 usually don't get upset. Matter of fact, let me just be honest with you. I'm not angry, but I'm upset-ish. A little bit disappointed, bothered, and I only get upset or angry, I should say it that way because I can get upset and disappointed, but I'm only really frustrated or bothered mostly when some people, when it's by somebody that I expect more from, right? So a perfect stranger, they can do things and make you bother you and so forth, but you move on. But with someone that's either close to you or you expect more from, that can bother you, right? Now, what are you talking about, Corey? Because I thought you don't get upset. Well, who said I don't get upset? I get upset, I get angry, I get bothered. I'm a human being. I got lungs like you have a heart. I've got veins, I've got bone, I've got hair, not as much, but I got hair, and I got fillings. Y'all gone it. And what bothers me is not something that, it's nothing that Alton did. It's nothing that, y'all gone if I can push this, but everything moving fast, it's nothing that Alton did, except for the fact that I'm still bothered, Alton just won't shave the top of his head. If he just does that, we'll be okay, but that's not why I'm bothered. That's not why I'm upset. What has me really upset? What has, what's some old ways of saying it? I've gotten my goat, gotten my dander all up. I did a video earlier today, and I usually don't even come back with the responsive video. If people just say certain things and just keep it moving. But the problem is, the problem is, the problem is when you ever said something, it was the truth, and there were some people that just, just who should know better, who don't know better, who should've got it, but shouldn't have got it, but didn't get it. I wanna play the video that I played on the other channel. So right now I've got the live going on both lives. I mean on both channels, as well as obviously on Facebook as well. But I want you to, I wanna play this. I want you to see what I'm talking about. I want you to see where I'm coming from. And first of all, I even preface everything with where I'm coming from. Where I'm coming from, and I have an idea as to, well, not I have an idea, I know why. It's not even always good to say you know why certain folks are a certain way, or why they act a certain way. That's not always good, but I know why. And I wanna tell you why in just a second. But before that, let me go to the video. I wanna play it. And the video was covering two ladies. So before, without me saying anything, let me just kind of go over, get my cursor over there, and push play and let you guys hear. Now I think these are both good looking young ladies. Now, I'm speaking from the perspective of a father, but I also want you to kind of, if you can, think about it from my perspective, but also, now, what did I say? I said I am speaking from the perspective of a father. Not so much a grandfather, even though I do have, I've got grandchildren, I've got granddaughters, one is 13 and I, and if I see her in a way that I just, I'm not feeling, I say something. I don't change just because the calendar did. You all understand what I'm saying? I'm not who I am or move because it's 2024 or 2023. Matter of fact, one of the better things that happened to me that you guys can't relate to is that I went 13 years without being on the outside. And so they say the age that you go to prison in is kind of the age you come out. So some of the same things that you left is kind of how you expect certain things. And I said before, when I left prison, I came back to, it's like the world just lost their mind. The world just lost their mind. And so now what is tasteful is without question, scandalous looking at best. There are things that we do nowadays because it's the norm, even Christians are okay with it. Christians are okay with the way that people dress and it's okay, hey, listen, it's how it is. No, it's not. As though God, that's why a lot of folks get in trouble because they think that God has changed his standards because you have, because we have. And I wanna, I wanna go through this and I'm gonna bother some people. I am going to bother some people. Some people, two people I believe unsubscribed. Let me just say this guys. And I'm, you know me, I don't try to be belligerent or mean or anything like that or whatever. But if you're gonna unsubscribe because I gave an opinion on the channel that's dedicated towards opinion responses and just, that's the whole point of that other channel is to give a biblical perspective if I give an opinion and you don't like the opinion and you're gonna tell me I don't like your opinion and then I'm subscribing. I can probably, and I'm not trying to be mean but let me help you unsubscribe. Let me help you unsubscribe because you do realize that that's the whole point of that channel. Corey, you're always giving your opinion. Let's think about that for a second. Let's just think about that for a second. Corey, you're always giving your opinion. What in the world did you click play for? What did you hit the button for? What did you think you were gonna get? Did you think you clicked the button, come to the channel and you would get your opinion? Or you would get, if I go to, let's say if I go to Alton's channel, I expect to hear Alton's view on this. If I go to, listen, if I go to Marcus Ryder's channel I expect to hear his view. If I go to Alan Parr, I expect to, whoever's channel I go to, their face on it, especially, I expect to hear their view. Well, I expect to hear the Bible. Well, if you expect to hear the Bible, you don't want anyone else's viewpoint. Well, then all you have is your Bible, right? So people do and say some silly things they really do and I don't know if they realize it or recognize it or not, but it is what it is. Now, let me go back to this. This is about two ladies who, and it bothers me. As a matter of fact, it bothers me. The one lady, the first lady, the first young lady, I've had this clip for some time. I've had it for some time and I shared it with my wife and I said, honey, this just bothers me. She was the same way because of what we're getting ready to see happen. And so I'm asking folks, you know, kind of put yourself in my position as a father, someone with, I've got four daughters. I've got two granddaughters. And so put yourself in this position and then see if you can see, especially, any of the men who are honest will recognize what I'm saying. All of you women, whether you're honest or not, I'm gonna make you see what I'm saying a little bit. So let's go back to it. And this is where we're gonna be a little bit open and honest and real. So from a young man who might be interested in looking for a future spouse, obviously we're speaking from a Christian's perspective, but also thinking about it from a perspective of these two young ladies, from a Christian's perspective, which one do you think that you would like to be as a young lady? Now, it is striking, it's amazing, and I wanna see if you catch on some of these things. So when we look at the first young lady, this lady, honest and to be honest, guys, this broke my heart, it bothered me. I can't tell you how much it bothered me. Excuse me, can I ask you for directions? Sorry to bother you, can I ask you for directions? How do I get from here to our first date? You're very beautiful. We, I'm new from California, so I'm trying to make, you know. You live over here? I live in, yeah. Now, before I push play and continue, that bothers me. That bothers me because one, she is acting foolishly. Now, let me just say this, let me just say this. This lady, I say it, she's either going, maybe going to work out, maybe she's coming from work out, maybe she's going to the park. Now that's me giving the benefit of the doubt. She could just be going to Walmart. She could just be going to some other