 A very good morning everybody who has joined us live on Facebook. It is an extreme honor to have with us Dr Anand Gokani sir, our mentor and guest for today. Good morning to all of you. Good morning. Very good morning to all the students, members and to Amrita ma'am. We are here today to hear a very interesting session from Dr Anand Gokani sir. I am not in any capacity to introduce a person like, let me just take quick two minutes to introduce you to our audiences. Dr Anand Gokani sir is a renowned diabeticologist based in Mumbai and practicing at Bombay hospital. The great grandson of Mahatma Gandhi, his shift from being a doctor who spends long clinical hours dispensing medicines to one that prioritizes preventative measures to assess management sessions and weak long workshops is inspirational. He felt the need to be more proactive to stem the exponential rise in the number of patients getting diagnosed with diabetes and its root cause of stress. And hence he began taking stress management classes for a group of corporate employees. I think thank God for us that he realized that the root cause happens at a very early age. And he was dying to feed children into an experimental setup and went into an ashram back in the year 1999. From then on these workshops have turned out to be a proven formula and that he continues to carry on for the rest of his life. We are absolutely honored to have our mentor over the years and our students have been working with his camps, workshops and sessions at our school. A very, very big gratitude to you for being present with us today and we are eagerly waiting for your session. Thank you very much Sugandha. I sometimes when I listen to you speak about me, I sometimes wonder whether it's me or someone behind me that you're speaking with. It's very kind of you to say all these kind words, but let me tell you that the joy is more profound on my side to be with so many children and so many teachers where my heart actually lies. My profession may be medicine, but my passion is children and therefore any opportunity I get to be with them is a gift to me rather than my giving my time to them is as being a gift to them. So children are very warm welcome to this Zoom meeting. I have been given a subject which is very non-medical, but it has medicine has its roots in this subject. The subject given is very esoterically phrased from faith to fulfillment and it stems from the from a talk that I gave recently, which maybe some of you have seen. And that talk was a little autobiographical lecture given on Ted and it brought out a lot of thoughts in me while I was preparing for it. And I'm going to share some of those thoughts because those thoughts go into reams of paper. So talking about y'all today, the 12th standard, the 12th standard is right on the threshold of school. Threshold meaning the point which separates you from your home or from your secure, comfortable and cushy life from the external world, wherein there is a lot of sunshine, both physical and emotional. And there is a lot of insecurity, a lot of adventure and for which you have to be prepared. And the years you spend in school are spent in preparing you for that adventure. When you're in school, you feel very often that I want to get out of school. I want independence. I want freedom. But you don't realize that with freedom come responsibilities, comes the insecurities of everyday life and comes the struggle, sometimes only for existence and sometimes to achieve what we want to achieve. And I know for sure that when we all, when we have met in our camps and I've interacted with all of you, I see so much brightness in all of you, so much originality, so much genuine passion that I feel that it would be a waste to humanity if you didn't tap it the right way. And that's the reason why I like to take these seminars or these meetings is to help you with whatever little experience I have to be able to achieve the best that you can achieve. Coming to achievement, it's very important to know that to achieve something in life, you have to have certain equipment. At this point, I'd like to ask you, if you were given a choice in your life that if you have to navigate your life, you need two instruments, two instruments. And which two instruments would you choose at this juncture, at this 12 standard juncture to guide you through your life in the most successful way? I'd like to ask this question of the audience. Let's hear any one or two answers. Anybody coming up with an answer? Student, this is an interactive session, so please unmute yourself and you can answer them. Sir, I would probably choose optimism and hard work at this point. Optimism and hard work are abstract nouns. Suppose I ask you for absolute tangible instruments, two instruments. I agree, optimism and hard work will feature in this talk and you're very correct in saying that. But if I were to ask you for two instruments, like you want a knife and fork or you want a glass and cup and saucer, like this, two instruments which would help you to navigate your life to the ultimate success. I want you to think out of the box. It's not a easy question. This is a question that Flamux even executives in multinational firms who are supposed to be very smart people. If you give me the answer, I'd say your head and shoulders above them. Even if you give me the function of those two instruments, I'd say you're fantastic. What are the two things you need to achieve big? Anybody else? I would say paper and pen. Not bad. But you will need to write on that the actual two instruments which you need. Paper and pen is the means, not the end. I want the end. So I would want a coin and a clock. Coin and... I was doing some dumb shit. And a clock. Clock. You got it half right. Fantastic, Disha. You got it half right. The other half. Doesn't she look like that model, Courtney? Disha, other half. I'm not telling you which half is correct. Okay, I'll tell you. Clock is correct. Anyone else? Okay, I think it's early morning blues. We warm up a bit slowly. Let's get on with our talk. Disha said very correctly, we need clock. And to complete the picture, you need a compass. You need a clock and a compass and this sees you through and I'll show you how. When we are sitting at this point in our lives, 12 standard, waiting to complete one major phase in our life and move on to another phase. We have to have certain qualities. We need to have amongst... I'll tell you for example, when you go on a journey or you go out, you want to protect yourself from the various influences. So when you sit on a motorcycle, you want a helmet. The helmet protect you from injury. You want to go in an aircraft, you want a life jacket. They always tell you that if the life jacket is under your seat and in case you need it, you must use it. So we know the security that there is a life jacket. And likewise, if you go out in the rains, as it has been raining torrentially, you'd like to have an umbrella. Now these are things that help you through all the physical vagaries in your life. You may go through so many of these kind of physical vagaries where we have something to protect us. But what happens when we go through emotional vagaries in life? And when we go through the life's problems which are presented every moment of the day. Not one problem a day, 100 problems an hour. How do we then maintain ourselves to circumvent these problems and come out with us? We need one very strong ingredient and that is faith. We need faith in ourselves, we need faith in life, we need faith in God. Now faith is something that is a very abstract thing and that's the thing which we lose when we are at most distressed. You know when you have someone in your family who is very sick and you go to a hospital, you go with faith. That in the doctor is not that indoctrinated in how to speak to you. He comes up to you and says that look I'm sorry your relative has a very serious disease and the case is hopeless. Whenever I hear that phrase hopeless, I say there is nothing in this world that can be hopeless. Because hope is something that has not happened and therefore you cannot predict it. You cannot predict what will be tomorrow. Tomorrow may be a dark night, tomorrow may be a bright sunshine, bright day. And we don't know today what it's going to be tomorrow and hope is what lives in tomorrow. And therefore hope can never be hope, they can never be a hopeless situation. But for hope to take root in your heart and to know that nothing in this world is hopeless, you have to have faith. That faith that I can move mountains, I can conquer, I can succeed and I can be happy. So having said these words as a preamble, I'd like to get on to our main talk. What are the instruments we need to succeed in life? Because you will have come on my camps, some of you. During my camps, I spend every moment trying to teach you something. I've tried to tell you many things which are useful to you in your lives. Many things you may remember, many things you laughed at then and may use later in life. And many things which I learned from you. I'm going to go over some things again. So pardon my repetition, but I think that they are relevant to be repeated any number of times. And every time you hear it, you learn something else. That's what happens to me. Every time I say it, I learn something else. And so let's look at the two things that we need. Today, when you sit down and think, maybe after this talk, you spend half an hour by yourself and think, what am I doing with my life? So far, school was great. Fifth standard became sixth, sixth standard became seventh, seventh become eight, eight, nine, 10, 11, now 12. And suddenly 12th standard become something I don't know. And that insecurity hits you sometimes in the 10th standard, sometimes in the 11th, sometimes in the 12th. It's not an insecurity, it's an apprehension. An apprehension as to what is going to become of my life. And that apprehension can be allied if you planned yourself well. So if you have to plan yourself well, I told you, you need a compass and a clock. The compass tells you which direction to go and the clock tells you how much time you have to reach there. So let's look at the compass. First thing is, I would ask you, have you got a goal in life? Have you made a goal for yourself? Because you're walking every day. Every day that passes, you're making progress. But is that progress going in circles? Are you going round and round in the same spot? Or are you moving forwards? Many a times we look at life and we say, I want to become this. Like let me take my example for starter. When I was in the 7th standard, I used to read a lot of books. From the 7th standard, I started reading a lot of books. Before that, I used to read, but they were not profound books. So when I started reading, I picked up various kinds of novels. In that I read a medical novel, Final Diagnosis by Arthur Haley. And once I started reading it, I started resonating with it. I started feeling that I'm in the pages of that book and I didn't want that book to end. I would eat that book for breakfast, lunch and dinner, so to speak. I finished it, I read it again and I felt lost in that world of that book. Years went, months went and I started reading more and I found another book called The Citadel by A.J. Cronin. That is also a medical book and that is written by a doctor. After reading that book, I was sure that this is my calling and this is what I want. So I decided in the 7th standard, late in the 7th standard that I am going to do medicine. My father from a business family and business passed down from great-grandfather, grandfather, father, obviously would come down to me. So when I told my father I want to do medicine, he thought it's a joke. He said, no, the eldest son of a family must do business. But in my mind, I decided that, no, my passion says no medicine. This is where I am comfortable. Business is not where I am comfortable. My father thought it was a passing phase and he thought that, okay, he'll grow out of it 9th standard. Let him do science. After science, he'll take commerce. In the 9th standard, we had an aptitude test and I was so determined to do medicine that I engineered the entire aptitude test. We had some 1000 choices to make of different professions or different activities that we want to do. And so I tick marked everything that was remotely related to medicine. And fortunately, I got a report back saying aptitude good for science in bracket medicine. I showed it to my father and I said, see, this is my aptitude and let me take medicine. He still had hopes. I went through my 9th standard into science. I got into science faculty. We went on to do science in 11th standard in our times 11th standard was graduation. I finished with science. I got into inter science, which was equivalent to your plus two stage 10 plus two plus three the plus three stage in that the second year is the inter science. And so I got into a situation where in the next step was to get into medicine. That's when my father realized that this guy is sure he's not going to change his mind. And then he helped me along the way, got into medical college. Then I was keen to become a doctor. So I strained hard for four and a half years and life went on. And today I sit before you as a consultant in a field of diabetes, which is a part of general medicine. And I practice so many other things which are also related to medicine. So this was an example of how I set myself goals. I set myself the goal of becoming a doctor. Then I set myself a goal of passing the aptitude test, getting into the science faculty, getting into inter science, getting into medical college and every year had a shift in my goals and achieve the goal and I set a new goal. So the system is that you have to sit now and it's not going to happen after a year or two years or three years. You have to sit now and set yourself a long term goal and then you set yourself short term goals. But every short term goal is a step towards your long term goal. And therefore it's very important today that you set yourself a long term goal. I have many student friends, many students who I deal with and many of them in the 12th standard will tell me. I asked them, I said, what are you going to do next? Sir, I'm going to, I've applied to universities in the United States of America. So I said, which faculty? So I'm taking liberal arts. I said liberal arts, what is that? So he said, sir, we can choose any subject every semester and we can do some, we can taste the waters of every river, so to speak. Every river means every subject. So I can do sociology, I can do French, I can do German, I can do economics. I can combine economics with statistics or I can combine economics with biology. I want to taste all that. So I said, okay, you taste all that. After that, what? He said, then I'll decide, which is by the time there will be 22. Then I'll decide what I want to do. I said, you haven't already decided? I said, no, you're not already decided. Then I asked them, when will you decide? He said, I'll first try all these subjects and then I'll decide. And many of them, after trying all those subjects, spending two years in America having a ball of a time away from supervision, away from any parental influence, they come back to India or they try and do something there. They do something they're not interested in. And many of them come back here and join their father's business for sheer want of anything better to do. And those people in life, after seeing 62 years of life, I can tell you that not one of them has achieved anything big. At the most, they hold on to what they have, but in most cases they lose what they have also, but they have so much that it doesn't push them on the road. The next generation may get onto the road. And therefore, I again re-emphasize, re-underscore the fact that you need to make a goal in your lives. You need to sit down and make a goal. I don't say you can't change your goal. You can change your goal every year, but you need a goal because you need a purpose to walk. When you walk, you have to have somewhere to walk to. You don't just get up in the morning and say, Mom, I'm leaving home and just walk. If it takes you to Kiani Bakery, good. If it takes you to Elpros school, good. If it takes you to the river, good. If it takes you somewhere else, good. If it takes you nowhere, good. That's not how you lead your life. It leads you, you lead a life with purpose, only a purposeful life gets written about, gets talked about, gets celebrated. So we need to fix goals. And the first thing is to fix a long-term goal. The long-term goal is let's say I want to be an engineer. Let's say I want to do science. I want to invent a cure for COVID. You can discover a cure for COVID. It may be sitting in your backyard because most major things were done by accident. Do you remember how Marie Curie discovered penicillin? They were investigating something else, not penicillin, radium. And she washed it and found in the sink, in the dark, it was glowing. And that's how she found that this is a radioactivity. So, even accidentally, so many other discoveries were made. No discovery was made with purpose. It was made by accident. But that accident had a whole lifetime of purpose. That I want to go into science. I want to do this. I want to do arts. I want to do economics. I want to do social service. You may want that... I met somebody who said, can you find me somebody who's got a trust, who's a doctor? I don't mean trust as in trustworthy. I'm saying as trust as in a group of people wanting to do something good. He said, can you find me a trust or a doctor who's willing to dedicate his life to build and run a hospital? Because I think it's time that I put all my money into that. And I want to do something to give back to the city. Because they've earned a lot of money. So I said that's a huge goal. And that's goal, every step will need planning. And every step will lead us towards that goal. Till one day, that goal will bring succour to millions of people. You can have a goal like that. You can see what the felt needs around you are and accordingly decide what you want to do. So once you set your long-term goal, you start setting short-term goals which lead you to the long-term goal. Now when you do this goal setting, you have to have a certain system. How do you fix your goal? That how is a very big question is a very important thing. Your father says, I think I want you to be a doctor because I am a doctor and I want you to sit in my office. It's the same as doing a father's business. It's not what you want to do. Remember one thing children, you were born with a certain purpose. You were created for a unique purpose. You are not a carbon copy of XY. You are not a Xerox copy of your classmates. You are unique. Like for example, Dhwani Garg is unique. She has a characteristic of her own. There are no two Dhwani Gargs in this world who are same. Their name may be same but their characteristics are not same. Neither tea or misra. Same. There are no duplicates. So don't try to be someone else. Don't try to please someone else. Try to please yourself. And therefore it's very important that you think and see where does my passion lie. That is your most important thing in your life, your passion. If your profession becomes your passion, you will succeed like nobody else. But if your profession becomes something which is somebody else's passion, then you will drag on and drag on and never succeed. Therefore it's important for you to address this question. What is my passion? After you've addressed your passion, you have to prioritize. Because unless you have a set of priorities, you will lose time in all the jumbo-mumbo that surrounds you. You know, I always said to myself, I will do this after my routine is over. And the routine takes... In one day I finish 9 out of 10 things. One thing gets postponed for tomorrow. Tomorrow has its own 10 things. And that routine never finishes. And in my life I realized suddenly that I have reached 62 and I have not addressed what I really want to do. So I said, now I want to do it. And then comes the biggest pitfall. What do I want to do? I want to run 100 meters. Today I have the knowledge how to do it. I have the know-how how to plan it. But I don't have the physical ability to do it. I tried doing it. I did it as recent as last week. I went down to walk. And I said to myself, on 31st of August, I'm going to run my personal half marathon. I haven't done any athletics for years, except to play casual games with kids. But I have not actually run. So I first doubted whether I'd be able to run. So I said, let me start walking. And I started walking and I walked for first 50 minutes, then one hour, then one and a half hours, then two hours, then two and a half hours. And the max I walked was 12 kilometers. And I still had energy to go on, but I got called up for dinner. So when I started walking, I suddenly realized that I am now getting better and better. So I started jogging. And then one day in the same park where I walk, there was a 10-year-old girl who was running by herself. And she was so beautiful in her running, so easy and so graceful. I said, let me test myself. So whilst I was having a light banter with her, I told her, I said, come, I'll race you for 30 meters. So she said, okay, come. So you said, on your marks, get set. And I set off. I took the first three steps at full speed. And suddenly I felt a click in the back of my calf and I felt a muscle tear. And I had to stop. I didn't finish 30 meters. And then I had limped back home without letting anyone know what happened to me. And I came home and I said, if I can't run 30 meters, where's the question of running 21 kilometers? I said, it's not going to be easy. The muscles today are not as flexible as they were in my youth. Today they have become plastic. If I stress them, they break. They don't stretch. And so I'll have the whole uphill task of making them elastic first, which means training for longer than I need to or I