 Why the narcissist starts caring when you stop when you stop caring That is when the narcissist will start to notice you When you stop giving them your attention And you start focusing on yourself You start doing your own thing The narcissist is no longer the priority in your life They're no longer the center of your world and that is when the narcissist will start to care When they feel like they're losing you When they feel like they're losing your attention When they feel like they're losing control over you That is when the narcissist will start to notice you That is when they will begin to value you Because narcissists are not wired like normal people They respond differently They respond to different things Which is why when you try to make them happy When you try to make things right It never worked for you. It never improved anything It just made things worse. It's only when you stop caring about them That they will begin to do things for you that they never did before Narcissists love attention and validation But they hate it when they lose it Even though they may have taken it for granted Because narcissists do take their victims validation for granted But once you take it away from them That is when they will begin to value it Because they may fear That they can't find someone else like you They may fear that they can't replace you So you should never let the narcissist treat you as though you're not worth anything As though you don't matter As though you're a foolish or easily deceived person who is going to be there forever Given them endless attention and validation The narcissist needs to start learning to value you And the only way they're going to do that Is by you taking away your validation Refusing to participate and taking away your emotions And then validating yourself Putting yourself first Never put the narcissist above you You should always put yourself first Because then they will see that you value yourself And then they will begin to respect you They will start investing in you They will start to see that you are a person Not an object But loving them is never going to work Giving them your love is never going to change them It's just going to feed their ego It's just going to make them feel special and important And it's only going to lower your value in their eyes But narcissists are very desperate for attention and validation They just don't want to give anything back to you in return Which is why when you take that away You will get their attention Because then they will feel like they're losing control of you So now instead of trying to push you away They will try to pull you back into the relationship But that doesn't mean they love you That doesn't mean they care about you They still hate you They just don't want to let you go Because you have all of these benefits and conveniences that they want And they don't want to see that slipping away from them But sometimes they do get bored They do forget about the fact that they need you They have these delusions of grandeur Where they think they are superior Where they are better than you or other people To where they forget about just how important you are to them They forget about why they got involved with you in the first place But you can remind them By taking your attention and validation away from them When you do that They will bring back the false character they showed you in the beginning They will bring back the love-bombing phase Because they believe that it will benefit them by doing that They believe that it will keep you around Even though they may still hate you They just won't show it to you Because they're not ready to let you go The narcissist does not care about you They do not care about anyone All they care about is what they want And they will mislead you Into thinking that they care about you Just so they can get what they want Because everything has to rough off around them They always have to be the priority They always have to be the most important person And although your lack of attention May create the illusion That the narcissist cares about you The truth is They will only ever care about themselves Thank you for watching I hope this video resonate with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching queries You can email me at coaching.naxify.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon