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How is that like though? I was motherhood. I'm quite intrigued by it. It's tough, but amazing But I'm not sure if he I'm sure it's not easy that person when I see you at all cool as do you I'm a mess you guys make it look easy It's not that easy It's okay about it, but that's not why we're here guys. That is not tell us a bit about yourself Today I want to talk about gender-based violence Because tells me on the rise Since Covid started even before Now by the side you do believe in a delirium Come on. I'm not juicy. I apologize. I'm a memelod I mean Mona juicy. Yeah The thoughts in my head doesn't it hang on you wait for us that way before Facebook at 5 or turn on Twitter Hashtag is why in the morning that basically violence me come up them I cannot tell you how I'm working. I come up in D. What kind of thinking is that? That is a myth A very big one. Yes, and they're not so good one and not so much who missy imagine how but that's not about me tell me about Why this particular this GBV gender-based violence when I make touch where have you been through it and not? Really, but Where I come from for example, there are so many people and are going GBV Like girls young women because they're most vulnerable in the community. So It's really touching Because China I may chop on the back a little extent you like each of my atoms and I in the show lay and it's so touching I love that for example Mama now I'm a beautiful husband So at the end of the day when you are no me and your mama not a total So I think people are not speaking out about the issue I don't know because of fear or something But me poor when courage or to be to compromise or keep it here. It's good to speak out up a Name to talk to up on a babaki. That's that's very surprising to me. That is also considered gender-based violence. Yes Line equality between discipline and and violence There's a form of discipline come a late extent in himself and as a chappan total But when it comes to GBV There are some forms of gender-based violence one example is physical violence Like kuchapan total heating Come to shake it when you know it as a means of choking a person. That's physical violence when I let you in letter for example, I see to know now says in a was I see and he's a chum on total with a Yes, that's a form of GBV. Yes Okay, but Again, if you give a coming crucial sleepers In a kuchomana panga, that's those are two different extremes. Yeah, but don't any violence Okay, I can say he extents your kuchomana panga. That's uh, it's blinding cut Many many baby mama like for well damn Okay, so other kinds of gender-based violence are there there is sexual violence and also economic violence social economic violence To one's in a social economy, which is a Sunday nasa on Shikilakito. What is social economic violence? It's social economic violence is like denying a person Let's say for example You're working and maybe your husband is working. So like Buanna do a core natural here everything like Social economic violence to me for example Yeah, okay, we're not like I see and then they are like looking down upon you Well, who is he that is social economic violence because I think everyone has a right to Get whatever Naku cool a fair You know joke on a boy child and I show cool is a cool a fair in the social economic violence Why is the opposite true and then this one is not true. I'm at my own air sauna But when it comes to social economic violence, we come up with bread boom too Mm-hmm. We're going to go nail a power. Everything could decide money How far Tell me about sexual violence and and this is not just the obvious where you know, someone is Asking for sexual favors when either you do you're not willing or you're not old enough But this is interesting. Oh Quite out there concepts in it Like you're legit married is all it's okay and you refuse, you know to consent and it's actually considered sexual violence Yeah, that is a form of rape actually Wow. Yeah because when you talk about sexual violence we are talking about Physically forcing someone to have sex without his consent or her consent Yeah, so for example come on to a male lever, but How not consent to have sex It's it's good But But remain don't speak out Because I know fear. Yes. We are married. How will I start telling people my husband had stepped through you see? Yeah, it's like those two cannot be in a sentence. Do a shock or a shock. Oh, and then you're going there to report to the police station That's what I could check on what I could check and I'll come be really cool about that. Oh, yeah Oh, yeah, you're looking at Hashtag is why in the morning. Okay. I have a question about think like Psychological violence. Yeah, and Mali too. I don't know. Okay. Let's use the scenario. Yeah, I'm busy So when I'm busy, maybe I should not keep on beer, you know, you'll never want anything. Oh Oh And I imagine Especially from someone when you're not fucking down for, you know, good job and all these things can be quite traumatic So how to fix something like that? Is it just therapy? Did you put remember what I also had to fight? When you're talking about say Logical violence, it's the same as emotional violence Mm-hmm little miss Emma. Maybe I'm trying to look down upon you and I say my way see how fine you are ugly most people don't speak out also, but I think Can you in a society as an apology? psychological help Support mm-hmm. Yeah, what does that mean unique one gear nam to not trust does it have to be someone who is Amanda Schulek some as a view to psychology or Psychiatry Nila's a man in a quality and in another person because also we like free things No, it's not a must but On a job, I keep up and I'm motion to go and if I'm not a self-esteem you're already zero You can imagine someone love them total who are a pity sana, but the mom and insist on I don't know the day So I think people like that they need to be talked to Like serious counseling at least you know about your motisha if someone tells you you're ugly Just know you're a beautiful limit If someone tells you how easy just