imagined. And then also not maybe able to make it. And then I say to myself, I said, I always wanted to run a marathon, but I'll do it after, after, after, and after the list of afters was so long. So if you want to do something like this, do it today. You want to climb Mount Everest. Don't wait till you're retired and then say, I want to climb, but I can't. That day will come. And therefore prioritize what you want to do. Address your passion and then prioritize. I have told this story to some people in your class and I'm going to repeat it in brief for those who didn't come on my camps. There is a story of prioritizing and that story is very important. Remember every word of it. It will see you through life. This is a philosophy class. And on one day the philosophy professor came in with three boxes and a jar. The jar was like one of your, one of your snack boxes at home, the snack, snack jars where you store snacks or food items. He placed the jar on the table, opened one box and took out golf balls. You all know the size of a golf ball is about like a table tennis ball. And he took out these golf balls and started putting them into the jar and filled the jar to the brim with golf balls. And he told this class, he says, is it full? And the class said, yes, it's full. Then he opened the second box and in that there were pebbles and he proceeded to put the pebbles which went and arranged themselves between the golf balls in the jar and he emptied the entire box of pebbles into the jar and they also fitted. And he said, now is it full? So everyone started smiling and say, yes sir, it's full. Then he opened a box of sand and he poured the sand in and the sand fit in between the pebbles and the golf balls and it became completely full. All the sand also was accommodated in the jar. Now the class was in splits of laughter and everyone says, sir, now it's full. And then the man takes out two cups of coffee and he pours them into this and the coffee gets absorbed into the sand and in between the spaces and he put two cups of coffee also inside that. And now everyone was in splits and then he said, okay, I haven't spoken a word so far. I'm going to explain to you what this all is all about and this is what you listen to. If you consider the jar however big it is it is still limited. It has a shape and it doesn't go beyond that shape. That jar is your life. That jar represents your life. The golf balls are those that represent your most important things in your life. That is your family, your parents, your brothers, sister and your children, your spouse. Then it represents your friends, your close friends for whom you should give your life for. Then it represents your health. Your health is so important that it's the biggest wealth that you have. And fourth, it represents your passion. These are the golf balls of your life. If you put them into your jar first you put your friends, your family, your siblings, your children, your spouse, your passion, your health as a priority. All will fit into your life. Then the small pebbles are the kind of jewelry you own the amount of money you have in your bank the house you live in, the car you drive, the clothes you wear and all those material happinesses that you collect over your lifetime. Those are the pebbles. They also can fit into the jar jar. Then comes the sand which movie you saw, which drama you went to, which place you traveled to and what you did on a day to day basis which was enjoyable but not material, not of any importance. That also will fit in. So he said it's very important for the order you place your things into your jar, you put your golf balls first the pebbles next and the sand last and you will find that all three will fit in. But you put the sand first it settles at the bottom then you put the pebbles they settle on top they can't go between the sand and then only one or two of the golf balls will fit they can't get into the jar after that. So it's very important to have the right order because if you don't have the right order you don't fit everything in and that's why priority is important. Then there was one bright spark like Ananya. Ananya? Yeah. She may want to know what are the two cups of coffee doing in that jar? You want to know? Ananya I'm looking to you. Ananya Singh. Okay. That's fine. Somebody asked what is the two cups of coffee? The two cups of coffee is philosophy again. It is no matter how busy your life is no matter how packed your life is with all your passions and your health and your children, family wealth, job, everything you still have time to have a cup of coffee with a dear friend. You have to take out that time and that is the full crux of these priorities. It's very important that we know all this order because if you know this order you get the best of everything. If you don't know this order you miss out on the important things because the important things can't be accommodated after unimportant things have taken precedence. So we need to learn how to prioritize. After prioritizing and making your goals after planning you need to review and that's when the clock comes. If you have done your prioritizing well you get your clock in next because everything you do is measured against time. You know there's a very how many of you like music and maybe you have listened to Pink Floyd. Pink Floyd is my generation pop music company band I would say but they had a philosophical twist to their music. If you have not already listened listen to it go on YouTube and go on Pink Floyd they have written two beautiful songs one is money one is time. I'll tell you a few lines I don't claim to remember them perfectly but the lines that struck me I remember. The first line starts the song starts with a play of alarm clocks about a hundred alarm clocks going off in different tunes and that's the noise you wake up to all of us in different houses wake up to an alarm clock it may be a mental alarm clock maybe real alarm clock but alarm clocks time song starts with the jangle of alarm clocks and then they start singing and he said ticking away the moments that make up a dull day ticking away the moments that make up a dull day which means you're passing the time of a dull day every moment you're passing because the day is dull you don't achieve anything ticking away the moments that make up a dull day fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way means don't know what you're doing kicking around on a piece of ground in your hometown this is your can you imagine someone standing at the bus stop looks at a piece of stone on the floor and kicks it and he just kicks it but in his mind what is going on in his mind he thinks that he is an international football player and he's just kicked a goal but actually he just kicked a piece of stone on the floor but it has not gone anywhere purposeful and this is what we do with our lives many times ticking away the moments that make up a dull day fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way kicking around on a piece of ground in your hometown waiting for someone or something to show you the way you're waiting for someone to come and say hey listen this is not how you do it you do it this way but no one is interested because they themselves don't know and therefore it becomes very important for you to know now this song goes on with some more lyrics added till in the end it says looking at the sun going down now it's at the end of your life you're looking at the sun going down this is the sun you run and you run the sun is going down only to race around you and come up behind you again no it goes around the earth and comes up behind you again from east to west you see it going down in the west you're still facing the west next day behind you in the east the sun has come up again you realize that time is going he says you see the setting sun you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking only to race around you and come up behind you again then he says everything is the same in a relative way every new day is the same in a relative way but you're older one day everything is the same in a relative way but you're older shorter of breath and one day closer to death and this is the reality of the whole song and when you listen to the song and you you dissect the meaning of the lyrics it's a wake up call it tells you yes it's true first you didn't have shortness of breath when you ran up the steps then you start feeling shortness of breath when you reach the fourth floor and then the third and then the second and then even when you're at rest and this is the whole progression of life and therefore it becomes very important for you to know that time is something that is abundant at your age but it is still limited it is not unending and therefore don't say I am going to do it tomorrow I am going to do it day after you don't know how much time you have you don't know how much time is left therefore every moment gifted to you becomes a very important moment it must be packed that takes me to Rudyard Kipling's very beautiful lines he wrote a full poem which is instruction from father to son or daughter read it read each line carefully and understand it if you read it in a hurry it sounds just like jargon the last lines if you pack each unforgiving minute with 60 seconds of distance run means each minute has 60 seconds and each 60 seconds each second you show you have done something if you pack each unforgiving minute with 60 seconds of distance run then and only then will you be a man my son this is written for his son but it applies today equally to the daughter also and therefore it's very important to realize these two lines why unforgiving minute because each minute once gone will never come back you are holding sand in your hands and this sand is slipping slowly through your fingers and every day you say I've got so much sand in my hand but suddenly realize that half the sand has gone and you don't have anything to account for it and therefore it becomes very important for you to be able to account for every minute of your life and that's why this kind of planning is very important where your time is always at your back and call and you are not being sidelined by the passage of time so the clock and the compass the compass gives you direction true north what is your true north your passion is your true north and what is the clock is telling you how fast you will reach true north and how fast you will walk in that direction figuratively speaking it's very important that you have a clock and a compass so we've done the prioritize we've done each step plan reoriented what are the ingredients you need for success now I have addressed this question to myself many times what are the ingredients you need for success and that's where I come back to what one of the girls said in the right in the beginning you need hard work and optimism optimism yes you always need optimism to be positive positive is to be hopeful hope will come when you have faith so we come back to faith now from faith if you have to