 So I feel like self-care is thrown around a lot these days and there's so I get really frustrated about it because yes, massages and bubble baths and pedicures like yes that is all part of self-care but self-care is so much deeper than that and in today's video I want to give you guys a few things you can do to really self-care for yourself on a much deeper level and I help teach people how to find inner happiness through fitness and spirituality and today I'm going to give you five ways to give yourself self-care on a much deeper level now the most important part of self-care is loving yourself unconditionally and that's something that's really hard for us as humans to do and a lot of times even very difficult for us to comprehend even what that means I do believe that unconditionally loving yourself is a lifelong journey I'm going to give you five ways to self-care for yourself and the first one hits home for me a lot and I know it probably does to 95% of the people out there and that is being kind to your body and I don't mean by moving or working out or yoga or going for walks although that is very important as well but I mean with your words being kind to your body with words and instead of looking at all of your flaws in the mirror looking at how amazing your body is all the wonderful things it does for you without even having to think about it I mean you woke up today you're breathing you know you're you're tasting you're smelling you're hearing you're your sense of touch and the ability to connect with yourself and the material world and other people through holding hands and hugging and all those beautiful things and so often we sit there like myself and I'll look in the mirror and say well I need to lose five pounds or I need to do this or I need Botox or whatever it may be for you and we pick and nitpick ourselves apart with these harsh negative words you know this morning I woke up and one of the first thoughts that came into my head because I was I like to sleep on my side I was laying on my side and obviously if your body is relaxed on your side it's not like you're standing up and you know posing and tied and whatever it is and one of the first thoughts I thought this morning because of the way I was laying was Sarah you're so fat but immediately I corrected my statement and I said Sarah you are not fat you are beautiful just the way you are and I sat or laid there and I gave gratitude to all of the wonderful things that my body does for me and also gave myself a little pat on the back for working so hard and feeding it so healthy and keeping my body active the more kind words you give to yourself whether it has to do with your body or anything else in your life the more you're going to believe them and the better you're going to feel about yourself in general number two be proud of yourself not just for the big things but the little things too I want to give an example of a baby so when a baby begins to walk they'll take a step or a few steps and then they fall in their little tushies and everyone around them is cheering like yay they took that step or they took those three steps we're not sitting there you know ripping them apart and condemning them for falling down in their cute little butts you know so why do we do that to ourselves hmm why don't we take a few steps or one baby step ahead do we tell ourselves that's not enough you're still not good enough and you still focus on the negative and I'm very excited about this particular one today because I currently am sitting in the first property I've ever bought my tenants are currently out of town they know I'm here I came to just do some final touches in the basement and everything and I felt that I bit off a lot more than I could chew at this property and renovating I've never renovated anything before and this was a very long process because myself and my parents angels they were amazing did like 90% of the work ourselves and I have a full-time job they have full-time jobs and they live like an hour and a half away so something that probably could have been done within two maybe three weeks of us doing on our own took four about four months like three and a half four months and I was here every free moment I had doing things that I never knew how to do before and I was very overwhelmed I had a lot of spouts of doubt and regret buyers remorse why did I spend this much money on this property why am I spending these money like I calculated out it was going to take me over 10 years just to break even between my down payment and the renovations I put in and I had a lot of regret from time to time and I came in here about two weeks ago after my tenants had moved in and I looked around and I just felt I just allowed myself to feel so so proud of the work I had done of of marching through even when I had doubts and continuing to put the work in and figuring things out the way I as I went and so much gratitude for my wonderful parents and you know I look around here and I just I can't believe it so I'm just gonna show you guys the first floor here and I put in some before pictures too just so because I am proud and when you're proud you should not only tell yourself but tell everyone show everyone be proud of yourself and I am proud that I did this so I'm just gonna show you real quick it'll be like 30 so this is just the main room so this is the front door and you walk in and this is what it looks like and I was sitting absolutely love it even the stairs we painted they were carpeted we sanded those down did all that the banister was a pain in the ass I did that myself I even put in the light fixture like I we literally did everything and then it goes right here into the kitchen so all the flooring brand new everything's new literally everything and I'm just so proud and excited to show you guys this and I really look forward to you know doing the next one just a little snippet of other parts of my life I'm very involved in real estate that's what I do full-time and this is something that I wanted to do for a long time you know and I'm gonna continue to have rentals and Airbnb's and stuff like this so I just wanted to show you guys that be proud of yourself for everything if you're having a depressed day but you end up getting up and cooking yourself a meal and that's all you can bear to do that day be proud of yourself for it number three recognize that in some way no matter how