 This is like our own little like we need to make a name for this I know That's Joan and Ashley. What's it? Should I to burn a candle? Yes, I should Okay, wait. Should we wait for this guy to just calm down just a little bit She needs to get used to it. Shall we start with a cheer? Yes Wow, this is not good. It was five thousand one I know, right? I have such a cheap taste People say that natural wine doesn't taste good They say it like tastes like the barn and I'm like, no Hi guys, long time no see finally back for a part two of our girl talk video I know you guys have been waiting very patiently for it and Joan has graciously Let me you know come to our house to film. Oh, and there's a camera right here too Just so you guys can see our face more clearly and our facial expressions when we're spilling the tea the wine Um, I just want to start off by eating these cookies that Joan made us. Yes. I baked these cookies Yeah, it's like a baking mix, but I also added some ingredients. Oh, I like it because it's not hard Oh Of course I get a lot of comments still to this day asking for an update on this Q and A I don't need to all the time That's like one of those videos that are like constantly getting comments on so I get reminded every now and then Okay, we have to film the part two. I should read some of the comments Okay, let's we act to some comments before opening the instagram. Okay, right? All right, and also people were freaking out over the fact that you know We were eating chicken and we were also eating the mousse the pickled radish And I like picked one up and like I like to save those radishes because there are not a lots I would just bite half and put it in there and I will forget about it and have another one And people were like, why is actually just eating half of the radish and throwing it out I didn't throw it out. I ate them all This was three months ago, October 3rd. Can you read this comment? Oh, not Joan telling us she doesn't recommend dating idols like we had a chance in the first place I was really like, I wouldn't recommend it Oh my gosh And we're recommending idols or kinky says I didn't want to sound rude or offending But I find this video very very similar to Damon Dominic's red wine talk videos Even the intro vibes are semi similar. Anyways, love the honest talks Yeah, I got a few comments Saying that the video was kind of like Damon Dominic's and I honestly had no idea But I looked it up after and I could see why people were saying that Um, I guess for me it was just like wanting to do what we always do just drinking red wine and talking Yeah, but I guess yeah, it is similar in that way So I guess we'll have to come up with a different name, but thanks to you guys We found a great channel to watch. Is it called wine talk? It's red wine talk Oh, yeah, we'll be white wine talk Just kidding, but we both like red wine Yeah, we do we do. Oh, well just be girl talk We're always like wine nights or something. Okay. Oh, maybe we should just do wine nights Yes, and then we can have guests. Yeah, it'd be more chaotic and more fun and more tea to spill Um, Jan P was like we need part two of this tip. I A month ago. Let's start that now then Yeah, Marin Marinsha Marinsha says this is my third time watching this. Please make wine talks a series. Okay. We will we will No, it's gonna be a series. Thank you everyone for uh sending us the questions on instagram by the way Okay, let's start with an easy question Uh, lauren kim says what kind of person were you in school? I was I was like a wall flower in school. Honestly, I didn't stand out too much I didn't have a lot of close friends in the same grade as me because Um, especially in high school. Most of my friends were a year younger than me So i'm a 91s, but all my close friends were 92s. Me too. Yeah, so yeah When we had like school events, you know, like senior prom and senior prank day and stuff I had no one to really have fun with. Yeah, I only had one close friend in school I didn't participate in a lot of clubs or anything I was just like right in the middle. Just boring. No. Yeah, I went to school late So all my friends were 92. Oh, yeah school with the you weren't the same grade as the 92 So I graduated high school. Oh 10 You did 11 9. Oh 9. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I'm guessing you're a great student Like did you were you the teacher's pet and no No, no, no, no, okay. So I was a different type of student for each like grades So in elementary school, I was like a troublemaker I got in trouble all the time because I couldn't speak English So I didn't know what people were saying up to like first grade. So I just remember always like Leading the classroom to go to the bathroom break for until like the bell ring and I was like a terrible child I went to a school with no Asians. I got picked on for being Asian So I wasn't like confident and then that kind of mentality went with me to middle school But you know how Asians have the stereotype of like being smart. Yes, I wasn't smart So I had to like work extra hard You know, there's like two types of people one who's like born smart and then one who's like just They have to work really hard to get there. I was the second a was the smart kid I was the one who had to work super hard And so junior high school, I felt really like I wasn't