reach fulfillment if you have to fulfill your dreams you need certain ingredients and these ingredients are very difficult once you ingrain them in your body you will realize that you are in your body soul spirit whatever you want to call it you will realize it makes you different from everyone else you will not remain run of the mill and you will be different and to be different is to become lonely to become lonely can sometimes be unnerving because you feel that I'm the only one who's doing this but remember that when you want to succeed you're sitting in a triangle and that triangle has a base at the base there's a huge crowd as you move up a little bit there's lesser crowd as you move up is even lesser and when you reach the final apex you're all alone don't be afraid of loneliness because success comes only with loneliness it is not loneliness it's aloneness loneliness is the desire for other company aloneness is conquering your own loneliness and therefore it becomes very important that you don't subscribe to what the herd does you do what you think is right and for that you need three qualities one is hard work hard work is so difficult because it makes you go against the grain of your evil fabric your body's fabric is evil it is controlled by the devil and it says relax one more hour in bed life is long and you can do so many things relax don't worry but once you start relaxing sloth sets in as your sloth sets in you stop wanting to do anything and soon you find that you're only doing time pass and time pass is the worst crime you can do because once you pass the time it's over it's gone never come back so you have to fight against the current every day by hard work and that hard work should be in the direction of your goal so in the course of hard work you will get punished you will get pain you will get anguished you will get anger everything will happen to you but you have to stick to it because in the end it is the one who worked hard who gets venerated and worshipped he is the one who makes it to the headlines he is the one who makes happiness and then he has happiness right through his life without hard work because the fruits of hard work as they say the fruits of education are bitter but the fruits of education are sweet and so now you are in the roots of education nurture the roots they are bitter but as you go up in life you will reach a point where your fruits of education will be so sweet and you sit back and enjoy while you see the others you all know the story of the ant and the grasshopper the grasshopper fiddled when youth was there summer was there, bright sunshine and the ant was carrying laboriously food to store in its ant hill and then came winter and suddenly grasshopper has no business and he is found on the streets hungry, tired and washed out and the ant is sitting with peace and lots of enjoyment in his absolutely abundant ant hill so decide today you want to be ant or grasshopper you be a grasshopper waste your youth in doing all unnecessary things and if you are an ant you work so hard that your foundation is rock solid and then stand proud all your life so that's about how you plan your life first with hard work second with honesty the honesty is so important I will tell you the example of Akbar and Birbal story I know many of you know it but I am going to go over it again one day Birbal asked Akbar asked Birbal how many honest people are there in the city of Delhi Delhi being the capital of a very great country called India and Birbal said sir I need a day to find out how to do it I can't really assess then he got a bright spark idea and he said your lordship can you dig a swimming pool in the backyard of your palace and I will show you how many people are honest so a swimming pool was very laboriously built and lined very beautiful swimming pool for the Bhatsha and the people were told in the city of Delhi that our Bhatsha is a very unique man he doesn't swim in water he swims in milk because he is so royal and therefore each person in the city of Delhi will come in the pitch dark of night and pour a glass of milk into the swimming pool as his contribution to his king so the appointed hour was on Amavasya night where there was no moon pitch dark the entire town all the men lined up with a glass in their hands came and quietly poured their glass into the swimming pool and went away in the morning Akbar and Birbal standing on the balcony over viewing the swimming pool and anxious to see what is inside Akbar saw and to his dismay he found the swimming pool filled with water and why because every man in that town thought who is going to see what I am pouring if I pour water and everyone pours milk my water will be lost no one will know the difference why should I waste my glass of milk every man thought like that and in the morning every man got caught out to be a dishonest man so that brings me to two words reputation and character you have both are very familiar with both these words reputation and character I ask the meaning to many people I don't know if we have the time here to ask what you think is the meaning but I will give it to you straight anyway reputation is what you are when the lights are on when everyone can see in front of everybody and character is what you are when the lights are off when no one can see and the most successful people in this world have the same reputation and character if your character and reputation can fit into each other perfectly you have nothing in this world to fear but if your character is different then your reputation is different you rest assured that one day the reputation will lead to the blackness of the character and you see that in every so-called successful person who was once brought to book by the administration and then insulted and his final days of his life were spent in complete ignominy with hatred in everyone's heart towards those people you take a name of at least a hundred people like that who enjoyed a lot of wealth power, lot of fame but when it came to the end they remembered only for their misdeeds and because their reputation and their character were two different things a face to show the world and a face which actually belong to you and therefore children it's very important that you synchronize both these because ultimately this above all to thine own self be true you have to be true to yourself honesty is a policy that you should never forgive never forego initially it feels very uncomfortable honesty to be truthful first time is a very painful thing but to be a liar is a painful thing for whole life because you have to keep covering up and your conscience keeps biting at the end of it your conscience wins and you become a mess therefore give your conscience a rest and let it tell you what is right and what is wrong what benefits you and harm someone is wrong what benefits both is right no question of the law the law is unto yourself so hard work and honesty are two very important very indispensable ingredients for success if you develop this system you've made the journey from faith to fulfillment and you will see that whatever measure you apply you will be a successful person and success doesn't mean coming on the headlines of the newspaper success may mean raising two nice children who make it big in life success can mean that your life made somebody else's life breathe easy success means you become an important person to many people in your in your environment and success means having left a mark behind success may even mean building a small garden which others can enjoy after you are gone so success is a very fluid term it is not simply earning lot of money today we talk of people I don't wish to take names but wealthy people and say oh he is such a successful person he is not successful he itches the same way as a common man itches he has the same problems in life the more money he has the more worries he has he has got an uneasy life and that uneasy life is covered by all the trappings of wealth but inside not happy whereas a simple person has tremendous happiness and that happiness shows in his face in his demeanor in his attitude to others and that happiness is what you should quest for and not the happiness of wealth because wealth is something that will disappear you know wealth is more important so redefine wealth children redefine wealth to health redefine wealth to character redefine wealth to personality and that will be the wealth that takes you through your life and you will be respected you will be loved and respected whereas not detested as others who have a lot of money wealth therefore go sometimes on your Google and check what is the definition of of success in the language of Ralph Valdo Emerson Emerson has written a beautiful poetic definition of success and I don't have it handy but I could read it out to you at some point you can find it in Google I don't want to spoon feed you everything but read it read that Emerson's definition of success and let it become your motto in life so with these few words what I wanted to cover when it comes to when it comes to planning your time I'll say one last tip and when it comes to planning your time it's very important that you make a to-do list every morning you make a to-do list and that to-do list is a list which you have to achieve on that day so it has to be a realistic to-do list I'll build Rome by evening it can't happen you want to build Rome say I want seven years to build Rome after that every day has a to-do list that takes you one step closer to the big goal so you have a to-do list you have to put it into four compartments first you write the whole to-do list initially you have to write it for the first month you have to write it after that your habit will become such that in your mind only you'll write it in the mind only you'll put in the compartment and you'll act accordingly what are the four compartments you put your to-do list first compartment is urgent and important you write on top urgent and important and in that all the things of your to-do list which are urgent and important write them in that box the next box is urgent but not important it's urgent to be done but it's not so important the next box the third box is important but not urgent so it's very important to be done it has to be done but it's not urgent it can wait till the end of the day and last is not urgent not important something that gives you pleasure the superfluous pleasure sometimes you don't need that box but suppose you want to see a movie and there is an exam and it's close related to you is Unwell now you got a to-do list I have to visit the Unwell I have to prepare for exam I have to see a movie you don't go and see the movie first you say I visit the Unwell first I finish it urgent and important because that person needs you and you don't know Unwell can become very badly Unwell and then you don't know what so finish that first urgent and important but number 2 finish studying for your exam after that you have spare time left and say yes now I can do my non