 Hmm What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd so today We're gonna talk about how to get out of a slump meaning you're going out. You're talking to girls Let's say you go out on like a Friday or Saturday night You go out to the bars and like every girl that you talk to doesn't want to talk to you You get shut down by every single person Sometimes you'll even walk out and you like smile at a girl who you wouldn't even find attractive normally and even that girl's like You're smiling at me, bro Like what's going on with you like this is called a slump and it happens to everybody look it happens to me It happens to my students that happens to clients happens to people even celebrities who are at the top You know sometimes these slumps can be very very public I mean if we think to back in the day when Mel Gibson had his breakdown Robert Downey, Jr These are all leading men in Hollywood who at one point in time was like the kings of the entire realm They were basically like the biggest celebrities Every woman wanted to sleep with them every guy wanted to be them and then they all came crashing down We're like nobody wanted to be them nobody even wanted to be associated with them No girl wanted to get with them And they were in a slump and they had to bring themselves out of it So if this is happening to you where you are in a slump where you feel like you can't get a girl to save your life Listen to this video because I'm gonna tell you exactly how to get out of that slump Whether it's a short-term slump or a really long-term slump. Okay, so before I get into this I'm gonna tell you guys I have my schedule below which is gonna list all the dates that I'm doing live training at I'm gonna be in San Francisco January 3rd of the 5th Toronto January 10th of the 12th I'm gonna be in Los Angeles at the end of January and then I'm gonna be in other parts as well in February and March 2 Like New York Miami in those areas So if those areas are places that you are a part of and you want to get coached by me in person You want us to go out together talk to girls have me be your personal wingman and send out a send me a message down below Fill out the form. We'll get back to you Okay, cool. So a slump slumps happen to everyone Okay, they happen to the best of us and they will happen to you a lot especially when it comes to success with women I mean your progress when it comes to like be more attractive be more desirable to women It's like this dude. It goes up and down, you know women's emotions fluctuates your attractiveness to them fluctuates, too The important thing is to not judge yourself too harshly Once you're going through a slump and the other thing too is you really the main thing here is you don't want to fight it One of the worst things that you can do when you're in a slump where nothing literally is going right for you Where you literally any single move that you make you feel like you're Stepping over your own feet. You feel like you're making the wrong thing. You're saying the wrong thing Everything you do is awkward or uncomfortable or girls always think you're a creep Okay, the worst thing that you can do when you're down in this realm is to fight it pretend Like you're not in a slump pretend like you don't oh, I'm not like that. That's not me Okay, acknowledge the fact that you're in a slump and shit sucks and that's okay It happens to the best of us. Okay, let's say I go out on a Friday night or whatever and I doesn't really matter I Go out and every girl that I talked to doesn't want to talk to me. I feel like shit Things aren't going really well. What do I do? Okay? I don't pretend. No, no, I'm not in the slump. This is stupid And then I go walk up and talk to the prettiest girl I see and then I get shot down again Okay, this is what I'll actually do. I'll focus on the small wins to pick my energy back up I might talk to a girl who I normally wouldn't think is that attractive. I might talk to a guy I might talk to someone who I might consider beneath me or something like that You know not to be crass or anything But like these things are realities when people are walking out and people are judging each other We're very judgmental when we go out. So be less judgmental and just talk to anyone who is going to give you the time of day Okay, if I had that happens to me I'll go and I'll talk to somebody who will give me some attention who will give me some good positive energy And I don't care who it's from Dude, I'll talk to a homeless guy if he's cool, man It doesn't really matter to me But what does matter is my emotional state my energy the vibe that I'm getting from other people And if I'm getting nothing but negative vibes man I'm gonna bond with what someone who is gonna give me a positive vibe so I can pick myself back up I'm not trying to pretend like I'm this high-flute and king of the world Which you know if you're in the flow state which can sometimes happen you can feel like you're there But what I'm going to do is I'm gonna acknowledge the fact that this shit's not working out And I will have to take some other steps to be able to pick myself back up So I'll talk to anyone who's who's willing to give me that time of day So once I'm talking to them, I pick my energy up. I'm converse I you know ask them about themselves Help myself feel better and once I'm in the right mental state, then I'll go back out there But I won't go back out there super hard. I'm gonna go back out there kind of ease into it You know pick some more people who I feel like are gonna give me better reactions This is going to help you a lot when you go out because if you always are constantly judging yourself and trying to put Yourself into this like high lofty status or like put yourself on the pedestal too That's gonna really affect your ability to connect with other people and it's gonna like there's some nights where you're just gonna be like You're gonna feel like king of the world and there's other nights We're gonna feel like I am the worst person in the world like I'm such a loser Nobody likes me. Oh, you're gonna tell yourself all of these things But what you should be doing is you should be going to the things that you know We're gonna make yourself better stop trying to act like you're king of the world and just do the thing Remember the fundamentals remember the basics. We're all cut from the same cloth There's no secret shortcuts to these types of things. Okay, so that's if it's in the short term It's in the short term like go out things aren't working out find someone who's gonna help you bring your energy back up Focus on the little things focus on the fundamentals and then slowly incrementally You're gonna pick your energy back up and you're gonna feel good again Okay, you're gonna get yourself out of that slump If it's a long-term slump again, the main principle is not to fight it You know Patrice O'Neill once said that if you're on stage and you're bombing The worst thing that you can do is to try and not bomb try and win back the crowd You try and make up for it You do this with women too you fuck up and then you try and think okay Well, if I make it up by doing this and sometimes a little bit of that is okay But if you think oh now I have to act differently a lot of times that tends to push the girl away even more What you should do is get back to your roots get back to your fundamentals and the way you were before do the things that you were Doing to make yourself the man you were if you were at a certain level like you know You're doing really well with women and career-wise as well, too What things were you doing before then to work your way back up? You probably just didn't think oh, I'm gonna be awesome now and then you were awesome No, it probably took some work It probably took a little bit of you doing the fundamentals that I talked about it Probably took you walking up to a bunch of different women Maybe a lot of them didn't like you and that's okay You were okay with it, but now you're judging yourself because you can't you because you're not at this like high lofty Pedestal that you put yourself on top of so take yourself off that pedestal Do the fundamental things that brought you to where you are, you know what I talk about on this channel when it comes to Getting women the fundamental things are getting yourself into that flow state talking to anyone using the five questions Being able to connect with her using passion leading all of those different things together Make you have the results that you have and sometimes when you're doing them and things are great You start you you start to forget what got you there in the first place So remind yourself of those things get back to it and I guarantee you your slump is gonna be over in no time at all So thanks for watching you guys if you made it and consider subscribing I'm looking for more people in my group and one-on-one coaching program So if you want fill out the form down below And if you feel like you're a good fit, we'll get back to you again Check out my live training schedule down below if you want to be if you want me to be your personal wingman Would love to see you guys. Thanks a lot. Good luck out there