 All right thanks for staying with us now. A Brazilian butt lift is when a doctor removes excess fat from your abdomen, arms, inner thighs, love handles or anywhere else and injects it into your butt. The BBL not only slims down the area of the body where the fat was removed from but also increases the sizes of your posterior. It says Constantino Mendieta, that's the MD FACTS Board Certified Plastic Surgeons at Four Beauty Aesthetics Institute. Now in the world of face-tuned TikTok filters, Instagram influencers, it can be hard to discern what's real and what's carefully curated and perfectly edited online. The popularity of social media in our world today can have a trickle-down effect on social norms. So when the appearances of celebrities such as the Kardashians who take up our feeds start to change societal standards sometimes also then follow. Now some have argued that people should be able to decide what beauty means for them even if it means undergoing dangerous surgeries such as the BBL. And today we're asking is this a quest for beauty or is a sign of insecurity? That's the question now please let's hear what you have to say. Remember you can join the conversation, send us an SMS or whatsapp to 031 80384663. You can also tell us that we should after one of the hashtags we show. All right so this conversation is actually very interesting. Mio if you leave me, I have said it several times that after having baby my belly did not come back to normal. So if I have it, it's just that it's two things that worry me. I hate pain, I hate I can't stand in it. I don't have threshold for pain like like body pain you know I don't that's why you can't see me fight anybody just I avoid everybody. So I can't do that and again my skin is prone to scars you know so I'm just thinking is it worth the drama and all of that to go and do it. But in fairness right it might be an insecurity for me, my tummy you know because it's something that I know how my tummy was before babies came and you know sometimes I just wish I could have that because god cuckoo knows say after they walk out with crop top. You know when god knows you so well that he just decides to say no. He says he said stop for life. He said this is my daughter he knows me really because I would have been wearing crop top. I don't know that I would have flaunted. I would have said steep might tell me yes flat you know. But I mean that's like on the like a lighter note. But you see recent times you know we've been going on it's just because of the elections that just took over the conversation. But there were recent deaths that happened and you know funny thing is I was watching one documentary on botched surgeries and they said the most dangerous surgery amongst all of these body enhancement surgeries is actually this bot lift because this from the research the doctors were saying that the veins that travel on our bottom it's actually very thin that's so when they are injecting those fats if they mistakenly inject so that's why it's almost an instant death on the surgery bed. So that's why we now get a lot of this death happening right see the young girl that she was so pretty I kept on asking what was she looking for. So that's why the question of is it a beauty thing that you want to look a lot more beautiful or this is actually a real deep seated insecurity that you know we need to start to deal with from the roots who wants to go first. Okay like I was saying backstage right I feel like it could be both ways it could be insecurity and it could also be for maybe just to enhance my beauty it's just like wearing makeup I can't say because I'm wearing makeup I'm insecure about my face so how I look I just want to look more beautiful but then it could also be insecurity for instance you're trying to like cover up some scars here and there you don't want people to see it but however most people especially Lagos babes there's no lie most of them they just use it to get attention because there's a notion that Lagos men like big bumble right so they use it to get attention from this man which I don't think it makes any literal sense like you rightly said when you embrace yourself just the way you are I think that's a step ahead to making I mean to actually being a better person because if you can't accept yourself I don't think anybody else would accept you you need to first do the acceptance regardless of all the things because I mean there's no perfect person that's the truth everybody has one part of them that they probably don't really like I have a part of my body that I really don't like but it doesn't mean I'm going to go and alter it no I would just have to come into that acceptance like look this is just the way my body is I need to accept it so I need to be able to work according to how my for instance if I have a big stomach I should not be wearing a fitted dress I have no business in that line I mean it's not body shaming it's just knowing how you look right and dressing appropriately for your body structure so you don't look funny you want to look like Winnie the Pooh wear crocs and you have a big stomach and then you're not looking very funny you yourself because first the first point of confidence as a human being is how you look if you don't look good you won't feel confident at all you would just you would just be there hiding in one corner do you get when you look so good and then you're getting compliments from left and right ah we work with your head so high and then you just be going one one like that do you get so I mean you should I feel like the first problem is girls we're talking about women now right so women want to most ladies want to do what is trendy right