urgent non important go and see the movie and you've done everything perfectly but you go and see the movie and then some calamity happens and you can't do number 1 and number 2 and days wasted you flunk the exam your past is a series of regrets your future is a series of worries and today is wasted so give today your best plan your life with a to-do list the to-do list should take you in line with your goal and you're made for life with these few words I say okay I've said everything I want to I don't know if I overshot the time I lost track of time Mesh am I in time yes sir you are in time sir so Gandha am I in time yes sir absolutely okay so now we can throw it open to discussion yes sir lost track of time completely listening to you so exactly I lost track of time completely too so yes the platform is open for Q&A now yes I'll be happy to answer any questions any comments any experiences anything I'd like kids to share experiences with me you want to start with the biggest kid ma'am I only have one thing to say that every time I listen to you it's it's a lot of inspiration coming away so definitely I was looking at all the faces and getting inspiration I want I want children to now trouble you with the set of questions I have all day to answer them to shoot Atharv you have a question Atharv has a question Athar go ahead so thank you for your enlightening talk it was very informative so you talked about individuality and the importance of setting goals so is there a specific time period with which like there's a limit with which we should be setting our goals and also one more question how do we ensure that our goals do not overlap with our family time because for some individuals their goals might be very materialistic in nature so how do we ensure that that does not overlap that's when you make your to-do list because your family time is part of that to-do list so you set a goal it's your personal goal and once you set your goal you do time budgeting and in the time budgeting is the prioritizing as I told you the prioritizing your family your passion your health everything needs some space so you need that okay I have 24 hours in that 8 hours I sleep in that 1 hour I spend with mom and dad I spend 1 hour on exercise I'll play some nice game so I'll play to a point where I excel and then I'll spend 6 hours on studies and 3 hours will go on food and rest in the day or food and other important things like bathing and brushing and self-care so like this you budget your whole day and then you got time for everything but if you don't budget your whole day you'll find you're sitting on the bench on the side and dreaming of that goal which you want but not heading towards it and dreaming doesn't get you anywhere they say you must see dreams dreaming is like building castles in the air they say must build castles on the air but after that work to build the foundation underneath because a castle in the air without a foundation underneath is going to be blown away with the first gust and gusts of wind are there in plenty in life you know life's gusts of wind are bigger than the cyclonic storms which we see so get a strong foundation for which there is time for everything if you plan your time sir and also the first part of the question where I ask by when should I set a goal for my life you see that depends on your own your own inspiration like I'll tell you in the 7th standard I decided that the life depicted in those two novels is the life I want to lead so I set myself the long term goal in the 7th standard and that long term goal took me 5-6 years to get in 5 years to get in because 7th to 11th and then inter science and then getting into medical college so at every stage there were more goals like getting in going to classes and getting the right books and getting the right tuitions and x, y and z so as you you address your passion suppose your passion is I'm just throwing a dart in the dark suppose your passion is that you want to become the opening batsman of India in world class cricket then you should start building your body from now you should start studying the role of world class cricketers all over the world how much they trained start getting up at 5 in the morning and training before school and after school plus but studying well because you can't be a cricketer all your life you be a cricketer and after a cricketer you should be respected for your other attributes also and so you have many things to be planned then so you set yourself a long term goal of being a world class cricketer so you need physical, mental, emotional resilience to become that and you start training in that direction so you start focusing on that as your main passion and then you give time to the other things in order to supplement that passion so you got a long term goal fixed now on the way you might find that cricket is not your passion, football is your passion 99% of the things you do for cricket are applicable in football also only the skill is different so you can shift your goal but fitness is still needed planning is still needed time is still needed, fields are still needed air is still needed so you have not, you have changed the fine tuned your focus so don't be afraid to fine tune your focus as life goes on and you may start off by saying I want to do science then you may say I want to be engineer then you want to be a mechanical engineer then you say I want to bridge build and then you build the best bridge in the world so you have fine tuned all along the line so that's how you don't set time because I say so you set time according to how you feel I want to be this much but don't set goals of money because that money goal keeps shifting I tell you as a kid I was your age when I started medicine a bit older than you I said myself, I said I want to earn 5000 rupees in one month that time 5000 rupees was a lot of money because to give you a relationship a cinema ticket downstairs as a student I could afford downstairs upstairs was 5 rupees and downstairs was 2 rupees 50 paisa and 3 rupees 50 paisa I don't know if you have ever seen a 50 paisa coin but we had 25 paisa and 5 paisa and 1 paisa also but when you know that 3 rupees 50 paisa is a movie ticket then 5000 rupees is a lot of money my secretary took 450 rupees today she takes 15000 rupees so that's the inflation over the years I set myself a target to earn 5000 it took 6 months to reach that target as soon as I reach 5000 I realize I have more bills to pay I need more help in the office so I need actually 10,000 so that goal shifted to 10,000 I said when I earn 10,000 I will celebrate by the time I reach 9,500 and made it 10 and succeeded in keeping it 10 for 3 months my realization told me that I need to have 20,000 so I still didn't smile it became 20,000 I said no I need 25 to smile I reach 25 I said I need 50 to smile I reach 50 I reach 3 lakhs 10 lakhs and now I realize that if I want to smile I better smile now it's not going to ever come otherwise so don't keep money goals money will come you see that you are comfortable give goals of something tangible something where everybody benefits from what you have done money will come on the side be a millionaire of personality of character of health of physique of wisdom millionaire of money will come after that today no millionaire without character is being worshipped before he is dead also he will stop worshipping but you see those people who are made worshipped today great people they didn't have any concentration on money so money is not all that important other questions thank you so much sir Roshil I think has a question Roshil you have raised your hand your question please sir do you think we should plan out a set of alternative goals just in case we fail to fulfill our primary goals or will that dilute our passion towards fulfilling our primary goal what is now said again Purva right Roshil one minute Roshil where have I lost you Roshil just repeat your question please so should we plan out a set of alternative goals no your plan B is success of plan A if you set yourself plan A have faith this is what all faith is about if you plan on failing then let plan B become your plan A but if you have faith in yourself faith in your abilities faith in your capacity to conquer plan A will become a reality so your plans up 1 to 10 are the same and plan 11 and 12 are plans of failure so there are no plan Bs you make a plan you may change your plan you may change according to your passion changing and your passion will change according to the exposure you have the more you expose yourself the more your passions will get realization so it's very important at your age to read a wide variety of things meet a wide variety of people to see how everyone's lives are shaping them till you come to come across that person who say this is the life I want because you can't invent all that yourself so read many things read books even seeing movies see sensible movies don't see movies which are best forgotten before they started so read study the lives of successful people read their lives read how they went through see what all they went through read those words read literature and once you've done all that know you will see which life resonates with your life because inside you there is a sound which you are not able to hear till someone resonates it once it resonates it will become loud and clear when it becomes loud and clear then come hail of air weather you have to achieve it and for that you have to you go to my faith I don't have time I don't have time here to tell you that entire TED talk but I had a problem in my life where I was told by everyone that I'll never succeed and I thought also at some points I gave up also many times but I only woke up next morning to say no I won't give up and now I can say it openly because I reached the position I wanted to otherwise it would have been boasting about something I never achieved so it's very important that you you focus hard on what you have and don't let your focus waver on plan B, plan C, plan D and keep each thing in its own compartment your family is in one compartment your children will be in one compartment your wife will be in one compartment let their compartments also flourish but don't let your passion compartment sacrifice for the other compartments because these are the things you were born for you were born to do something you had to only discover quickly what it is that you were born to do your life has a purpose find that purpose is your first primary mission and realize that purpose is your secondary mission other questions thank you sir we have a question from Dhwani from Dhwani thank you sir the speech was really motivational and I really love some of the points you made so in the beginning of the speech you had mentioned about how we should all be searching for our passion and we should follow our passion and once again you answered Rishal's question by saying that passion changes according to exposure so I would like to ask you that a lot of students including myself