place because let's be honest, people dress like that nowadays just to go wherever. So let's just keep it real. This particular lady, the way she's dressed, makes the man pull over. The man said, the man himself said that he pulled up and asked for her, what did he say? How to get to be your boyfriend or something like that? So someone said, well, maybe he's just looking for a friend. Yeah, he's looking for a friend. What kind of friends are you looking for? And some of you ladies just don't catch it. Some of you guys who want to, and maybe some of you guys are this way, but let's be honest. And I want to hear from the actual grown men. Yeah, directions to our first date. What is he after? Does he think it, just a fellas, just a man. Do y'all think that he was looking for a good, godly wife? Now, by the way, I understand that we don't know if this girl is a Christian or not. That's not the point. What I'm talking about is the behavior, is the action. Please pay attention to what I'm saying. Some people are bothered because I know for a fact that some folks can identify with this young lady. Some folks may be in the chats right now, dressed like this young lady. Some folks in the chat have gone through certain things and can identify, well, guess what? Guess what? Someone says, here we go, this is the point. I'm glad you're here. I'm so glad you're here. Let me push the button. Why are we judging the outside body? Why are we not judging the outside body? Friend? You mean to tell me, if you pull up beside her, you wouldn't recognize her? Come on, Mello. We're gonna grow up today, fella. We're gonna grow up. We're gonna be big boys and big girls and we're gonna see what it is. Now, I'm looking at you so you can't be very old. You can't be very old unless it's a, maybe your kid's picture, I don't know. But why are we judging her? Because we're supposed to. And I'm not talking about the world I'm talking about. This is for Christians watching this who see, because guess what? Some profess Christian ladies also act this way. A guy pulls up out of nowhere, asks for your name and your number and you give it to him like no one turns up missing today. No one, there are no ladies turning up missing today. No strangers are killing women today. No. Or let's just say, let's just say he has nothing to do with someone being hurt physically. But no guys pull up with nefarious motives. Just wanna just sleep with her and move on to the next. That didn't happen. So what should we do, mellow? Not say anything about it. The problem I have with people is that, let's go to the passage because we also wanna make this biblical, right? So let's go to the Bible because for some reason people think that we should not judge. Yes, I know that we judge the body. But let me ask you guys a question. How many of y'all by a show of hands, yes or no? Do we also make judgements about the world? Just a question. Yes or no, do Christians make judgements about the world? It should be 100% in one way, but I know it's not gonna be, but do Christians make any judgments or should Christians make any judgements about the world? I'm not saying judging the world in the sense of what Paul's saying in 1 Corinthians, where we put them in line and put them in check. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about just making a judgement. So when a guy comes up to you in a certain, you don't make judgments at all? Yes you do. You make judgments all of the time and you should. That's the reason why God gave you eyes. That's why he gave you discernment. So we make judgments. And the judgment that I'm saying is what she did is wrong. I know because I used to be something teen. I used to be in my 20s. I've lapped my 20s twice. So I know what the guy's thinking. I know what he's thinking. So should we make judgment? Yes we should, as a matter of fact. What does Jesus say? Jesus says, do not judge so that you will not be judged for in the world. Did he say don't make any judgments? Hey, I think that you smoking crack, well, I have nothing to say about that. Hey mom, dad, what do you think about? What do you think about me cutting off my body parts and becoming a different gender? I'm not gonna judge you for that son, go ahead. At some point in time we have to stop being foolish, silly, stupid. Let's just, guys, this is the problem. See, if you were on a different channel and didn't come to the place we want to be smart, it's not smart to sit and see something and just turn a blind eye to it, it's okay. No. So what Jesus is saying here, he says, for in the way that you judge, you will be judged. Okay, fine. If I judge a certain way, that's the same way I'll be judged. If I judge for, let's say, being loose, or if I judge for being mean, it's the same way I'm gonna be judged back. He says, why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, let me take the speck out of your eye and behold, there's a log in your eye. You hypocrite. What is hypocrite? Someone who makes a judgment about something who is doing the same thing, not someone who has done the same thing. I wanna get it, amen, I'm gonna say it again. A hypocrite is not somebody, is not somebody who has done something, I mean, is judging something and is, I'm sorry, a hypocrite is someone who has done something and is judging others for the same thing. That's hypocrite. Somebody who has done something in the past. You make a judgment and about something but you've done the same thing in the past. You can't say anything about that. You've done drugs and you tell the other person, don't do drugs that's bad for you. Because I used to, I'm not me, but I used to do drugs so I don't want you to do drugs. Am I judging them? Am I wrong? Mind your business. But you guys literally push the button to come here to hear about someone else's business. Help me out. Help me understand the pre. Help me understand. And oh, by the way, I'm not in her business. I don't know her name. I'm just talking about the act that she did. Now, there's a bigger picture to this. There's a bigger point to this other than just this woman, but I wanna show us how wrong we are. How we can't even deal with the facts. That's why the world is waiting. You know what the problem is? The problem is too many Christians wanna bury their head and just move on. Too many Christians wanna say, you know what? That's for them. Don't worry about it. As the brother said, mind your own business. Well, I'm not going to her and telling her anything. I'm saying this for the young ladies. Because do you know how many times someone will say, hey, Corey, this. Hey, brother, Corey, that. Hey, Corey, this. I'm worried about this. This is happening. You know how many times that happens? And someone says, what should I do? Well, before you get, because there are some ladies either here in the chats or in the past or in the future, you got four babies by seven daddies. Y'all do the math. You got all these heartaches. There's some ladies in the chats that can say, you know what, Corey? Yeah, what you said is right. I was that lady that if a guy came up and showed me any sort of interest, I was just hee hee hee, smiling. That was me. Let's just be honest. Some guys were the work. There are some guys in the chats who were that very same guy that pulled up. Had a slick little line and so forth. You know what it is? Some people just like to hear a good line. People like, I wanna see who has the smoothest line. You guys like lines. Matter of fact, what's his name? Steve Harvey. He even did a show where he was talking about some of the best pickup lines. And so he's getting applause for what he considered was the best pickup line. Walk right up to her. I said, excuse me. I said, I don't wanna interrupt your day and stop nothing you doing. But it would really make my day if you would just tell me what your name is. She said, it's Melinda. I said, Melinda, thank you. Oh, so now Melinda, her interest is peaked. Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. Hold on, wait a minute, what you asked my name for? Because guys understand something. It's not like guys haven't been around girls. It's not like guys don't see girls. Ladies, let me just be honest. It's not difficult to read a woman. It just is not. Matter of fact, here's the sad part. It's not even difficult to read a man. Women read me and they know what they're about and they think, ah, why not? Let me give it a shot anyway. Some folks just love a good line. That's why some of the corniest lines work. Love a good line. I don't care how corny, how weak or how silly the line is. Love that line. Love that little game that you ran on me. You know what I'm saying? I'm a old Mac from way back. One of the original players. From the Himalayas. Everybody knows somebody like that. And even somebody like Jerome, some woman still succumbs. Some woman still succumbs. So what we are to judge, we are to judge rightly. And we are to make estimations, especially for the benefit of a brother and sister. Let me just say this also. Let me just say this also. Now, I can say this because I'm getting a bit older. I'm getting, I'm revealing a playbook. Here's what's funny though about it. Here's what's funny about it, DK. You can reveal the playbook. You can show it to some of the ladies and they don't care. I don't know if you ever watch basketball, but Larry Bird, one of the best, I think is the best mall for whatever. He would say, he would say, I am going to run to the corner. Take two dribbles, pump fake, step back and shoot it. He wants you to know what's gonna happen and do it. Razzle dad, you're like, man, this dude is awesome. You can do that to some of these ladies a day. You can show them the playbook. This is what I'm gonna do. And then they just say it a certain way. They might, listen, this is the reason why they got, they make their voice a little bit deeper, might slow a little bit. And it's kind of almost like they're singing their words. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. And she know what's coming. And she, oh wow, whew. I might be the one. He might be the one. We might be the one. A year later, you can't stand him and you haven't seen him in three weeks. Keeps happening. But the Bible says that when you, there is something to what the Bible is saying here. Notice he says here in Job 12, wisdom is with aged men with long life is understanding. I'm not, it's not that I'm so wise or anything. All I'm really doing is just trying to help a brother or sister out who has, I've seen some things. I've done some things, been around some things. And I've been around, listen, I've been around some rotten people. And you can see what they're up to and you tell someone, have you ever tried to warn somebody something and they just get mad at you for warning them? I know, I know. Like my teenagers, my teenage daughter or my daughter's period, I tell them things. My wife tells them things. And what do they say? What do kids say? I don't care if they're 30-year-old kids or 20-year-old kids or teenage kids or what have you. They act as though you don't know a thing. And then you come back, they come back later and what do they say? What do they say? What do they say? Yeah, you was right, daddy. Listen, brother, and that's fine. Dupri, I was raised in my own business too. But at some point in time, I was also raised right to say, when you see certain stuff, you also warn your brothers and sisters. May I ask you a question, Dupri? And that's fine, you give your opinion. So we can share opinions, give it back and forth, young brother. I was told by a young gang member, you know in the 70s, we would say young blood. And he said, don't call me blood. I said, do you think I'm in the gang? I don't like to be called blood. I said, well, you might want to move to a different compound because I'm gonna say what I'm gonna say. But let me say this to you, I almost call you young blood, young brother. Let me ask you a question. If you see fire in your neighbor's basement, would you mind your own business? If you see someone stealing, no, better yet, if someone stole your car and your neighbor saw it and you asked him, would you want your neighbor to mind his own business? No, you wouldn't, you wouldn't. I'm trying to help you out, young brother. Don't be like what the world wants you to be because you will crash out like a fool. I'm not calling you a fool, but if you like them and you're supposed to represent Christ, represent Christ the right way. And so what I'm saying about this young lady, this guy pulls up on her and she just as easily, no hesitation, no, I mean, at least wait five seconds before you, let me finish the video. I want you to see her response. I want you to see her response and then you tell me why I should be bad. James, who's next? Yeah, you want to exchange tempo, is that cool? All right, all right, there you go. That bothered me. That bothered me. That bothered, you want, my name is James, what's your name? Gee, you want to strange him, exchange info? Sure, couple of things. He could have grabbed her, could have grabbed her, but he's not trying to kill her. He just want to do some things with her. And so we say no, sweetheart, don't do that. Don't do, now, listen, unless you're interested, unless you think you got a shot with her, but yeah, she was wrong for that. Then what happened? I go to another young lady. Now, I don't know anything about the, I did happen to go and finally look up this other lady because folks say, well, this lady, now I never said the lady, the second young lady was a saint. She has, from her own testimony, a little bit of a past and she talks about how she needs to start dressing more modest and this and that or what have you. The issue isn't about the two ladies, it's what they did, what they said. So let me, let me continue. Let me move up a little further. Why did that bother me so much? Couple of things. And we'll go back and we'll get it. Let's play this lady. The difference should be striking. You know what it is, my number one thing. Somebody asked, do you guys know why you're single? Now, before I continue, let me just say this also, let me keep this 100. There were some, what's the word? What's the word? What is the word? Let me think of the word to use with some of the descriptions for this lady right here. There was a little bit of hate going on. Let's just, let's keep it real. This young lady is pretty. Now, the other lady is pretty also. I think both the young ladies is pretty. I think both of them are pretty. This young lady is pretty also and maybe if she, I don't know, maybe they think that she's a little too pretty. Maybe she's a little too pretty. She's all glammed up and she's given a response. The fact of the matter is she's giving a response based on some things that she's gone through and I want y'all to listen to what she says. Listen to what she says and I think what her response is spot on. And I'll speak for myself. I know exactly why I'm single because I've never dated a guy. My God, would have approved for me. Not to say, let me clarify and say that I've actually only dated great men, good people to their core, but never somebody who's further along in their faith than I am. And I know without a shadow of a doubt that the person God has for me is like so far along in their faith than I am. And I have such a desire, like a true a yearning to be led spiritually. I just want to sit and look up at a man talking to me about theology. What in the world is wrong with what she said? Nothing. Other than nothing, what's wrong with what she said? Now, you might not believe her. That's not the point. The point isn't if you believe her if she's fake, if she's this. That ain't the, let me drink my coffee. My coffee's