living up to my stereotype So I felt like I had to be on this like super crazy track to catch up with like the other fellow Asians Yeah, oh, yeah I was like wait, what not confident But then it didn't really Effect me in terms of like how I met friends because my personality is just kind of all over the place And then in high school. I was I owned it Because no towards the end because the freshman year sophomore or junior year. I didn't know but my senior year I wanted it to count and so I like ran for a student government ran for president of like a certain club Did not have stage fright like giving speeches. No, and then yeah. No, I didn't Wow, I ran for like a bunch of stuff. I applied to hella like california colleges I took all these classes and I studied hard, but I also Got a lot of extracurricular activities. Oh, and you had a social life. Yeah, I had a social life So I'm very proud of that and in college. I didn't study Wait in high school. Did you also get sleep because you know, you have to sacrifice one. Yeah You got all three. Yes in high school. I was the perfect person because it was sleep social life and Great. Yeah. Yeah, I had a good balance of all of it And then at college it was goodbye grade because in college my whole mentality was just passing graduate You don't need to get straight A's Yeah, so I was just a different student in college. I was definitely more chill Because everyone was smart And I was like, I'm not this so Oh my gosh, I saw one of the questions. How to cope with ghosting. Oh, yeah Shall we just answer that? Yeah After filming the first episode about the question of dating idols She had gone on dates with idols to tell us Because you've been ghosted by one. Yes, um Yeah, I think it's just a memory that I wanted to erase so it doesn't come to my mind But when I saw this I was like, have I ever been ghosting and I thought about it and I was like, oh shoot I have been ghosted like I never dated an idol, but I did go on a few dates Okay, this dude he was so good at talking That I totally believed that he liked me a lot, but um I remember this so it's like pissing me off I found that that he was talking to multiple people at once And that's why he would take forever to respond sometimes when he would text me He would um be texting me like three hours straight like four hours straight just back and forth And then he would disappear for like a day And then he would come back with an excuse like oh, I was sick. My mom came to take care of me And then he would text me again and he would disappear again, but when he did talk to me he was Yeah, I knew how to I'm getting mad hearing it too because I'm like I'm reliving that time Why did I do that? I'm so stupid. Uh, but I don't even remember what excuse he gave. No, I don't disappear I don't think it's your fault though. It's not because he was showing you interest And when you told me about this guy, I was like, oh my gosh, that's so cute And I remember like rooting for you. Yeah, but yeah How did you deal with it? It was the first time it happened to me and it felt like Because I would rather want someone to just be straight up and say, hey, this is not working. Let's just be friends But to be ignored was just how does someone do this? Like they don't have basic manners. Yeah Hello I was so mad and I remember being so confused like did I do something wrong? No, you didn't do anything wrong Like what did I do? He was just an asshole. Yeah, he was just an asshole So I remember after it happened. I just like called you as who beans and they were just talking and then I was just like, what do I do? But then the funny thing is he texted me back and he called me back like so many times after that and I was just like Nope, never again. Never again. Yeah, no Talk to your loved ones. Yeah Talk to your loved ones. Please talk to your loved ones today. Yeah about ghosting about getting ghosted It's not fun though because my first like real relationship I got ghosted at the end and I was like, are you kidding me? and Yeah, it was The worst actually and then you find out that there was cheating involved And so, you know, honestly, if a guy goes through it's not worth your time. Yeah, he's not it's not worth your time It's not girls. You just have to know your value I don't know. I've been watching a lot of tiktok videos with me and there's like a bunch of um, great Advices for like single people about like girls if a guy ghosts you just just you don't deserve that know your value It's it's so true though. Yeah, he doesn't deserve you if he goes to you. No, so stupid Yeah, like half basic manners and just Say it if he does ghost you That shows a lot about who he is as a person And you don't want to be with someone who is like that Yeah, it sucks in the moment and it's a good thing that you found out now because you can just You know, yeah, get rid of it. Yeah know your value and talk to your loved ones. Yes Please let us know how you handle your finances budget and money stuff I feel like you'd be really good at this because she is the queen of excel And you put everything there, right? Yeah, I do. I have no I don't even know how to use excel Like I'll teach you I'll give you a tutorial one day like in person finance queen This is like a separate video topic because Yeah, it is because there's so much so