it is very hard to think of one singular passion in our school life and then you did mention that people who try out a lot of subjects in college kind of end up not focusing on one of them but would it be so wrong to try out liberal arts and a lot of subjects in case you don't know what your passion is wouldn't it actually increase Dhwani Dhwani I got your point you know liberal arts is something which is the refuge of those who wasted their whole school life because if you go to see school life is liberal arts in school you can taste all the subjects all the games all the things but many people don't realize this and in school life they don't capitalize on all those things so then after that when they get out into the world then they say now I want to experience all that that is their postponing I don't say liberal arts is a bad thing if you miss the bus it is better to take the second bus than not to board a bus at all so when I tell children do it now like for example you have 12th standard ahead of you still before you finish experience as much of it as you can now don't say this is not what I want or this is not what I unless you try it you can't reject it but as you try more and more things you will reject and you know passion is like this is a full circle big circle this is your broad passion then you will find that the circle shrinks and shrinks till finally it becomes pinpoint where you can focus on your extreme passion which you are actually born for and that extreme passion will not be evident to you right away so it's like me wanting to do medicine first and after that choosing to do medicine as opposed to surgery and gynecology and further going on to be a diabetologist in the field of medicine and in life diabetology I chose lifestyle to become a part of my super specialty and in lifestyle I started looking at stress as one of my best specialties so I went zeroed in on what I enjoyed most so first I did the entire thing and then shrunk shrunk shrunk and came to the point I enjoy most it's not that I will neglect my other field today if someone with diabetes rings me up I give them full advice but that is my bread and butter stress management or to talk to children give them a direction in life is the jam on my bread butter and that jam is what I live for so it's like when you do all these things you try many many things you will realize some things you enjoy and some things you can let go so without trying to reject this prejudice never be prejudicial pre-judicial don't make judgment without trying so try first then judge ma'am may I ask a question please good afternoon sir good afternoon sir it's always nice to listen to you in fact I was just thinking recently how I would miss the camp because I attended the previous two times and it's always been a very joyous little getaway there may be chance to do third time also I hope so I certainly hope so the box next to you is responsible for that alright so now this is a very crucial and rather stressful time for us and being in the 12th grade you're at this in your life where you're still not really sure as to what you want to pursue as Dhwani rightly said and I just want to ask in this stressful time how can we manage our stress because it becomes overbearing at times and many of us may not be properly equipped see the stress stress is good stress is the pressure exerted by the environment I'm going to talk in physics language the stress is the pressure exerted by the environment on a body okay so you have a rubber band it's a small rubber band it's a big rubber band a heavy duty rubber band now the heavy duty rubber band can be used to keep 6 pencils together but it can also keep an entire parcel together you can put it around a larger thing and still it won't snap but a thin small one may be good enough to hold your flat but when it comes to holding 6 pencils you find that now it's becoming a little tight and if you put the 7th pencil inside it may snap that is stress you decide which one you want to be the small rubber band or you want to be the heavy duty rubber band so choosing is our prerogative after you choose then you don't have a right to cry after you choose I want to go to school for every one girl that goes to school there are 3 who sit at home I may be wrong in my statistics and I wish I am every girl goes to school but it's not true take the broad perspective school 3 sit at home so you are already 1 out of 4 after that you say in your class you come first now in that 1 out of 4 you become 1 out of 100 or 1 out of 400 so like that as you zero in on your specialty you will have to weather more and more storms and you have to that's when you summon faith as your stick hold you through that storm that the faith that I can bear through this storm because nothing lasts forever when the storm passes I will be the winner if I get blown away then I am a loser so never give yourself an auto suggestion that I am a loser because when you say I am wilting under stress it means you are in your mind thought I am the small rubber band the poor me getting under stress is the strong me that says bring it on make my shoulders broad enough I can handle it let this also happen let that also happen let it happen I will handle it and how will you handle it you have the same 24 hours to handle it there is other people have 24 hours not to do anything you plan your life plan your life prioritize things and just do them do them to the best of your ability and stop worrying whether you will pass or fail because if your best of your ability is actually exploited you have to pass there is no question of failing now half the time we worry and therefore our capacity reduces to 10% because you have exam tomorrow you sit and fret you don't study you fret I don't know anything you phone a friend and want them also to say the same thing so it feels like we are two in the boat but two sinking in a boat both die so you have to decide that okay there is an exam I have three hours I will study as best as I can focus 100% then you see tomorrow tomorrow the question that you feared most will not come the question you know only comes so what's the harm of sleeping the night knowing that what you want what you know will come tomorrow that's called positive thinking and you say I am practical I must prepare for the worst then study the things that you don't know if you didn't study the things that you don't know then don't imagine that they will come tomorrow because even some great guy I don't know if the Bernard Shaw someone said that 90% of the things I worried about never happened only so you waste so much of your mental energy in worrying where it is few fruitless who has seen tomorrow let tomorrow happen then we'll deal with it I learned in medical college that whenever I write an exam if I fret in the night of questions that will happen tomorrow I waste the whole night staying awake and when I say leave it to the exam and when the question paper comes in front of you you realize that 6 out of 7 questions you know very well and the 7th question there is enough room to invent and that's good enough so you must depend on your wits where you don't know the knowledge your wits are as sharp and your invention can become become some completely out of the box thought so never let go of yourself have faith in yourself and make that faith stronger and stronger and if you need someone to lean on take the most permanent person that's God today you say that sounds very conny but people like lean on our mother and father God put them there because he couldn't be there everywhere but you want direct head office then develop a strong faith and God is not that image which you worship God is the voice inside your heart that conscience that spirit that instinct that intuition those are words which are used to describe God but because weak people cannot imagine that instinct they put an image have you ever studied Ganpati studied Ganpati do you know why he has such a fat stomach and such big ears and such a long nose is it the elephant's head put on the baby some supernatural power that's what I have seen in one of the movies no is it a myth and what is the purpose of that myth and how can his fatso's vehicle be a rat a mouse how ever thought no Ganpati is Ganpati is the embodiment of wisdom and wisdom is fat it should be huge and how do you gain it you have to have a long nose where you explore that's how you get it and you have ear you hear everything your eyes you see everything so Ganpati's eyes, ears and nose are very long but his mouth is hidden means he keep quiet don't talk and all this wisdom is so light that it can travel on the back of a mouse you got it and this is how they taught the children in the olden days but today we worship Ganpati without knowing anything so if you develop that habit use your ears eyes and nose keep on finding things keep to yourself don't open your mouth unless asked to don't waste your words you will save so much energy and you will imbibe so much that you become wise and there you Ganpati very true sir thank you so much all the best your akanksha akanksha your royal family no with kind of descendants of the Nepalese Malas dynasty your retired royal family you could say so yes your royal that name sounds so good okay who's next Binnita Parik Binnita good afternoon sir so like your speech was really great and inspiring like the thought that you said about making to-do list that has been always been something that my mom has pushed me to do and that really does give me a picture of how what I plan for the day or for the month, three years and everything but sir I think I wanted to ask you something as in personally I face this issue I always overestimate my capabilities and on my list I add like five things to do in a day and then I end up only doing three and then that puts me back and like takes away my motivation no problem should like overcome that you you can never overestimate your capabilities if you feel you put five things on the table you have to then go on to do list analysis of urgent important I think that's where you don't do it if you did that then you do the urgent important stuff first and you won't fill up in between with unimportant un-urgent things, non-urgent things which take away your time and therefore you don't finish all three things suppose you have five things you focus such that you will finish five things and with a bit of practice and with a little bit of delegation as you grow bigger as you have many people to help you you start seeing some competent people because as you as the saying goes when you go to succeed you must carry ten people with you to the point of success so this journey won't be alone if you are carrying people with you so delegate to people who are less skilled but are capable of doing some things like if you have to go to the bank to deposit five checks I'm giving you an example of my life or read a chapter from a very important book the visit to the bank I make sometimes so that I meet the banking people I make