before I got on here and I had my half a cup of iced coffee. So now I'm up here blotting, ooh, I'm 22. My baby daddy is 40, I am 22. My baby daddy is 43. He didn't want to tell his family about our son who is child number seven for him. His mom was disrespectful to me, but it's because of the lies he told her advice. Oh, Lord, oh my goodness. Sister, God bless you. I hate to act like Stevie acting on a strawberry level. I don't like when they be making people feels bad. So I try not to do that. God bless you, sister. Oh my goodness, God bless you. Welcome to the blessed tribe. I'm glad you're in the blessed tribe. This is where you need to be. My goodness, my goodness. Oh, Lord, did that, Lord? Woo, oh. Sister, you just really knocked me off my seat. It just, you know what really upset and bother me is that, and that shouldn't be the case. I should want to be a good man to be a good man. But listen to everybody who see what the sister did. Y'all stop letting the elderly men finesse y'all. And 43 is still young, but when I say elderly, I mean compared to you. 43 compared to 22 is an old head. That's like me at 38 compared to a 19 year old. I'm an old head. I'm elderly compared to a 19 year old. Y'all got to stop again finesse by the geriatrics. I don't even know what the geriatric is, but male land female, because men do it and women do it. Try to rot the cradle and got to stop being finesse. Please y'all stop that. Please stop that. Talk to somebody in your age group. And this man here just all the way bad because he 43 gossiping like he 23 with his mama gossiping. Got it. Then mama Hayden, it's like he 43. His mama definitely too old to be acting childish. She get an attitude with you. Like you, like her son, they 43 years old. Man, your son 43 and must key and getting 20 years pregnant. And you got the nerve, ma'am, to be mad at a 22 year old with your old bro, musky son. Messing with this little girl, messing with this 22 year old. And then you're gonna get a 22 year old attitude. But see, that's what let you know why he moving, how he moving at 43. Because his mama immature, his mama immature. Listen, if I'm 22 as a woman and my baby daddy, 43 and his mama giving me attitude, I'm gone about my bed with my child. I'm finesse that as a spurred donor. I tell my daughter, go about your business. Take care of your child yourself. You ain't got time to be full up with no bro, musky man and his mama who both farm ignorant. Absolutely not. Listen, cut your losses, chalk it up. You took a L, learn from it, gone about your business. Don't live, don't live in that stress. I got to go. I got to go on a situation like that. That man too old to be acting like that. Thali God bless you now. Sorry, your question disappeared. What do I do about a guy met in 2020 that lied about getting a divorce? I cut it off immediately, but they both make fake pages her to harass me. Just keep blocking them. Just make it like that little game. The little game when you're in the, that little game you play in the game room where the little head pop up and you hit it. Just treat their fake pages like that. Cause you got to realize them making a fake page, take 10, 15 minutes, sometimes 20, cause the computer finished started giving them a hard time about that same IP making another page. So now what Instagram did, they didn't got the way you could block that page and all other pages they create from that same device. So it take you two seconds. Bloop, bloop, bloop, bloop, bloop. But they taken all that time out of their life, the ball to you. So me personally, I just make a little game. Oh, another fake page, boop, boop, boop, boop. Make another one, boop, boop. Got you again, make another one, boop. I let them take all their time. All right, keep making them. I sit there and talk with one of the fake pages one day. I give them a little time. I sit there and talk with them. I'm the wrong one. I beat a lot to the woman on the fake page. Yeah. Well, when he was sucking my toes, I just used to tickle. I beat a, you see what I'm saying? Don't let nobody ruin your peace. Don't let nobody come and brain a misery and ruin your peace. Sometime you gotta have time for people. Do men get insecure about their own looks? If so, why society doesn't pressure men, society doesn't pressure them to look good 24 seven, yet the men in my life right now are like this, units, fat, diets, et cetera. God bless. Yeah, yeah, we get insecure. Nah, we do get insecure. And the reason why we get insecure is so I ain't reason women get insecure because when a man go online and he see this prisoner mug shot go viral and all the women talking about how good the man look and then the man look in the mirror, look at itself and be like, well, man, okay, I need to work on this, need to work on that. I