coming me down. Question, question. Whether you believe her or not, which approach would you rather your daughter, your granddaughter or you ladies, which approach would you rather have taken or said? You can't be a Christian and think the first lady was okay, the second lady was wrong. I'm not talking about the motives. I don't know if the first lady was a Christian or not. I don't know if she was going running. I don't know if she's going to the track me. I don't know if she was going to the, I don't know where she was going or the second lady, she was lying. I'm talking about what came out of her mouth. That's what, that's the approach you have to have. Whether she's all glammed up, dolled up, looks pretty. She's beautiful. I hope she's that way on the inside. I hope she's that way on the inside. At least she's saying, now she's talking about that she's dated some people. So she's had some bad issues. Fine, fine. She's had some, slow to chat down, okay. She's had some things that didn't work out the way she wanted to. Okay, fine. But the problem is we got Christians that were bothered at the fact that she said that. And y'all saying, well, we need to question their motives. I'm not questioning either their motives. I'm speaking about what they did, what they said. Now, where the problem comes in, not even so much that. Let's go to the chat. Let me put the comments on. Let me go from newest, I don't know if some of the newest ones were, here's one of them. Look at this one. Matter of fact, let me do this. Let me put a picture of me to the, where is it at? Let me put a picture of me to the side. For some reason, I don't know why they do this. This is really, really, really annoying when they do this thing where I'm favored, 60,000. Now let me go ahead and delete this. Where is it at? Oh, you know what? I can't delete from here. I have to go to the other side and delete it. Let's see. Honestly, okay. All right. Now, let me make this bigger. Matter of fact, hold on. Let me click on and make it a little bit bigger. Let me slide it over. Oh, hold on. I'm doing, can I make this? Okay, yeah, I can. All right. Let me move me out. Let me take me off. She says, honestly, this is Ashley. I think it's Ashley. Honestly, that pickup line was cute and he didn't say, hey, Shorty, let me get in the car. He didn't have to. He didn't have to. Let me put my picture somewhere else. I wanna, we might be here for a minute. We might be here for a minute. This is bothersome. That's not cute. We shouldn't be judging any of these gentlemen. Did I judge any of them? Did I say, did I say the first lady's going to hell, the first lady's going to hell, the second lady's going to hell? I didn't say that. I did not say that. You say this like a lot of men and women can't say all the right things and then turn out to be complete opposites. I don't know. I don't know what to say. Okay. It wasn't like her butt cheeks were hanging out, but what was he looking at? He was looking at him. He was looking at him. I disagree with Corey's observation. Do we know if the first young lady's a believer? It doesn't matter if she's a believer. I didn't care if she's a believer. I'm speaking about her actions. Ladies and gentlemen, do y'all see what I'm getting at? We do not know how the second one would act in the same situation. We know how the first lady acted in the first situation. That's all I'm talking about. And we know what the second lady said. Now, let's give them both the benefit of the doubt that they meant what they did and what they said. If they both meant what they did and what they said, then who's in danger? Ladies and gentlemen, if they both meant what they said and did, who's in danger? Well, the second lady is at risk. I mean, the first lady's at risk. Not the second lady. Let's go back. There's a couple of them. Um, hold on. I can't read the long one. Corey, look deeper at the first example of the woman. The woman didn't even seem desperate in one... Hold on, if I can move it there. In one sense, that was a great pickup line, by the way. If you think that was a great pickup line, if you think that was a great pickup line, I've got a great pickup line for you. You know what I'm saying? I'm a old Mac from way back. One of the original players from the Himalayas. Yeah, that was a line for you. If you think that was a good line, God bless you. The so-called Christian woman needs to stop with all that makeup. So she shouldn't look good. She shouldn't look nice. Okay, Corey, I think you're being a bit judgmental. Some women take numbers because they don't want to offend a man or because it keeps them safe by not getting a man upset. No, what you don't do, if that's what her thought is, you don't go up to the car. You don't do that. That's what you don't do. Dressing modest don't mean nothing. Lot dressed modestly. Okay, fine. People that dress modestly can still fornicate. Okay, fine. Is that anything wrong with the dressing modestly? It's a command from God. And it goes on and on. Now, there are a lot of good comments. This guy said, this is a, oh, there's mellow. This was a hard miss, Corey. As I do agree with how desirable the second woman could be, why are we comparing somebody seemingly outside the kingdom with, we're not comparing the person. We don't know if either one of them, they might, both might be safe. The point is, it's about, yeah, why was the guy recording in the first way? I mean, the guy was recording him. That was pretty creepy. Corey, I know you're better than this. I get it. Some black people hate to look at themselves in the mirror and see that they're still black. You don't have to bring a sister down and make it appear that that's how they are. Huh? Okay, okay. I'll let you guys go back in your leisure and go back and look at those comments, but what? How was I bringing them down? Now, why is this important? Here is why all of this is important. As a matter of fact, this actually even transcends even more than the whole relationship stuff. Somebody can give you some advice. Somebody can tell you something to help you, either biblically or just from the world. Let's go to the Bible. Let's see what the Bible has to say. Proverbs says, the tongue of the wise makes knowledge acceptable, but the mouth of the fools spout folly. Let's go to number four. A soothing tongue is a tree of life. Now, I want you to listen to what he says. A soothing tongue is a tree of life, but perversion in it crushes the spirit. In other words, you say something sweet, but there's something nefarious, something perverted within it. That's what's going to crush in that person. Now, ladies, let me just, this is for the ladies. Let me just, this is just for the ladies. How many of you ladies have ever had a guy say something real sweet to you? Really, really sweet to you, but the latter part, number four, but perversion in it crushes the spirit. How many of you ladies had someone say something real sweet, but there was perversion in it that ultimately led to a lot of heartache? That's the story of a lot of ladies because ladies can be, let's just be honest, ladies can be more trusting in some cases than men. Now, there's other areas where men are more vulnerable and in some areas, women are. This is how God made us to be. And so a guy says, hey, sweetie, hey, this, hey, that, and you like it, and this and that and what have you, and you think he's nice. Matter of fact, he had a better game, a better rap than this guy. Matter of fact, let me just kind of just tell you the truth. Let me just, how you speak to a woman says something, how you speak to that person says a lot about you and him. How you speak to this person says a lot about you and him. What do you mean, Corey? Well, first of all, if I'm the kind of person who's gonna go up and just give that little cheap little line, that says a lot about me, but it says