for instance in fashion they want to wear what is trendy right if they cannot wear what is trending because of their body size or because of their body type they go ahead to enhance the body make it look a certain type of way put yourself on that they don't think about all of these things they just think about ah me I want to do this they don't I mean there's no body that will see death and say okay that's me I'm going to that's the truth it just happens sometimes that they eventually die which is very sad right but I feel like I am of your opinion that if you are getting your body done just to feel better about yourself I don't think that's a big deal I don't think that's a bad thing because I would want to feel better about myself if I'm going somewhere so I'd like to wear makeup so I just that's my opinion okay okay I don't know why there are only two reasons in this topic because there are several other reasons okay tell us no investments because on people it is investments it's also that's because they have to look that way to attract a certain kind of people so if they don't look that way they feel like those kind of people will not come to them and that reason is status because I mean even abroad it's almost like see black china see niki minas see kary b so it's almost like when you get even Beyonce when you get when you are there that's fame and when you have nothing the next thing for you to do is to go and get your body done so that you can look a certain type of way you can have that our figure Beyonce did her body yes she did my god so that's the thing that's happening in Nigeria now so once you are a celebrity you want to look a certain type of way you want to have a glass figure so you then go ahead and do like a suction you do a BBL you do breast augmentation so these are two reasons that I think we left out so people do these things so it's investment yes so I've heard this argument that a lot of these girls that do I've heard the argument that people that do these things are you know core girls that they actually are like you know high-profiled would I call them escorts let's leave it like that right high-profiled escorts that you know is this does this have any element of truth in it I think it does but then again I think that men are coming to the realization that look it's not all that I've been in certain gatherings and then some guys are like I don't really I mean for aesthetics they would like to go with a girl that has no big bum bum and all those things to stop but in reality they want it all natural like come as you are but the thing again is I don't know why girls are doing it because of men I think that's my problem because they will look of course okay so I'm going to address one thing and I felt like when you were speaking you were kind of like contracting yourself in the sense where you said um why would you have a big tummy and um you wear bodycon do you want to or you wear a crop top and you want to look like we need to pull now statements like this um is the reason why people feel insecure do you understand let me learn yeah yeah they feel insecure and then they want to change some certain parts of their body because people are calling you out for this dance I know that um you're supposed to dress according to your body type but then when you shame someone into dressing that particular way then you're not doing it the right way people want to change themselves yeah I posted on my story a few days ago how I was saying you would never catch me doing packing my head up like this it was recently I started doing this now right from secondary school primary school till uni because I have this flat's head which I got from my father now I've been very insecure about it I can't do you have um all back right now I can't do it I also have a flat head by the way but then you don't have a problem do you understand but I had a problem with it do you understand and kids made fun of me in school I posted on my story yes and people were oh I said don't worry I'm not I'm not posting this because I want you to tell me oh don't worry you're beautiful forget it I know I'm beautiful I'm drop that gorgeous right you get it but I said I have to tell them see I'm saying this because I feel like there are a lot of people who are insecure about themselves in some certain areas I don't think I've ever met anybody in this life that isn't insecure about a certain part of their body I meet I'm like you're so beautiful so what's the problem oh I have short fingers and I'm like oh and I like oh if I can stretch it okay I get it I mean I'm a tall woman I'm 62 but guess what people have made fun of me for being very tall because I mean how many tall women all my life have been tall right from primary school I've been tall I've always been the tallest so growing up when I'm thinking about it sometimes I used to wish I was shorter until my pastor's wife called me and she said oh she heard that I'm insecure about my height and I said yes because I started dressing like a tomboy because I felt oh if I look boyish people won't pay attention to the fact that's cool and the woman that is that tall she get and then she called my attention to it and she said oh you're black you're very beautiful you're smart you're intelligent what else are you looking for and I was looking at her she broke it down see I stood in her office and I cried and that was the end when I came out of her office she told me what you see from that day when people meet me people keep telling me now anytime you see Jennifer I've heard it like this it started from then do you understand she changed my mindset about it and I was able to accept my height now did I have