feel ugly all the time. I'm around here getting bull talks. I'm getting around here getting bull talks. I'm around here getting a headline sprayed on. Men go through the same thing. Men ask them more insecure than women. In your society don't pressures, but what pressure men is seeing the comments about other men and a man not feeling up the part. That's what pressure men. And men just already naturally insecure just from the workforce, just from the world, just from the money, competition and all of those things. From your experience, how long has it took divorced women to start dating again? I coach women who on their second, third, fourth marriage. So, you know, but on average, it takes a long time. On average, I see between a year and two years just because of a woman being shell shopped, just not knowing the dating scene, feeling fearful, inadequate, insecure. Just wondering if she can adapt and if she'll be okay with the games, the new games that's being played. Hi, Tony, I am 13 weeks pregnant. Father child broke up with me, but once the co-parent disrespected me, told me I'm a nobody and he'll treat me like a nobody. Blocked him, did I do the right thing? Yeah, you did the right thing. Yeah, you did the right thing. Cause he crazy. You did the right thing. You can't even play around with a man like that. Man like that crazy. Man'll say all that when you carry his child. Knowing that, him saying that, go how you releasing toxins into your bloodstream and how your baby in there, blood pressure rising and all of that. You need to get some soft, calm and music gone by your bed and then get out there. Just live your life, create your routine and schedule a relaxation and peace. Now you live the real soft life, what they talking about. Go on and live your soft life and let his butt talk to the dial tone. You can't let no man come in like that. Cause when you praying, it's about that child. STA 52, God bless you. Val, welcome to the blessed trial. Cause that man, they're crazy. He'll say something like that. That man crazy. I met a guy, we spoke by text for two days. I asked him, what is he looking for? He said, you, I asked, can you elaborate? Nothing for one week. Cut him off. Yeah, go and cut him off. He got somebody already and just playing game. That's why he gave it a little weak response right there. He thought that he swore that sounding good, but he thought he hit, he thought he had you blow. When he said you, he just thought the sky fell. He thought you were going to be like, ooh, that was good. Oh my goodness. So when you had a follow up question, he didn't know what to do. Ex-husband and I divorced seven years. I unvalue living my life says he gets it and wants me back. Prioritizes his cars, hangs with ex-wife and her new husband. Saying we friends and don't see my issue. Wow. Oh my goodness. Now me personally, just as a man, when I hear that a man hang with his ex-wife and her new husband, it's just the only thing to make me think is the man like me. I just can't imagine a man wanting to be around his ex-wife and her new husband unless he like a fan of the new husband. Like if the new husband is like a celebrity or like a pro athlete and he's just a fan and he feel honored that this man of status and stature will want his ex. And he thinking like, man, man, we hit the same woman. Like, man, so you want the woman out of hat, the woman out of thrash and ran through? Oh, you want her? Okay. So like if the ex-wife husband is like a rapper, famous rapper, athlete, I could see a heterosexual man doing that because he thinking about money, he thinking about clout, he thinking about coming up and men will put money and clout before any woman. Then I could understand that. But if the man is just a everyday man, your ex sound like you, y'all was a cover up. I just can't fathom that. I can't fathom, me and my wife got a divorce and she went and got a new man. They ain't got a word about seeing me. He not even, I'm not even speaking to him. You not even gonna be in the same vicinity as me. It gonna feel like I got a restraining order on y'all. I'm not gonna be around him. I could be childish though. I could be childish. Forgive me if I'm childish, I could be. But forgive me. I know I wouldn't be around though. Tell you that now. 40 year old man, married, wife has two kids from two prior relationships. No kids of his own says it's too late for him to have kids. What does that mean? I thought men wanted to have their own. Most men do, but some men, he's a special case. Some men, he's one of them special cases. Some men are special case. And so typically it's a man who like men who is with a woman, or it's a man who just was raised differently. And he just don't feel, he feels inadequate. He doesn't feel comfortable being a father. If he