 Welcome to another Narc Survivor Life video. In this one I'm going to be talking about how to know when you have defeated the narcissist. A very important topic, definitely something I think a lot of you have thought about how to know when it's done, when they feel it, when they know it. They start the battle with you, they start this war. How do you know when you have won? You could say that there are many ways to know when you have defeated the narcissist, but it all comes back to one thing. No matter what they're trying to do or say to you, it always comes back to this one underlying intention and motive. When you have defeated the narcissist, they will try to hurt you in some way. They will try to irritate when nor you they will try to sabotage whatever you've got going on. They will try to get under your skin in some way, some shape or form. That is what they will try to do because when you defeat them, when you hurt them, it plays on their minds. They can never be at rest. They've just got to take action. They've got to do something about it. So in some way, they will try to hurt you. They will try to cause harm to you or put you in danger. It will cause you to experience an unfearable circumstance or condition. That's just what they're going to do. There's no other way that someone with this type of disorder can respond once you have defeated them. But of course, there are many different ways that they will do this. Sometimes it may go under the radar. You may not detect it initially. You may not even realize that they are trying to hurt you. There are obvious signs where you will see the narcissistic injury, the narcissistic rage. They will openly try to hurt you in some way with insults and put downs, emotional abuse, physical abuse. These are clear signs that you have defeated them. But then there are other things that may not be so easy to identify. The narcissist may triangulate you with someone else. They may try to make you envy or so jealous. But you may be looking at it like maybe it's something I'm doing. Maybe there's something wrong with me. You may not pick up on it straight away and realize that they're doing that for a reason. They're trying to punish you. They're trying to hurt you because and not only to you, you may have already hurt them. You may have defeated them without even realizing. And that's not the only way that it can go under the radar. There may be other ways as well where they may be giving you the silent treatment. As you may think that you've done something wrong, you may not realize that it is actually in response to something you have already done. You may not realize that. But that's what this video is about is to bring awareness that you may have already defeated the narcissist without even knowing. You may have thought it was nothing. You may have thought you didn't do anything wrong. But you have to understand that these narcissists are very sensitive. They're easily offended and upset. They're paranoid and hyper-visual and they always think that someone is out to get them. So you could have just unknowingly given them some slight or criticism. And they just went off on that. They hurt them. They got under their skin. And now they have to hurt you. They have to get back at you for that. But you may not realize that it's because you defeated them. You may think that you did something wrong. You made a wrong action or decision. You may not be looking at it that way. But that is how you need to look at it from now on. Because that is the truth. That is the reality of it. You just need to become more aware of it. When you have defeated the narcissist, there will be a narcissistic injury. But they won't always show that to you. You have to understand that narcissists are very bitter and resentful. And they do feel shame and embarrassment from their defeat. They don't always want you to see it. They don't always want you to know. So sometimes they may try to conceal it. And that silent treatment is meant to act as a punishment. That is meant to hurt you. You have to remember that narcissists are very arrogant. They expect you to see it as a privilege to be around them. So in their minds, by them taking away their attention and affection, taking their focus off of you, in their minds that's meant to hurt you. That's meant to bring you down. That's how they see it. And that is why they will often do that in response to the awareness of their defeat. This is how you know that you have defeated the narcissist. The signs are right there. You just have to become aware of them. When you have defeated the narcissist in some way, they will try to punish you. They will try to hurt you. They can't deal with these painful emotions on their own. They can't deal with the shame. They can't deal with rejection. They need you to regulate their emotions. That's all I've got to say for this topic. 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