other insecurities definitely I'm tall I'm see I don't know about my shoes size but my feet very big very big now when people start looking at my feet I'll have to hide it because now I'm like why are you paying so much attention to that now when it comes to BBL I know that people want to alter their bodies people want to change their bodies and people do it for different reasons people do it because they're very insecure and some people that you meet you feel like ah but your body is okay but to them it's not body dysmorphia is a thing you look at yourself in the mirror there are people who tell you I know a very beautiful girl she said oh she didn't she woke up feeling ugly today and I'm like why she doesn't she just looked in the mirror that she hasn't been feeling beautiful now compliment it with the compliment at that point like I know you look awesome your teeth but I I kind of like understood where she was coming from the same as makeup you have very beautiful girls that you feel like oh when you put on heavy makeup it makes you look worse than you actually do yeah but then because the makeup will make her look beautiful she would wear makeup from morning to night the only time she removed that makeup is when she's about to sleep when she wakes up the next day the makeup is on so there are some people that you would never see even I go to the gym and I see girls that wear early in the morning makeup is foundation on their face at the gym and you understand that's another level girls wear wigs they are bone straight they're wearing to the gym never understand that so I never understood it but every time I try to question that I want to ask myself are there no things that you do to hide some certain parts of yourself so when I when I see things like that I have to call myself to or like okay I can't judge you now my only problem with bbl is the fact that it never stops at one you understand it's like you're never satisfied and like you're saying being content you have to be content you have to love yourself now loving yourself and doing things to enhance your beauty doesn't mean that you don't love yourself true but you need to get to the point where external factors are not affecting the way you see yourself I want to ask a question because you see this thing is a big deal and I think why it's even getting a lot more worse is the movie industry there's hardly any celebrity now you know it's only very few ones like maybe Kate Henshaw another that you see that okay they are completely out of all that drama of mbbl most of the celebrities I've heard people say that they didn't give them the role because of their body type they were looking for a certain kind of body type and you you know check you know at some point I mean when Inedo did her body hey but you see what is she doing she and Inedo had the perfect bum bum like even when we get like a turn back look say uh-huh it's set you know not like Chinelo so you know just unfortunately if I not see it you know I have to mention it you know you see Chinelo perfect our glass natural you know so I mean Inedo had the perfect body so what would have costed that you go to that level where everybody so it's almost now very it's so now it's worrisome for me now because I'm sick look at what black china said at 19 and you know then it was even worse because it was silicone they were put in yes so it was the Kardashians and I'm bringing it back they were the ones that I said they remember that there was because my sister used to follow that keeping up with the tradition so quickly so because of that I didn't have a choice if she's watching it I'll be watching it yeah there was a particular episode I can never forget that episode they sat in front of a photocopier like on the they were starting their bum bum just to prove that there were no implants nobody knew then that it wasn't implant that they were doing they were in moving fast moving past the other understand so it was the Kardashians that started this drama or what's it called bbl and you know because they had a fantastic reality show that was really the rave of the moment and everything now where is Kim Kardashian she has gone back to Lekma she's now so everybody's not taking the other lady in there was one rapper's girlfriend in South Africa one celebrity in South Africa too that took out her her implants you know so people are now beginning to take out the implants so the point I am just trying to make is first of all do you know how many people that have died because of all of these things so I mean if it is an insecurity matter why don't we find a solution to that insecurity you know because changing the look sometimes doesn't change anything you know why if it did they will not go back to their previous body they won't if it really if it really solves the problem they will not decide that they want to go back yes there is a deep seated problem and you are trying to use it's okay for instance now water your roof is leaking and your pop is taming to brown it's not for you to go and seal up the the the mitches you are busy painting the pop it will keep on coming back of course it might it might be white for a bit but it will come back so that's what I see this bbl as a lot of women are insecure about their body there's no doubt about it people want the chine low shape the perfect hourglass I want the bum bum to be there the hips to be there the boobs to be there but you know the truth is we're all created differently so there's a big insecurity and again so can we start to get movies all these people because they are the ones that are the promoters of all of these things yeah so imagine if they start to do a reversal it would have