big or small you are currently living of something you use to pray for of something you used to wish for or want and that could be anything it could be the way you lost it could be the relationship you're in it could be your your family it could be the group of friends you found it could be your work it could be buying a house and renovating it it could be anything but recognize that you know we're always so focused on once we achieve a goal or once we get whatever X is immediately we have that gratitude for a little bit whether it's a few hours a few days a few weeks whatever and then all of a sudden the bar is raised higher which is great it's always good to have goals but always recognize where you're at and have that presence of mind that you are currently somewhere in some part of your life where you wanted to be one year ago five years ago ten years ago and recognize that and and bask in the beauty of that and understand that things that you want right now that you have not yet achieved five years from now or ten years from now or one year from now you're gonna look back and be like this is amazing I wanted this for so long I worked hard for this or I overcame these challenges and here I am never forget to be in the present moment and to have gratitude for everything number four say no whenever you freaking want to you don't want to go to a gathering don't go you don't want to meet your co-workers out at the bar after work don't go you need some alone time in your room when your friends or your roommates or your significant other want to hang out say no and you don't have to be an asshole about it you know you can just say hey I I just need some alone time or I'm not really feeling up for it and yes sometimes you may get some pushback but that's also setting a boundary and people may not be used to you setting boundaries so when you start doing it you're gonna get some pushback but guess what over time people will stop pushing back on it you know I went to Penn State we are and I was a very big part year for the first like two two and a half years like big career love drinking a lot and around that time you know when I was about two years in college when I started getting into nutrition and fitness and those two things became very important to me and the more I dove into it and the more I learned about how terrible alcohol and and unhealthy food is for you the more I started straight away from it and my friends in college who we are all still very close today I just absolutely adore every single one of them they might not even remember but they gave me a lot of pushback for a long time and would say well you used to party or you used to be down and and it took me to consistently set my boundaries and say no and yeah I would go out was great I wouldn't you know I still was going out on the weekends and whatever it was a slow process but I got a lot of pushback at first whereas now if we meet up and we're you know at a party or going out for drinks or whatever if I choose that day not to have an alcoholic beverage they don't say a word about it it's not even a thing because they understand that my goals and what's important to me and as I set these boundaries over the years that I am different now and I'm not some huge partner anymore and that that's okay and if people aren't okay with that after time goes by they might not be who you thought they were and they might not be your friends but my friends respect me and they respect my decisions and it was just something that they had to get used to it's change so learn to say no and don't feel sorry for it the fifth and final thing I want to leave you guys with which may be the most important is to learn to listen to your body and your intuition we all have intuition and the more you get used to listening to it and the more you tap into your intuition the easier it becomes over time you know take time sit with yourself for like a minute or two minutes or five minutes and ask yourself what does my mind need right now what does my body need right now what does my soul need right now and I promise you you're gonna get some answers like right now if I ask my body what it needs I need to like crack my back my soul needed to make this video I love making YouTube videos I just I do I love it and you need to let the answer flow to you you don't want to force it just ask yourself whatever it is that you think you need and let it go it'll come to you sometimes girl I need a snack and I'm like okay what kind of snack and my body's like you know something salty or something sweeter I really need fruit and the more and more you have these intuitive conversations with yourself the easier it becomes to connect with yourself until you know yourself at a deeper level sometimes my body wants to skip the gym it's so in my routine it's so much intertwined in my daily routine to go to the gym I usually go six days a week sometimes it is seven and some days I don't want to go or like yesterday I got there and I just wasn't feeling it I was just like nah nah I don't want to be here so I just did some walking on the treadmill I did some light lifting and I got the hell out of there because that's what my body was telling you to do in the moment sometimes I just want to lay down and watch a movie so I do it all of this is so important for self care it's not just about going out and spending loads of money and shopping doing this it is about being connected with yourself it is about feeding your soul and your mind and your body in a way that it creates our bodies are so much more intelligent than what we give them credit for and I really want to remind you or to tell you to stop treating your body like it's your opponent your body is your friend your body is your teammate your body wants to work with you and once you learn just truly listen to your intuition and your soul and your mind and your body and connect the three you will be so much happier healthier more positive and just all around having more balanced and loving life I hope you guys really enjoyed this video and got a lot out of these tips comment below and let me know which one is your favorite and if you want a part two I can definitely do a part two because I feel that these things are a lot more different than what most people talk about as far as self-care on YouTube I love you guys it's so freaking much and don't forget do not forget be limitlessly yourself