 Next question is from Rudy's one more fitness I'm having a son soon and my biggest concern is when he is school aged and needs to have a packed lunch I really don't want him eating this garbage school food but I feel like it's hard to meal prep for a child what have you done or plan to do yeah so this is a kind of a tough one mainly because you're not the only influence over your child especially when they start to go to school they will be comparing their food to other kids and what my friends are eating and then you don't want to create a situation where you know like I have friends like this where their parents were so ridiculous and strict as soon as the kids moved out of the house they went ape shit in the opposite direction they're all obese now so a couple things I'll say number one you can there are fun snacks and meals that your kid won't feel totally weird pulling out and eating you know jerky so a lot of kids like that cheese fruit nuts those things are all pretty good and then here's the other part of it children are pretty damn resilient especially if they're active and if they have a good breakfast and a good dinner sometimes it's okay that lunch is a little bit more of the fun kind of stuff that they're gonna eat with their friends like they might have some chicken nuggets or some pizza rolls or whatever you know once a day or one you know every other day breakfast and lunch if those are good and here's in my family majority of our calories usually come in dinner that's our meal together and that's the one I have the most control over so I know if they have a little bit here a little bit there but then we have a good dinner I'm feeling yeah that that's where we get like our our piece of mind is is really that the dinner like that we all share together we can control pretty much what what's gonna you know be consumed there it to be honest it's not that hard I mean if you want to prep ahead of time and you want to make sure like your kids have the certain foods like you can pack them this obviously they're gonna they're gonna go to school and they'll probably get stuff from their friends or whatever they might not eat the whole thing but I mean that's out of your control so you just got to keep you know basically focusing on what you can control and what you can kind of prep ahead of time and allow them to to eat it I would worry less about like you know basically like how how their their their friends are influencing them we had to kind of relieve that because there there's even some negotiations that had to happen on some days where there was like a pizza you know day where they would they got really excited for that and so okay that meal is accounted for you know at school they're gonna eat this and we just got to deal with that we're gonna make up a nice healthy meal when they get home for dinner and you know and then this is also gonna happen at mom you know grandma and grandpa's house and and their friend's house and when they go to stay overnight and so it's just it better prepare yourself now for the fact that you just you can only influence based off how you eat and how you're all the normal ways that you have programmed to eat whether or not that's gonna last is up to the kid I'm glad you said that just because I really wanted to hear what you both had to say about this obviously I don't have a child that's in school yet but I do think about this right and I the family right and that's a great example like I don't think it's that much different than going over to grandma and grandpa's house or whatever because it presents the same type of challenges right there at somebody else's place where there's other food that's being eaten everybody else so the the way that Katrina and I do it right now is we when we are prepping our food she's also prepping Max's food at the same time so like last night we did like a Katrina does this bison and rice dish that we were like and the only real difference is this right now we do like seasoning and all kinds of stuff spices and things in our dishes where he eats more bland food right now so she'll always separate like you know a few ounces of the bison and we have these little things that she you know Tupperware's them in and he's got his bison his rice and then like this smashed up avocado and that's going to be like his meal for the next two or three days it's in the refrigerator and if we all take him over to his grandmother's house we bring that for her like here's his lunch here's what here's what he's going to eat at this time and like and we just tell them can i control everything that goes in his mouth probably not nor am i going to i'm not going to worry about it but i feel like if and then the same thing goes for when he goes up goes out to school like i'm not going to fight him if his friend lets him bite into his you know you know what it with a lunchable cracker snack i'm not going to freak out of him and it is what it is but i'm going to prepare the same way that i prepare right now like he'll go to lunch i mean every as far as i know every school has a microwave for him to reheat his his meal if i give him what we had last night at dinner leftover which is how i eat all the time and he sees that i eat like that all the time i don't think it'll be that weird especially if it tastes good the taste good he likes it he had it at dinner the night before with us and now he's got it in a glass bowl that he can reheat the next day at school that's how i i plan to try and control it and when the the days of pizza days come or a friend he wants i don't think i'm going to be a nazi over it i think i'm going to allow him to do that intermittently as long as i am feeding him as best i can at home he's a majority that means his food is controlled by me and then i'm going to send him to school with those same types of foods and then when those things happen when he eats it here and there i don't think i'm really going to worry you don't want to do is you don't want to demonize right because you're going to create uh you potentially could create this rebellious attitude around food you know we talked earlier about you eating ice cream part of that you say is because when you're a kid if the ice cream came it was gone yeah so