didn't see a father, if he wasn't raised with his father, sometimes men gain confidence from seeing it be done. And so that could be it. How do you feel about the quote, age is nothing but a number. I'm 24 mature and an old soul. I sometimes like older men in their 30s, 40s and 50. Well, if age was only a number, then our health would not go down as we get older. So, the person who made that up was trying to convince themselves that they're not over the hump, over the hill. And so that's all that is. Age is way more than a number. It is an indication of where you are in your life and how close you is to the grade. So age is, that's why menopause hit a woman at a certain point. That's why a woman can't have kids at a certain point because age have some things that it come with other than just the numbers. So it's gonna come with some changes in your health, in your body, in your mind. My body at 38 cannot do what I was doing at 18. When I was 18, well look here, I was something else. You hear me? Nah. Get my little bit in, I'm tired. Ooh, I'm just gonna sleep. 18, different story. Body changes, body change. Yeah, still can do a little something but there ain't no one that's the same. How do you know if a guy truly likes you or just pretending? Some guys will act like they want you until they realize they can't hit you. That's when you know. That's when you know he pretended. That's when you know. Concern about the down low population was dating this really smart mid 40s black engineer and he pretended to not know about down low. We never kissed in four months but isn't down low well known? I would imagine unless he raised in that type of environment that shelter but I would imagine he would know about that but and a man who ain't kissing four don't necessarily mean it like me and just could not just be comfortable period. Could be asexual if that's a, I don't know what that mean but I just figure you either A, B, or C so maybe he A. Is it bad if you don't ever get DMs on social media or is it nothing to worry about? I have pictures and my page is open. I also post on my stories. No, it's not bad but just play with your picture. Change your picture up sometimes. With your picture up sometimes keep posting on your stories. Just experiment with it. But it's not a bad thing. Planned our son off and on. Y'all hold on, I got my body. I think I got the P2 band is sending something up into my stomach. My bladder's starting to ache up on me. I don't know how long he supposed to hold it. I might even have to go in here. So I'm gonna get on off of him about five minutes cause I'm sitting up here feeling like I'm geriatric. And y'all forgive me, I don't even know what that mean but I just thought it mean something. Y'all to me, so y'all forgive me if that's a derogatory term. My Kayla God bless you. Hi Tony, thank you for all your advice. I'm 29, he was 39. We met online, we recently broke up. It's been three weeks. He had a baby mama constantly sub tweets and says how toxic she is on Twitter. Said he loves me but then broke up. Well, sister, be glad that it's old. He was too old for you cause you know, 10 years difference. I was gonna sub tweet and he planned with her. So he game probably ran out. She probably threatened with that child support. And he realized he got to cut off the games. What dating options do single mothers have in your opinion? Seems like only fools try to talk to me. Well, single fathers, that's one of the main options but also just mature men. And so you got to be where mature men are. And mature men not gonna be in the club. Mature men not gonna be in the dating app. Mature men not gonna be in immature places. So a mature man, he gonna be in an organization, a little club, social club in the community. He gonna, you gonna have some devils in the church but a mature man gonna be in the church too. He gonna be in the coffee shop reading. He gonna be in Starbucks and another coffee shop Barnes and Noble. You know, the mature man gonna be in places where there's some growth, there's some learning, there's some networking, there's some community. And so understanding that single mom of two, six and eight months, boyfriend takes on full time job and leave kids up to me always. Told him I want to work nights on the weekend. Won't help due to beauty sleep. No daycare for a daughter. Well, sister, you know, you got to understand seasons. You know, you got eight months. If he working and he paying the bills, paying the bills, then don't worry about working. You know, it's the seasons for things. You got to eight months old. You know, and traditionally the woman is with the kids. And to be honest with you, you do not want a man overnight with your child because if you tired of it and you carried the baby and you got the breast to feed