 So, one of the most common questions I get here is, what if my life has essentially gone to hell? I hate my work, I'm unhealthy, I hate the trajectory and the path I'm going down, and honestly, I basically think that I'm going nowhere. So, the good news is that you are not a slug, you're a human being. You literally won whatever you want to call it, the evolutionary, the genetic, the spiritual lottery, you won all the lotteries. You can change. So, this video is going to help to show you how. Hey guys, I'm Alex Hine, author of the book Master of the Day. Now, the very first thing, whatever we're talking about, whether it's smoking, your weight, your finances, your dating history, it all comes down to actually having the intention, because no one that is a lifelong smoker is going to stop without the intention of stopping smoking. No one that is 100 pounds overweight is going to lose weight if they don't want to lose weight, and no one who's dated a whole bunch of crappy dudes or crappy women suddenly is going to date better people unless they're like, oh, I actually have to work on this. So, it starts with the actual intention, and the way that when I want to change an intention about my life, the way I do it is I actually write it down. I'm a die-hard believer in actually writing things down, because I think that if they're not on paper somewhere, they effectively don't exist. So, there's absolutely magic, like the saying goes, to putting the pen to paper. The second thing here that I think is one of the most important things is actually using your pain to change. You know, I had a really interesting interview that I've shared here before where the interviewer asked me, like, where does my motivation come from, especially the early days where I was starting everything from ground zero in my business, and I was unhappy, I was depressed, not happy with the way I looked, et cetera, like the list went on. And honestly, I realized, like I actually thought, I took like a 30-second pause, live, awkwardly. And I was like, let me consciously think for a second. And I thought, fitness, why did I change from being super skinny to getting into fitness? I hated being skinny, pain. Why did I decide to start a business, or basically find work that I was more passionate about? Pain. I hated all the jobs I ever had. I felt like every day I was dying and my potential was being squandered and wasted for someone else when I could be building my own empire and doing work I loved. Relationships. Why did I basically consciously try to improve social skills? Pain. Never once dating the girl that I wanted. Never even having a girlfriend until really painfully late in life. So at least in my own life, it wasn't like I was super jacked up on inspiration, super inspired, so happy about the unfolding of my life. No. I hated every day for years. And I used that chip on my shoulder to change. Like, listen, I don't think this is a good long-term motivational strategy. But hey, in the short run, if you're the fat boy that's in the girls and you're not getting any girl you want because you're really overweight, then dude, use that as a motivational source as long as it takes. Use that chip on your shoulder. Use the chip on your shoulder that your mom said, you're always gonna be fat. You're not so smart, so maybe you shouldn't go to medical school. Use all this BS that people have been feeding you and use it as fuel for the time being. Because for me, all the greatest transformation came out of pain and dissatisfaction, not out of excitement and love and life being easy. And the third strategy here that I would highly recommend is to go back to the journaling exercises that I recommend a lot. So dedicating 10 minutes, if you can a day, but if not a week, get a nice coffee or a nice tea and write down what it is you're struggling with right now and then three strategies you can implement. So let's say like me, your three things were, you feel lost, you're broke, and you're depressed, okay? Bust out a little piece of paper and write down in the top, I'm lost. In the middle, I'm broke. And in the bottom, I'm depressed. What are three strategies I can work on in each of these little categories? I'm lost. You know what, maybe each weekend I'm gonna do one class that seems interesting to me and by the end of the year, I'll at least all have 52 new data points about things I might be interested in or things I'm not. Hey, I'm lost. I'm gonna read Martha Beck's book, Finding Your Own North Star. I'm broke. What can I do? I can get a second job. I can learn how to freelance or start a business. I can just get a normal boring day job and do something I'm passionate about in the evening hours. I'm depressed. What can I do? Go see a doctor or a therapist or acupuncturist. What else can I do? Maybe I can play with puppies one day a week. Maybe I can volunteer my time. What I find so much with coaching clients is that we spend a lot of time in the emotion but almost no time in the problem solving part of the emotion. We spend all the time with I'm lost, broke, depressed but not okay, what can I do? What can I do? What can I do? And very often in that 10 minute strategy page you've just unlocked at least one gem that will help you build that better life. And so again, it's shifting from thinking more into action, always being action, action, action focused, moving away from naval gazing. So I hope that helps give you kind of like a basic roadmap if you feel like you need to reinvent yourself because hey, the trajectory you've been going down kind of sucks and maybe has sucked for a long time. And thankfully, like I said, you're a human, not a slug, not a piece of toilet paper being wiped on some fat sweaty dude's butt, not a pencil, not a leaf, you're a human and you can change and you can control your thoughts which is the scariest, craziest thing. So I hope that helps and I hope you're grateful that you're not a piece of toilet paper getting rubbed on some dude's butt crack right now because someone somewhere is. All right, so I hope that video helps. That is a good roadmap going forward. Remember the best way to stay in touch is to grab my free personal development and weight loss challenge at modernhealthmonk.com forward slash YouTube and it's also the first link right in the description there below and you can check out my last videos here and right here.