even more about you that you took it. Me, I never use a pickup line on a woman that I was interested in. I never use a pickup line on a woman that I thought something special about. If I saw something in the person, I'd never use a pickup line. No, because I wanted you to kind of see me. Well, but she's just walking by real fast. Okay, you know, I can say hello. How you doing? If I never see her again, I never see it. Because guess what, I'm not that desperate either to where if I never see this woman again, then my life is all messed up. Even if I were single. Now, every stupid girl, let me say this for it, let me say, I want you to hear me. Every stupid girl, every girl that I thought little love, I used a pickup line. Every girl that I thought was stupid, loose, easy, I thought little love, I used a pickup line. Can't even remember what the pickup lines were. They were really a dime a dozen. Really a dime a dozen. And if she goes for that, because here's my thought, same thing that was thinking, that was the head of that man that pulled up. If she'll go for that, what else would she go for? If she goes for that, what else? But you from the 70s. Okay, Jonathan, somebody helped Jonathan out because Jonathan thinks the game has changed. It hadn't changed. There's nothing different. The only thing that's changed is the calendar. 2024 is no different than 1974, 1984, 1994. How do you think we picked up women? Hey, Marsha, would you like to go to the sock hop? To the soda pop social? No, no, sorry, that didn't change anything. That doesn't change anything. What I'm trying to, and so here's the funny thing, the same lady that was succumbed to that will be the same woman coming back asking or wanting for someone to give her some advice with her relationships, wondering why she didn't have a husband. Because what I wanted to ask, I wanted to ask all the folks that disagreed, I wanted to ask, are you married? I wanted to ask how many of them are married? The problem is we don't have enough folks that actually like to listen to someone who's been somewhere they haven't. I'm not trying to say that I've been everywhere and I know it, no, no, no, no, no. I'm just simply giving just a little advice, a little wisdom from where I've come from from what I've seen. He who neglects wisdom or discipline despises himself, but he who listens to the proof acquires understanding. Enough folks don't care about that. You can tell someone something over. We do this biblically and I'm going somewhere with this because I said it's not just about this, but we do this biblically. You tell somebody something about what you know what you've been through and they still won't listen because folks are so caught up in their feelings, how they think about things, how they want things to be. And so what does it take? It takes you to get your behind beat. It takes you to get crushed. It takes you to get beat down before you finally get to give you a thick head that you know what I should have listened. See, I've got one piece of advice for everybody that's younger than me. One piece of advice. I got one piece of advice for everyone that's younger than me. Now, y'all tell me if you want it, but I've got one piece of advice for everybody that's younger than me. Now, by the way, by the way, by the way, don't get mad if what I'm saying is hitting home. Am I your enemy as Paul says because I told you the truth? So, but I got one piece of advice. I'd love to tell you only if you want me to. I got one piece of advice for everyone that's younger than me. Matter of fact, I think even the folks that are older than me. There's some folks in here that's older than me. Everybody in here in the spring chicken. But I got one piece of advice for every, really for everybody. Thank you, December. Thank you, A. Renee. Here is my one piece of advice. And ladies and gentlemen, I promise you, especially ladies, no, especially gentlemen, listen, if you are male or female, everyone else don't listen, but if you're male or female, listen to this. This is gonna help you out. I promise you, it's one word. The one piece of advice is listen. That's it. Listen, listen, listen. That doesn't mean you have to agree, but listen, ponder it. Think about it for a second. Just listen. Let me help you out. Some of the most hardheaded people in the world, some of the most undisciplined people in the world are in prison. I'm talking about, they won't listen to anything. You tell them it's raining, it's pouring down outside. You can't tell me nothing. I don't need you to tell me nothing. Who are you? But do you know what happens for them? Do you know how we get the young bucks to listen? We call them the young bucks. How we get them to listen? Before I tell you, let me tell you this story about how they treat elephants, young bull elephants who are too rowdy, who are too dangerous. What they do is they go and grab an old bull elephant and bring him in. Bring the old elephant alongside the young uncontrollable elephant and what does he do? The young elephant gets in line. So even with these hardheaded young dudes, you pull upside, let me talk to a young brother and they'll say, oh gee, school, whatever, and they listen. Because in prison, and it's amazing that they had this figured out in the world, doesn't, what you don't do in prisons, you don't disrespect the old man. Nope. Now everything is racially segregated in prison just in case a riot breaks out. But if a black guy were to disrespect an old man who's Hispanic or a white guy, oh, that's a problem. You know who's gonna discipline that black guy? The other blacks. Same thing with Hispanics. If that young Hispanic kid disrespects an older black man, the old Hispanics are gonna deal with him. Now we don't do that. Why? Because everyone understands that the only way that you can make sure there's some order and some control is if the folks that wanna crash out and got the most testosterone and so forth, there's gotta be somebody they're gonna listen to. Or else they'll mess the whole prison, they'll mess everything up. Even today though, on the outside of prison, we don't have that. Young folk hate to listen to older people. Hey, let me ask y'all a question. How many of you guys ever been to a church where they had a church mother or church mothers? Y'all remember church, bring them back. Now some churches still have church mothers. Unfortunately, some church mothers are kinda a little quiet now because somebody, somebody, somebody has said the wrong thing to them or someone got to the church mother and said you need to mind your own business. Yeah, but church mothers do something for you. Now listen, ladies, y'all know if you come in there with the wrong kinda clothes on, mother so and so is gonna, she may do it one or two ways. She may pull you to the side privately or she might just say a little louder. She might, and you don't want that. And what are you gonna do? I think, listen, I think every church just need to have a church mother. Same thing, Wendy said they got on my nerve. Mine too. But you know what it was about them? Even if they were being busy about it, they loved you. They loved you. And then I tell you that, hey, I was pure as a driven snow. Matter of fact, I was the one dirtying up the snow and I'm telling you from experience. There's this one, I wanna play, maybe y'all heard of her. I met her once. I met her once a long time ago. She wasn't a church mother at the time. She wasn't, or maybe she was. Maybe she was, I'm not sure if she was or what. She might've been. No, I don't know. This was 30 years ago, 30 years ago. Anybody know who Mother Kelly is? She's in Church of God in Christ. Mother Kelly, I should tell you what, now, I should tell you how it is and doesn't care. Mother Kelly don't care what you think. Anybody, does anybody, anybody ever heard of her? Let me just play a clip from