know you you can't everything is possible. Yeah Hmm. That means near Duke when Akili focused very very focused because there are people who tell you not nice things They're there and there's some of them who are very happy to tell you those things Hashtag is quiet in the morning. I how do you reach out to people maybe when you're experienced gender-based violence? Are there centers that you're affiliated with is in my NGO? Yeah, there are some of the rescue centers The new what we knew amanda go to BV one is I end up like Come up to I'm each of our kitchen. Oh, no, okay. We can go to rescue centers And also if if someone needs support legal support There is an organization called crew. I Can give you the number in case of any form of violence you can call 0 800 700 186 It's a toffee number. Yeah, it's a toffee number times zero eight hundred seven hundred one eight six Okay. Yeah, I'm a very very very practical person. So I like stories. Do you have any, you know? Adventures and my incidences in either we don't have another ground door. Yeah Hey So there's sometimes back last year See I'm only a little pure It was very traumatic So at the end of your process you could appear a kapata ball Plus HIV So it was very sad receiving the news and Unfortunately, she committed suicide Yeah So I Really don't know why people don't speak out when someone and a ghost a kind of rape Because in the key and get reports hang if you cut to the extent in it. I'm a part of all I'm your colleague. I'm getting a call see a pep That's when I hit you V. That's when I ball so I'm a Joattana Quar key to do something for community For example, my girani, but it's a couple gave it by a you will feel bad Okay, if you can see I'm not check why we don't really put number back. Oh, I think that is the reason why she committed suicide I see nothing funny about that, but again, people... There's something disturbing them. Not that I'm excusing you, but it's okay. Now, I have a question. Do you have a story in your stomach? Not just the other day, a few weeks ago. I think even last week, if I'm not wrong. Some people have a stomach problem. Some body, some school. Some in case. Some people have a stomach problem. If I pray for a class, I'm okay. But I'll come and tell you. So when the teacher asks, are you late? Are you jammed? Are you drunk? Are you drunk? Are you drunk? And the teacher says, oh, could you protect? So another teacher comes into the picture and the teacher says, break up, you fight. But also he missed out. So it ended up, one of them had to have surgery though and minor injuries. Now today I think I don't even know what happened to that one. I think he's under arrest somewhere. How do we help? Like, what's going on? We're just seeing very extreme reactions. How do you tell? I think it falls back to the parents. We may pay or not raise the child. Maybe I don't know. I don't know personally. But I don't know how to speak out. So in the end, it can digest, it can digest. And then all the day, it's in a lipooker at a time when you're at home. Because when I was at school, I'm trying to say, I don't even remember doing anything. Like one minute to a week I'm jammed. Then the next thing things have happened, I'm when you're at school. I'm really glad you're here today. Because to pick it up, I'm trying to think why there is so much unrest at school. Because just yesterday alone, when I was at school, I was in my own class, I was in my own class, I was in my own home, I was in my own home, I was at home. Like, what's going on? I understand, Okay, there are a lot of things going on. Perhaps there are psychological issues going on. Like, between the times of COVID-19, when they were at home, because we've been home for almost nine months, you know, that's a long time. And with people losing jobs, and that's parents or, you know, caregivers or breadwinners. So maybe in the house, I can pack up my things and go home. Everyone has to bring something to the table. So, in some of the places, it's very extreme, you know. For a long time, it's just where it's through. But for months and months and months, to my family, to my husband, to my sister, to my sister-in-law. Now that we're back to school, suddenly, we have to go to the university, to the teachers, to the M5 family. Can I excuse them? Because that sounds a little bit like in-discipline, but I also want to understand that you miss your home. Yeah, but there are counseling sessions, I think, should let's not have to implement. Yeah, should let's not have to implement. How are we going to get counselors? I think for every school, one of them has at least one counselor. When you at least have one or two, they open up. When I say my challenges, I want to face. You know, at the end of the day, they open up one or two in a in a in a in a in a out of stress. Yes. Yes. I don't know what to say. But before we go, remember you are watching us on Ova in the morning, the latest pathosho in this year town. You can find us on white5phone Facebook, white254channel on Twitter. We are asking you how you're feeling about all the unrest in schools currently. Did you come any exams, in a in a in a in a in a in a in a in a in a in a I don't know really what really. What do you think? Let us know. It's the hashtag why end of morning. In in a in a in a in a in a in a in a in a Yeah, because it is an imaginary issue. We are the future of tomorrow. We are the leaders of today, even. Tomorrow, today. And if we are excusing them for doing things like this, we will not be able to solve it. We will not be able to solve it, but we have still not figured out what they are doing. On the second page of how Izo Karuramada's Monyal Kwanasimali confessed and killed his family single-handedly to watch a movie. What's going on? In fact, is that not gender-based violence? It's just in reverse. That was not English, but forgive me. My point has been made. So, since I was a little girl, I have seen a lot of movies. I have seen a lot of plans. What do we do? Should we stop watching and like to find any? What do you think? I think what we have is to stop watching