 Many times, opening up to the wrong people has backfired on us. We have found ourselves emotional victims having our weaknesses gossiped about by people who wish had nothing in common with. How do we keep this from happening? Keeping some things to yourself is a great place to start. In this video, I'm going to show you 9 things you should keep to yourself. 1. Your Secrets It is pretty obvious really. Don't tell people your secrets. You can never be too sure about anyone. When your therapist is human and sometimes telling them you masturbated to their pictures will not go down well with your system. Some things are best left unknown. The beautiful thing about secrets is that a long time, unless there is something that triggers your memory, you may forget the secret completely. You also need to forgive yourself for the things you have done too. When you hold on to the fullness of your weakness, sometimes you can't see a strength to hold on to. It can cross your confidence like a pack of cards. No one can truly excel without confidence. 2. Other People's Secrets The same way your own secrets are delicate and personal, other people's secrets are too. Do not reveal other people's secrets to your friends. It is unfair. Keep it to yourself. If you see your neighbor's wife cheating with another man, keep it to yourself. If you see your neighbor's son sneaking after dark, keep it to yourself. It is their business, not yours. If they want to tell anyone, let them. It is not your secret to tell, unless it is a crime. You are under no obligation to devote what you have seen or been told by someone else. When you keep secrets well, people will trust you a lot. It makes you a reliable and friendly person that people can talk to and confide in. Just don't get too involved in people's secrets. Some of them can be dangerous. But girlfriend of a dangerous dog who tells you a secret can put you in real danger. You don't want that kind of heat in your life. While you don't keep other people's secrets, they are going to detest you as a person. They will also avoid you like a plague. It is cool to give away something that someone gives you in complete confidence. 3. Your goals Your goals are another thing you should keep to yourself. You have a long way to go and can make mistakes and adjust them. If you tell people sometimes, you can appear confused. To avoid giving off that type of impression that you are confused with what you want to do. Keep your key goals a secret. Sometimes enemies who know them can find ways of frustrating you. It is best you never gave them what to use in the first place. Don't talk about it. Work on it silently. Even when someone sees you working on it. If asked, say it's personal stuff. Everyone has personal stuff they are working on every now and then, right? Take a break when you are tired. You are no good to anyone exhausted. When you are arrested, pick up the pace. 4. Family problems Never discuss your family problems outside your home. Remember the family squirrel over a lot of petty things, but they all love each other. If you tell outsiders about the quarrel happening at a point in time, they will form an impression of your family. Naturally, you never go back to correct the impression and it stays. Don't be surprised if someone sees your parents tomorrow and stare at them. Don't let outsiders control the narratives of your family. Tell them only the good stuff. The happy holidays. Your mother's cooking. The type of stuff you're sure they would probably tell you to if you asked. Families may say really hurtful things while fighting, but they really don't mean it. Anger can make you say foolish things too. Don't judge a family by a specific moment of weakness. To judge a family, you have to look at the entire family memories to be in person. 5. Your account balance Your finances are very personal. Not even your best friend should know your net worth exactly. Know that how much you earn is a different matter altogether. You may discuss that with friends, but how much you have saved, how much you have an investment and how much you receive in dividends quarterly should be private information. The reason is simple. It is none of their business. They are not the tax officials and your friends knowing if you're doing way better than them can become envious or worse start expecting you to pay for things because you're richer than them. Keep your ATM pin a secret as well. Instead of giving your girlfriend your ATM, transfer money to her. If she asks whether you don't trust her, smile about it. Never ever give anyone your credit card. Someone can literally use it up because it's not theirs. People can be really reckless with spending. To prevent someone from giving you a heart attack over the weekend, keep both your credit card and your ATM to yourself. Don't also tell anyone that you're buying a new house or a new car. The reason beyond security again is that it is none of their business. Your past. Keep the past in the past. Don't talk about it. Imagine if you cheated in your last relationship. Do you think telling the current person you're dating is a bright idea? How do you think that will work out? I'm no genius, but I can guess not very well. If you were a liar and you stopped, don't tell anyone. No one needs to know. It can affect how they see you. If you were a drug addict and you stopped, clean up yourself and got a job. No one at work needs to know. It's part of your history, but it's in the past. Keeping the past buried has numerous benefits. It allows people to judge you based on who you are now and not who you used to be. It allows you to have a clean slate to build a new life and make new friends. If you do this, you'll be surprised how well people will accept you. In a couple of years, you'll feed right in. No one would ever know that they were working with an ex-drug dealer. They would never know. 7. The fact that you're searching for another job While you're working for a company, it is really not a good idea to tell them you're looking for a new job. You can do your applications discreetly. It is especially best if you don't do them using your work computer or take interview calls at work. Your work colleague should also not know, even if you're on talking terms with them. You never really know whose loyalties lie with you. You might end up telling someone that tells your boss. If you have a job application going on, keep it quiet. If you applied for further studies, keep it quiet until you're done with all the preliminaries and gotten admission. Then you can apply for a leave of absence formally with the admission letter attached. You can tell some friends, but not all of them. Do you have friends who don't have jobs? If you do, don't tell them, because it is quite insensitive to do that. They are looking for one. You have one and are going for a better one. 8. Minor criminal records No conviction If you have a criminal record and it was no conviction, there is really no need to tell anyone. If you do, the fact that it was a no conviction won't matter. It can rub off jobs, scholarships, travel grants and financial aid. You need to understand that people automatically assume the worst when a criminal record is admitted. Irrespective of your accused crimes, a person is likely to assume that you either raped or assaulted a woman. The human mind is really creative. If you don't want prospective employers to hold their children tightly around you, keep your criminal records to yourself. I know it's sad, but it's the way the world is. 9. Your health status Whether you tested positive for COVID-19, HIV or hepatitis C, keep it to yourself. No one, except the HR at work. Your spouse and your family need to know. Your health status is something really traumatizing. You can't just something that personal with the whole world. Besides, a lot of people will simply stay away from you when you tell them. So why not let them be? A man has to learn to keep things to himself. There are so many things that should not be said. Sometimes, silence is the best response. The most eloquent does not always win in all scenarios. If this video inspired you, subscribe to our channel. We love you.