the baby and God gave you the mind and the mentality to have the baby then what you think that man gonna do with that baby who is not mentally, emotionally, spiritually equipped to deal with no crying baby. And that's the mistake that women make. It's like, listen, the Bible tell us in Genesis what a woman gonna go through because of what Eve did. So it ain't gonna be pieces and cream. It's gonna be hard now. It's gonna feel unfair, but you got to embrace that and understand that if God told you to go through it, he'll get you through it. He didn't gave you an equip you with what you need. He ain't get a man that. That's why we can't as men, that's why we can't get pregnant. That's why we can't have no child. We can't push no child out the front or out the back. But so you got to understand a man's, this is what we got to realize is everything work together. So if your stomach could do this and stretch and then your private area could push that out. That means your brain also has the matter and the ability to deal with what you just brought into the world. A man did not have that ability. So his brain ain't gonna have all of the capacity to deal with discomfort on the level that a woman can. To deal with pain on the level that a woman can. That's why a woman life expectancy is longer. A woman have a higher threshold of pain. So I'm telling you as a man, who is a quote unquote good man, but still growing, still flawed, I don't trust myself with a baby. And I know that I'm not a bad guy. And for that very reason, I don't trust no man with no baby. It's a lot of women say, oh, my granddad, my boyfriend, my husband is amazing with kids. Yeah, in front of you. It's a lot of men know how to act. It's a lot of men know how to act. And I'm telling you right now, don't ever leave your child with no man unless you absolutely, that's your last option in the world. That's your last option in the world. That's your last option in the world. Everything got to be right in that man life. His maturity, his spiritual walk, his mentality, everything I'm telling y'all, cause I was a man with little boys. I'm telling y'all, I can't trust myself, I don't trust no man. And look, you see women doing it. You see women putting a child in the trash can, trying to flush him down the toilet, in the water, in the bathroom. Women who is equipped to be a mother. So what you think a man finna go through when that baby crying and he can't get that baby to start crying? Because that man can't pop this right here in that baby mouth and that baby gets satisfaction. A woman could pop this right here in that baby mouth and that baby be quiet. You see what I'm saying? So you got to understand that. And that's, I know it's a lot of men mad about that because it's the one out of 10,000 men that's excellent with kids or watch this. And that's not fair. I never do anything to harm a child. I love kids. I get along better with a baby than I do with a dog. Yeah, that's cause you childish. It's just cause you childish, bro. That's all it is. Use the great with the kid cause you childish. Okay, congratulations. You by yourself. You by yourself. That is not, that is not coming. It's not coming. But that's the same reason why when a woman got to work too hard, the woman started to say, I can't do this. I hate this. It's too hard. I'm drained. I'm not built for this hustling. I'm not built for this. Oh, I want a man. I want, I want, I want to hug him so I could relax. The reason why a woman say that is because the same thing. God made a man and gave a man something to be a grinder and a go getter. And he gave a woman something to be a caretaker, a nurturer, a lover. A man can become a caretaker, a nurturer and a lover. A woman can become a grinder and a hustler. Our mind can adapt, but that don't mean that's our nature. We can adapt to do whatever is required of us, but that don't mean that's what we was put here to do. That don't mean that's what we were called to do. So you got to realize that. Think about that. Dating this 40 year old man has never been married, doesn't want children. We are not abstaining at the moment, but doesn't initiate relations as much. And his father said, I'll be concerned. Yeah, you be conserved now. Yeah, you got to be conserved now. Cause if it's daddy like that, a lot of times a man learn from their daddy now. And even if he's not like that, he probably might be what they call, bi-curious. You know what they call that. He could just be a little unsure, a little uneasy. So listen to them. So yeah, you could be concerned now. It ain't no telling now, but yeah, you ain't wrong for being concerned now. Let me see what time it is. 8.35, my son get out of practice in 25 minutes. Family pressured me to have a boyfriend and kids right now, I'm 29. Am I too old? Kaila