movies, but people should start watching positive movies. It's a negative movement. Negative thoughts, bad thoughts. It's a suicide movement. I don't know if it's going to happen, but I think it's going to happen. He has been determined, mentally unstable, so I don't know what's going on. I don't know what's going on. Guys, what is going on? Hashtag is why in the morning. I wanted another story. Violent. The things that you've experienced. At our community, you find there is a museum, and a mirror, but it's still in Pompeii, 24-7. So, in December, it's going to happen. It's not going to happen, because of COVID, there are jobs. Many people only lose jobs. They have to go back home. So, it's like, father, mother, child, home. But then, father knew breadwin, and how. So, we had to find food. At home, we were empty. My wife and I, we went out to eat, what's not happening. So, in December, there was a scene where I watched. I was crying. I ended up with my father, and my mother. She was there. She ate, and the child was gone. So, I ended up with four, at least, three days after the child was gone. My mom and I said, I don't want to go back home. I'm a rich person. I said, he's drunk. So, she went home. So, the second time, my mom was drunk, and she was gone. So, I ended up with disabled. Because of, my father, and I was drunk, and my mom was gone. But then, I said, I don't want to go back home. I just want to watch a movie. So, as you're speaking right now, the woman was gone. So, you can see the effects that GBV is causing. Permanent disability. Anyways, the device, the way we get them to go home, it's sour. Okay. Yeah. I am hearing a lot of frustration. There was a time last year, and I was scared. I didn't want to go back home. But, apparently, what I was doing was, I was going to talk to my father, and then I was going to talk to my uncle, and then I was going to go back to work, and then I was going to talk to my mother, and then I went back home. In fact, I remember being very confused because people were going to go home. They were going to go back home. They were going to go back home. But they were going to go home. I said, what kind of asira is this? Okay. When you're not too much, to see me, either, I was going to go to Asira I want to tell you that Mahishasira is free, but control your anger, it's good to always control your anger. I want to tell you that Mahishasira is free, but control your anger. I'd like to tell you that Mahishasira is free, but control your anger. It's good to always control your anger. I want to control my anger. Everyone around you, maybe you can control your anger. How am I now supposed to magically be the calm one? I think in the counseling sessions, one has to have advice about how to control your anger. Do you see it happening? Yes, if it is a person willing, she will go. What would you like to tell someone who is just in case you are breathing loudly? How do you tell that person how to cope? Maybe in a situation, how to say? It's not their fault. How is it to talk at all? How to help someone like that? First and foremost, I would like to say, it's important to control your anger. Some things are beyond our means. For example, if I'm not being controlled or highwayed, I'm not going to get a job. I'm not saying you are being controlled, but it's important to help someone like that. If someone is angry and someone is in a good mood, I'm not going to get a job. It's always good when I ask God for guidance and prove that it's sufficient to be able to control my life. But I don't know if I will be able to do that. I don't know if I will be able to train. I don't know if I will be able to do that. What happens? I am a student. I am at the mercy of the people who are taking care of me. I don't know if I will be able to do that. Maybe it's because I am with my aunt, I am with my relatives. But they are abusing me in some form or manner. If it's emotional, socio-economic or if it's physical. And they talk about how they managed to kill their life. They pay school fees, they are giving me food and all these things. Bad conditions, but they are giving me basics. So how do I cope as a student? I don't know if I will be able to do that. I think in the situation that I am in, we have rescue centres where at least when there is talk or abuse, when there is physically, sexually abuse, you can call the toll free number. It will take you three months to do that. It is a safe space to do that. It will take you two months to do that. At least it will focus on you. It will unwind. And I think it will be of much help. Is a rescue centre. Three months. Like they give you basic amenities. Food, shelter. Food, shelter. For free? Yes. Kenyans like free things. But when it becomes too good, I don't know what they want in return. Okay. Maybe it will be a toll free number. I love any other information where people can reach out and get help. Okay. The toll free number for crew is 0800-700-186. And also there is a number for Red Cross that is 1199 in case of any form of violence. Yes. Okay. And how do we find you on social media? On Instagram, I'm trufi underscore Michi, underscore on Facebook, I'm trufi Michi. Thank you for coming, trufi Michi. I like your handle. Okay. Yeah. I'd like to greet my friends, my colleagues at Hopal Red Kenya. My son, I know he's watching. Oh, nice to meet you. I'm Adrian. Hi, Adrian. And my mom and brother at home. And all the organizations that are working hard towards ending gender-based violence, you're doing an amazing job. Keep it up. Can we also thank you for doing what you're doing? Sure. Thank you. Also, you keep it up. I love you. All right. There you have it. One, a trufi Michi. I would like to bless some information on gender-based violence. I'm thinking, subsequently, it's quite connected to our topic of the day, which is why do you think that students are getting a bit unruly in school? Is it pressure from exams? Is it psychological issues? Is it anxiety? What is going on? I try to inform Facebook why to fight for a channel on Twitter. Hashtag is white in the morning. Don't go away. We are almost done.