then when you grow up you're like i'm eating ice cream every single night right this is a pattern you could build in your kid if you make it super too strict and you demonize foods so the you know way you teach imbalances it's kind of not a big deal and they have a little bit of this a little bit of that not a big deal and when we prepare meals it's just how we prepare it's just it's it's a healthy you're also shaping his palate right now right especially when they're really little yes so that's the way i look at it crucial that's so here's like so there's um you know i talk about my two friends who have kids that are a year and a year and a half ahead of us and something that katrin and i have been adamant about with max is we have not introduced any sweets no cookies no take like and i know this is a thing for parents and grandparents they think it's so cute and funny to let a toddler lick an ice cream cone and then look at the face afterwards no because there's not a single kid that doesn't go holy shit you know like literally there that you could see they get they light up like a christmas tree and then what i see happening is i see my friends using that as reward to get their kids to do things they want them to do say they're being fussy at night they don't want to do this or they don't want to put their pajamas on or what that if you want that cookie after dinner then you need to do this and they start using these pleasure foods as a reward system and they start training their kid before he even knows to ask for a cookie or ice cream and then you wonder why it's such a struggle for you when they're two three four and five where right now like i'm while i'm controlling everything that goes in his mouth literally it just that is an absolute no like i i can resist the oh i want to see what my kid looks like when he bites into a cookie i'm not going to do that and i'm going to wait till he can ask me which just probably means he's going to be three or four at the bare minimum where it's different and then it's different and then by that time he's had three years of consistently eating these healthy foods what'll probably happen and i've seen parents that are really good about this is the kid thinks it's too sweet dude i give my tries half of it and then he puts it away i give my kids a soda and yeah ice cream yeah i've done that where i'll give my kids a soda actually not even a soda one of those easy drinks which is not even a soda it's like less sugar and smaller and i'll i'll say you can have one and then my daughter will bring it to me halfway i don't want any more yeah just on her own right because we didn't give them a ton of sugar now it's and you know the palette they start to develop the palette in utero yes and then uh when the mom breast feeds so based off this is why it's so important for women that are pregnant right now to do your best and i know the health of the baby matters most and getting calories and i don't want to make any moms feel guilty that have weird cravings i get all that stuff but i mean the conversation that katrina and i had during that time is uh you know and she asked me like you know how would you handle it if you were pregnant right so we play that game and i say you know the way i look at it is like when i was prepping for competing like none of that was fun like i didn't enjoy eating these these foods all the time but i had a goal i had this goal that i'm gonna be the best my version of myself i don't think there's a time in my life that i could think that would be more important than getting ready to set the the the tone for my child like that's that supersedes any stupid trophy or saying that i could work to it so the way i would i would be competitive with myself if i if i what were to carry a baby of like i got nine months i'm going to discipline myself to be just like such a dude i know i know right and i know there's women i know there i know there's women like so hard for a guy to have but this i'm what i'm telling you is the conversation i had with katrina right she asked me like how would you mentally prepare yourself for going and i said i would look at it the same way only it's even more important because it's my child it continues for sure continues the breastfeeding too that i watched a documentary on it and they said that they start to develop their palette a lot through the through breast milk through what the mom you know will eat now jessica has been pretty good about this she'll eat like a spoonful of fish eggs sometimes in the morning for the omega it's fish eggs you know but you know hopefully my kid is born and eventually will like to eat fish i know i hated it when i was well what i can tell you sacrifice what i can tell you right now and maybe i'm an anomaly or whatever max eats everything every single thing we put in front of him he eats and he loves vegetables and he eats all the meats like he eats everything that we give him and he's not been introduced to any any sugar except for what comes from fruit like to his his diet has been that way and it hasn't been a fight or a struggle with us at all and i think a lot of that has to do with katrina was dialed all the way through pregnancy all the way through breast feeding and then when we introduced foods we introduced all these whole foods to him and that's how it's been since day one have you had him try a lemon yet i don't think she's that's fun if you want to see a reaction yeah i don't think she's done a little kid a lemon slice and just watch their face yeah i was i was i was actually eating uh i gave him his first like dab of like salsa right and you saw his face get like that right where he's like whoa that was way too spicy he was sitting in my lap and i was katrina made me a quesadilla and i was dipping it in salsa and he could tell he really wanted him like like she was like don't let him have that and i'm like i just want to see his face when he takes a little bit of salsa right that's a that's a good time there's this video on youtube of this little kid who he gets an onion because he thinks it's an apple oh no did you see this video and he bites into it and he's like and his eyes are like but he keeps eating different but it's a great video maybe it'll get better