 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC Survivor Live video, in this one we're going to be talking about how narcissists study you like a PhD, which we all know they do, but we're going to talk about it deeper in this one. So yeah, narcissists study you like a PhD. Every little minute detail of your life, they are studying it from the moment they first meet you. They want to know everything about you, everything about your life, even things that haven't in the past. It doesn't matter, it could have been five months ago. They still want to know about it. They have to know everything. And they really know how to home in on it. It's like it's not enough for them to know just a little bit about you. They have to know everything, even things that may be insignificant to you. To the narcissist it's very important. It matters a lot to them. And it just makes you wonder why? Why is it so important? But to them it is. It's a big deal. They do turn molehills into mountains. Things that may seem completely insignificant to you. To them it was a big deal. And that is why inevitably they will end up devaluing you. They will end up seeing you so you're nothing. And then at that point they just want to get rid of you. They don't want anything to do with you after that. You make one little mistake and then you're dead to the narcissist. You're nothing. So yeah, that's just how it is with these narcissists. From the moment they meet you you become the most important thing in their lives. And there is a reason why. The reason why is because they have no real purpose or direction. There's nothing more important in their lives. And it makes sense when you think about it. Because if they did have anything that was more important in their lives they would be focusing on that. But there is nothing else for them to focus on. Because from the moment they meet you you are the most important thing in their lives. Thanks for the donation Donovan. And that's why they study you so deeply. That's why it's so in depth. And you could argue okay if you're studying something whether it's something in school or a hobby or interest that you have. If you're actually getting somewhere with it and you're getting something out of it fair enough. You know you're actually accomplishing something there. But with these narcissists they're not getting anywhere. They just do the same thing every day. They're always hammering on the same thing. And they're not achieving nothing. A normal person would think okay if I'm investing all of my time energy and effort into this. And I'm not getting anywhere. Maybe I should just stop this and do something more productive. A normal person would come to that conclusion pretty early on. But with these narcissists they're just hammering on and on again and again. And they're not getting anywhere but they never come to that conclusion. As Albert Einstein once said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again. Which is exactly what these narcissists do. They repeat the same thing again and again and it never gets them anywhere. But they never figure out why. So that's just what they do. They study their targets and they want to know everything about you. So important to them. When really what they really need to do is take a look in the mirror because that needs more studying than anything else in their lives. They need to study that more than they study you. Because clearly they have a lot of problems. If they didn't have problems they wouldn't be doing that. But no even if you tell them that it still goes on and on. They always have to study you. They always have to know everything. And there's really nothing you can tell them. You can't get through to them. A normal person fine. You can adjust their behaviour. You can show them okay this isn't working. Try and invest your energy into this. Maybe that will work for you. Or the narcissist. No. They're so hell bent on figuring out everything that they need to know. And really the truth is they're actually studying themselves. If you look into it deep enough. When they study you from the moment they meet you. They never actually meet you anyway. Not really. It's just a reflection of them. Which is why when they first meet you they see you as perfect. Ideal. Because you're a reflection of their false self. But then when your qualities and abilities begin to reflect back on them and reveal the flaws that they have. Then it's a problem. Then they project everything they hit themselves onto you. And then actually they're studying. That's the crazy thing about it all. They spend their entire lives studying themselves. Which is the one thing they don't want to be associated with. They don't even want to know anything about themselves. But that's what they're doing. They're studying themselves through you. Anyway that's all I have to say on this topic for today. I do hope that you enjoyed the video. Thank you all for supporting our community. Helping to spread the awareness of this disorder. Just out here at the beach. Again thank you all. And I will talk to you in another video very soon.