some conversation with them I keep in touch with reality but I don't go every time I send a peon to go there because for him that is a skilled job and my job gets done so in my to-do list is deposit five checks in the bank and the next thing is give this job to someone so it's tick marked in my paper and I go and read what I need to read and at the end of the day all the things that I had written got done some with the help of others some by myself and some if they are not done then they add on to tomorrow's to-do list and then tomorrow's to-do list should be more realistic considering that today's is added on to tomorrow so you can have imaginary to-do list and enjoy that and do the realistic to-do list as long as you are giving each day your best so don't worry if you don't finish five things but if you did three things and gave you happiness and you achieved something big enough great the other two can go to the next day your life is long you can keep doing to-do lists and everything will ultimately get covered depends on how you lead your life so don't worry of incomplete to-do lists your to-do lists are what gives you a lot of enjoyment because when you are writing it it gives you a feeling of importance it makes you feel strong it makes you feel empowered that I have done so many things and so systematically instead of just just drifting leaves in the autumn breeze if you imagine they are drifting left, right, center with no purpose so you do your to-do list and continue to do three out of five things you are doing very well thank you sir Namya your question next hi sir, thank you so much for your talk how are you? I think you have come on my camp isn't it? sorry? you have come on the camp with me no I haven't this year but let's see what happens about that you start praying hard that things get better and we go everyday yeah Namya you had a question so in your talk you mentioned that it's important to set a goal even if you change it later we should have a goal right now and so what if you had a goal for the longest time and then you start reading somewhere and you experience something different and you start doubting your goal and you feel like changing it so what would you change it? change it because that is your passion on that day see if you have made your first goal with serious concentration then your next goal will not be very far from the first one because it has the same harmony inside you and if you have let's say you have taken up give me an example of what you are saying have you have you ever experienced it that you started off wanting to do something and finally ended up doing something else so for example if I've always wanted to explore a mathematics as a subject yeah and then I just suddenly I decide that I want to get into finance and community service okay so you mathematics and finance is not very far away it is a related thing and community service is a left brain business so mathematics and finance are governed by your left brain and community service is governed by your right brain yeah because it is something to do with passion love humanity and all these like art, painting, dance, drama and all that come from right brain because that is a softer virtues so it is very good if you do it both because you exercise both your brains there alright and you will be multifocal you can have multiple passions but each passion will make the other passion more sharp if you see any of these big lives they are musicians writers, see Albert Schweizer was a wonderful physician, surgeon he was a German in the world war 2 time and he was not only that he was a writer he did medicine, he took up surgery he was a surgeon par excellence he was a musician par excellence and in summers he used to give music concerts and he took a boat once for a journey and that journey took him down down down into Congo and he reached Congo he saw how much poverty there was and he decided this is what I want to do and that comes to your social work for community service and he settled down there he took broken bark and broken stumps of trees and he made a shed and he started practicing medicine there with zero infrastructure he trained tribal people and he became his assistants and today in Congo there stands an Albert Schweizer memorial hospital which is doing so much free work and the same man also went to jail because he was considered to be a German spy because Germany was going through so much difficult times in the world war with Hitler and all that so he experienced that also he did music also he wrote also, he wrote his books also he had multiple passions means each passion makes your other passion sharper so exercise every bit of your noodles and you do as many things as you like as long as you give each one your best and each one done one at a time so it's wonderful to have multiple passions and when would you say it would be too late to make a truck it's never too late I know of a 90 year old lady who went and did MA and died after I got her graduation certificate the most touching story but true when I was in medical college there was a man who was 70 years old who was a fellow student because he decided to do medicine after his wife died and he got into medical college at 66 and he was senior to me and he practiced till he was 80 he was in the hospital only as a pharmacology lecturer and before that he had done business before that he had done in his young days he had done Becom and many things so there is no end to practicing passion your passion is at that moment at that moment if something is so passionately aroused inside you just go and do it and do it with the best of your this thing no result no holds bar because it may take you much further your passion is like wind if you oppose it you don't achieve if you go with it it carries you to your destination so just do it that's it thank you so much sir Namya wish you all the best one day I see you in newspapers multi passionate Namya thank you so much sir all the best we have a question from Tanish where are you Tanish next page you are Tanish Tanish you raise your hand your question okay we will move on to Charu Charu your question yeah first of all good afternoon sir and that was a very beautiful and mind-awaiting session from your side and I'm really motivated after that sir you talked about the target plans and the to-do list but whenever I make plans for the first 5 to 10 days I'm very intelligent to do the same and later I see myself procrastinating and being inconsistent so how do I combat that inconsistency you start you mean every day it happens or it happens once in a while once in a while sir means you set yourself to do list and then once in a while you find that you don't want to do that to-do list yes it happens 5 to 10 days I find myself doing it diligently and then I find myself getting tired out of it then you need to re-address your to-do list and do something that energizes you because if you continue to do all the same things every day however interesting they may be on day 1 on day 5 can become very mundane so if you're let's say focused on studying for exams then on a day to day basis if you gave yourself 1 hour of entertainment or enjoyment or something different your alarm clock your winding key becomes so wound up that then it becomes difficult for you to unwind so you have to strike a balance on your to-do list and not be dogmatic about the quality of the activities all activities are good in their right perspective so if you feel that after 5 days of hard work on the 6th day you have to see a movie or have to go to meet a friend for coffee then that becomes urgent and important on that day so then it rises in its stature because you need it that day so something that is not urgent not important on normal days may become urgent and important on another day so you have to go by your inner instinct also and your inner instinct will guide you that today I have to do this then just do it because then you come back and do the first things with more energy and it's not wrong to fail in your in your to-do list there are people who don't make that list and then you make the list and fail in it it's perfectly all right next day you can make up and even if you have used 300 days out of 365 I say your success rate is far better than average because average waste 300 out of 365 and 65 is then used for panic resort as a panic they try and make up ground so it's like run and you run to make up to catch up with the sun but it's sinking only to race around and come up behind you again so that day is lost so if you lose your days like that you can't get them back then panic running doesn't help you to rectify so what's gone is gone the day you wake up it's morning so wake up now make your to-do list plan your life move to a program and then see how beautiful life is thank you so much Shalini all the best we now have a question from Gaurav yes sir first of all I would like to thank you for this session it really changed my perception on a lot of things so my question to you is that you said about following your passion regardless and I would like to ask for people who are not very comfortable with doing that they think that they should have more security about their future is it fine to see a tried and tested occupation which other people follow Gaurav tried and tested by somebody else what is one man's meet is another man's poison so what somebody else has gone into you know this false sense of security I say false because it's not actually security it is fritter away your life if you have a passion inside you which is ignited then you follow it blindly means follow it with your eyes open but follow it without looking left right center if you have not ignited your passion then you are in what is physics called Newton's first law of motion you did physics yes sir you are not doing physics no but I am a commerce student I will tell you physics first law of motion Newton's first law of motion says that any body remains at rest uniform rectilinear motion unless acted upon by an external force so when you say I want security you are choosing to stay at rest which means you don't have to struggle you don't have to go into uncharted seas you don't have to jump into the water and no effort because you are already joined a running wagon and in the running wagon you don't even have to wear a seat belt you just sleep and that sleep will carry you to unknown destination which may not be where you want to go and therefore if you have a passion remember you have to go through storms you will have to go through effort, you will have to work hard you will have to go through periods of insecurity but when you reach that journey will say wow this is the journey I wanted to make you know there is a saying which I have written a book on quotations which I have not published yet but in the last quotation I put over there is that the idea is not to arrive at your grave lipstick powdered, neat and clean looking beautiful but to come in torn, worn out, scarred slashed and tired come