her. She's talking to this young man and what she says to this young man. Listen, beautiful. Son, God loves you. You understand? I don't know what y'all style is, but I comb your hair so much you wouldn't know what hits you with your nappy-headed self, with your good-looking self, with your pretty, beautiful mouth, good-looking nose and pretty slanted eyes. Negro, oh, I'm sorry. Boy, you're too good-looking to let the devil have you. He can't have you. Does that resonate with any of you? Anybody remember that kind of stuff? And Mother Kelly's all up on them. She, and she don't mean anything bad. She means nothing but good and she is not trying to dress her words a certain way. She's not trying to say it in a way that's kind of politically correct, no. As a matter of fact, if she had a switch, if she had a belt, she'd use it. And what, yeah, yeah, Brian, what do you say after she said all that? What do you say? Yes, ma'am. Yes, yes, ma'am. Yes, ma'am. We don't do that anymore. Yes, sir, yes, ma'am. My father, I never forget my father said, you better say sir and ma'am at the end of everything you say. For what? Bam, I never said for what again. Yes, sir? No sir, yes ma'am, no ma'am. And so we don't like discipline. We don't like hearing someone else who's been there or maybe they don't know, but you don't even want to give them the benefit of the day, the benefit of the time to let them just think about what they said. You know what, maybe what she said, maybe what he said resonates. I'm not feeling it, but maybe, maybe. Huh, I said I was going somewhere with this. I said I was gonna make a point out of this, a biblical point. I told you guys that most of the comments that I respond to are negative comments. Most of the comments that I respond to are someone they disagree. Now, if I tell you this, I'm telling you the truth. About 70, 60, 70% of the comments that disagree with me that I respond to are not scriptural, they're emotional. They feel a certain way. I don't think that's right. They use their rationale. Well, let me just say it clear as I could, I don't care about your rationale, I don't care what you feel. Who cares about what you think, what you feel? Who cares? You and the devil. Because in heaven, no one is moving base on what you feel. Let's just change something because Mary Sue or Bobby Joe over here feels something about it, no. Trying to help you out. And then I'm saying let's stay in the book and what do you come back with? I think, I feel. One of the worst things you can say, and we do this all the time, especially in the Bible setting, what do you think, how do you feel? What do you think about this? And then you come back, well, to me, to me this is, would you say, to me I feel. Okay, well fine, I feel, I feel. Would you say, my flesh didn't like your comments about the ladies, but I sat and thought about it and I honestly looked back and realized you was the A, A man. And you know what, the reason why I could say that is because I was the guy pulling up, I know of some ladies who was that other guy. I'm the other lady. And I don't think, here's what should never happen. But it does. Christians get the word, get the wisdom, get spoken to, get taught and then still fall. Why do you think that you can tell a Christian something? They know it to be true and then still fall. Does anybody have any idea why that happens? And I got your comments, I wanna hear you. Why do people, Christians, can know something is true? Can be told, as a matter of fact, told it over and over again about how to live, about whatever. And then still succumb to it. Okay, you guys are saying pride, but something even more villainous than pride. There you go, Orange. There you go, rebellion. Rebellion. Anybody have any little kids? Stubborn hearts, amen, Jessica. Anybody have any little kids? I mean, like three, no, you know what? No, not even three, one. Because my one-year-old grandson that way. One, hard-headed, when they're two, when they're three, when they're four, when they're 10, when they're 13, when they're my daughter, 17, when they're 20. Does anybody know, does anybody have any kids, those ages? Huh, I don't want you telling me anything. I can do it myself, right? People don't like to be told what to do. People don't like to be told that they're wrong. People, even if they're not told they're wrong, don't like the idea of being wrong. And so you bulk. Now, I don't care if you bulk and you say, hey, wait a second, and you reason rationalize this thing. I think you're wrong because of, oh, wait, we're fine, we're fine, we're fine. Let's talk about it. But something I don't even want, I don't want to hear you. Teenage starts rolling in his or her eyes, looking the other way, body language has changed. As though you don't know what, they're not doing anything different. They just got more technology at their hands. It's sad when adults do that, though. When adult Christians, when adult Christians can hear something, see something and I don't care, I'm like, wow, okay. So what I do, all right, fine, listen, go ahead. Go ahead. When you fall, when you bust your kneecaps, when you bust all your teeth, scrape all your skin off yourself, we'll be right here. And okay, we might laugh at you. We might laugh at you. Maybe not, maybe, maybe not. Dependent on how bad you get knocked out. Dependent on how bad you get knocked out, you want to be a crash dummy, fine. Go ahead, we'll be here. We'll be here to comfort you and bring you back in. Why? Because the Bible tells us to. If anyone is overtaken by a sin or a transgression, then those who are spiritual, if you're spiritual, restore them. We do so with gentleness and meekness. But we still want you to learn your lesson. Somebody said, well, Corey, how can you, Corey, wait a second. All this stuff that you've been through that you've done, you mean telling me you got the right, the audacity to be judgment? I'm not being judgment, I'm judging. I'm making a judgment. So you mean tell me, I can't say it. So if you ever sinned or if you ever gone to prison, you can't ever say anything to anybody, huh? Okay. Yeah, well, listen, my response would be, if you don't want to hear what I have to say, stop clicking play. If I don't want to hear what you got to say, I wouldn't push play, but I'm gonna try to be biblical. And when I say something, I just don't think, I just don't think, I just don't think, I just don't think, okay, well, fine, fine. I told you guys, and I wonder, let me ask a question, this is just me wondering, this is me wondering, I got to ask this question. I got to ask this question. I thought about this just now. I forget how long ago it was, Lisa, you guys, maybe you can help me out. But remember when I said, somebody was asking about how a person, I think I don't know if it was a woman or a man, it was doing a live stream, it was doing a chat. And I said, someone asked, what should a person do? A man do or a woman do if they want to get a spouse? And I gave some advice. And I said, y'all, this is awesome advice. This is killer advice. Do y'all remember that? What should I do if I'm single, I don't want to stay single? What should I do? And man, listen, you guys should have took that, bottled it up and sold it on YouTube. Cause it's, and that's not my advice, but it's perfect advice, it's perfect advice. It was, if I do say so myself, dawg, wonderful, you know what the advice was? What should I do? What should I do if I'm single and I don't want to be single? I want to get married. My wonderful, awesome, biblical advice. Nothing. Don't do anything. Don't do anything, just do God. Do God. Pray, get closer to God, serve, be present. Act as though God knows you're single cause he does. Act as though God knows what you want cause he does. And act as though God can be your matchmaker cause he can be, he should be. And then do everything cause as