 Hi, I'm Matthew Coase from commitmentconnection.com and today I have another question from a woman in our community and she asks are my standards too high to meet a guy who will meet my standards and I You know, I don't know what your standards are but if you're anything like the overwhelming majority of women that I talked to then The answer is probably yes your standards are way too high and it's not that your standards are too high It's probably that your standards are just you're focusing on the wrong things Right a lot of women focus on the wrong things like What one of the big ones that I see really really often is in online dating because online dating can be a very shallow and superficial place to Meet people and one of the things that happens all the time is is every woman out there is looking for that six foot tall guy even if they're you know five foot three or whatever and it's you know, it's a Guy's height, you know, maybe you'll be attracted to a guy or maybe you won't My suggestion is that you loosen your standards, whatever they are, you know focus on things that are important like your values and making sure that your values are in alignment, but You know all the other things all the superficial stuff all the things that you know You think that you'd want in a guy like, you know You know dark hair and blue eyes or whatever it is that you know, you're looking for my suggestion is that you loosen most of that stuff up and just allow yourself to a date and and You know get to know guys who might not fit in that perfect mold of whatever your standard is that you normally look for You know most women are too focused on you know This checklist that's a mile long of all the things that they're trying to weed out in a man And it ends up weeding out a lot of really good guys who might be perfect for them And so my suggestion is that you you broaden your the amount of and your your standards so you Don't lower your standards, but just open them up to something that that's more important focus on the things that are the most Important and the other things, you know just allow them to be whatever they are and you know I know people all the time who end up with In relationships great relationships with people that they didn't think that they would end up liking because it is Because they relax their standards a little bit and looked at guys that they wouldn't normally go for So that's it for this video if you want more information on how to attract a quality man into a committed lasting Relationship make sure that you subscribe to my youtube channel I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon