Welcome To The "Lone Wolf" Paradigm
**Update 2016: Looking back, I actually don't think this is such a huge thing. I think you guys get the point that you should be attracting girls because of CONNECTION, rather than VALIDATION (from girls, or your bros, or society). I think this video I almost talked about how talking about girls is an inner thing that needs to be changed. But actually I think it's more of a symptom of some deeper things. I think most of the other stuff I talk about on my channel are more important than what I talk about here actually. Perhaps this will provide you some good value though. But for the record, if you are about to go on a date, it's ok to tell your boys! haha. Or after the date, go ahead and let them know how it went! Enjoy sharing your stories (from a place of sharing, rather than seeking their validation)! So don't take this message too seriously. I still think overall this message is on point though for the most part :)
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Obviously don't leave society and live in a cave lol. I believe the most fulfillment in life comes from relationships. And the most brilliance often comes when working with others. Have friends. Be in teams. Build a business with others. Be in relationships with girl/s. Have a strong family life etc. Put yourself out there and develop your social skills! The message I wanted to hammer home in this video was make sure you're doing what your doing for the EXPERIENCE, rather than impressing others or VALIDATION.
It's ok to be insecure though. It's natural. When you are doing something to impress others, impress a girl, or just for your ego.. it's perfectly ok as long as you are aware of why you are doing it. Sometimes it's healthy to temporarily feed the ego consciously. So don't take this video so black/white. We are all flawed humans. We are all insecure most of the time. And there's nothing wrong with doing something to try to impress people at times. So relax and take it easy on yourself.
If your friends ask you how your doing with the ladies, simply say "A gentlemen never kisses & tells", or that your doing an experiment where you're keeping your dating life a completely personal thing and you can even show them this video.
But seriously, this mindset works EXTREMELY well in dating / relationships. Next time you get a girl's number, a match on tinder, go on a date, go on a couple dates, hookup with a girl, get close with a girl, etc. just experiment with NOT TALKING ABOUT IT AT ALL with ANYONE. Keep that STRICTLY between YOU and the GIRL. It's awesome to share our lives with others etc... but I think most people have hidden "validation" energies tied to their dating lives. Because I think for lots of us- we base a large amount of our our self-worths on how well we're doing in our dating lives. So if you can keep your dating life purely a PERSONAL thing, you might be surprised that your relationships with the opposite sex drastically improve and are much more fulfilling. The girl will appreciate it too.
Later on when you feel you're coming from a secure and grounded place you can share your dating life with friends in a non-validating way and even inspiring them and sharing good stories! But I highly recommend this experiment! Best, --Luke
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**Update- Here's a newer video on this same topic, "The Seducer's Number 1 Rule, Complete Secrecy & Discretion": https://youtu.be/gnb7lKQX290
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