many things because it's about saving It's about investing I would have to organize my thoughts but How I manage my money is yes, I do have an excel sheet of all of the income I make And all the so how I Record the spendings. It's all gonna be in my credit card For for all the business related Spendings I do have like a tab where I explain it and I try to save like 70% on my paycheck Yeah, ultimately, maybe I will do a video on this in the future I think you should because I think many people will find it helpful like even me because I just started making my own money in 2020 And I do want to be more mindful when it comes to spending but I will give you a tip on how to Manage your money because once tax season comes like in korea. It gets crazy Oh man. Yeah, I've never dealt with the tax thing yet by myself. So yeah Having a cpa helps Uh menstrual products are very exciting pads cups accessibility and opinions in korea Yes Girl if you challenge me like that The most used sanitary product I think is pads my korean friends They kind of freak out at the idea of tampons Um, so I feel like they'll be even more scared to use menstrual cups, but I know it's they're trying to make it a thing here and Spread awareness about menstrual cups just because it's better for the environment I've tried using menstrual cups before for like three months But it was just so hard like putting it in and since you can't see it Like you don't even know if the cup actually opened inside so It just kind of hurt and ever tried it And after a while I stopped and I just use like pads and tampons. I actually prefer pads My periods last like three days and then it's not heavy But I do get my period monthly. So I know that I'm on a good, you know Like rhythm, I guess you would call it. But um, yeah, I prefer pads Because I don't believe that much actually But I do bleed every month and something that I learned while living in korea I prefer american pads more than korean pads. Really? How's it different? Well, korean pads not all but some of them have this Um, ginseng smell to it. Do you know just there are certain brands And then also, you know how like You know like there's like the pad and then the flap the wings. Yeah, there's the other wings Like whenever you use them both one will always not be Like it doesn't stick. So it always just like Hana, it's not sticky. Really? Yeah. So I I don't like the pads here. What that's just like a personal thing that I Just kind of discover. So whenever my friends come to visit They're like, what do you want from america? I'm like hot cheetos toothpaste and pads. It's a personal thing I think everyone is different. Like I have friends who love the cups And I have friends who cannot use tampons. I have friends who only wear pads like pads Everyone is different. So personally for me. I prefer american pads or cream pads. Whatever is comfortable for you Yes, do you become stressed or pressured because of youtube? If so, how do you deal with it? Wine I think I consume the most wine of my life in 2020. Yeah, true. Yeah, and it also helps me fall asleep. So that's why I You know started drinking more wine. Yeah, and also like talking to you I would and she's like so understanding like I'm like, oh, I don't feel like I want to film this today She's like, it's okay. And then No, it's like our life depends on No, right But I think um, it was very helpful to like have close friends nearby That do the same thing Because you understand what I'm going through. You know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah, how about you? I've been doing adulting series starting last year march and that's six episodes. Yeah, that's all I've been doing Basically, right? I just did like a little vegan challenge in the middle But mostly I film my adulting series and these days I didn't film for like two weeks and I didn't upload for like two weeks Just because I was thinking like it's so repetitive and it's the same thing over and over again I feel like it's not interesting and if I feel like it's not interesting then the Viewers are definitely not going to think it's interesting, you know So I started to become self conscious because I was watching all these youtubers And they were so they have so much to say and they have so much to bring to the table and I just felt like my eye was just I don't know. I love your adulting series It's just being great and then we'll do this now. Yeah, like obvious like a monthly thing or something But no, I feel you though. Yeah, but it's it's normal I feel like I've been more stressed and pressured about radio because I've been doing it for almost three years now every single day Good. I'm doing it for so long and I feel bad for my listeners too because I want to do something fun for them, but it's hard to do like Something fun every single day. Oh, no, that's sure There are some some days when I come home for media I'm like, yeah, I feel like crap because Like I want to do well like and I want to do my best and sometimes I'm like Sometimes I'm like I feel so lacking, you know, like I don't even think I'm suitable for the job And I don't think I'm a good fit. I don't deserve it Like someone much more interesting and someone much more smart and Eloquent should be doing it and there are times I do still enjoy it and I love the relationship I have with