 Hey, hi, it's Bridgette. Welcome to Sunday Morning Coffee with Bridgette. Alright, so if you have been following me on Instagram for the past few weeks since the first week of August, you know a lot has happened for me. I spent some time in Florida at one of my favorite places ever Walt Disney World and I came home and had an unexpected souvenir, you might say, which is why my voice sounds a bit odd still. It's been about a week since I have been working through moving through the virus that I have avoided for the last two and a half years very feeling very fortunate that I did not have the first few rounds, however many. What round are we on? Are we on round seven? And so yeah, so I'm gonna sound a little bit different. I don't feel all that bad at this point. I want you to know I'm about a weekend now and I'm actually feeling quite a bit better, which is why I'm recording. This is the first time I've been able to record in a week. It feels good to be able to connect with you and to share through this Sunday morning coffee podcast, you know, how much I love to share coffee with you in the morning. I love to bring you coffee and to enjoy my coffee with you. So during this time I have had a lot of insights because yeah, it took me down for a few days for sure and and had an opportunity to really, really deeply care for my body. During this week, it has been the big Lionsgate portal, the 8-8 portal. If you're familiar with energy or follow astrology in any way, you understand that that's a huge manifestation energy vibration in addition to the fact that there are so many things happening astrologically. I am not an astrologer but I know for my friends who are very connected in that area that there is a lot that is impacting everyone and it kind of makes people feel a little crazy. In addition, we've just had a full moon. I was fortunate to be able to feel well enough on the full moon to be able to do a blessing bowl ceremony and then to do a burn, a ceremonial burn, which I did share on Instagram. So check that out from August 11th on Instagram. In August 12th, I did share a little, a few videos of the burning that I did and so I'm happy to talk to you about that if you're interested. Perhaps I'll do a video on Fairy Grasshopper, my vlogging channel and talk kind of about what I do, what inspires me to do a burn and what that looks like and what it represents for me because there's a lot and it can have a lot of different intention, a lot of different outcome and so I can share that for you there. Hey, yeah, I'm just really appreciating your presence right now. Thanks for being here. Thank you. So a lot of things. I had my journals handy by me and as I was, you know, going kind of through the ups and downs of what my body was feeling and honoring my body and really radically just constantly letting go and giving in to what my body felt, what I felt intuitively my body needed and there was so much healing happening at an emotional level for me because of all of the, I actually initiated a clearing the week that I was in Florida on Sunday, the last day of July, Sunday, July 31st, I initiated a huge clearing and was dealing with the kind of spinning up of things from that experience when then I got sick and so it all is the way it is intended to be and I just really have had this incredible multiple opportunities just to surrender and it's been difficult. It's been painful, physically painful and my body is just processing so much emotional energy and it had been just squeezing and tensing up and resistant to letting go and acknowledging all these little pockets of fear that were in my heart space and this doubt and this questioning and this confusion over what's real as far as perception and understanding and acknowledgement and what it all means for me at this stage in my life, like 20 years post my father's death, what it all means here at this point in my life with all of the life experience that I've lived and then the recent turmoil and turbulence that I have been really fighting with inside my heart it's just it really is a fighting against myself and I have felt so torn up and finally during this last few days I think the last four days or so I finally just had to give in, I had to totally surrender because I recognized that control is just not an option. We can't control other people at all. We can't control other people's actions or behaviors or their feelings. We can't control their feelings. We can't make things better. We can't make them see like what they're doing is so stupid or what just we just can't live for other people. We can only at best be in alignment with ourselves in any given moment and so that's what I have been working with. So in this Sunday morning coffee I want to talk about the topic of chosen specifically the unchosen and what that means. It's big isn't it? Yeah it is. We might want your journal for this one to be able to dig in and go deeper and explore what it means for you as we start here whatever we start here we'll start to kind of swirl around a little bit. What might be just below the surface for you and if that's the case I would ask you to allow the sweetness of being aware of your senses of your body of your heart even if your heart starts to flutter and get that kind of anxiousness to just breathe into that to create your own space room just for you room for your feeling room for your awareness within your body. So many other experiences other people's stuff has moved into the sacred space that's you and this is a time now to un-choose with a conscious reverence. Un-choose with a conscious reverence a ferocity of a deep and devoted love to yourself to un-choose the others who have put into your sacred space their definition of love their own personal need the prioritization of others feelings over your own. It's time for an ownership again for a reigniting commitment to your sacred self in the heart space. I didn't choose I did not choose to get this virus at this time I didn't choose that but at the same time I think my body decided to un-choose so many things at once that I didn't even know were bad for me or didn't even realize were pulling me under into more anxiousness into more prioritization of other people's feelings and other people's needs and needing to listen and be there for them when really the truth is is who's there who's going to be there for you who really is going to be there for you. I'm not suggesting to abandon your friendships your relationships your all of the support systems they exist for a reason but I am inviting you to know what truly is supporting you and what is taking from you the peace and the self-love that you have earned over all this lifetime of work of seasoned experience you have earned a self-love and a devotion to yourself and other people in your life have not earned that from you and they and their need to feel better or feel good may have inadvertently decided that you were their sunshine and the truth is they need to be their own sunshine they need to be their own center of their own universe and other people like my attention to that other people's needs does not make them feel better truly it is a temporary energetic connection that is really quite out of alignment from the core of self-love that we are as individual beings each person really not helping other people by being their fix we're not helping them we're not helping us we're not helping us and trying to avoid pain trying to avoid difficult conversations or hard truths only hurts more deeper and is extraordinarily destructive so this opportunity to un-choose you have it too especially now with all this stuff all this psychic energy you have it and maybe some of the best things will come from being unchosen in this opportunity to choose yourself once again because there was a time I promised you that you did that you were on your side hands down no matter what your ride or die was you not just your sweet sassy soul but your heart she had your back at one point you had your back and along the way you gradually un-chose yourself in little moments and bits of time you started to fragment just a little bit here a little bit there and pretty soon all these pieces of you existed outside of yourself and it turns out that those pieces were just temporary for the people who received them for the circumstances situations environments that they were gifted to sooner or later they just were discarded because those pieces of your light would only glow because of you and who you are and they eventually wouldn't work for all those people or places or situations that you gifted them to or that you borrowed them to so now where you're at may kind of feel a little bit disjointed like who am I maybe the proper question is who's are you I've said this before in my work on fairy grasshopper youtube on above life channel youtube and my private coaching sessions with you and bridget inspired who's are you who's are you as brunet brown would say we all just want to belong we all want a sense of belonging maybe the truth is it's you the ownership is within you maybe at the same time you can simultaneously be committed to yourself and be completely sovereign and free and maybe the way through into your own freedom is through the deepest commitment of the presence of yourself of all of the facets and parts and instead of regret and resentment for the pieces of particles that you've given off over the course of the years of the years maybe you sit here right now and you call back in the light that you are instead of going to each of those people and saying you owe me this or you need to give me that or I didn't intend to borrow you this or you took advantage of that that's an ego presentation and a misunderstanding or a misuse of your light because your light transcends anything the mind could possibly in its tiniest little vision understand and where you sit here now on the throne of this moment is exactly the right place where you need to be to call your light in it doesn't have to come back to you you can breathe breathe yourself whole you can un-choose you cannot change the past but in this moment you can choose differently how you see yourself how you feel yourself how you treat your beautiful body that's on you nobody else you and you create boundaries and you honor that to keep your beautiful essence sacred and if you choose to violate that sacred trust that sanctity that is also on you that is also on you but right here and right now we you and I we can witness each other I see you I see you watching this video I see you doing the dishes listening to this as an audio I'm gonna have a sip of coffee and offer those of you who are just listening we get to be exactly who we want to be we get to live exactly how we choose to live and that comes from our essence and it's not about your circumstances it's not about your relationship or the conditions of your life or the lack or the distance between here and the goal that you've set for yourself it is not external this power is in it's in us it's in you it's in me and our essence is every it's absolutely it is the key it is the missing piece you are the missing piece and who's are you you are yours you are yours you own your body you own this heart and these emotions the mish mash mixed up ups and downs mood swinging emotions that you have you own that that is yours that creative eclectic vibration of unboring incredibly interesting curious it makes you great it makes you you it makes you so interesting this art space you own this you own it it's yours and you also own your mind this beautiful brain that I know sometimes gets a bad reputation because it is really old school really stuck in this like survival mentality of that eight-year-old kid or that 21-year-old or that 30-year-old or that really insecure person that you were at one point or that feeling of that that person who felt so broken or damaged this mind just like saved you right it just kept you safe and yet it's so overprotective and and it is a part of you so you get to own it which means which means then you have a choice to un-choose you can un-choose some of the thought patterns you can un-choose some of the behavior patterns because that's where it is behaviors the cycles the same relationship over and over again the same job over and over again the same I have this a great idea I only stick to it for two months and then it falls by the wayside the same patterns the habits the belief systems that's in your brain so you gotta own this you gotta own it it's nobody's fault that you are dating the same person over and over again that's your fault okay if you gotta blame somebody blame yourself just own it and change it when you recognize that there's a pattern then you can recognize that you can un-choose that then you can step in and try something different do something out of your comfort zone that puts you into a state of building a relationship with your mind that then provides a platform or foundation of trust of a commitment to yourself to be aware and then try different things not everything you try is going to work to break the cycle or to make a change but you can create and introduce new patterns new thoughts you can use new programming in your mind by like meditation or other mindfulness types of activities like tapping or EFT or even yoga can help clear the mind or the energy of putting in positive thoughts like a great podcast good music things that are going to put actual thought formations into your mind that are something that will get you to focus that you can own that is something you can choose when you un-choose a pattern of belief a thought process that is typical for you before it gets into the hard space and takes over your essence you can make a different choice little choices lots of choices it's not a one-and-done you got to be committed to this to knowing this brain and what she does for you and sometimes she's tricky she can be manipulative and she can convince you that you'll just feel it'll feel so good if you just do this and you know what this is like so stick with your comfort zone no no how do you grow how do you get a better outcome by trying different things by stepping outside your comfort zone by doing something different that is healthier for you not temporary but more fulfilling not a piece but the whole that's what you do I am going to mention too I've been using you watch Sunday morning coffee I've been using some of Melody Beatty's meditations for daily meditations that helps the brain I do one in the morning and one at night and the one in the morning is from the have it here actually I think it's on my bed right now on my bed right outside it um it sets the tone it gives my mind something to focus on or think about so that then I can get to the work that I need to do the other goals the the way that I want to work into my day instead of reacting or responding to what my mind thinks is the most important thing which is staying exactly where I'm at which is status quo that's what the brain does this is job it's good at it it's really good at it but you are a mind heart a soul and a body your physical body honor yourself because if you don't nobody else will you want respect you have to give it to yourself first you have to embody that you have to commit to yourself so much over and over again it's not hard do it either it's easy it's not complicated loving yourself it's not difficult what makes it difficult is all these thought patterns and these kind of habitual things that you just kind of mindlessly move through and you gravitate toward what is familiar and comfortable which does not help that is not good for you it might feel good in the moment just because it's familiar but it's not overall the best alignment for you to be committed and be in relationship with yourself so you have to choose some of these old things to try some things that are different to help change the trajectory ever so subtly of your day of your week and of your life because when you're in new space you get to make new decisions you would make choices that are different than you would have done in the past which would lead to beautiful adventures and more extraordinary outcomes and experiences and people and things of that nature so this is one of the books that I just want to mention that if you need help to do that as well I had this experience myself actually and I should share about it when I was in florida and it was august 1st 2022 was 20 years since my dad's death and after a morning of horseback riding and just moving I changed hotels moved into a different hotel with a beautiful balcony kind of a more contemporary hotel really upbeat more um less disnified more adultish more grown up and with a gorgeous view I got to see the sunrise I watched the boats go back and forth to the abcott and to disney's hollywood studios and I was actually in the dolphin and swan hotel area if you know that is not too far from the beach club yacht club and boardwalk hotels on disney road property I was actually swan and dolphin hotel I was actually in the dolphin hotel and on my balcony I could look out and see the swans on top of the swan hotel which was great it's so great and so I moved into that hotel and was able to get just I was very gentle with myself after the first back riding was awesome I was so so gentle with myself I was really in kind of a place and it wasn't an easy day necessarily but it was just I was just so so present for me I had to be I didn't have any other choice I was on a solo trip I was by myself and it was feeling a lot of feelings as I mentioned the day before I had a massive clearing in the sheet and and the timing just it kind of sucked but it was also good the mice will do this now kind of I won't do this now let's just do this let's just do this in the happiest place on earth and I just was present and so then when I got into my hotel room I was able to like shower and get ready and put on a cute little black dress and just feel just the purest essence of me I'd been at Disney World for two days at that point this is my third day and I just got dressed up and I went I thought I'm gonna go have a drink at the top of the Riviera the beautiful hotel Riviera at Disney World it's gorgeous it's I think it's the newest hotel there now trying to think if anything else opened after I don't think so I mean technically the swan reserve did but it's not a Disney World hotel technically it's right by it but it's not and so I'd say the Riviera which I love I love the smell of that place I first stayed there last year actually in 2021 I stayed there with my sister a very expensive beautiful hotel super in love with it so in love with it I'm like I want