Garfield. No, you ain't not too old. You're not too old at all. You doing like the white folks do. A lot of times the white folks wait. They'll be 31, 32 before they get down and serious. Being to travel the world and seeing stuff and live on their own in New York and London. And then settle down and have a family. The parents, that's my son's age is in their 60s. I'm 38, a lot of my 15 year old son, his friends, his white friends, a lot of their parents, it really ain't none of them under 40. If they be taking their time, I'd be like, my goodness, I was knocking them boots, you and me. We began started, but it's a lot of folks wait into their 30s, but that's how my wife family was. But they kind of was like that more so school, get education, do all that. My wife, mom and dad was I think 30 and 31. Does on and off, y'all I got to go, they help bladder. My wife tell them I got a bladder like a pregnant woman. They help bladder getting on them, got to go. Make sure you get on over to tonicgastonacademy.com, get a course for you. One course could change your life. Make sure you get on over there, aspiring life coach, I need some help. I need some help. And if you happen to be in South Africa, I might be coming over there. So South Africa, start putting a few dollars to the side, a few of them ran, put a few of them ran to the side. And if you're in America and you've never been to South Africa, come on over there. We'll do some stuff together, you going over there. I'm not no travel agent. So I don't know how to create no plan now. I can tell you where to even at. I can tell you where a hotel near. You got to book your own traveling and all that. But I'll link up with you if you from America and you come on over there. I link up with you. Well, you know how it's a little America's Americans in South Africa dinner, maybe go on a safari or something. If you're a, if you're a coach, if you took my life coach certification, I might even let you shatter me when I go to do interviews or stuff like that. Might even let you speak for five minutes, you know, tell one little story or be on a panel or something. So for my coaches who didn't took the certification, y'all market challenge, I think it'll be November. I'm thinking about South Africa, November. I got really got to go out, you know, the country first because, you know, I like South Africa honestly better than America. I just like South Africa. I know that. I know if you is South Africa, you might not be all crazy about it, but I like it over there. Get my house over there one day when I get me some money. Hey, but God bless y'all. Thank you for being on here. This was a little overwhelming. So I got to cut it off at my hour because there's so many questions coming in. It's like the more questions, the worse I got to pee. So, because of what my brain releasing into my bladder. So, hey, God bless y'all. Thank you for being on here. Y'all keep me in your prayers, you know, keep me in your prayers. And some of y'all sent my wife a cash out. Now y'all send that to me and let me get to her. I'm just playing. But my wife told me some of y'all sent her a cash out. And she said, I think she bought her a couple of pair of shoes. I said, well, I say, what a oil run from the head on it. I'm like, can I get a thank you? I'm like, I'm the one shot a job. I'm like, can I get a thank you? All right. I'm gonna tell my people don't send it over there no more. Send it to me. But I just wanna say thank y'all for that. Cause, you know, she sacrificed a lot and she put up with a lot from me. When y'all, you know, when people stress me out in business, it ain't y'all cause y'all in the bless try. But when people, you know, stress me out and work, then I stress her out. People get on my nerves, I'm getting on her nerves. If I have a bad day, I'm taking that on her. So she put up with a lot, you know, being beside me and my spiritual warfare and my calling and what I'm doing. So that mean a lot to me for the few of y'all that did that. That mean a lot to me. That was a blessing. And the only way you know her cash out was using the U and Tony Gaston Academy when we did her birthday blessing. But I sure appreciate that. I sure appreciate that. Her birthday is month too, on the 26th. So I'm thinking of some stuff and planning some stuff now. But hey, God bless y'all and we will be in touch. I'm gonna try to pop on here sometime when my son had these ill practices. God bless you, take care. Oh, before I go, thank you to the moderators. Lord, thank you for remembering me to thank the moderators. The moderators must stay behind. So to y'all moderators, God bless you. Thank you so much for your support on here. And just keeping the chat clear. It does not go unnoticed. I really appreciate that. Y'all take care now.