my listeners and my Producers and writers and stuff, but it just gets to me sometimes and you're so tough on yourself though You've been like this since the very first day. I met you. Let me get you a tissue Like I don't know. I respect that Ashley for sharing because Um, that just shows how passionate you are about the job And I will say like I do tune in to get real once in a while and radio I I do tune in like like when you're like when you and I'm doing it Yeah Because when she's on radio, that's when like my vlog goes up. Yeah So I'm like tuning in while responding to comments and um You're so good. Like I always tell you this. I'm like Ashley Like how do you like when she has a Korean guest on the show? She's like translating and then you know Asking questions in both languages I've done radio that is really hard to do so You're you're doing great. Like I can't I think about 2020 and how you juggled three jobs Last year That's amazing. Like you're so lucky to have been able to endure that because It's uh, it's you're you're so I don't know. I don't know. I don't know the right words to say when people cry. I don't know what to do Me on the outside. I was like, oh, yeah, like I got this But then instead I'm like, I don't got this No, you're doing so good and like I think you're on a great track Especially since like last year in march your contract ended too and then for you to be where you are now like So much has changed for you. Like I would say your life changed 180 Like since since the contract has ended and it's for the better your viewers are also Like learning with you and seeing you grow and like it it's incredible But stress is inevitable. You will get stressed how to cope with it It's talk to your loved ones That's the biggest tip for anything and everything you just need that reassurance sometimes, you know You kind of you know start doubting yourself, but when your loved ones sit you down they'll like wake up No, don't say that. It's like a mirror. Look at you You're doing you can take it out. You're doing really well To the point where I'm like jealous of how controlled your life is right now No, I really think you're doing so well No, we don't yeah No more no more No more emotion. Do you have any tips for people who want to start youtube? Love both your videos by the way. Thank you Thank you. Thank you. Well, I just want to say just start it. Yeah. Yeah, that's like the Hardest but the most important part. I remember with Joan to our um, I kept confiding and I was like I want to do it, but I don't know like it's so hard. I don't know if I can do it And she's like just do it just upload your first video and it gets so much easier from there Of course, you're not going to get views on your first video. That's inevitable, but You just gotta start it. That's always my advice for people. Yeah, just start it Don't worry about having the perfect camera the perfect equipment the perfect editing tool is just getting started And then you'll learn from there. Yeah, you learn as you go Yeah, I hate watching my old video, but it's okay. You learn as you go It's sold more of a home to you than new york or cali now Oh I feel like it's yes and no for me No, because my family's still in new york I do feel so at peace whenever I go back home and I'm with my family. There's no emotional or mental instability Which I really need from time to time. So when I go there, I'm just like so at peace and You know, my parents treat me like a princess whenever I go because they only see me once a year Um, and everything feels like the way it used to be when I lived there But at the same time I've been living in korea more than I've lived in the states now because the states I only lived 11 years. Oh in korea. I've lived here for 18 years now Korea's such a comfortable place to live in terms of accessibility and convenience And I don't know if I could ever move back to new york now. I mean, I just want my parents to come here I don't want my family to come to korea Or then I want to go back 18 years. Yeah That's a long time. I didn't even know it was that long. Yeah, I've been living in korea for seven years I don't think of korea as home But this is the only place that I have a physical home to live in so I guess in terms of where I live here Yes, but when I go back to america, I still feel Like it's my home, but I don't have a home So I don't know how to explain it um And usually I you I go visit so often, but last year I couldn't so Do you think you could live in cali? No, no Oh my gosh, let me tell you this. I will never move back to california. I hate I just don't like I don't like la I really don't like la But I love new york So I always talk to my brother about like, oh if you ever Want to you know, like start working in the hospitals, which hospital would you like to go? And he's like, where do you want to go? I really wanted to go to new york and he's like he's down too. Like I got I I brought him to new york because I wanted him to see how new york was like Did you fall in love with him? Yeah? Yeah, I I love new york and I think um new york has a good balance of what soul is and what Um la san francisco was like for me because I lived in san francisco for four years before moving here too And I love sf. Don't get me wrong. I love it. It's beautiful But I don't think I could