a direct impact on yeah because young girls will not see it now and say I want to look like the person I'm seeing on TV because they can see a Jennifer shape they can see damage if they can see or she can see my shape doing well you know but you know let's go on a quick break because I like to open our phone lines uh when we come back from the break I would like to hear your thoughts Jennifer because so you're smiling all right thanks for staying with us now if you just tuned in we're discussing bbl the quest is it a quest for beauty or a sign of insecurity and please let's hear what you have to say remember you can join the conversation send us an sms or whatsapp to 081 803 4663 you can also tweet at us at wish you have called one with the hashtag we show our phone line is now open the number to call is 0702 500 7749 I particularly want to hear from the man because this big bum bum matter they have they have directly uh what's he called they have accused you people that you would pull it is because of men that girls are going under the knives to go and do big bumbo so I want to hear your thoughts now that's the number to call please turn off the volume of your whatever device you're watching so we can hear ourselves and know how feedback yeah you want to go to say something yeah so um there's something called um pretty privilege the same way um bleaching bleaching was a pandemic is the same way bbl is now a pandemic because then it's like having a black skin wasn't exactly celebrated because when you go to a room and they're like 10 black beautiful girls once a light skin baby comes in it's like everybody focuses their attention on the light skin babe so because of that a lot of people wanted to change their skin color people wanted to just bleach you hear things like I want to do you want to bleach you want I want to turn up I just want a shade lighter you are bleaching and that that's what it was you wanted to appeal you wanted to appeal to a certain certain audience even in even in our music videos um the artists you realize that they started using a lot more white um white ladies first of all they used to bring white women from all the way from South Africa or something they will use them to use light skin babes I want to I like this your bleaching story but let me quickly take so we don't lose our color Priscilla from Borno I believe Borno State thank you for calling hi Priscilla you're live good evening welcome I want to know the meaning of this video Brazilian but left so people that get bigger bum bum thank you ma you're welcome it would be I just learned the meaning today so we are together so you see this your bleaching here I want you to continue this story but I want to say to you that the bleaching thing is not really do you know the people that bleach the most in the world Koreans all these Asians that's what they have a lot of all these are that's what they have all those YouTube white everything's white me white me white me everyone wants to look like that mistake go ahead everyone wanted to get light skin and now because um being thick is now a thing before growing up it was being like all the models the super models yeah you want it to be slim so the truth is at the end of the day you know society changes yeah and then when you pander to men it will never work for you because people's tastes would always change now it's no it's no more light skinned you understand it is it's like oh accept your skin yourself your skin color now you hear men that tell you oh I don't I don't like big bum bum and this is because now a lot of them are seeing that some of these doctors are not doing a great job because the honest truth is when you talk to this man you find that some of them cannot even tell what is natural and what is what what has been done by surgery as I said some when they do you get some of them might not be able to tell when they thought that they can't tell when they see sometimes they can't tell when they see I'm telling you that some can actually tell when they see some can that's why I said some I didn't say all so some of them some of them can't even tell the same way the same way people wanted light skin it's the same way people are like oh the truth is if there were slim women here and one woman with hourglass shape comes in everybody's like wow and that's the honest truth now you are inclined subconsciously to look towards her direction and admire her true do you understand if she comes in with other slim women like you will just focus on her first hey and that's how that's how beauty is that's how things when a shiny thing comes in everyone focuses on it because it's like oh so beautiful I mean I totally agree with you because when I walk in your room because you're my complexion because of your complexion now if you call me even if I'm 100% 1001 I'm shining Jennifer black shine and you enter people will shift towards you I mean it's not a bad thing but it's just oh she looks different oh she looks this and everyone is focusing on you after some few minutes a hair everybody will now come down here you are saying do you understand and because of things like that like she had said that um it's because of status now you talked about movies obviously the people who are who are the people producing and directing these movies they know who they are targeting they know what they are selling now these things my pastor has always preached this thing and if you go and check it and it's the truth he said sex sells so if they want to sell toothpaste see tomorrow they'll see the sign of two people trying to kiss they want fresh breath you know anything they want to sell they put man and they put sexual content in