 Hey everyone, welcome to the live video. Losing the narcissist is a blessing in disguise. I know it's hard to see it in the beginning. When they leave you, it makes you feel like you're not good enough. It makes you feel so unlovable. It affects your self-esteem, your self-worth. It makes you feel like you're not worth anything. I know how it feels when someone does that to you. It's not nice, it can hurt for months, even years. You find it hard just to wake up in the morning and then it's even worse trying to get to sleep at night. It's like everything they said to you is just running for your mind. You just can't get it out of your head and it feels like it's just never going to go away. I know how that feels. When you feel like it's never going to get better, you just lose all hope in yourself and it just looks like they've just moved on without you with someone else and they're so much happier and they just make you feel like they've just left you behind on your own because you're not good enough for them. You feel like you're nothing like you don't matter to anyone and that's exactly how they want you to feel. They want you to feel like you're not good enough, not just for them but for anyone. However you feel after they leave you, that's exactly how they wanted you to feel. They know the effect that they're having on you and they want to hurt you as much as they can and that's why they will do whatever they think will hurt you the most. I get it you know. I know what a lot of you are going through because I've been through it myself and that's why I want to make this video just to let you know that losing them is actually a blessing in disguise. It's the best thing that could happen to you. You might not see it right now but in time you will see it. I know I don't talk so much about my situation although a lot of people have asked about it. They've wanted to know what went on with me and the ex-narcissist in my life. I know most people think that after you leave a narcissist they just ride off into the sunset and they're so happy but that's really not how it is. They want you to think that's what's happening but if you could be a fly in the wall you would see what's really going on and you would realize that it's all a lie. It's just an illusion. All they do is lie. So yeah you know a lot of people they asked me about my ex-narcissist and I know really I don't talk about it much and I prefer to keep things general. I don't normally like to just you know bring up things from my personal experiences but if you all really want to know one of the ex-narcissists I was seeing she ended up addicted to drugs and the last I saw of her she was very miserable. She had no direction in life and then another ex-narcissist when I was with her I had nothing. I had no job at the time. I was going for a smear campaign my life was very difficult. I had no motivation and she was always abusing me emotionally doing everything she could to hurt me and then once she did all she could do she basically just left me to rot and she left and she made me believe that she was riding off into the sunset as they all do and I just felt like okay I'm just left on my own now. I'm just a loser. I'm nothing. I'm not good enough for her. I'm not good enough for anyone. That's just how it made me feel and I know that's exactly how she wanted me to feel and then a few months later I found out about what a narcissist is and then I started to realize what I was dealing with and then a few months after that I started the channel. A few months after that I started in a full-time income from the Narc Survivor channel and I started coaching people, changing people's lives and now up until today where I've potentially changed millions of people's lives and I earn a good income from it now I'm able to have the things that I like. You know my life has completely changed and I know that I've changed many people's lives and if we're talking about ex-narcissist year you know that was definitely a blessing in disguise for me and I didn't realize it at the time. It might have taken a year or even two years until I started to realize that but it really was a blessing. It changed my life completely. You know she's not really doing much now. You know the last thing I've seen she's just she works in my local supermarket so you know it's amazing just how things change and like the illusions that they create you know they make you believe that they're riding off into the sunset and everything's so great for them when in reality that's just not the case. What they say to you and what's actually going on it's very different they want you to think that everything's going on great for them when it's just not true but the crazy thing about it is many of them no matter what is actually going on in their lives can actually think that things are going well for them. It's really crazy but it's it's like one of the ex-narcissists even though she was fully aware that I knew she was working in my local supermarket she was saying to me not long before that she was living her best life so you can see how delusional they really are and I'm not saying it's bad for anyone who's working whether it's in a supermarket or anywhere else but when someone's going around boasting about it and acting as though they're doing all of these big things and treating you as though you're beneath them it's really it's really strange because no normal person is going to be boasting about that or thinking that they're doing big things but that's just how these narcissists think you know that they're really delusional they live in this fantasy world and it's all just to protect themselves losing the narcissist really is a blessing in disguise it will change your life completely when you're with them everything's a struggle you're suffering from anxiety depression and then it's like when you finally lose them everything begins to change suddenly you start to get more energy you start to feel more alive you start to do the things that you used to do you have more time and energy to get to know yourself again you haven't got someone there who's constantly doubting you or making you feel bad about yourself I know it may not seem like it right now especially if you've just been discarded by the narcissist but it really is a blessing in disguise it will get a lot easier after a few months and you never know where you might be this time next year or the year after that so much can change when you're not around narcissist it allows you to grow and develop when whenever they're around you all they do is stunt your growth and they're not really riding off into the sunset as I've said before it may look like a sunset but they're actually riding off into the depths of hell really it's just an illusion they want to make you think that they're doing big things but they're really not just look at what they've accomplished in the last six months the last year that should tell you what they're going to accomplish in the next six months or in the next year so don't listen to what they're telling you you've spent enough time with them to know what you're really dealing with and based on what you've seen while you were with them in most situations they would even progress as much as they did while they were with you because while they were with you you were the main thing that was that were keeping them that was keeping them going and usually once they leave you it's all downhill after that they end up downgrading with someone who is barely even on their own standards or someone who's definitely beneath their their they exaggerated standard of themselves so don't listen to what they say I've seen it so many times what happens and for you it's it really is a blessing of disguise just think about when you were with them you only had a few good times and most of the time it was just arguments it was just them putting you down or calling your names so yeah I just wanted to share that message with you I hope it resonates I hope it helps you to realize the truth of what's really going on because they would love you to think that they've moved on and they're happy with someone else because they know that's what you wanted they know that you wanted a happy relationship with them so whatever they think you wanted they're just gonna make you believe that they've got that with someone else even though it's not even true all they can do is try to sell you a dream a fantasy just as they did when they first met you and nothing's changed now they're exactly the same as they always were if anything they only get worse as they age anyway I hope this message has helped you and do check out the new website www.knocksurvivor.co.uk and you can also check on my Instagram as well knock survivor YouTube and if you'd like to email me you can email me as well at coaching at knocksurvivor.co.uk thank you for watching have a good evening or morning depending on where you are and I look forward to seeing you in the premiers tomorrow