ever live there because it's so small like I'm used to like this jungle of like All these opportunities all these things that you can do like soul. You can do Something new every day Without covet of course But I feel like new york could totally do that. I love new york How do you make friends with intimidating girls? I have intimidating girlfriends Do I have intimidating girlfriends? Well, people aren't always intimidated of me Yeah, they are It's actually hilarious No, but then I was just like Britney's yes when you first met me sir Yeah, you couldn't take me seriously. I could not I was like wow this girl is very bold Why are people intimidated of me? What why it's really funny though because everyone's like, oh, yeah Um, my first impression was actually was just very intimidating I was like, she's like the softest person in the world. Like you cannot think that If this person intimidates you don't be friends with them Happy friends with me I'm giving up Is it hard being a female and living alone any tips for safety? I do get scared a lot, especially because I've been watching so many like crime and suspense Dramas these days like the older ones older korean dramas like voice signal and um secret There's always a girl getting killed followed by a man. Oh my gosh. Why do you watch that? Because it's fun. Like the storyline is really good. But after I watch it were tips When I um because I end radio pretty late You watch it After that. No, no, I watch it, you know during the day Why would you watch it while you're on the when it's dark out? literally I'm I turn my flash on and I'm like And like running, you know because I get scared So when I have someone delivering stuff, especially I mean these days with food delivery I Make sure that they just leave it in the front door and just ring my bell So I don't have to see them But um, if it's like tech pay or if it's a delivery that I have to accept Then before going out I'll act like I'm talking to someone. I'm like Like male Male shoes and also a lot of Korean girls also who live alone when they get stuff delivered They change the name to a name. That sounds really macho like Where it kind of sounds like a gangster. Um, so people will read it and they're like, oh Scary guy must live here. Literally. What do you say? There was a list of good names to choose. I saw Yeah, I gotta find them again, but I saw on instagram a list of good names for girls to use when they're living alone So people won't think you're living alone, you know Because it's a scary world out there. You just never know Ashley When she sleeps over at my house, like we have there's like a guest room and my room and she's like, can we just sleep in your room together? I was like, we're in the same house She gets so scared. Yeah I'm just a scared cat. She's a scaredy cat I don't get scared like if I'm home alone and if a person comes to deliver I'm like, oh, hi. Thank you. And I just don't care if something bad happens. Then I'll figure it out then I don't get too scared Like even when I'm like out in the streets of korea like around europe or america I guess I just have too much faith in people Damn, I've had way too many scary stories for me to just let my guard down Really? Even when I'm just walking around the street whenever I see like a black fan I'm like run the opposite direction That's so funny. You're like opposite direction. I was like, oh my gosh, maybe a yanine's inside Vans Yeah, I guess I'm paranoid not paranoid enough then Something juicy. Ashley People are getting bored relationship slash boring regrets I'll say that dates because I should have known after the first date We know it was the second date we went on um, because there was a parking attendant and I remember He was driving this like really fancy sports car And then he rolled down his window and he was just really rude to the parking attendant which really turned me off and I was like I think you are like he just thought he was a Oh my gosh Ew Because turn off but you know what what I still went on another day with him I sure yeah I should have known right there and then he thought he was not a good person Yeah But because he was such a good talker It made me think like oh, you know, he's sweet to me I remember when I was like, so how was it like after your first date and her Like response to how was it was batter? Can I just chat and that translates to he's a really good talker Ladies don't fall for the freaking talkers. Yeah, they do this talk. I freaking swear Oh my god Now I know better because I've experienced one I I didn't know before that, you know, I guess biggest regret for me is like dating friends That is That's been um, I I don't recommend dating friends. I always say like oh, yeah It's easy because you know, once you're friends, you kind of already know this person You kind of somewhat trust them but men are men and no boys are boys And because men won't do that Well, um, and I guess For me friendship is more important so I just don't want to ruin that so If you're gonna shit me with someone, don't do it Shit me with somebody else that I do not know in this circle of friends. Like just don't do it I mean, of course the relationships can stem from friendships. Yeah But it just has to be the right person, I guess And you gotta be prepared for the Consequences if you do break