them so that's why you know that idea you know before the kinds of ladies we used to see in those kind of figures well if you were watching extruded movies then when the Kardashians started there there's a reality tv show and you know you know you know it was a subtle introduction so it was they were warming us up into the idea that you also wonder you just saw two thin legs and just saw pheom like this you know and it was not coming look at what um uh what's her name uh Chloe Kardashian did oh when she did the revenge body you know and and and this is it you don't see a lot of people deceiving people slaving because some of these girls that go to do this both thing they actually have perfect shapes i know someone that has a bum you know this kind of cute bum and she has bum which is slim cute but now it's like i need to use two hands i need to use two hands to lift the bum but uh uh you know so like i'm even wondering that is this thing not is it even safe you know so but so why do we deal with insecurity because yes there are many reasons status above all of those things is still tied to as as i'm concerned it's still deep deep seated in the fact that if i look myself in the mirror you know i cannot give myself a compliment that i'm sexy and beautiful and all of that because what i have allowed society to define what sexy means yeah allow society to do so so how do we start to redefine those things i think that it's a person thank you i mean we say that it's a personal because the personal first of all i think that we belong to a very gollible society because everybody is saying one thing so you want to swept towards that direction i don't even think he makes any sense right like i said before if you don't accept yourself first nobody will accept you i said that oh i have a flat face like a chinese great i said that i have a flat great accept yourself the way you are first i think that's the first point once you accept yourself every other thing will work for you because okay i don't have i'm not a figure it i don't have a very big boom boom who says i cannot be sexy like i said dressing like what you were saying contradicting myself i mean i got your point very clearly but then again i wouldn't work up to someone who has a big stomach and say why do you have a big stomach or shame you for having a big stomach i am just saying that you know what for you to think it's pretty well is in my mind anyway but then for you to feel very pretty with yourself i think that you should just appear according to how your body type is so that it will make a lot more sense i think you have use in yourself i think what we call a form oh from the us okay hi i say oh that's our first color from the us hi everyone hi you're doing i have been very brief i was um i would like if you would use your program to educate the authors babies because this thing is becoming you know kind of out of control it's very addictive it becomes very addictive so you have uh keep connection i suddenly got back to have no more um body have no more shame whereas a lot of people have spent money putting this thing in and she just goes off because she can afford it a lot of these young ladies don't know what they're going through or what they're putting themselves into absolutely i say i am you know see it hey god help also this thing's not particularly cheapo it's not you understand so that's why went in elio said it's an investment it's truly an investment because you would have calculated it yes you know and the kind of stories i've heard about this thing it just makes me wonder now you want to sell clothes on instagram you first of all go and do your body you know so that when you start to advertise the club then it's not become a case of what i ordered versus what i got by telling me now where i'm like why is he not sitting on my body the way it was sitting on the issue the food are now coming to sell slamming tea and sell all those funny things to us and waste against syrup i want to say i was against syrup i was like are you joking with me now you've done your body then you come on instagram and say oh i am an ambassador of xyz brand and i use the waste against syrup and that's why i look this way guys if people that are following them that i blame because how can you see something very clearly and then you just go and trick you i mean you know where i would like to you um watching where you eat going to the gym to work out it's it's difficult yeah it's not it's not like you're going to see transformation in in immediately in the next three months six months no but you would see the progress true and when you do things like that when you work out and you see the amount of effort that you're putting into it and you start to see results you'll be proud of yourself now um when it comes to insecurity and doing your body i know i spoke to someone who did her body and i the first question i asked i was oh so how do you feel now and she says oh that she doesn't feel different and she's still working around loving her body oh my god and i said i was like wow interesting and i was very happy that she was able to open up and say that because a lot of people won't say that to you and i just give her a word of advice and like see just keep looking at yourself in the morning and keep telling yourself that you are beautiful you have done it you have done it you can never take it back if you decide to change it and remove it not a problem but you need to accept the first step is accepting yourself for who you are loving all of you even the smallest thing yourself and say i am beautiful because someone else is looking at you and they wish they can be like you do you understand like