 Kufingi ya into the topic. Na today's topic of discussion is red flags because we are asking what are some of the red flags that you can just check on the first date and decide this person is not for me. Huuu, mini kuna mingi, but let me give out an example ya. Now this time I went on a date. The guy was looking in a nice real life. Aki, kama taw na ihim. The guy was looking nice, we've been chatting nini nini. Haa, kasema chanda afit kule nyamwa samua. Haa, I wasn't hungry that day, but ni kasema. Okay, you know that day I'd eaten, ala faka na mbe we go on a date, I was like hey, because I want to see him. Siniyende tumta jifanya for lit. Something small. Kawa da kanyama kanguka, kakwota na ugali. Yohooo. Susa, nyamwa choma, ikwa nyamwa choma, ilkwa ili ya tu bitungu na nyanyaki dogu. Susa, you know when I was eating, nikamu liza, you are you going to eat, kasema him, he'll just take a drink kama bi asawa. Tuki kula? Ako na pesa? Tuki kula? Do you know me, I don't like nyanyas and bitungu. Susa, simi ni me kakanda. Sana kula na kula, mbe baki iliki nyamwa kama tatu na ugali kidugu. Aka chukua kakule zonya nyanyazangu na hohozangu na ugali angundogo. That was a red flag from there. Nekaza kuna hezimu tibengu diluki gini mo. Kambia say ni textata. On the first date, I think kama, for example, kukua desa na nyateli mi how you love me and all those things. What's a red flag? You can't just tell me you love me and you're on the first date. Of which most men out here do that, she just like. Kwa rakisha manen. Ata, I'm not even sure about you, calm down. You don't even know my second name. I know, kutua. Lemiteli, there's a time I went on a date with someone who was calling his family members. I'm telling them that I talked to my, like kama, for example, actually, mi arasji kama, the real family members and he just wanted me to make me feel safe in some type of way. But yeah, like I talked to my brother, anongelasha brother, I said this is my wife, I'm going to get married to this, I'm going to marry this girl. And I'm just like, calm down. That's very, I don't know. It's a bit repulsing to me. Calm down. I think my first red flag would be a complainer. Because why are you complaining about everything? Eh, itchakulei depe kwa vizuri. Waita, siginbono umeti sa siginbono. Another, another. Siginbono una fanya aji. A complainer is someone for me that a red flag because it means you're going to be complaining about everything. And who wants such negative energies in my life? No, no, no, no. A complainer is a no for me. You are watching Friends Vibes. All feelings are represented. What's up everybody? Welcome back to Friends Vibes. We have missed you guys and we thank you so much for watching all the other episodes of Friends Vibes. Leaving a comment, sharing and even telling us to call you on this show. Sindio, we're going to start calling you guys. I'm Ani Aji. Now guys, I'm joined with, the gang is here with me today. Guys, introduce yourselves. Nice to have you. And my good name is Miss Kethingi. Twingia into the topic. Now today's topic of discussion is red flags. Because we are asking what are some of the red flags that you can just check on the first date and decide this person is not for me. So we are going to be, you know, getting into it. What are some of those red flags when you go on the first date with someone? What do you guys think? Me ni kuna mingi, but let me give out an example. Now this time I went on a date. They guys looking in a nice real life. Aki, kama ato na ihim. They guys looking nice, we've been chatting ni ni ni. Ha, kasa ma tunda fitu kule nyama samua. Ha, I wasn't hungry that day, but ni kasa mama. Okay, you know that day I'd eaten, alafaka ni mbe we go on a date. I was like, hey, because I want to see him, si ni hende tuntajifanya for a lit. Something small. Kawdaka nyama kanguka, kakwata na ugali. Yoho. So sa, niyama choma, ikwa niyama choma, ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa ilkwa. So sa, you know when I was eating, nika muliza, you are you going to eat, kasa ma him he'll just take a drink, kama bi asawa. Tuki kula? Ako ala pesa? Tuki kula? Do you know me, I don't like niyanyas and vitu nguz. So si mi ni me kakanda, sa na kula na kula, mbe baki niyama kama atatu na ugali kidugu. Aka chukua kakule iso niyanyazangu, na hohozangu, na ugali angundogo. Ne kaza kuna, he's not even good looking anymore. Kambia say ni textata, because what is that? Ya, probabili akwa na pesa ral kwa na njaye piya. But it was raving a good girl for a kato kwa saawa. Nanda akwa na assets, like niya na liquid cash. Ya, let's just say. Nisa, what's your first one? Um, on the first stage, I think kama, for example, to kupa desa, na niya telling me how you love me and all those things. You can't just tell me you love me and you're on the first stage. Of which most men out here do that. Kwa rakisha manen. Ata, I'm not even sure about you. Calm down. You don't even know my second name. I know koto apu. Let me tell you, there's a time I went on a date with someone who was calling his family members. Telling them that, talk to my, like, kama, for example, miya rasji kama, the real family members, he just wanted me to make me feel safe in some type of way. But yeah, like, I talked to my brother. Anongelasha brother, I said, this is my wife. I'm going to get married to this. I'm going to marry this girl. And I'm just like, calm down. That's very, I don't know. It's a bit repulsive to me. Calm down. I think my first friend flag would be a complainer. Because why are you complaining about everything? Eh, itchakulidi api kwa visuri. Waita. Sijuim bono umetri. Sijuim eka savete. Sijuim bono unafanya aji. A complainer is someone for me that's a red flag because it means you're going to be complaining about everything. And who wants such negative energies in my life? No, no, no, no. A complainer is a no for me. Also another thing, someone who, like if you're on a death, the first death, and then you're rude to the waiters. Or people serving you. Or you're just rude to maybe the wochi. You're rude, that's a major red flag. Actually, I feel like anyone who is rude to other people and not you, your time will come. Any time of him or Tony. They will obviously be rude to you because that's them. At that time they're just putting on a face because they need to look nice to you and all that. But your time will come. For me, another one is when we're on a date and then you put your phone upside