you get closer to God, it's amazing the closer you get to God, the more you look like God. The closer you, male or female, it works both ways. The closer you get to God, the more you look like God. You want to stand out? I can promise you, wearing tight clothing doesn't make you stand out. I can't do it cause I don't have, I don't have the equipment, but unbutton your shirt and letting stuff show, letting the little bumps right there show, the little, as we little boys, if a woman had like the little lines right there, the cleavage, whatever it is, the little line. Oh man, fellas, do y'all remember some of you guys aren't old enough, but you know what, let me ask Kyle. Kyle, I'm not picking on you, but listen, you're not a spring chicken. I'm looking at you, you're not a spring chicken. Marlin, what's going on Marlin? Marlin's probably too young for this. Let me search, let me search and see who else do I know, an older man, someone who's not a spring chicken. Alton, Alton's still kind of, Alton's young. See if you don't know anything about this, what I'm gonna tell you. Jeff is probably still too young. Where are the old men at? I need some old men, I need some men that are in their fifties. Who, help me out guys, I'm trying to get there. I'm trying to get there, I need some old men, okay, Arsenal will know this, you'll know this. We didn't need, now we had stuff like Bill, you'll know this, we had stuff like the little pornographic magazines, but we didn't need it. We did not need it, tell me from right or wrong. We didn't need it. Kenny, you're a little too young. You're 47, you're still a young pup. Jonathan, you might know. Lorenzo, Leonzo, he's 50, okay fine. Spider monkey said 22, no, kick rock with your 22 year old son. But we didn't need that stuff. All we need, cause we were just a little, you know, sexually amped up young fellas, what did we need? We didn't need Playboy or Hustler in these other little magazines. No, all we needed to do was go over to grandma's house, Obama's house, and we were good to go. There you go Bruce. So all we needed, Sears catalog, maybe JCPen, how about this, Service Merchandise? Yeah, and so we knew which page to turn to. Go there and you see the women. Yeah, yeah, he said I'm 43, you're still young. You're still young Marlon. Yeah, National Geographical, that was it too. I don't know why they allowed that in school. I don't know why they allowed that in school. They would show these folks over in certain parts of the country, in certain parts of the world and it's like, wow, look at that guys. But if we didn't have that, we had JCPen, Sears, Service Merchandise, all those little catalogs and just look now, page 43 of Jet, we had that too. But if she had on, we go to the little bra section and we look, cause she had the little lines there. Had the little lines there and that's all the guys needed. So today, here it is, here it is. You haven't heard Service Merchandise in a long time, have you? Here it is, 2024. 2024, you unbutton that shirt. Do you think those guys still don't notice this? Ladies, do you think the guys still don't notice that? Do you think he still don't know what, when you got your shirts or your pants a little too tight? You don't think he can, he's looking at your behind the shape of your body? You don't think that still moves him? And so you think that if you dress the same way, you're gonna get his attention. He'll notice you, he'll notice you, but you won't stand out. He will notice you, but you won't say, what do you mean Corey, he'll notice, I'll tell you what I mean. All you do is look like everybody else and you have not separated yourself from the, how do I say this, from the real loose women, from the ladies that look kind of skis-ish, fast as they used to say, hot to trot, you look just like them, you look just like them. And you get mad because you look like them and some stupid man comes to you and treats you like them. Well, how else is he supposed to treat you, huh? How else is he, now this is the time where, Corey, you always getting on the men, well, I'm getting on the women ladies now, how else is he supposed to treat you? He don't know anything, he's dumb, he's dumb. So he sees you, you look like all of these other ladies, flusy, there you go, thank you, Sierra. What are some other words that are not too bad that we can use they say, flusy, fast, woman now aren't loose, you look like her. So how's he gonna treat you? He's gonna treat you like you look. However, ladies, you get closer to God, that third button, now the second button, the first button, they're all buttoned up. It's extra tight, you went from wearing a small to a medium to it's just relaxed fitting. No, Sheila, I don't think chicken head is what we used to say in the church. But you look nice, you don't look like you're easy, thank you, Katrina. You don't like you're advertising anything. Let me tell you, ladies, something. That man notices that, you're closer to God and you look it. Now, does that mean because you have on modest clothing that you're not a lady of the night or lady of the day or lady of whatever, that doesn't mean that at all. But how he's gonna look at you is gonna be vastly different. How he's gonna approach you is different. Now, how you respond to him also is gonna determine how he's gonna keep responding to you. They used to call it, the girls, and most of them are married, 50 years married, 60 years. You go and ask a couple, go and ask an old couple that's been married for, I don't know, 50 years, 60 years, you know, the ones that you wanna be like. Go ask that man about that wife of his. You hear something that we used to hear back when we were little kids, we don't hear it anymore. We don't, I'm gonna give you guys a term as you don't hear it anymore. I'm gonna give you a term as you don't hear anymore, but this was a common term with some of these marriages that are 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years long. Ask him about, ask that man about his wife and he'll say she was playing hard to get. She's playing hard to get. I couldn't, I didn't get anywhere with her the first day or the first week or the first month. She acted like I didn't like her, she didn't like me because she wasn't loose. She wasn't that way. Now, all you gotta do is pull up, hey baby, listen, I'm lost. Can you give me directions to our first date? Tony said, this is boring. Well, Tony, listen, this is helping somebody or it should help somebody. Are you married, Tony? Are you married? So, best of truth. If you, again, if you wanna be married and you're not, all you gotta do is get closer to God. When you get closer to God, you'll start looking like you're getting closer to God. You'll start speaking like you're getting closer to God. You'll start acting like you're getting closer to God. And then what happens? The people who come around you end up dressing that way, talking that way, thinking that way. And when they don't, that turns you off. And so the first thing that's gonna naturally be eliminated from you cause spying on a mate ain't an issue. It's spying on the right one. So all the knuckleheads are naturally eliminated. Bakuri, it's a small pool and it's crowded out there. No, it's not, not with the right men, not with the right women. So if you do what you're supposed to do, then the other one billion folks that are in competition with you, they'll move away. And you got just you looking godly and all these other men that are looking godly, wanting somebody godly and they see you. I told you guys, the easiest way, but ladies, I'm giving you gain guys, but ladies, let me help you out. Guy is the best way that you can find a woman in church is just to go to church. If you go to church, one, they'll outnumber you to, hey, he keeps coming to church. Cause sometimes, you know, we do. We think that church attendance means you're