i can't remember who i was telling and i was like oh that she was like oh are you intentionally losing weight i said i'm not losing weight though that maybe is the top i'm wearing so that it looks like you've lost weight i'm like because this money when i woke up and i looked at myself i said ah you're working out and i realized that oh i mean eating a lot of sweet i'm eating a lot of junk so obviously my fat to muscle ratio would be like this so i'm she was just like no you look like ah so you can see that what she's saying is different and what i'm saying is actually different but i don't love myself less you know how you feel it's how you feel okay so now let me talk let me be very honest with you from the point where i realized i had big boobs right i've always wanted in breast augmentation for several reasons i i tell how the times i when they're setting kind of dresses i want to wear and that's because even at times when i wear extrapolates but i just feel like it's not as firm as you know a when i see people that have smaller boobs i admire them in certain dresses right but i can't relate so if you leave me at some point in my life i'm probably going to consider don't try it do not try it you know no no no no don't support it so she can't reduce the breast but not the breast i will fell down but no no don't try it because see let me tell you something okay so my mom is very i don't think your boobs are as big as my mom's my mom is heavily chested my sisters have i said god wait wait what do i do bomb me no give me no give me like so i mean like the truth is right um if it's not hurting you like if you don't have any medical condition you're not having back pain i i know at some point queen let's see if i have to go because there's no there's some babes that you have Jesus even me when i see that how do you carry these things it's a lot they're coming from a lot they're going to regret you know those ones are the ones that you can really see my food chest so i mean if there are no medical reasons right i don't see any reason because again god wasn't stupid he actually created us in different shapes and sizes you understand the day i looked at my bum when i saw that i said hey because i didn't have anything but all of it something is coming i say okay praise the lord but but you see um if i had the opportunity to do something that would you know give me back my tummy the way i was before babies i don't mind you know but like you rightly said i mean and even sas said it is actually very addictive that's the problem the problem with surgery right is that today i will look at it i will say hmm okay see the way my nose is bent i think i can and because now you can afford it so if you watch if you watch all those stories or all those botched go and watch them on them on the on e when you watch those do we tell you it became an addiction so as little as this thing okay this is no street i'm gonna do they'll break your bone to stretch it you know they start to do all sorts of ridiculous as in if you see the kind of surgeries that i've seen you know someone says oh i don't like the way my tongue is looking i want to split it into two and all of so they are so many crazy things that happen so it's beyond and that's what i'm saying that if we start to look at it from a place of teaching self love self-confidence like me hey i have a question the way i love myself you know go ahead with yeah um so what i wanted to ask i think i saw it sometime when someone asked a question and the person said um even for people who because sometimes you're like oh i don't want to do bbl i'm not like you i love myself but one small increase in your bomb you're like oh my god oh so happy do you understand you're like oh my dress looks this my this do you understand where do you draw the line because even the truth is even the gym babes is becoming a pandemic because now if you go on instagram or even youtube and you look at people who are gym babes who are working out they talk about oh glutes how to grow your bum how to grow your bum in how many months do this for your bum for for your bum to go for you to look thicker for you to look this because it's a problem do you understand because even those who are going to gym those of us who are going to the gym once we see one increase we're like oh my god you understand you want to squat small you want to do this what should i eat what should i eat so they are different so they are different layers to this thing so when i saw that question even me i didn't i knew the answer but i didn't want to answer because even me i i i don't think i wanted to come to that realization and i knew that at that point i was lying to myself so i completely left the thoughts and focused on something else because am i ready to come to terms with the answer so that a lot of people are not both those who are doing their bodies and those who are not those who are kicking against them and those who are in the gym when i said let's squat and i saw boom boom all my squats continue exactly you know what i'm saying that you see these things actually so that's why i said that you know because there are levels to the take the reason i have not gone under the never and i told you people it's two things it is too expensive and i don't like skirt i don't like pain you know when i look at the money i'll not carry four million and go and do that can solve a lot of problems for me you know so it doesn't make sense to me that i spend that much money and it's not like it's an investment for me i don't get any sugar that way we're going to replace the money but you know i mean like so those things for me like i just look at it so at some point i