up. Yeah Well, it depends on how you break up. Yeah, if you if it's a bad breakup, then it's going to get awkward Yeah, and then your mutual friends, you know, it'll be awkward. So it's just kind of like Yeah, that's the worst when there's mutual friends involved. I'm like, oh Last question today. How do you deal with loneliness as an adult adore and subscribe to you both? Thank you Thank you I'm so blown. Yeah, you would have to agree, right? I think as we get older it's easier to make Like friendships just like surface level, you know, you hang out once in a while It's still fun when you do hang out, but it's not as deep because With new people I feel like I run out of opportunities to meet them one-on-one as I get older It's just like a more group setting and it's hard to talk about deep stuff With you the reason why I was able to get so close to you was because we hung out alone Like in the very beginning and we were able to get deep with each other and just kind of like Pro-our-our-our hearts and we just asked like intense question I just remember in the beginning like powder intense question. I was like, oh Oh, yeah talked about family. Yeah, like, you know our struggles and stuff And I think that's when you open up. That's when you really start getting to be really close with someone, but The older you get it's hard to open up. I feel like yeah, you're right Like I think we met at a good timing actually because like we were both kind of like excited about life at the time We were both pretty happy. We were both like I feel like right now. We're just kind of like I'm tired and stressed and sad from life But I think we met at a really good point in In time and then so we were able to grow together and like share and like whatnot But like, yeah, you're right. Whether you're in a big room Build the people still feeling lonely or just not being able to be in like a relationship event That's like something I struggle with because I'm always like, oh my god There's literally nobody out there that you can never like I don't know because I feel like i'm a very strong Intimidating person for any guy to ever be like, oh like to even show interest like Selena Gomez says something on tiktok She was just like, oh Um everyone who is like interested in me are people that are not my type To be honest the guys that are Bold enough to hit on me are not my type and the guys that I would love for them to hit on me What not set foot near pop star I think the idea of me is too much for people who I actually have attracted to so for me Romantically, I'm very like always I gave up at this point because you know society is always like, oh my gosh, you're 30 Because in korean I'm 31 by the way. I'm 29, but I'm turning 30 this year or turning 30 Yeah, it's okay. We got 10 months. Hold it off When I was young, I wanted to get married early and I wanted to have a family and everything Yeah, but now I'm like no I cannot do that and I feel like my guard Has just gotten even thicker and just like it's even getting harder and harder for people to even like step foot but I don't know. I don't even think that I'm like hard to get or Yeah, this is answering the question Is this what wine does? Lovingness, but I mean at the end of the day, I do talk to people I do talk to my loved ones because actually last year was really tough for me because Um, I was going through major depression You you you dealt with that because I was like just telling her about everything like my family wasn't at the best condition like, um Like my brother got coveted in like the you know Middle stages and stuff. So it was just a tough year for me Felt very lonely because you know, I was you know, I felt like I was going through it by myself But yeah, it was it was good to talk to other people So I guess how I cope with loneliness is just focus on the people That I love that love me back around me because why leave that and try to find something else when it's already good here You know, does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah Does it? Yeah You're gonna be like these drunk girls while you're editing. Sorry editing Ashley. How do you think that went? Are you ready to do some tiktoks? Just kidding. Yeah, so we're filming um tiktoks for jones Stuff and also like she's gonna film the behind the scenes for video So make sure to check it out too. Again, if you guys have any ideas for what we should name this Yeah, let us know. No. All right guys. Thank you so much for watching We're done with our online All right, thank you for watching. All right guys, we'll be back with the next video third video of White talk and let us know who you guys want to feature on the questions to me Yeah, yeah, yeah, that would be wild. I'll be wild. She's gonna be like Yeah, she'll be telling us everything Dude, she will. Yeah, she has so many more life experiences than we juice Even though she's three years younger than this girl that that girl's Do a lot and like, you know, actually we should have her as the next guest. I think we're just gonna be interrogating her Showing the bill It'll just be her questions like okay, answer this one Yeah, because we've already answered so many questions already. So it's time for sous-vines to show the beans Actually, yeah Sous-vines fill the beans. All right. Thank you guys. Thank you guys. Bye