really holy, you're really godly. Yeah, he just, you know, he goes to church. He might not even own a Bible. I didn't know how to read the Bible. I didn't know how to read, but he's a keeper cause he's shown up in church. But ladies, you don't just take him just cause he goes to church. You just noticed that. And then you don't. And then, don't you approach him. That's what you don't do. Keep your distance, give a church hug or dap him up. That's what you do. I'm trying to help you out. I'm trying to keep you from having three baby daddies with these four kids. That's what I'm trying to do. Cause that's a term now. Baby daddies and baby mamas. That was never a term in the past, but it is now. But again, what's got me upset? It doesn't have me upset because I expect more from Christians. It bothers me when Christians see something godly don't act like that. When you get some godly wisdom or some advice and you add, no, no, I think you're being judgmental. That's because you're 12 years old either physically or mentally. You can't handle when someone tells you the truth. You can't handle when someone says, Hey, look, your skirt's too short. Hey, you acting like a fool. You can't handle. You get mad when someone tells you shut up. Christians shouldn't say shut up, says who? You get mad when someone gives you the truth and now that you're in them because they done bowled down your lane and now you're bothered because what they said, you can relate to and you don't want anyone to tell you the truth. So you'd be like what Richard Price said, tell me some more of my old lies to help me stop thinking about the truth. This is how I feel and we'll go ahead and leave. If you are trying to get somewhere there's a couple of things you need to know. This relates to a relationship with someone to marry the person. This relates to your finances. This relates to your physical health. This relates to your mental health. This relates to your character. This relates to your biblical understanding. This relates to every person in your life. This relates to every facet of your life. I promise you it works. Here it is and you all can identify with this. Have you all, have any of you ever been at a mall? Have any of you ever been at, I don't know, the fair? Some place where there's a lot of space, a lot of people, a lot of booze, a lot of different areas, buildings, what have you and you're trying to find where you wanna go. You know where you wanna go, but you don't know how to get there. So what do you do? You stop and go and find the nearest directory. When you go and find that directory, what are you gonna look for? You're gonna look for a couple of things. One, you're gonna look and find out where is the place I'm going to. I'm trying to go to this place, oh, there it is, it's over there in the corner. That's good enough. Now you know where you have to go. But hold on, there's a problem still. Just because you know where you have to go doesn't mean that you know how to get there. How do you know how to get there? Well, here it is. And this is the problem that most human beings, male or female, have this in common. After you find out where you have to go, on that marquee, on that directory, on that map, there's gonna be something else you're gonna look for. It's gonna be either a X, a square or a circle and it's gonna say what? You are here. This tells you where you are. It doesn't care about your feelings. It doesn't care about your heart. Doesn't care about your intent. It doesn't care about the fact that you thought that you were closer, but you're not. You can be disappointed. You can be bothered with the fact of where you are. But figuring out and understanding where you are takes a whole lot of maturity. Why? Because if you are a right and no good person, if you are bad with your finances, if you are a liar, thief, a crook, whatever, if you are a little too loose sexually, if you are a little too boring, if you're a little too this, what it is is it tells you exactly where you are. I am 50 years old, $10,000 in debt and nothing to my name. That's bad. But guess what? You need to know. Go to the doctor. A lot of men don't wanna go to the doctor because they don't want the doctor to tell them that here's where you are. Then when they end up going, they got stage three, stage four cancer. But it had you been going cause you didn't wanna know where you were. That's how life is. If you don't care to know where you are, but all you ever think about is where you're going, you'll never get there. Cause you don't know which direction to take. But the first thing you gotta do is be honest with yourself. I don't know the Bible like I need to. I don't know myself like I need to. I don't recognize me like I should. Everyone else can see me for where I am, but the reason why I can't get to where I'm trying to get to is I think I'm better off than where I am. I think I'm further along than where I am and you're not. And you get mad when everyone says something about you. Let me just give you some cold hard facts here. Ask people, or something that you can do. Ask somebody, ask three people about you. Ask a person that doesn't like you very well. Ask a person in your family and ask a person who I'm not sure about the person. Ask them. Ask them what they think. What are they gonna do? They're gonna give you all kinds of things. But guess what? When you start seeing those things match up the person who really doesn't like me, ask them stuff to say about me, but it's just like the same thing that people who do love me and don't know me also say. Why? Cause it puts you, it kind of coordinates your, it puts your coordinates right in the same spot. And what happens is you see, well, this is who I am. I'm a loud mouth bomb. I'm not that smart. I'm not that cute. I'm not that healthy. I'm not that godly. I don't sing that well. All those things. Now, the issue is, do I take that information where I am? And then use it with that map to see where I'm going. Now I can get there. See, I don't care that this is what I did. And I said, it's all these guys in prison. Some took it, some didn't. The guys that rocked with me, that hung with me, that stayed with me, I can promise you, they got construction companies. One guy's got a pool business or starting a pool business. Another guy is, I've got his own AC business and own restaurant. I've got all the folks that have the same mentality, because guess what we did? I said, guys, you would be a fool to fall in your back and not learn. We all learn from our mistakes. Whether you, you don't have to go to prison to learn from your mistakes, but recognize where you are. If you a liar, own it. If you a thief, own it. If you a pervert, own it. Cause you wanna get past that. Can't diagnose something if I don't know where you are. So now what do you do? Now you know where you are or where you're going. Now you start taking plans, taking steps to get to where you're going. So if you want to be somebody in life, figure out where you're going and what you are. And then what did I say to do? Listen. Even if you don't agree with it, listen. Listen to what's been told to you. Listen to what's been told about you. Listen to someone who's been where you're going. Listen to someone who's fallen 10 times over the same pothole that you have. And you're gonna be okay. Ladies and gentlemen, there are no excuses for Christian to have the word, have the Holy Spirit, and to have godly brothers and sisters, especially those that are older, that are pouring into you, as there's no excuses for you to fail. The only reason why you'll fail is cause you're selfish, you're hardheaded, cause you want to, and you haven't got all the sin out of you yet. But I promise you, as your daddy would tell you, or your granddaddy or somebody's daddy, you're gonna learn the easy way or the hard way, but you're gonna learn.