crashing in broadside into your grave and when you land you exclaim wow what a journey and that's the philosophy I'd like to absorb in my life and that's the philosophy I recommend you to absorb that go through everything don't go for security because everything is secure your food, clothing and shelter are secure after that if you don't move ahead then you have gone into complacency which is inertia and inertia is the one word description of Newton's first law of motion so don't be a body at rest otherwise your principle will come and be the external force that pushes you to move so plan yourself well make yourself first you address what is my passion it will come if you think hard and then say okay I want to be this and then no looking back you may say that okay my daddy's business is a cushion to fall back on I also did my daddy's business you know your autobiography should read like that I achieved this this this this and I also did my daddy's business that is by the way but not I only did my daddy's business that's the wrong because you can always do your passion as a hobby also and do your business as a chore but do it don't let your passion go that's it yes sir I understand that I would like to rectify why I asked it was because what parents generally do at least Indian parents is that when you're young they really give you what you want like they'll buy your guitar and they'll buy you all these why is it not coming clearly I would like to justify my question please because what Indian parents generally do is when they're young they if you say that you want to play the guitar they'll buy you one if you want to play the piano they'll buy you one but as you grow and you reach ninth grade they say that life is much more serious and they make you they make you think that okay you need to focus your studies more which I understand and I do they kind of they want you to have those sense of security because they're well meaning in the sense they don't want their child to suffer yes sir but unless you suffer you don't grow so you look people say music is pastime that's what your sentence meant that music is pastime guitar and all that is for rock stars therefore dropouts but if you see bridge bush and cabra world renowned musician he was a guitarist world famous now more than musician he's a cranky musician not musician, cranky musician he's working hours are 11 o'clock till 5 o'clock in the night so people do recording at 3 in the morning 4 in the morning when the world sleeps but that's him you see his music is what people get in raptures when they listen to his music so if music is your passion follow it you cannot understand it the insecurities of a parent to give advice to their child is based on their incomplete knowledge of life so they are also floating in their own lives so they just want that ok my son should not be insecure therefore he must have a become and if he's got a become he get a government job and if he's got a government job he's fixed that is their level of ambition you know you dissect the word ambition it come from the word Ambit Ambit means periphery Ambit means your your Lakshman Rekha and when you say I am ambitious it means I want to break my Lakshman Rekha I want to go beyond I want to spread my perimeter otherwise you get restricted you start with a small thing like that but if you decide that no I am ambitious then you make that this big then you make this big so don't restrain your ambition you can do both you can study and get good marks and you can play music also if you give up something else then you have to give up time pass so plan your life where you can do both don't sacrifice passion and reason when you talk with parents reason you must have your answers you can't just say I want then the question is why I want then if that answer satisfies them when I wanted medicine I told my dad I wanted medicine he said no this is his pigment how will he go and do medicine who will go to him how will he pass I had weak vision so he said how will you read the books I said I want and then he realized that this guy actually wants then he said okay I will help you to get it so dads always want that the child gets the best but he should be sure that he has got a passion if he is just thinking of wasting time if you tell him that I got a rock band going every evening we smoke pot and drink alcohol everyday then he is going to be a very insecure man he is going to beat the hell out of you and say go and become and sit in my business so don't do what they will give them insecurity discuss with them yeah good you got your answer Gaurav yes sir I did thank you great thanks and all the best the last question for today we have is from Tanisha I know she has been waiting for a long time so Tanisha here you go good afternoon sir I really like the fact that you are telling us not to procrastinate which is perfect so firstly we need to acknowledge the fact that we all come from a very privileged background and associating some steps with materialistic things doesn't fit right with me at this point so what is my question sometimes I feel like that taking a break for my mental space is a good thing it is and if I do that for my parents that is time pass because I am not doing anything I am just doing something which makes me feel happy that's very important so if something like that is considered time pass because I am not writing anything or you are not doing time pass you are investing time at that time you are investing time if you are doing time pass every single day of your life then that is waste of time but what is considered as time pass are pleasurable activities and pleasure is a very important part to balance pain for example if you want to study to be a scientist you will have to study and when the time you are studying is not the most pleasurable time if you are given that there is no exam read whatever you like whenever you like then it is fun because then you say just now I am inspired by magnetism I read about magnetism then suddenly you feel forget magnetism I want to read about gravity then you read about gravity then you say forget that I want to read about tides time and tide and read that no one holding you in place but if you have an exam on magnetism tomorrow then you have held in place and that is what is torture but then you have to go through that torture conquer it and move forward but if you are exam today exam tomorrow exam day after exam till Friday Monday to Friday exams and you focused now you have become so tight in the head that you want to unwind because if you unwind only can you wind up again so when you unwind it is investing time it is not wasting time they sound the same wasting and investing investing so when you do when you see a movie on a Sunday after you have worked hard the six days then you are actually doing a very good thing but you must decide how you spend that relaxation time in actually relaxing if you do not actually relax then you have wasted that time so if you are going to see a film if you really wanted to see a nice film then okay but if you are going to see some absolute junk just because you want to go and eat popcorn in the interval then it is a waste of time then you might as well buy popcorn and eat it at home but if you have a full weeks program in your full weeks program the unimportant and the non urgent also has a place because that feeds your soul and when you feed the soul the soul gets more energy then next day you are ready to charge in through your troubles times with extra energy knowing that at the end of the rainbow there is a pot of gold so can I say something else? yeah so also sir in liberal arts we have arithmetic and geometry as well so I mean I don't see the point like if you take liberal arts that doesn't mean you want to focus on all the aspects it also means you have one focus you can have I don't think that people who take liberal arts are not focused they are very focused some of them are very focused some of them are very focused all are not because most of them have taken it as a refuge to postpone the transition by two years I have asked so many students all me and my friends I would say my surroundings we have taken it as like we have one focus and that's why we have taken it so I that's very good you can combine the subjects which you think can join up together when you join the dots the picture will be beautiful that's the important thing thank you for it you see what is his name apple guy who is the inventor of apples Steve Jobs his education was a major flop he got into college because he needed a room to stay and then he was thrown out he said I have to enrol for some class or the other to be able to stay there so he used to walk miles to the Hare Ram Hare Krishna temple to eat a free meal because he didn't have the money to earn that he joined calligraphy class and he learned calligraphy and then he joined some other class and he learned that and then one day when he found his inner passion in the garage with a friend with a box computer he decided to make the computer more attractive so he made the font in calligraphy and that's how the whole apple explosion started that it became a joy to behold because the presentation was so beautiful the presentation was his brainchild and the reason was that he learned calligraphy in those days and he did all those things that he did so he himself says it he gives a graduation speech in Stanford and he says it there that when I was being educated I didn't see any connection in what I was doing but one day when I connected the dots I found that my knowledge of that experience was helping me for this experience so as long as you have a broad goal in your mind do whatever I'm not critical about liberal arts I'm critical about people doing liberal arts to postpone big decisions your liberal arts is a very good subject good opportunity I wish I had it I would have learned all the subjects and added them to medicine because my focus was medicine so I am practicing liberal arts today I read literature, history, geography politics everything today which I could have done in my school days but in my school days no one guided me so you are doing it with focus go right ahead thank you very much key word is focus whatever you are doing good darling you got your answers are there any more sir gandha no sir no so we are done for the morning I think we have had a very enriching and insightful session I have still no idea what the time is so we are we are just 1251 we have overshot yeah on behalf of the students Dr. Kokani thank you so much it's been a pleasure right through and through we were all learning you know every time I listen to you I feel that there is always a take away which is something fresh in you thank you so much thanks for giving me this opportunity all the children for being such a lovely audience thank you sir thank you good bye wish you all the best you too sir take care all the best bye thank you sir thank you sir thank you very much sir thank you all of you bye thank you