down like this. Because what are you trying to hide? I feel like maybe they don't want to deal and they don't want the distraction. Put your phone on silence and then put it like this. Why are you putting it upside down? See, because our tagi could distract death, our tagi could... Imagine I do that, guys. I have to put my phone down. But put your phone on DND then. That's a red flag. Switch it off and put it in your bag. That's a red flag. Let me say mine. Next one is someone who is touchy touchy. If we meet on the first time you want to keep touching my hand, you want to do... Hey, you drive it baby, you want me to touch your arm. Bro, calm down. Touchy touchy, people who are touchy, you need to maintain boundaries, especially on the first date. You don't know what this person wants. You don't know if they like to be touched. Men, don't touch women's faces. Don't touch women's hair. I don't know if they like to be touched. It's not a date. Just don't touch a woman's face and don't touch their hair. I don't even touch my face. Or you can just touch me. Why are you touching me? We're not there yet. That's a red flag. Another one is... We're on the desk and you're talking too much about your ex. So now the date is just about your ex. What your ex did. And then you're talking trash. You're just talking trash about your ex. I'm not, for example, now that's a bad one. It's a bad. The whole, whole entire time you talk about your ex. I'm here on a date to get to know you, not to get to know your ex for sure. So I'm there and I talk to you on a date. I don't know what your ex did 5 years ago. I have so much about your ex and not you. If you're trash talking your ex, it says a lot about you. Me, I feel like whether you're speaking positively or negatively, you should not be speaking about your ex. On a date, I'm at all, at all. At all, at all. On the first date. I mean, I would like to know, Muli, Achan, Aji and what led to that, honestly. I would ask you, so what was your previous relationship like? What made it end? What type of person you are. And also just to get to know that. But most people lie. Imagine, I also want to know about your past kiddo. It's not the details a lot, but I want to know why did you guys break up. Maybe she did something that you'd never want to see me do. And it's something I'm willing not to do. You know. And you know what's big? I would prefer if I ask you a question. I'd prefer if I ask you a question about your ex and all that and then you tell me like, I'm the one who fucked up. Accountability. Accountability. If you tell me, I'm the one who messed up that relationship and like I could see some growth from that. Yeah. And you know, and then you're saying some people lie. Yes, they do, but eventually you will still find out why their ex went away. Where they left. You will. Well, yeah. Another red flag. Another red flag. When you use see too much. See, she told you, see you go there, see for me that's a red flag. That is a road. It's giving aggressive. Yeah. It's giving aggressive. Like he's just giving, yeah. See you just eat. See. He told you I'll call you. Yeah. See. Yeah. I know this one is over the top. I don't know. But if you're a lawyer, I feel like your career is based on lies. So you're not a lawyer. You know how to manipulate. You're a professional manipulator. I'm so sorry, but I don't know. Being a lawyer is a red flag. Beti for you. Yeah, for me, imagine it's a red flag. Imagine. That means you lie for a profession. Yeah, you lie for a profession. You are using just to lie. You can lie and perform. You can't just say lawyers. Imagine, for me now you've chosen to lie for a profession. Imagine, like that's a decision you've made. For me, we can be friends with lawyers, but not nothing more. Wait, lawyers. Sorry. You thought you were going for the big profession. Yeah. What other red flag do you have in mind? Someone who's not, like you could tell from the demean. They're not a kind person. Yeah, you just, but we said that already. Sorry. Said like if you're rude to people, like the people who are serving you, yeah, it's just unknown for me. For me, aggressive people. You know there are people who just hold you like this. Yeah, they look like they're holding you. But they don't feel it. But they don't feel it. Yeah. For me, I'm a girl too. So for me, you treat me with softness. But the women who like that. So for me, I don't like. No. The women who like. Okay, now let me tell you something. I get why Betty's saying that because to cover me, I don't know if it's for you also. Yeah. If you like, can you feel it? You live much on, like you live much on my body. I feel like when you hold me aggressively. Yeah. It means you're an aggressive person even in other areas. Yeah. And even probably how you will communicate you're going to be aggressive. Okay. And that's in you. Me feel like it depends with where you are. If maybe you're walking in town, me hold my hand, show me that you're giving me security. You don't grab my hand. Not grab. Me hold my hand. Hold. Just hold. Softly. I'm a soft babe. Trish me. My eye is tapa valley. Please. And you know clearly as you can see there are red flags for other people and some are just taking. Yeah. So it narrows down to individual. There's someone I once went on a date a long time ago when I had just shaved and they told me I have to grow my hair for them to date me. Please. I was like, bro. I mean, I feel like that's okay because I'll come here before Mwande. But when you were at Zangua, you saw my pictures. You came to change me. I feel like now that kind of a person just go date someone who's longer hair. Yeah. You have to find someone. There's someone who has told me if I have to date them or rather just meet them on dates I have to come in a dress and not trust us. I was like, it's okay. You just buy me those dresses. Yeah, buy me those dresses and I'll be there. I have no problem with looking feminine anyway. It's okay. As long as you buy, then don't set my wardrobe if you're not buying. Yeah. Don't control it if you're not buying. Exactly. If you're buying it, ah, me I'll wear dresses for you a hundred percent. Anything for my man. But anyway, it didn't get anywhere. My man, my man, my man. Alright guys, let us know down on the comment section what are some of the red flags that you notice when you go on the first dates. Thank you so much for watching friends. Vibe until next time. Bye. Take care, guys. Bye.