actually you know started falling in love with my body so at home i actually if i'm alone in the house i walk naked i wear sexy lingeries i just look nice i just okay you know what just keep loving your body and guess what the more i love my body the more i'm not getting compliments oh you look nice you look nice you look that you know you know my tummy was an insecurity it was an insecurity for me because i didn't used to have anything you know you now have a baby and stretch marks all of those things which as you know i know but hey let us own it too sometimes when i see people even post on instagram or they are wrinkled to me yeah this guy you get leave out i don't feel post my belly for instagram because do you understand yeah because it is still i'm not there yet but imagine if we now have more people the way you know because now what we are doing is that the the bbl has outweighed you understand so imagine if we start to flip that way around more people that are not into the bbl coming out to see body possibility i love my body maybe we should start a campaign i own it and all of that yeah if we have more people do that maybe just maybe we might start to get the insecurity level for people it will reduce to the point where they are not thinking of surgery let's take comments quickly okay love yourself people honestly so good evening my dear beautiful sisters of water you say in hashtag ways bbl quest for beauty or sign of insecurity to me it's the sign of insecurity and nothing more i don't know if i'm right it's like god is not happy with those who do these things how can god bless you with so much beauty and use your hands to destroy it that person is very ungrateful got me what he was doing when he gave you particular shape and size of but then why change it people should stop deceiving themselves they don't own they bleach nice to have my dear beautiful sister down me back happy birthday to you my dear beautiful sister it's the amazing lady my name is daniel always regular fun thank you daniel thank you daniel so who who are we next jennifer i don't know about this song i don't know to me lola king t from if i call it jai i greet you all wonderful and beautiful ladies in the studio the late fella and nico lapo could see i said it all in his song yellow fever you they bleach or you they bleach carry on yellow fever just basically the song so the quest for beauty is a sign of insecurity god created us beautiful in his own image if you try to alter your body to recreate it is saying god has not created you well enough you need to accept the way god has created you and give glory to him all your days the men folks too are not helping the matter most men like light skin babes we god we good endowment back and front and women know this so they do anything to attract the men the women folks should all just accept themselves the way baba god has created them all is well so if men like mad women won't be mad i think this is my own problem why should a lady engage in what is not real and still expect a real man whatever is not genuine will not be sustainable in the grand scheme of things nobody wants to order a shadow of what they want or slash need self-love needs to be taught from elementary school levels elementary levels in school thank you so much i don't know your name you didn't put your name so i mean this is very interesting but i think i love this conversation we started the conversation maybe we'll start a campaign you know just in case you see my tummy on social media but hey i think we should just get to that point where i mean if you're doing things right eat healthy live healthy and all of that don't be too excessive you know there are some people that really for health reasons they have to do some of these things right it's not even it's a matter of life and death right um so if your case is not a matter of life and death you know think through the process again do i really want to start this because once you start it because now here did they go do but when boom boom i just met a coach yeah yeah it's a thing it's a serious thing i love yourselves i think when you keep me so we need to keep preaching about and please stop doing things for men my point exactly the truth the honest truth is the man that you're trying to change your body for he would cheat on you he will leave you what he would just so it's like because i mean when jay-z she said on Beyonce nobody expected everyone said a whole Beyonce i said why not Beyonce great do you understand she's a woman like you and things will happen tastes will change the same way you liked golden more when you were small and now you can't even stand the taste it is the same way people's tastes will change love yourself for who you are and don't change yourself for anybody i also think that altering your body is a very major altercation for i mean for a human being because truthfully apart from other people's tastes changing your own taste can change and i get my body done today and then in the next five years i mean so what will happen in that case they have finished this for us thank you ladies thank you jennifer thank you thank you make sure you follow us across all our social media handles and the way sure africa you can interact with us further drop a comment or more importantly follow all our engagements like share and invite your families and friends to watch and follow the conversation if you missed our quote for today here it is again i shot the video immediately and the first thing i said was don't get a bbl don't do it go to the gym it's not worth it this is from an anonymous so we see you guys tomorrow at 8 p.m so bring another great conversation to your screen