to go there again I know how good it feels to me to be there I'm gonna go there and I want to have a drink at the top and the lounge the beautiful restaurant top of Lino's Terrace and I thought when I was there during the COVID I didn't have the chance to go up there and do that it was closed you couldn't go in just unless you had a reservation and it was a whole thing and everything was limited seating and all that so I just got already and I went over there and I thought when I get there I'm just gonna ask if I can go up there and they said well yeah I think you can yeah go ahead and try go up and they they told me that go ahead and go up like an elevator that go ahead I'm like all right so I did and I had the most incredibly amazing night I had a great server who's not my friend hi nice to see you well now a friend I met um three awesome people from a great little startup company in California and hung out with them and then two other ladies who were there on business they worked with like insurance shipping and stuff like that um out on the east coast and uh based in Connecticut I believe it was and so I just like I made friends with people around me and the server moved me toward the window I actually sat away from the window and such and uh table opened up and she said wow we can move you over there you'll have the best seat in the house and so I'm like yes as I went over and I got to wash the sunset and I was gonna have like the best view of the fireworks from that window actually and I'm like oh my gosh I'm in the bar area and I'm at one of the high top tables and I have like the best she's like you have the best table in the house and then it started to rain and so there was like this lightning storm that happened it was beautiful and all these people were like whoa everybody was coming to the window and looking and that's how I met all these new friends and I said um I was talking with them and then they were at my table and then we're having having them drinks and talking and it was just such a cool unfolding and there were so many little tiny nuggets of synchronistic signs and symbols and and pieces that were just affirming for me of why I'm here why I'm here why I was there at that moment why I'm here now and I actually met um one of the people that I met there were four lady five ladies and one man and the man that I met actually is um almost the age of my dad he was 51 I think this man and my dad was 52 when he died so this kind of concept of sitting across the table and having this great conversation we talked about everything like politics and I mean just everything and just really interesting listening to stories and just I just these people were so interesting to me just all their stories and just really being present in the moment and meeting people and seeing them for who they are and being seen for who I am was the coolest part of the whole experience for me just me just being seen as me showing up there as Bridget just me and just such a cool engaging just experience and sitting across from someone that was about my dad's age when he died so it was this reminder of how life is truly so short and such a gift and and meant intended to be savored and our commitment to ourselves that that whole representation of who we are that essence of us although we're different people at different times in our lives and we have different moods and different emotions and different experiences that bring out maybe not the best parts of ourselves yeah maybe not my finest moments at times right overall recognizing that it is a part of me but I will not piece myself out anymore I just won't do it any longer I won't give a person just this little part of me so that they can only see this part and this is what they I just in me and I'm just going to show up as me because I need to show up inside of me as me it takes too much effort and too much work to to go through all the parts and pieces and undue stuff so you can decide what you're going to bring forward for someone and if you're bringing forward only certain parts of yourself sooner or later the whole of you the parts of you that are missing the parts of you that are in feel inadequate the parts of you that are insecure are going to show up and they're going to rage when they rage that other person is going to get the blunt of that and it's going to be ugly and it's not going to be authentic and it's going to be painful for both of you and trust me on this you've got to give yourself the grace to bring all these parts and pieces and just accept that you are this incredible rainbow of energy and of moods and of information and of personality traits and experiences and that's how everybody is even if they don't show that to you and it's okay it is okay and it is to be loved and cherished and respected within yourself first and then you will present in a loving respectful and honoring authentic way within any environment that you're in you won't feel like you have to hide or hold back parts of yourself you get to just be you and it's a very humbling feeling to have that happen to have that moment where you're like wow wow wow it turns out I am really all this good stuff and the stuff that I think isn't so good really isn't that bad it's not that bad it just gives a little flavor flavor a little spiciness a little pain to the dessert that is me very good oh it has been so fun to talk to you and to reconnect with you I look forward to channeling this week on above life channel if you're looking for me yes I'm doing private sessions there is a link below click on that link if you want to have a private session with me okay if you want to have an interactive interesting psychic and intuitive conversation with me we can do that click on the link below and schedule a session okay you can totally do that I'm super up for it now okay so this is Bridget thank you so much for joining me for Sunday morning coffee with Bridget thanks for hanging in if you've hung in this long I appreciate you this part of my life very very much I appreciate it I hope I've inspired your spirit and filled you with hope today and encourage you to live your life it's yours it's yours after all it's yours you get to live it just live it it's for being here